| 13 years alone
Posted: 6/29/2007 11:39:14 AM | Don't get me wrong, I have two great kids who are now nearly adults, so not totally alone. I've been married once and then it hasn't happened. I either attract 'needy' men or complete **stards. The last guy actually made me think I'd be married again. Up to meeting him, I'd NEVER get married again. And there I was looking in jewellery shops and everything.
So I fell in love (you know, when you want to be inside their skin). This is after two major disasters where I moved out - once to Scotland! Kids, pets and all!
This one was 53. I gave him so much support through selling his house and divorce etc....(he has been seen on this site)
I had a holiday booked with my best friend and I went (never let your mates down girls). We had only been going out for 3 months, so no major shakes eh? Whilst I was away, he texts me: sold my house -get planning for a WEDDING when you get home!
Wrong! When I got back, I was told he had met a 'friend' and been seeing her for the whole time I was away. He had planned to finish it and never tell me. But he chose her. He covered his confusion by pretending his dad was very ill (hence, he wasn't very talkative).
So the day he tells me this is the day I think I've come home to the new start I've waited YEARS for. And then I find out he isn't that special after all.
That afternoon my Dr calls urgently: the **stard gave me chlamydia.
So girls, never trust anyone as far as you can throw them. But what is it I'm doing wrong? I love my life and my kids. I'm not needy and pay my own way.
Hell, if I know, but I am one helluva lot better person than that and I love life 
So the moral of my story is: love your friends and never put a man before them; keep yourself healthy and SAFE; if you have a life, never let anyone sign you into anything you don't want to be in; finally, love IS BLIND - I really didn't see this one coming.
Love and happiness to you all  | |
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| 13 years alone
Posted: 6/29/2007 11:48:44 AM | Not sure if you are looking for comments or just venting??
First thing that comes to my mind, is RUN when someone starts talking about a WEDDING after 3 months of dating!!
I have been divorced for 17 years....and while I certainly have not been "alone" for that long...I have learned that you never fully know a person in such a short time, if ever at all. I mean, my guy and I have been together for almost 4 years now, and I am still learning new things about him!
I will say, it took a phenomenal amount of COURAGE to post publicly about an STD! Keep that same courage surrounding you and you will eventually stop attracting the needy baztard types as you learn to recognize the red flags before investing any emotions! Sorry for your pain and good luck! | |
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| 13 years alone
Posted: 6/29/2007 1:08:18 PM | Sorry indeed to learn of your pain but, let's not generalize all men! I believe one must self-examine one's own self to determine why one attracts men who're certainly detrimental.
There's a little quote on the bottom of my profile and reads:
"There are no mistakes...only lessons to be learned."
Maybe you've learned yours.
Good luck! | |
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| 13 years alone
Posted: 6/29/2007 1:41:28 PM | | You know i can agree with that lady, because i had much the4 same kind of experience with the last lady i went out with, if i can call her a lady, but i,m doubtfull about that, because swhe just about drained me dry of everything i had, but fourtuniately istopped it before it went to far. I am not a user, and i don,t like to see anybody else being used. I am going out with a lady now, who i believe is very honest, and i hope she comes to realize in time, that i am a very honest man myself. | |
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