| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/3/2005 11:36:50 PM | | Well, I will be 40 this year and it seems harder to make new friends and even harder to find that special someone. What is it about getting older that makes i more difficult? Are older people just to set in their ways? | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/4/2005 4:39:20 AM | I wouldn't really know about reaching 40. I'm only 33. I work with a bunch of "younger" people and I can relate to the age thing. Yes we are set in our ways. At least I am.
Suffice it to say I don't wear my pants around my under arms. Or with a white belt. Or live in Florida. Or complain about the government full-time! | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/5/2005 10:21:25 AM | | I'm close to hitting 50 now and I don't think I am set in my ways as much as I don't understand the younger generation any more than my parents did when i was younger. I don't understand why someone would want something stuck through their lip or tongue or want to kiss someone that does. I don't know why you would want to wear your pants hanging down under your ass either. I've never tried it but then I don't have much of an ass to show off at my age. lol. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/6/2005 8:31:51 AM | | I am turning 40 this year, yet I don't feel much different than a decade ago. I think over the years the broken heart and failed expectations make us shy and self conscious; more leary of getting hurt again. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/6/2005 9:08:37 AM | If you hit 40, do you slam into 50? just kidding.
I think we become more selective who we are willing to bring into our lives. There are also many different types of friendship we have as we get older as opposed to the ones we had in high school.
I have found deeper and more sincere worthwhile relationships as i have gotten older. Seems as we get older its more about quality than quanity. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/7/2005 6:53:44 AM | | I will be 40 in august....I dont feel any different well not yet anyway... guess I will know then how I feel just another year and more wiser.. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/7/2005 9:34:33 AM | | 40 was easy, 44 started to hurt ---------> heading to 50 blah | |
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| Hitting 40 in 2 years
Posted: 5/7/2005 9:47:25 AM | ...and I'm not looking forward to it. I guess I'm starting to realize I'm "gettin' old."
My first clue was when I found out how much harder it is to relate to twenty-somethings now that I'm a good decade apart from them.  | |
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| Hitting 40 in 2 years
Posted: 5/7/2005 10:42:35 AM | Well Happy Birthday to those of you turning 40 this year. And, yes, being 40 and feeling 25 is a transition. Don't have any wise words for you except, you are only as old as you feel.
Think young, stay young. I'm fighting it all the way. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/7/2005 1:57:14 PM | I'm 40 and I love it. It's had the opposite effect on me, instead of being shy and afraid of being hurt, I'm more likely not to give a rip. And I put up with a lot less crap than I did in my 20s or even in my early 30s. I love it! 
But as for making it hard to make new friends, in my situation at least, it has nothing to do with age and more to do with working two jobs and being a single parent. I just don't have the time to get out and socialize like I did back then. My evenings are free after my son goes to bed, but I can't very well take off and leave him alone and lord knows, I can't afford to hire a sitter too often, so I socialize a lot online. Fortunately, I have lots of very good friends that I stay in touch with this way who are in the same boat, so it has worked out nicely....isn't much good for dating though...which is why I came here. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/23/2009 2:50:05 PM | I'm pretty set in my ways......like wine in a barrel, 
it's a hard thing to do but it's paying off  | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/23/2009 2:57:36 PM | It's not so bad! With age comes wisdom, confidence, and more adventure. The combination of turning 40 came at the same time I decided to get out of a prison of a marriage, and it has been liberating. Have a happy, fun, adventurous birthday!
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/23/2009 3:01:51 PM | I'm in my 40's and I'm having the time of my life! I still feel like I'm 18 and I never think about age--it's all relative and it's just a number. Would you feel any different if you were where you are now mentally and physically but you were turning 30? I wouldn't think so. Count your blessings that you will see 40, and make the most of it, OP.
All the Best | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/23/2009 4:17:16 PM | | Dude you seem to be a cool dude, first add more pictures of yourself and talk about yourself more in your profile. Second, be agressive, the is like a 12 to 1 ratio of women on here. Most women are looking for a LTR, so be agressive, be able to talk about yourself, wome a verbal, un like us men who are visual. Maybe you lack confidance, but dude its like shopping on here, go for it! | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/23/2009 5:48:34 PM | | For you it i s clear it is your attitude and/or your amazing ability to see into the future. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/23/2009 10:49:33 PM | | I'll be 40 next year. I think after 30 it gets harder to find someone. I've been set in my ways since I was 17. I will listen to someone else's perspective though. Sometimes they have ways of handling things I never thought of. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 12:07:24 AM | Umm, I'm confused as your profile says you're 43 years old?
I didn't find it difficult turning 40 or in your case 44 this year?
I prefer to rephrase it as the older I get, the more discriminating I am with whom I choose to spend my treasured time with 
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 12:28:33 AM | | Since I've hit 40, I've noticed the number of profile views and emails have gotten a lot less. What views and emails I do get now, are from men a lot older then me. Say, ten to fifteen years. I have nothing against older men, but it does make me wonder why these changes started once I turned 40. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 1:15:04 AM | OP, it isn't so much that we're set in our ways as much as we better understand who we are by age 40. Actually, I think you already have an idea of who you are and aren't by your late 20s. As far as meeting someone, bear in mind that by age 40, companionship should be the focus of a relationship.
Personally, I found turning 40 was easier than 30 if only because I knew I had reached middle age. Thirty, in contrast, was an age marked by liminality, as I found I was neither young nor middle aged; it was a twilight zone so to speak. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 3:57:51 AM | Cos you all looking for the younger ladies and some are not quite ready to go out with the older men yet, but they will, the older and the fatter the wallet the younger the woman - check out Hugh Heffner | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 5:10:21 AM | Been there done that....
Age is a frame of mind. BUT with age comes wisdom, (for a limited number of people.)
I DO find that I am still limited in my mind set about what I want and the type of persons that I do like to acquaint with. I DO find that there is still music, art, etc... that I find worthy of my ears, eyes, life.
I DO NOT understand, (and never have), why some people would prefer to not act their age to a certain extent. Yea that is nice when you see someone 88 years old run a race. But do they go around on a BMX bike and jump ramps? Do they go driving around with their buddies and moon cars? I SURE hope not.
As for being set in their ways. Maybe that is a good thing as long as long as those ways are somewhat healthy or publicly decent.
Like stated above!
Can you imagine when these ghetto booty people walk around with their black and white checkered pants hanging down around their knees when they are 75? They will call that alzheimer's!!!!
Can you imagine all these TATTOOS all over these people turn 60 years old and the flab starts to go! All those STUPID CROW tattoos along peoples backs What they will look like? They will probably be flabby and when they walk the bird will look like it's flapping its wings!
It's like those old beach people you see that their faces look like leather from sun exposure. You may have been good looking at one time. But STOP SCARING THE KIDS!!!!!!!!
Recently I went to a concert where 80's bands where playing, (Berlin, The Furs, etc...) There was a guy there that did his hair is spikes and had a HUGE bald spot. All I could think of was... "Man you look like an idiot!" It looked like he had a clearing in the middle of a bunch of trees. I so wished I had a nerfball to try to get the ball into the hole! But all I had was popcorn! YES!! 2 points!! We must have pelted the guy with 200 pieces of popcorn! | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 6:02:34 AM | What is it about getting older that makes i more difficult?
Only you can answer that question my friend but ~ I'll add: Age in the numerical sense has nothing to do w/meeting people and enjoying their companionship. Try shifting your focus .. say, live a "single" lifestyle w/much potential, patients and a sincere/passionate desire to be with another (LTR). Rigid is for the "old"- and - out of style.  | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 6:26:19 AM | | Not sure what you're trying to attract w/your profile write-up. Yeah, yeah.. we get you think you're charming but is that your best/honest foot forward? Over the top humor = obnoxious/in-secure. Cool if you're looking for someone 10/15 years younger...in which case I'll mind my P's and Q's. ~peace~ | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 6:50:43 AM | First I have to say it is amazing that a thread was dead for 4 years and got revived!
But back to the subject...... Turning 40 made me start to think about my life more. That made me realize that it wasn't working out well for me. So I made some changes, now I am about to turn 46 have been divorced almost 2 years after being married for 20.
This starting all over isn't as easy as I thought it would be but it is definitely worth it! | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 7:30:58 AM |
it seems harder to make new friends and even harder to find that special someone. What is it about getting older that makes i more difficult? Are older people just to set in their ways? I dont you're not to be searching for friends or potential bfs/gfs, they happen naturally, you can't force it either.
partially there are some truth it is difficult to find true friends because people have been jaded/bitter and guarded and selective whoever they make friends with. | |
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