| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 8:37:51 PM | So, I winked at this guy on match.com and this was his response...
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hi..
thanks for the interest, but i am not interested in a girl that lists "girls night out" at the top of her fun list.. and "getting hammered" in her intro.. i doubt anyone looking for a real girlfriend would either.. good luck..
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I don't think this by any means indicates that I would not be capable of being in a real relationship because what I said was "playing Jenga while hammered(not that I do this much anymore)" and girls night out doesn't mean going out and getting drunk and picking up on guys. It means going out to dinner with a bunch of girls who all are mostly in a relationship or married! On top of everything he completely overlooked how committed I am to my friends and family and how much I love playing with my 4yr old nephew!!!
This guy didn't have to say anything at all. But to respond in such a nasty way I feel I deserves a response. However, I'm not always very good with words and was hoping to get some help sending him an equally nasty response!
On the other hand I was thinking to forward the message he sent me to as many girls on match to see how nasty he really was so that he wouldn't get any responses or possibly nasty Reponses from other women!! | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 8:49:11 PM | | Lady, he's not interested in you, that doesn't make him a jerk. Just move on. | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 8:50:51 PM | | I am not like a real girlfriend: nagging, controling, clingie, and emotional. I would prefer to have fun in life. | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 8:51:07 PM | | I would just say he needs to lighten up and not jump to conclusions, but thanks for showing me you're not the kind of gentleman I'm looking for. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 8:53:19 PM |
Lady, he's not interested in you, that doesn't make him a jerk. Just move on.
are you kidding me?!!!...of course I'm not interested. And if he's not interested, he doesn't even have to respond. But that he did and was so nasty about it. I'm so sorry, but I can't just let that slide without some sort of response. | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 8:54:05 PM | Tell him you are looking for a man, not a little boy!
That'll get him! | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 8:54:06 PM | | pandoras, May I suggest that you give the guy a rest ...and possibly reflect on the fact that he responded, even if he was slightly more judgemental than you might have liked. Personally, I don't know why anyone would waste their time and money on that site, but to each their own ...and what they've chosen to invest themselves into for their dating prospects. "Getting hammered" is not one of those activities that I would advertise as one of my faves ...and you can't know what "girls night out" implies, even if I agree that this could be harmless. Family and friends should be important to everyone, but you've got to be the friend before thinking towards a new family. | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 8:54:21 PM |
I would just say he needs to lighten up and not jump to conclusions, but thanks for showing me you're not the kind of gentleman I'm looking for.
I like it. Very classy!! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 9:00:51 PM |
reflect on the fact that he responded, even if he was slightly more judgemental than you might have liked
"Getting hammered" is not one of those activities that I would advertise as one of my faves ...
lonestardaddy-
first, it's not in my favs but just in the general description area.
second, yes, I did think about what he said and didn't realize those came across that way and was thinking i should re-word them.
third-i didn't say i was looking to start a family but said that my family (parents, brother, sisters, etc) are very important to me. I also said that I'm looking for a friend and companion but also someone i have great chemistry with. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 9:02:18 PM |
Tell him you are looking for a man, not a little boy!
hahaha! i like that too. very funny! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 9:02:54 PM |
I am not like a real girlfriend: nagging, controling, clingie, and emotional. I would prefer to have fun in life.
another good one! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 9:06:20 PM | | I never suggested you were interested in him. What I meant by, "just move on" is that I don't think you've been grievously wronged in any way. Cooking up plans for revenge is unwarranted and pretty silly. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 9:15:42 PM | So you feel the need to spend a whole bunch of energy and time to what? Get even with him? One up him? Why? You must obviously be a lot more interested in him than you are letting on. So he said no and stated why. Just move one. God, why waste your time? What do you think you are going to do? Make him change his approach? Apologize? Why bother...
Cheers! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 9:17:32 PM | You only get one chance to make a first impression.. your profile, whether on POF or another site, is that opportunity for you. Right or wrong, this was the guys first impression. You may not like it, you may think he's wrong, but it's HIS first impression of you and therefore all he needs to make up his mind. Misunderstandings happen all the time in life, this is one of them.
Bluezzz
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Okay perhaps this post come off strong than it is because I don't feel wronged. I just dislike nastiness and feel that this guy needs to know he can't say things like that to me and get away with it. This is a small city and I would be entirely surprised if i saw him somewhere (not that i would recognize him). But just as in person I would not allow someone to disrespect me like this I'm certianly not going to allow it by email.
What are you going to do... force him to respect you? Stomp your feet and make demands to someone online? Find him and kick his a$$?? How, realistically, are you going to not allow someone to disrespect you?? Face it, he already got away with it. Now you're looking for revenge.
This sounds childish.
Bluezzz | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 9:21:02 PM | HulaZombie---
Okay perhaps this post come off strong than it is because I don't feel wronged. I just dislike nastiness and feel that this guy needs to know he can't say things like that to me and get away with it. This is a small city and I would be entirely surprised if i saw him somewhere (not that i would recognize him). But just as in person I would not allow someone to disrespect me like this I'm certianly not going to allow it by email. | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 9:31:56 PM |
You only get one chance to make a first impression.. your profile, whether on POF or another site, is that opportunity for you. Right or wrong, this was the guys first impression. You may not like it, you may think he's wrong, but it's HIS first impression of you and therefore all he needs to make up his mind. Misunderstandings happen all the time in life, this is one of them.
I agree that those 2 things in my profile don't give the right impression of me and I agree that misunderstandings happen all the time but that's just it. I've written a lot in my profile but he completely overlooked all that the good things and zeroed in on these two things I said and delivered such a nasty response! I guess I feel the need to respond. I wouldn't allow it in person, why should I over email. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 9:37:04 PM |
I guess I feel the need to respond. I wouldn't allow it in person, why should I over email.
I guess if you feel the need to continue corresponding with this guy, thats your prerogative. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 9:50:27 PM | | Maybe he was trying to give you a guy's perspective on how your statements are perceived. He might lack tact, but I wouldn't be offended. I would take it as a learning experience and maybe change my profile a bit if you want to attract a certain type of guy. | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 9:53:59 PM | | pandoras, I only mentioned what I did so that you might reconsider your original marketing plan. If "getting hammered" isn't what you like to do any more, why are you so pent on "hammering" some guy who called you for what you (wrote) are. It's all about you, isn't it? From a man's POV, I'd say that he was kinder than you know. And, BTW, good luck. You ARE going to need it w/ your attitude. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 9:59:06 PM | If you gave him a witty retort, he'd think you were drunk. Personally, I'd never date a drunk. Get used to it if you brag about getting hammered.
But at least your honest. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 10:13:44 PM | Just tell him you get hammered because guys reject you all the time. You need his help to break the cycle. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 10:20:34 PM |
Personally, I'd never date a drunk. Get used to it if you brag about getting hammered.
Bad choice of words on my part. I only the drink to the point of getting buzzed and haven't had as much as a few sips of wine in weeks. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 10:33:08 PM | I don't think his reply was even nasty.
-- He thanked you.
-- He listed reasons why he was not interested in you and stated his feelings.
-- He wished you good luck.
Having read your ridiculous thread and how "insulted" you feel, I think that you have supplied many further reasons to support this man's decision to reject you. It's been a while since I read anything so immature and egotistical. The idea that you call a polite but firm rejection "nasty" and react in this way shows why many people choose not to respond at all rather than respond with a "not interested thank you". | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 10:37:31 PM |
Just tell him you get hammered because guys reject you all the time. You need his help to break the cycle.
What a great idea and so eloquently put. You deserve the Pulitzer Prize for this one! | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 10:44:54 PM | | Yes, pandoras, being smug and spiteful is going to solve all sorts of problems for you. Best of luck on match.com. You should have put this post in "Ask a Girl" as only another girl, and not a woman, would help you more for your "girl's night out" intentions here. | |
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