| New Trend: Trash the Wedding Dress
Posted: 7/3/2007 12:03:12 PM | Until today, when I visited another forum that I post on, I was oblivious to this new trend where women pose for "artsy" photos in their wedding dress after a divorce. Having never been to the altar myself, I have mixed feeling about this trend. On one level, it is fun and kind of like performance art, but on the other hand, wouldn't you want to be able to forget about an experiment that didn't work without photographic reminders around the house?
http://www.trashthedress.com/
Most of the photos on this site are beautiful, however, there were some on another site that were quite hostile, ie, a man standing next to a crumpled dress in a car trunk and a woman in a wedding dress on fire.
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| New Trend: Trash the Wedding Dress
Posted: 7/3/2007 12:17:40 PM | I say go for it. After the failed marriage you are left with this dress that once meant so much to you. I think it's a way to let go and move on with life. Much better than burning all his clothes I think! | |
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| New Trend: Trash the Wedding Dress
Posted: 7/3/2007 12:28:07 PM | Yuck.
What a stupid way to stir up your bad feelings into worse ones. Just let it go.
I don't usually say it... not being a super hip dude... but
Peace. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 12:28:22 PM | I think that sounds very tacky ,
It's no wonder the divorce rate is so high.
I do think you have to move on after breaking up , but I wouldn't think it should be an opportunity to trash everything in a photo shoot. I think a person is being degrading to themselves and their ex partner in doing so .
Anyone who felt that need after the breakup , should not have gotten married in the first place. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 12:37:32 PM | I hadn't heard of this as an after-the-divorce thing.. but I *HAD* heard of it as "creative wedding photography."
Personally... if I just spend anywhere upwards of $100 for a dress... I would NOT be trashing it!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 12:45:08 PM | First time I have ever heard of this....
Basically, I say "to each their own" in what helps them to heal. While I do not even still have my wedding dress, and considering I was 5 months preggers when I got married  ....if I had a non-maternity wedding dress, I would still wish to save it for one of my daughters to use, should they want to. Also, I can think of a lot more productive things to do with a wedding dress...donate it to a good cause or something. There are all sorts of places which take formals and gowns to pass on to others who cannot otherwise afford it, or just someone thriftier. I once ran a glass slippers project where we provided formal wear to HS girls who could not otherwise make their proms, etc.. Wedding dresses can be dyed if they did not want it white...but we had some beautiful donations that were used just as they were. | |
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| New Trend: Trash the Wedding Dress
Posted: 7/3/2007 12:55:17 PM |
donate it to a good cause or something. There are all sorts of places which take formals and gowns to pass on to others who cannot otherwise afford it, or just someone thriftier. I once ran a glass slippers project where we provided formal wear to HS girls who could not otherwise make their proms, etc..
This is a really nice thing to do and if the dress was pricey, there are consignment shops too. People rarely keep their dresses around for their daughters to wear any more. Even for people who stay married, the dress just takes up space.
I personally wouldn't want reminders around the house. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 1:03:09 PM | That's terrible!!!
I thought I was bad asking my ex for her wedding dress so my girlfriend can wear it. Of course I explained that we needed a quick reply because it would have to be taken to the seemstress to "Take it in around the hips"
But come on!!!! Use it in a photo shoot?!? WTF?
Just kidding...  | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 1:19:47 PM | anyone remember a few years ago and man got left at the alter and decided to sell he wedding dress on ebay and the photo he took had him in it?
he started bidding at one cent?
good site, just checked it looks fun  | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 1:29:50 PM | i don't know about trashing the dress....but i am very happily d!vorced.
when it was all said and done, i went out and bought myself the most beautiful green and blue d!vorce ring......seven years after my d!vorce, i found the perfect matching band. 7 green diamonds that perfectly matched the other green diamonds.
it had seven matching diamonds and i bought on the 7th anniversary of our d!vorce. we also had been married for seven years.....kinda felt like fate....
anyways....it helped heal me from that time in my life....and i remember how much stronger of a person that i am now because of all that i went thru.
a month or two ago i saw a post on here of a guy that decorated his car with ballons and crepe paper....he had on the back of his car....just d!vorced......
i wish i had thought of that........ | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 1:41:08 PM | HA....I think it's great. The reality is: too many people want the dress and not the marriage. I think these pics are testament to that. "Look at my pretty dress!!! What was his name again???" 
If people would forego the dress, the fancy dinners, big parties, gifts, and overall show.....more people might realize that after the big-day, the day to day kicks in. There isn't a dress or party that can get you through the actual realities of married life and the honeymoon doesn't really last long most often. I personally think anyone getting married should do so in a private civil ceremony. On the five year mark ~ then get the dress and have a big party, at least you made it five years ~ that's worth celebrating. JMO  | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 1:44:06 PM | | ^^^ LOVE that "private ceremony, big party in five years" idea... lol... maybe I'll bring it up, should I ever get married.... | |
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| New Trend: Trash the Wedding Dress
Posted: 7/3/2007 1:46:11 PM | | After the past 48 hours I've had with my ex, I'd gladly have pictures taken of me shoving the dress up his @ss. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 1:54:22 PM | ^^^That is a fabulous idea to have a big party at the milestone. I've known too many people who have thrown lavish parties, only to have things not work out.
Having never married nor had kids, and after all the shower, wedding and baby gifts, etc. I've purchased over the years, I have joked around with my friends about throwing a shower or party for myself and registering for kitchen stuff. | |
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| New Trend: Trash the Wedding Dress
Posted: 7/3/2007 7:47:33 PM | | If women are so up for trashing their wedding dresses, then I can't convince them otherwise about how stupid that sounds. But if they want to ruin a completely good $1500 dress, then they da*n better have paid for it in the first place. If I was stupid enough to get married, I'd make sure my bride was in a western blouse and Levis, go for the less-expensive western look, which would make them look HOT in my opinion! | |
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Posted: 7/4/2007 5:51:37 AM | | ha ha downforit...some of us women actually like deals, i got a $1200 dress for $250 as it was "last year's style"...and it has been packed in tissue for the last 9 years. I am figuring that for the $150 I might get if I sell it, or less, I could have more fun than that! I have already debated making art out of it...so we'll see. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2007 6:46:16 AM | Love the idea of celebrating later on....after it is still going strong! However, some people do this...i.e. an anniversary! LOL I agree that too much is spent on weddings...but I doubt that most go into it thinking that it is going to fail! Most people just would not think with the mentality of, "We are getting married...please include us in your thoughts and prayers and we will hope to see you in 5 years when we celebrate the successful union!" LOL (Just teasing around, here!)
I guess one could make something out of an old wedding dress....throw pillows, mini potpourri sachets that they give out to their friends who have stuck by them, or something?
On a similar note, I have heard of weddings that were cancelled at the last moment when it was too late for cancellations and return of fees....and they went ahead and had the party! | |
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Posted: 7/4/2007 7:41:04 AM | | I never heard of this trend... maybe its part of some therapy ? ... I say go for it if it helps them get through it and carry on with life. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2007 8:34:06 AM | My wedding dress is in a plastic bag on a shelf in the garage. Been there for years. Haven't decided what to do with it, but I did design and make it myself. Perhaps make it into a couple of pillows??
Whatever someone decides to do with their wedding dress, pictures, or anything else if it makes them feel better, absolutely DO it!! | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 10:32:47 PM | | Another thing you can do with that old wedding dress? There are companies that will take them and make them into burial gowns for babies who have died, whose family cannot afford something nice to bury them in, especially if the mother/baby had a lot of medical bills due to the complications from whatever caused the baby's death... | |
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| New Trend: Trash the Wedding Dress
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:18:36 PM | I get the impression that this is just another way for brides to have even MORE photos of themselves.
It didn't appear to be about divorcing. "Trash the dress" seems to mean it's ok to sit in the dirt or jump in a lake wearing it for "artsy fartsy" photos--after the ceremony.
Looks like some frustrated wanna-be high concept fashion photographers. | |
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| New Trend: Trash the Wedding Dress
Posted: 10/10/2009 2:02:39 AM |
I get the impression that this is just another way for brides to have even MORE photos of themselves.
It didn't appear to be about divorcing.
Thats what I was thinking too. They're waay too artsy to be called trashing :P When the OP mentioned the site, I thought they'd be things like, lighting a huge bonfire of wedding dresses, or a woman getting a huge garden scissors and chopping the dress up into shreds...haha | |
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