| Girls having guy friends
Posted: 7/5/2007 4:36:30 PM | Ok .... what's the deal....
Every guy I meet at first says that it's cool with them that I have guy friends... "ya ya of course, its cool". But THEN when I actually go and hang out with them, of course he could come if he wanted, it's a big deal... and he gets all jealous.
Can guys not handle the fact that a girl has guy friends? Is it wrong that I have guy friends? What's everyones thoughts. | |
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| Girls having guy friends
Posted: 7/5/2007 4:38:55 PM | I can't take you seriously until you
A) change your status to looking for something other then 'friends' or
B) take down that ass shot. | |
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| Girls having guy friends
Posted: 7/5/2007 4:41:50 PM | LOL!
Has your friends seen as much of your ass as we have?
Sorry, but there is a difference between having guy friends and then having guy friends that respod to your friendship based on you flashing your ass in front of them. Given the nature of your photograph, I wouldn't even bother discussing the issue... it's self-evident as to the reason some of the guys would want to hang around you.... why would any guy who may have feelings for you, want to stand in the midst of the dawgs you entertain? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 4:57:46 PM | i had the same issue with a now ex, his reasoning behind it was that girls have no problem being platonic with males, as we will see them as "brothers, friends, etc" nothing sexual in nature. but some men and maybe more then not feel that a male friend is one that just hasn't become an ex yet. b/c apparently not all men know how to be just friends, without wanting to sleep with their female friend. whether that is true or not, i do know a few who are like that so.
but as the other poster stated maybe its how you behave with them, which may not be bad at all, but misunderstood by the current or prospective boyfriend
b/c the other one was deleted | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 5:10:25 PM |
Can guys not handle the fact that a girl has guy friends?
When you generalize all guys you are immediately dismissed as just one more useless bitter woman.
Is it wrong that I have guy friends?
Yes, it is. Ask a stupid queston, get a stupid answer. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 5:17:13 PM | How do you feel about the guys you date having women friends? Same sex friends can be a problematic issue but doesn't have to be.
You have to have trust established, that doesn't happen overnight. You should be wanting to spend most of your time with them, not out with your friends. There's a reason they're called significant other, not just "when I don't have anything else to do" other. If they're not a priority then they may just simply break it off.
It's never been an issue with me and I've always had mostly guy friends. They know that when I'm involved the time I spend with them won't be as much or as often and accept that. They also treat him with respect and friendliness when they do meet. Then again, my guy friends are respectful of relationships. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 5:34:49 PM | OP,
I don't feel I can give my honest opinion unless you return the ass shot picture for my review....
Okay, your guy friends, how many are guys that wanted to date you and ended up on the friends list? All of them right? I've got a lot of friends that are girls. They are old girl friends. They call after a few drinks at midnight and "want to talk". When I want to "talk" I get my keys and go "talk" and give them all the comfort they want.
Unless your guy friends are gay, they'll come over at midnight and "talk" for you too. Just have a few drinks and give any one of them a call.
Pretty straight forward. Guys are fair weather friends. As soon as your life gets a little rough we'll come a rinnin'.
J Mac | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 5:47:27 PM |
Her picture changed, maybe a good start
Well... I have to remove her from my fav's list now.... that was a great ass shot!
I don't want to be her friend any more. 
My former girlfriend had many male friends. I was not intimdated by that in the least. Before we started dating I knew of her friends.... I accepted that and from that point on, I never felt I should question her - as long as she gave me nothing to be concerned about.
As a previous poster mentioned. Good friends will respect another person's relationship. If my former g/f would have kept hangintg around guys that disrespected our relationship, and her, I would take issue with that. But, it was never a concern because she was a good person and surrounded herself with good friends that could be trusted. | |
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| Girls having guy friends
Posted: 7/5/2007 5:50:35 PM |
Every guy friend you meet says that it's cool with them that you have guy friends? Can guy friends not handle the fact that a girl has guy friends? Is it wrong to have guy friends?
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Posted: 7/5/2007 5:53:23 PM | OP, boy friend = boyfriend. Girl friend = girlfriend. Why?
Because boys don't have any intention of being friends with a girl unless they are going to be his girlfriend. To put it another way, boys only have female friends that they and their friends want to sleep with, and pass around like a party favour. Are you a party favour? Do you want to be thought of as one?
Don't believe me? Then why would a boy hang out with someone who he clearly fancies (you're hot) and isn't sleeping with. It hurts them to do that. Why would they do that unless they think they will = you're easy.
How would you feel if you started seeing a hot guy, who had a lot of hot girl friends who would sleep with any hot guy, and clearly fancied him, and he started hanging out with them till all hours? Would you believe him if he said 'nothing happened'?
So, can you blame him?
When you really learn about men and what they want, you will make a choice: sleep with all your friends, or stop being friends with boys who only want to get into your panties.
Why do you think these guys keep giving you drinks? Because they've all seen drunk girls on the internet, that's why. Some things you have to learn are obvious to everyone but you. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 6:04:19 PM | | FYI, I have many female friends, but they know that I'm not sleeping with them, and they aren't the type of girls to sleep around. However, I don't know that many guys who didn't try to sleep with all their friends who were girls. Most were waiting till they became single. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 6:33:55 PM | | hmmmm well over the past 20 years of being single again I've watched a lot of gals with "male" friends that have bf/husbands. Funny how when their relationship goes to h*ll.....it isn't long......before this gal has hooked up with one of these "male friends". In my opinion these gals know exactly what they are doing as well as her "male friends". I'm sure this isn't the case every time. But it happens with enough regularity that the men are aware of it and worry about it. And if you think about it the men do the same thing. You just haven't loved someone deep enough yet to experience it is all. But sooner or latter you will. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 6:54:57 PM | Whats wrong with friends of the oppiset sex? it makes you look a bit more adjusted in a social aspect  just because your hanging with someone dosent mean your sleeping/fooling around with them. I could understand chilling some friendships if your serious with somebody. however if they dont trust your judgement they should possibly move on. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 7:07:01 PM |
Every guy I meet at first says that it's cool with them that I have guy friends... "ya ya of course, its cool". But THEN when I actually go and hang out with them, of course he could come if he wanted, it's a big deal... and he gets all jealous.
Can guys not handle the fact that a girl has guy friends? Is it wrong that I have guy friends? What's everyones thoughts.
I am always astounded by the naivete of women who think that their male 'friends' think of male-female friendship in the same way as they do.
I've been friends with lots of women in my life and I've nailed a few of them, according to plan.
For any woman who thinks that their male 'friends' think of them (the woman) as ONLY friends, give it a test:
TEST 1: Tell any male 'friend' you have in very BLUNT terms that you will NEVER, EVER, under NO CIRCUMSTANCES, EVER, EVER, EVER sleep with him not even if he was the LAST man on Earth. Furthermore, you find him in NO WAY sexually appealing.
TEST 2: Phone your male 'friends', one by one, and tell them that you really have wanted to have sex with them since you met them and would they mind coming over right away so you can bang them all night long?
I'll bet any woman who does either test will find out which guys really are their 'best friends', the 'good friends', or just guys who hang around hoping access to that vagina presents itself some day..... | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 7:07:39 PM | Posted By: msmidwest on 7/5/2007 6  30 PM Subject: Girls having guy friends Message: Ok .... what's the deal.... Every guy I meet at first says that it's cool with them that I have guy friends... "ya ya of course, its cool". But THEN when I actually go and hang out with them, of course he could come if he wanted, it's a big deal... and he gets all jealous. Can guys not handle the fact that a girl has guy friends? Is it wrong that I have guy friends? What's everyones thoughts.
Because we have to deal with...friends who don't want to be friends with you but are trying to get you in the sack, ex's you are friends with but still want you, and hangers on trying to cut us out. Its intimidating to put it mildly, and the prettier you are the worse it is.
There's what you THINK the situation is and what the situation IS.
Bottom line: if I have to wade through a crowd of guys to get to you, sweet heart you got issues, let em go and keep em gone cause I'm betting that if you kept them around, its torture for them and I don't want to join your harem of useful males. Exclusive is just that and if I can't trust you to be because I have to look at the competition you're around/taking calls from/talking to all the time etc...well... at best it's intimidating and worst it's grounds to say 'see ya'. Unless they all wear leotards or something :).
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Posted: 7/5/2007 7:13:45 PM | No disrespect iago, but I'd never treat anyone like that. I don't need to "test" my friends, that's plain disrespectful and playing with their emotions/feelings.
Many of these guys I've known 10 years or more. We act more like brother/sister except we don't fight...haha. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 7:16:38 PM | Ha ha ha. Test em anyway. You might not like the answers you get.
Ladies...I dunno how to tell ya this but us guy folks will do really stupid things when in love...including wait ridiculously long periods of time for a shot at you while pretending to be a friend...
A woman has options. A male has opportunities. Some are willing to wait a really really long time for one if he feels you're the one... | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 7:21:13 PM | It's not an issue in my relationship, not a problem I have like the OP does.
And thanks, again, but as I said, I don't treat my friends like dogs that have to jump through hoops. You can test your friends all you want, and see how they like it.  I'm fine with my friends just as they are and so is my SO. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 7:27:27 PM | Nonon...you don't understand.
Sabotage can be quite subtle. For instance you may be unhappy about something with your SO and say something at which point they give advice that might be good...or not so good. Or they try to be your friend, ready to step in there when your relationship (with their deliberate or not so deliberate help) goes South...
Sometimes the first place a woman will turn for comfort is to a friend who is allll too willing to say 'there there, you can do sooo much better than that loser' and before ya realize it...you've been scammed heh. There are guides out there for doing this. Beware. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 7:27:35 PM |
No disrespect iago, but I'd never treat anyone like that. I don't need to "test" my friends, that's plain disrespectful and playing with their emotions/feelings.
Many of these guys I've known 10 years or more. We act more like brother/sister except we don't fight...haha.
Hey, bucsgirl...
I feel no disrespect at all.
I always respect your perspective, but that doesn't mean that I don't think you may be a little deluded as to what your male friends may be feeling, thinking or desiring and are just not telling you. I suspect, given your obvious solid and astute perspective, that you know that many, even most, of your male friends would jump you in a second if you gave 'em the ol' come-hither.
Respectfully yours..... | |
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| Girls having guy friends
Posted: 7/5/2007 7:30:07 PM | | Maybe guys can't handle the fact that you think about such things in a very arrogant way. | |
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