| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/9/2007 7:41:40 AM | | I am asking this question due to my personal experience. During my marriage (to a caucasian) I always got dirty looks from black women whenever we went out. I also got wierd looks from white guys. Is there something I am missing in this supposedly "tolerant melting-pot" city of Toronto? Or is this everywhere? Honest answers will be really appreciated. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/9/2007 8:21:13 AM | | Who really cares why? There will always be ignorant people, if you loved the person you were with, then who gives a rats ass what others think/thought or whatever. Let the haters keep hating, just do your thing man, ain't no skin off your back. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/9/2007 1:23:59 PM | | From personal experience I find it's the older generation (black) that gives the cold shoulder - the dirty looks and the signs of disapproval and yes mostly from the women! The men are a little more tolerant - but again the older generation seem to have a tougher time with it! My husband really never notices - but I see it 'cause I am not used to it. I think a nice smile and some conversation where applicable smooths things over! Someone (a white woman) told me once that she experienced some aggression from a group of black women - she was told not to even try to go after 'their' men or there would be trouble! Yikes! | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/9/2007 2:29:49 PM | i think this is crazy talk! I feel there are ppl in this world that desire to keep races pure or as pure ( as in as close to 100%) as possible
I feel it's not black,white,green,purple,yellow,red etc etc women or men but more so some ppls perception & belief of what they personally would want to see or preserve for the sake of races of mankind
Heres something i've also heard and haven't researched but worth mention...in 50 yrs there will be no pure/100% races left....there is barely any now & within 50 yrs every race will be a mix race and we will have 1 race/creed etc MANKIND >>Everyone will be hines 57 >>>>> interesting isn't it? | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/9/2007 2:47:42 PM | Some people are very discriminatory especially when it comes to interracial dating. Which really...that term bothers me. We are of one race essentially...with the only difference being that of skin tonal appearance. Culture, religion, rich/poor/middleclass....those are all secondary issues but have no real merit in why two people cannot date each other. If this were a perfect world...none of this would be an issue at all. But the truth is...this is an imperfect world. And always has been. Why would anyone be against someone who found another to love? Jealousy perhaps?
Strange world isn't it? | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/9/2007 8:09:15 PM | I find that most people who object to interracial relationships are those from older generations. I'm Puerto Rican and married an African American. I was the first one to marry outside of my race in their eyes. It's o.k. when it happens to others but when you bring it home it makes it real. LOL. It really bothered my maternal grandmother. She never treated me differently but I knew the way she felt. I don't blame her, I blame those that placed those notions in her head. The marriage didn't last but I have a beautiful son that I could not be more proud of. My grandmother had hazel eyes, my grandfather had blue eyes and my grandmother's brother was darker than my ex-husband. Heck, out of the 4 children my grandmother had, my mother was the only fair skinned one. What's wrong with this picture. There is only one race and that is the human race.
Do whatever makes you happy because that is really what matters. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/10/2007 10:04:24 AM | | I think you will find a little of it everywhere, black women think white women are stealing their men. White men think white women only date black men for one reason which I am sure I don't have to go into. If people would just learn to relax and worry about themselves instead of what others do they would be much happier. Your not missing anything oscat they are because you abviously know colour has nothing to do with who the person is. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/11/2007 1:38:59 PM | I could personally care less when I see interracial couples but I do notice some lil things that I find funny. I notice sometimes the white women will grab their man a lil tighter when they see a black woman looking at them.
With black women they usually separate a lil bit or drop holding hands with their white boyfriends etc. I mean really who cares, people are going to look at you for a number of reasons...anything from ugly shoes to a booger sticking out...lol
If you are with someone and you are proud to be with them and happy in love, screw everyone else and do your thing. You may be running into some black women with men issues but not all black women care who the black man chooses to date.
I date white guys all the time and people looked at us all the time, I simply stared back and smile. Sometimes I even spark up conversation, you know throw them off guard and then carry one my merry way.
But that's me....anyways black, white or alien who cares just be happy!!!! | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 5:34:28 AM | I am not. I am concerned about the imbalance and the forces that create it. I just think it needs to go in ALL direction. Instead we have DROVES of Black men dating women of other races and relatively few men of other races dating Black women. Ditto in the Asian community. DROVES of Asian women dating men of other races, relatively few women of other races dating Asian men.
This is in North America. I understand that in locations like the UK and Europe there is more of a balance. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 8:01:24 AM | I love how people say they're not racist yet say "their men/women"
I didn't know we're all owned into cults and different worlds.
Myself, I'm not a hater nor care who is dating who or what.
As a personal preference, i don't date non Caucasian men.
BUT
I wouldn't disrespect or bash people for their choices, we're all the same species.  | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 8:50:46 AM |
I am concerned about the imbalance and the forces that create it
that's the premise of all wars... control, greed and trying to control those who do not support the "cause"
Stop promoting division and dstart accepting "freedom" to choose. I'm beginning to think you believe the word "freedom" was derived from the U.S. civil war.
Living in a democratic society allows us to make choices of our own accord. ... we don't make decisions based on balance.
Instead we have DROVES of Black men dating women of other races and relatively few men of other races dating Black women
Can you define "We"?
Maybe you should keep in mind that Canada is probably the most socia;lly accepting country in the world when it comes to multi-cultural/ethnic accomodating. We are a very open country in regards to freedoms of beliefs, heritage pride, religions and social position. We also recognize homosexual marriages.
However, when you state "We" (assuming their are others), I can't help but think you are heading in the opposite direction from "freedom of choice"
What is "balance" to you? Give us criteria, numbers... a formula you would like us to gauge proper balance. Then... explain the importance of that balance?
DROVES of Asian women dating men of other races, relatively few women of other races dating Asian men
Have you ever considered that demographics and ratios play a huge role in this phenomenon?
Ironically, I notice your preference to asian men... what gives? Are you not promoting an imbalance? | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 10:26:20 AM | almondcookie - just curious - what do you attribute that to?!?! It seems to be a dichotomy that can have a solution - if the attributing factors are addressed!
Accepting media images without thinking for themselves.
What is "balance" to you? Give us criteria, numbers... a formula you would like us to gauge proper balance. Then... explain the importance of that balance
Balance is roughly equal to population demographics give or take a small standard deviation. Not totally lopsided. Same criteria Human Rights Canada uses. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 11:18:21 AM |
Balance is roughly equal to population demographics give or take a small standard deviation
Human rights issues are about equal treatment and equal opportunity without harrassment and/or the feeling of alienation in a social and secular environment.... it's not about dictating personal preference in one's private life. In fact, to state we should date according to demographics is a discriminatory proposal
Maybe you should provide numbers supporting your claims because, quite frankly, I feel you are using this site as your "cause" rather than as an improvement to your social life.
Accepting media images without thinking for themselves
With all due respect, if your behaviour is a result of you thinking for yourself, maybe you should reconsider the reasons you seem to be trolling throughout this site making a race issue out of people's PERSONAL PREFERENCES. You don't seem to be getting the point... people's marriages, dating preferences, sexual preference is not, and should not be, something you should mettle in.
In truth, under the human rights act/code... you are harrassing people based on your insistance that minority people shouldn't be able to date who they want...."They have to stick to their kind."
I doubt very much that you would gain support for your behaviour from those on the Human Rights Commission. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 11:42:43 AM | At NO time did I say people should stick to their own. Quite the contrary.
Here are the numbers that you requested:
http://us_asians.tripod.com/articles-interracial-marriages.html
The US Census bureau website also has a lot of information that you can explore at your liesure. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 11:56:05 AM | Ummmm... you'e in Canada... site the Canadian Human Rights information you previously stated as a reference. The site you referenced in your post is authored by the Asian community... there is an inherent bias.
To be straight up with you.....If you want to base your life on the behaviour of others it will consume you. I read your posting history and quite frankly, you are very focussed on certain issues.... you seem to be forgetting this is a dating site... not a political correctiveness/science forum, for most.. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 1:44:53 PM | My I, I was the one who had that post deleted and almondcookie didn't insult me at all.
Furthermore, my post was not about wanting to date a white woman. It was about the lack of suitable women out there for Asian men who are more Canadianized.
I think almondcookie's point in all of this is to simply try and accept people for who they are rather than the color of their skin. It is easy to understand your point of view (being a Caucasian male) because I can relate to you never having to experience what almondcookie and I have.
Neil | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 1:45:22 PM |
Accepting media images without thinking for themselves.
So you think black men aren't dating black women because they are swayed by media images?!?! Seems a far stretch - I would hope that people are more intelligent than that when picking a mate. I would think that anyone swayed by media has no backbone or ability to use intellect when finding a mate. There has to be some deeper reason - 'cause I find black men more than capable of free thinking. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 2:08:15 PM |
I think almondcookie's point in all of this is to simply try and accept people for who they are rather than the color of their skin
Unfortunately, your premise is one way thinking. It seems all would be fine as long as they weren't dating white people - go figure.
It is easy to understand your point of view (being a Caucasian male) because I can relate to you never having to experience what almondcookie and I have
That's a cop out!!
You are suggesting to me, a white male, that I don't know what you are experiencing. Sorry to burst your bubble... but I do. You assume all white people are ignorant yet, this country is the most open for accepting others from anywhere.... On the other hand, you as a minority, obviously don't understand people of your own ethnicity and why they are dating out of your ethnic/cultural group.
So, who is more ignorant? | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 2:40:10 PM | So you think black men aren't dating black women because they are swayed by media images?!?! Seems a far stretch - I would hope that people are more intelligent than that when picking a mate. I would think that anyone swayed by media has no backbone or ability to use intellect when finding a mate. There has to be some deeper reason - 'cause I find black men more than capable of free thinking.
I never said a WORD about Black men. I have specifically mentionned White and Asian. That's about the extent of the comments.
this country is the most open for accepting others from anywhere
That's a laugh. :roll: | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 2:45:46 PM |
Instead we have DROVES of Black men dating women of other races and relatively few men of other races dating Black women.
You did say it right here - you say they are dating women of other races - implying not their own!! | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 3:46:07 PM | That's a laugh
Name any other country who has basically opened their borders to everyone and also offer financial assistance to refugees?
How many countries recognize the rights of religion and respect a person's right to worship as they please?
You are not being reasonable... you talk in circles.
The world doesn't revolve around you - or me - it never will... get used to that.
For the record, I work with several minorities... their relationship status is as follows:
1 Chinese man - married to a chinese woman - with kids
1 Sri lankan - married to a Sri Lankan woman - with kids
1 East Indian - married to an East Indian woman - with kids.
1 Phillipino - married to a Phillipino woman - with kids
1 Carribean man (trinidad) - was married to a Carribean woman - with kids
1 Italian - married to an Italian woman - with kids
As you will note... none of them is married outside of their ethnicity, culture, nationality.
If I were like you... I could say they dislike white people.
Get over yourself. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 7/13/2007 5:05:53 PM | You did say it right here - you say they are dating women of other races - implying not their own!!
Never once have I even implied that most Black men have a preference for women of other races. Most Black men marry Black women. You have lifted my comment TOTALLY out of context and completely twisted the meaning. I was discussing the issue of IMBALANCE and comparing the number of Asian men dating women of other races to Asian women dating men of other races AND the number of Black men dating women of other races to Black women dating/marrying men of other races.
Here it is again in FULL:
I am not. I am concerned about the imbalance and the forces that create it. I just think it needs to go in ALL direction. Instead we have DROVES of Black men dating women of other races and relatively few men of other races dating Black women. Ditto in the Asian community. DROVES of Asian women dating men of other races, relatively few women of other races dating Asian men.
This is in North America. I understand that in locations like the UK and Europe there is more of a balance.
Here are additional stats directly from the US census bureau to back up the stats I posted earlier that demonstrate the imbalance:
http://www.census.gov/population/socdemo/race/interractab1.txt
Here you can link to tables showing Marital History for People 15 Years Old and Over by Age, Sex, Race and Ethnicity:
http://www.census.gov/population/www/socdemo/marr-div.html
Please read the OP again and continue to post ON Topic. Thanks ~ YaYa ~
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