| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/9/2007 11:01:14 PM | ok so a girl i know who is 16 (i am almost 20) her bf broke up wiht her not to long ago, and i talked to her and cheered her up, saying that i would hang out wiht her sometime (just as friends). i think she got the wrong impression though becuz she seems to think we are dating. her msn name is always about loving me so much and how we are always together but i dont see her like that. i see her more as a lil sister. how do i let her off easy? or is that even possible?
any advice would be appreciatted cuz i have no idea what to do. | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 12:03:46 AM | just tell her how it is there isn't really an easy way to say i don't like you like that. either way if she "loves" you she'll be hurt but with time she'll get over it. good luck | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 12:39:03 AM | maybe take an approach of saying that you love her, as a friend, but you are not
in love with her...Also, say she is on rebound and that she is denying her pain, from
"manufacturing" feelings for you... She is just a kid still, being only being 16...
She is going to be prone to silly ideas...Tell her first and foremost that, your friendship is most important to you and you wouldn't want to jepordize that... | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 4:43:04 AM | | She's 16 - you don't seriously think that there is an easy way to tell her that you don't like her "that way", do you? Just tell her. You'll probably break her heart for a whole of, oh I don't know, 2 days? Then she'll move on - fopefully. But be prepared for some nastiness. She is 16 after all! | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:18:58 AM | There is only one way to get rid of her and ensure that there is no misunderstanding and keep you out of jail.
"I am not interested in you that way. I am a grown man and you are underage. It never was and never could be possible. Please stop." | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:48:47 AM | | anutherchance said it perfectly, straight out, direct, and to the point. If she can't understand that then she has bigger problems than having a crush on an older man. | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 9:24:54 AM | The only way and the only one to resolve this is you.
Man up and tell her how things are.
Then I would bow out of this friendship. Let her gal pals dry her tears. | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 11:19:12 AM | Now she has someone to take her to prom next April. 
Just let her know up front that you don't want a relationship with her. Yeah, she is going to cry and get heart. Telling her that you would be there for her as a friend only would make her understand in the long run. | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 11:20:01 AM | Now she has someone to take her to prom next April.
Just let her know up front that you don't want a relationship with her. Yeah, she is going to cry and get hurt. Telling her that you would be there for her as a friend only would make her understand in the long run. | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 12:39:49 PM | OP: She is a 16 year old girl: there is not going to be an easy way of telling her how it Really is without hurting her. Regardless of all that, BE HONEST! Tell her how you really feel. But let her know you are still her FRIEND, and will be there if she needs anyone to talk to.
Be gentle OP. At 16 girls are very sensitive. | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 4:37:59 PM | "Sir.......step awayyyyy from the psycho...."
^^^ I have to agree with that. The girl is young and looking for anything, anyone to attach herself to. She's got emotional problems and codependency issues that she needs to work out-- by herself or with a good therapist.
Simply have a quick chat with her that you two are NOT dating, that you view her as a FRIEND that was in need of a little cheering up and the way she's acting is scaring you away. If she responds in anything but the coolest of manner cut her off completely before you have an even bigger emotional wreck on your hands.
Find a nice drama-free girl over the age of 18, m'kay? Leave the little 16 year old kiddies to battle it out amongst themselves. You're too old for those school-yard games and high school crushes, don't you think? 
Happy fishing!  | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 6:47:41 PM | Right, sir, we need you to place all personal effects in this bag, it will be returned to you.
Now here is your standard issue jumpsuit, no, no shoe laces allowed. Here is a tooth brush, and this is your new cel...ahem, room mate, Bronco.
run. run fast and make it clear and well known you ran. | |
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zefer
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Joined: 9/5/2006
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 6:57:29 PM | | Perhaps you should watch " To Catch A Predator" On NBC to get motivated to end this relationship before you have to explain yourself to a judge. | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 7:12:25 PM | | My first thought is that she is UNDER AGE and you are an adult male. Remember the boys at Duke University? Immature GIRLS can accuse innocent men of anything -- and cause great harm. I think KittNBootz has it nailed as far as what to do with her. ASAP!!!!!! | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:15:12 PM | Actually in Canada the age of consent is 14, and therefore if the OP wanted to do anything with this girl, it would be completely legal. It doesn't sound like there's anything sexual going on here though. Legally a 70 year old man could have sex with a 14 year old here. Yeah it's sick and twisted, but I think the law is also very old (as in came in when girls were getting married to older men at 15 and 16). They are trying to raise the age of consent to 16, with an exception for people with in a certain age range (I think it's a 4 up 4 down thing, as in an 18 year old can have sex with a 14 year old, and there probably would be a bit of leniency in the court, like if one person was say 4 years and a few weeks older...)
I have to agree that the best possible way to deal with the situation is to be straight up and honest with her. Tell her you like her, but you like her more as a kid sister, not as a girlfriend. You may even want to tell her that the stuff she's saying scares you. Or add in a bit about how you're sorry if she got the wrong impression but you're not interested in dating her. She'll probably be angry, but in my experience 16 year old girls have about a 30 second rebound rate. She'll be angry for a couple days then she'll find someone new and do the exact same thing to him. Eventually she'll learn what she's doing isn't working and will hopefully develop different strategies. It does sound like there's a high chance of drama here so maybe it would be best if you didn't talk to her? Although that would be up to you. I'd just be super careful you don't do anything to lead her to believe you want to be her boyfriend, and girls that age take the slightest little suggestion of flirtation to mean you're her bf sometimes, like if you touch her arm or go to the movies with her or something. Hell I know I was like that when I was 14-16 ish! | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 7/24/2007 5:02:07 PM | | Run as fast as you can -- you don't want to wind up some one's girlfriend instead -- ever hear the phrase "jail bait in any state" | |
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:48:43 AM | let her walk in on you doing her mom, that is how I get rid of underage psychos!
you can also see if she has a 16 year old friend, 16 + 16= 32! legal in any state!
but prolly check this out before you try it, it may get you double the sentence. | |
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Dia623
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Joined: 5/13/2008
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 6/10/2008 12:03:50 PM | Awww! Poor girl!
uhhh...hummmm..idk? Tell her your moving to Yemin! ( 'Friends' fans will get this joke)
Oh boy 16 is an evil age for a girl! YIKES! I would tell her the only way you can...Tell her you think she is a great girl but you are just not interested in dating her. Giving her a compliment before the big let down will help her a bit....BUUUUT like I said...16 years old girls crushes are scary! PROCEED WITH CAUTION!!! | |
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Dia623
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Joined: 5/13/2008
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| ok girl thinks we are dating
Posted: 6/10/2008 1:15:19 PM | Break all contact, because you could go to jail if she goes nutty. If she were over 18, I would say be nice to her, but she is under age and the law isn't playing with that in the U.S. A misunderstanding could give you a criminal record and your mug on "America's Most Wanted." Some girls get really vindictive and mean when the get rejected. She is at an age to do you some REAL damage.
Good luck! | |
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