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 honest101
Joined: 6/21/2007
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If a man is impotent, I know he can still satisty his partner with oral sex, etc.
My question is: can HE still be made to climax? How? I haven't had any experience
with this and didn't even realize that sperm still comes from a man's penis - even when he cannot have an erection.

Thanks God for these boards. I would never in a million years have the nerve
to ask this type of question in real life.
 footballpenguin
Joined: 6/23/2006
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Can men have sex if they are impotent?
Posted: 7/12/2007 9:09:53 AM
there are support groups and chat lines specific to impotence that may better serve your question than this site. i don't know any specific sites (thank you Jesus), but just Google it...
 Joquer
Joined: 9/26/2005
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Posted: 7/12/2007 9:32:46 AM
he can reach orgasum, sure, ejaculation may be a little more difficult, not impossible, but i do believe (from what i just looked up) rare. do a search in yahoo, check out webmd... thre are places out there with a lot of info!
 honest101
Joined: 6/21/2007
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Posted: 7/12/2007 10:00:07 AM
Thank you for answering. I'm afraid to yahoo or google, because I'm afraid I'll get
s? ome porno site. Your answer helped a lot. I understand now if they can orgasm -
that is really what would matter (I think?). And that should be easy enough to achieve.
 Mountain Lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
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Posted: 7/12/2007 10:30:07 AM
OP^^^^
Just search the topic more, don't be too afraid of "bad" sites; set your filters and virus and spy ware controls and clean out cookies afterwards. A lot of info is out there.

Generally speaking only, there are many reasons and degrees of impotence.
First and foremost an impotent man can have sex with a woman, he may or may not have intercourse or orgasm depending on his condition. Having said that, your and his degree of sexual tolerances and things you will or will not do (allow) need to be defined before venturing into details.
Some issues of impotence are strictly mental (stress) related and becoming confident with ones own sexuality and dealing with outside stress factors (work etc) will help overcome when one has a good and caring partner.
Physical matters may find resolve by seeking help from professional medical specialists, there are prescription drugs available to help and surgical procedures. Check with your MD.

Hope this helps you both!
 honest101
Joined: 6/21/2007
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Posted: 7/12/2007 12:14:55 PM
Yes, it does help. Thank you very much!
 EastSideEddie
Joined: 8/13/2006
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Can men have sex if they are impotent?
Posted: 7/12/2007 3:46:13 PM
Impotence has as much to do with sterility as anything. Erectile dysfunction is a slightly different animal. A man's abilty to ejaculate has more to the condition of his prostate. The mental conditon surrounding arousal does not change, just the blood flow and ability to sustain the erecton.

The LAST thing a man needs is to think there's something wrong with him. It is a physical condition that can be aided by medication in may cases, but in some cases that doesn't even help.

If you don't mind oral sex, your relationship does not have to suffer.
 judyarlinepuckett
Joined: 11/24/2006
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Posted: 7/12/2007 5:09:03 PM
part of a sexual experience I believe is mental,
I think that too much stress is put on to a man,
leaving him to feel embrassment.
Give a man the feeling ,
that the most important part of sex,
is the mental experience,
taking the hype from the fact that he's impotent.
You will give him extreme pleasure.
ever heard..it's all in your mind?
sex doesn't have to be only a phyiscal experience.
Watch out for the drugs,,
they can last up to 36 hours they say..
he can go through 15 women.. viagra baby.lol...
I think some women have simlar sexual issues.
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
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Posted: 7/12/2007 5:19:56 PM
Of course men can have sex if they are important, What is the relevance of the man being Important have to do with sex? One might argue that an important man has a better chance of having sex than a unimportant man. How do you go about defining who is important anyway. I think the Op is coming across as somewhat snobbish, does a man have to be important for the OP to be interested in having sex with him. Personally i am totally offended by the OP's attempt to label who she feels might be important and who isn't. This whole thread is appalling and the OP should be ashamed for starting it....SHAME SHAME SHAME ON THE OP.

WHAT the Op is talking about impotent not important? Ahhhh NEVER MIND, please disregard my rant.
 honest101
Joined: 6/21/2007
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Posted: 7/12/2007 5:32:49 PM
Thank you for a nice sense of humor. Because I am from an older generation, and
we didn't talk about such things - I am not only ignorant but a little nervous to
even ask. A little humor has helped put me at ease.
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
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Posted: 7/12/2007 6:23:17 PM
Glad i could help OP.
 susieq2007
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 7/12/2007 6:27:49 PM
I can't believe that I am posting this, but i dated a man about 13 years ago and he had that problem. He was a diabetic and was older. So Mr. Happy was NOT happy from what you could SEE..

but yes, he was able to "finish" quite nicely, thanks to me. It wasn't a hard (no pun intended) thing to do, either. Maybe some men with issues such as this take longer. This guy did fine except for that one thing.
 Limestone_Lady
Joined: 6/20/2007
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Posted: 7/12/2007 6:57:45 PM
There are many ways to please the man without an erection. Look into things like Prostate stimulation, finding nerve centres to massage along the body while you pleasure his member, and many other tricks like this. Look up Tantric Massage. Also take a peek at www dot whitelotus dot com.

I cannot stress tantric massage enough! It allows you to realise the potential of orgasm from not even touching the genital regions just with nerve stimulation all over the body. Sooo worth looking into!
 rederer1
Joined: 8/7/2006
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Posted: 7/12/2007 8:25:13 PM
its not too bloody likely, but possible? yes.
 1_tame_tiger
Joined: 7/15/2007
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Posted: 7/31/2007 5:46:45 AM
With todays modern meds. and devices I think the word "IMPOTENT" should in most part be obsolete.. I will however say this... I know from experience that an erect penis will shoot semin with more force but a limp one is still productive.... Even if it only drips.... LOL..
 Dai nai
Joined: 3/22/2007
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Posted: 7/31/2007 7:50:30 AM
haha....aren't all men important?
 SerenB
Joined: 7/25/2007
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Posted: 7/31/2007 8:21:59 AM
Yes, a man who has erectile dysfunction can have an orgasm and ejaculate without ever getting hard. I know from personal experience with my last partner, who is diabetic and overweight and suffers from ED. I was delighted to discover that oral sex could get him off even if he didn't get hard, and I thought that was great. It meant I could please him as much as he was pleasing me.
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Posted: 7/31/2007 8:32:29 AM
OP I see that you are actually narrowing your question down to whether or not an impotant man can have an orgasm in the traditional manner. From what I have read it seems as though orgasm and ejaculation will still take place differently than expected. Some symptoms of impotance include:
*Taking longer to get an erection & the erection is less firm.
*Orgasm and ejaculation take a longer time to achieve & erection is lost readily after orgasm. As well there is less fluid and strength of ejaculation.
With all that said you have to remember that 'SEX' is not about the orgasm - but the 23.5 hours surrounding that moment in time!! There are many ways to sexually please each other and once you can overcome the fact that your male partners erection and orgasm are difficult - you will be truly blessed in the bedroom!
 DevilYouSay
Joined: 11/13/2006
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Posted: 7/31/2007 10:02:34 AM
Yes they can. My friend was distressed because the medication he was on prevented him from orgasm and we talked about it. He finally realized that he was actually in soe ways abler to satisfy his partnerr better because he could keep his erection fro a far longer period of time then he used to. And he was still getting pleasure out of the act itself.

So yes their is always a way.
 Brad1123
Joined: 12/9/2007
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Posted: 12/28/2007 3:44:01 PM
I think your using the wrong words ladies, Impotency refers to the ability of the sperm to contain X&Y chromosomes for rgeration of the human species

Now if your talking about the ability to perform, take hime to his Urologists
It could be something more serious, like Prostate problems

Dont mess with the unknown, till PSA test, Cancer is on the climb in men, 34%

Afterward you both should be relieved if the test comes back normal. There are otc things to help with prostate health, and Viragara, or Porstate landin direct injections
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