| Tied up??
Posted: 7/18/2007 12:26:37 PM | | Guys just wondering how ud react if a girl asked up to tie her wrists to the bed in foreplay .. is it a bit of an extreme fantasy ?? I genuinely have no idea, i havent done it yet either but its been a fantasy of mine as far back as i can remember. Would a guy freak and think ur a bit crazy or something?? Is it something that should be reserved for a very well established relationship or is it not as big a thing as i think? | |
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| Tied up??
Posted: 7/18/2007 12:31:35 PM | I love tieing girls up  | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 12:36:33 PM | | Part of being a good lover, IMO, is being considerate of your partner. If this would make the experience better for them, I really see no harm in it. Everyone has thier own preferences towards these kinds of things, but its one that is willing to keep an open mind and that will be considerate enough to try this with you that will be in the end be a better match for you. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 12:44:25 PM | Hmmmm... not sure... come over and lets try it... 
Nah I don't think it sounds crazy, just avoid it on the first date :) | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 12:48:20 PM | As the others have said OP, I doubt you'll have any trouble finding a guy who would like to participate with that. Just be sure you trust him and perhaps a safe word if you want to take the teasing further.
Good luck! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 12:58:20 PM |
is it a bit of an extreme fantasy ?
Nope, it's common. Just make sure you do it with someone you trust & don't use something that'll give you ropeburn | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 12:58:59 PM | | when you get to the USA get ahold of me. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 1:07:15 PM | | one time with my ex, i ripped the cord off a computer mouse and used it... it was kinda her idea... but yeah, handcuffs and shit are fun. depends on the person though, to each his own | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 1:16:00 PM | > how ud react if a girl asked up to tie her wrists to the bed in foreplay.
> Would a guy freak and think ur a bit crazy or something??
It depends on the guy. You'd be best discussing it first..
> is it a bit of an extreme fantasy ??
No.. for some it is very mild.. for some it is wierd.. depends.
> its been a fantasy of mine as far back as i can remember.
Interesting.. I'd advise doing some reading on it first, to explore your own desires..
Simply search 'bondage' .. that should give you food for thought..!
> Is it something that should be reserved for a very well established relationship
Yes, yes, yes..! You are putting yourself in a very vulnerable position.
What do you do if the guy thinks it might be "fun" to go a bit further..?
You really need to trust the guy..
Not trying to dissuade you.. the rewards can be amazing..:-)
Jim | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 1:26:03 PM | | Every guy is different so I am sure every guy would react different if that request ever came up. Any guy that cares about you and has an open mind is not going to act all freaked out.. No worries. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 2:37:14 PM | It's fairly common...... blindfolded too...... or so I hear....... | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 2:48:48 PM | Hey, whatever works for you.
Most things are acceptable... there's only a few things that I'm really not comfortable with.
But then, it's just a matter of communication. Nothing at all wrong with talking with your partner about things to do in bed or for foreplay.
And honestly, having your wrists tied to the bed is rather tame. LOL! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 3:23:35 PM | I'm always tying girls to the bed, stops them getting away, I guess thats why there's always a well dressed man in a uniform to bring me a cup of tea on a Saturday morning.
But seriously, I would be happy to explore things like that if we knew each other well enough | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 3:26:28 PM | | Ive done this lots of times and no its nothing for a guy to freak over. I think most guys would like a bit of spice. Just be sure on your part you choose someone you trust. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 3:28:38 PM | An ex co worker of mine told me once he tied up his girlfriend, the left to do some errands. Then he came back after about 1 hour. He said she was really pissed then. I can not remember if he said they did the nasty after that though.  | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 4:30:16 PM | | This is a common fantasy for many women; however, I’d recommend you hold off on the idea until you’re in a serious relationship. Definitely not a good first date idea and I think you’d want to trust someone explicitly before they tied you to the bedposts. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 4:43:26 PM | | 98, And what kind of knot would the lady like to have tied for that fantasy? Seriously.Would you want to be able to untie yourself just in case that the guy didn't want to just tie you up? Inquiring mind and former boy scout here. Save it for one w/ merit badges. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 4:57:57 PM | Usually something like this has to be between those who have a lot of trust in one another. There are some where it's such a huge turn on they like to be restrained very often, sometimes not even caring how well they know their partner of the moment.
One thing I've always enjoyed doing is the "sneak attack" as your woman comes home from work and you mockingly "force" her into your control. Once you've gotten her to the place where you can remove her hosiery or panty hose use them to bind her wrists to one another or something stationary. This has always seemed to fit into the whole fantasy of being forcibly taken since it seemingly requires a bit of innovating and using what's at hand for make shift restraints. The best thing is any knot is easily undone which must be comforting in some way.
The downside to this is I've sometimes become quite well known at the ladies hosiery departments re-supplying that which I've damaged during such events! I have owned police issue style handcuffs but it's best to learn to work the double locking feature for the safety of the one being restrained.
What I always found to be the biggest turn on is how turned on my partner would get with this action so I was always glad to do this for that reason alone! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 5:50:31 PM | Say "Please"
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Posted: 7/18/2007 10:07:36 PM | It's not extreme in and of itself. I've done it -- both tying and being tied. And it can be a lot of fun.
It's not something I'd want to do daily, or even weekly. But as a way to add variety when you're feeling especially frisky, it can be very arousing.
Just be safe about it. And NEVER leave the person tied up alone in a room, not even for "just a second." | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 10:09:53 PM | It sounds like fun. I'd even be willing to take turns.  | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 10:37:02 PM | | Some guys like the whole kinky thing, but some think its disrespectful or something. Some guys will react badly and some others wont. To each their own. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 10:41:21 PM | | Tying her up? Sure. Tying me up? No. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 1:55:50 AM |
Part of being a good lover, IMO, is being considerate of your partner. If this would make the experience better for them, I really see no harm in it. Everyone has thier own preferences towards these kinds of things, but its one that is willing to keep an open mind and that will be considerate enough to try this with you that will be in the end be a better match for you.
Being considerate is one thing! but if your significant other...well ..has her own agenda...say...a toy as big as your forearm, and a gleam in her eyes.........you could wind up with more than just a open mind!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 5:45:51 AM | | the main issue here is trust, you need to feel you can trust him first | |
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