| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 2:40:38 PM | Hi I've been single for 2 years, I've only had 2 GF's, I split with my ex 2 year ago, and haven't found anyone else since.....
I think i've been single for too long now, I've tried various dating sites but to no avail....
I am wondering it is just a temporary phase, or will things get better? I know it sounds weird but i have the same feeling about looking for jobs, will things inprove or will i get one..
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 5:18:50 PM | Been single for 2 years??????
I've been at jobs that I've hated for far longer than that.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself because you won't get any dates that way. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 5:22:41 PM | | I don't think anyone can say. I've never been single more than a few weeks up until now, this has been the longest stretch. But I am really enjoying it, won't mind if it turns into years. Just enjoy the 'me' time! | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 6:30:19 PM | | Just keep trying, and keep learning. When you're right, and it's the right time, it'll happen. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 8:10:18 PM | try being single for 10 years....then you'll have something to complain about.
i have been single that long and i don't mind it so much anymore. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 8:26:21 PM | After being married most of my life - I’ve been single for 4 years now. A couple of “dates” right off the bat - then waited three years for next date. No dates for about a year now.
I don’t date because I don’t ask. I don’t think casual dating or dating for the sake of dating all that wonderful so .......
I just mite be single for .......... well a good while - maybe even forever. I can deal with it.
You get use to it.
I like to think about what I read one time. I also like to think I have been doing it.
“Winners are busy doing within - while they are doing without”. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 8:34:21 PM | uuummmm k i dont know why im leaving this msg on here butt here goes i personaly would not date any guy off a dating website i'd rather date a guy i met in real life, ive tried in the past dating a few guys off of here butt and it never works out, ive been single for almost 4 yrs and now i've gotten used to it. as long as u have ur friends with benifits or a cuddle buddy (which i got, a close friend of mine he's awesome) close by, ur not that lonely. lol later  | |
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Jemue
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 8:37:53 PM | I've been in relationships and out of them, though all the time I've been happy.
I don't put my happiness in someone else's behaviour, only by own choices. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 8:54:21 PM | Only 2 years?
I've been single for 4 years. I guess you get used to it :)
Good luck to you! | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 8:59:27 PM | Chauntie ... you state
i personaly would not date any guy off a dating website i'd rather date a guy i met in real life
Then ... your profile says ...
im down for just making friends on here butt if we click then who knows right?
Doesn't the "who knows" signify dating???????????
As for the original post ... Being single has its perks and if I were you i'd enjoy it as it is and just wait for the right girl to come along. No sense in feeling sad about it even though you may be lonely BUT there is no sense in trying to run out and seek a woman just cuz you are lonely. that is why alot of people date and end up with people they are not truly happy with because they just want to be with someone that they usually just take what they can get to say they are no longer single ................
Enjoy your freedom while you have it .. 2 years is not that long really .. Like the lady said here try going 10! and I have seen others do it even longer. Myself I have also gone just over 2 yrs but by choice and this time around I wouldn't be surprised if I do it even longer ... by choice! There is nothing wrong with being single and enjoying your "ME" time! | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 9:34:48 PM | | One thing...I do not understand. Why do people come on here?? On a dating site ..at that & say they would never date anyone off of here. Excuse me... but, why are you on here then???? | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/21/2007 9:55:27 PM | 5 years for me and you do get used to it. I'm enjoying it actually.
A partner should enhance your life not stress it out. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 1:55:56 AM | When i wrote that msg last night i was feeling a bit loney, but we all do..
It's right though, I should should being miserable lol, I suppose I'm being a bit impatient with getting a date, I'll need to change my attitude, otherwise I'll be single for the rest of my life, and just think that there is someone out there waiting for me....
Chris | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 2:21:57 AM |
I am wondering it is just a temporary phase, or will things get better?
No idea mate, no one can predict the future, I've had stints of being single for over 2 years myself, but don't let it rule your life, just get out there and persue your personal interests and aspirations. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 4:41:41 AM | woah 43 years is a lot lol, Yeah good point! I dunno how lucky i am  | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 5:26:28 AM | you have to have hope but at the same time you have to look at your situation from someone else's point of view.
some people will give you the advice "just be yourself" or "just be patient" but if you keep doing that, you may be overlooking a problem you ought to address. if being yourself gets no results, then isn't it time to reassess the situation?
before i continue, i'm NOT talking about being fake or lying. i'm saying look at your situation: are there learnt behaviours you've adopted which are putting people off, are you in a social mix and in contact with a lot of people, do you have a sense of confidence about yourself which make people more comfortable with you?
your next girlfriend isn't going to fall from the sky, and it sounds like you're at least making an effort using this and other dating sites. don't despair, keep on and push through it, but don't forget to continually improve yourself so if there is something hindering you that you can overcome it and find that girlfriend! | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 8:56:57 AM | | I've been single for 10 years and I only had a serious relationship with 1 person. Of course things will get better. You just have to keep trying. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 9:09:43 AM | My guy has been single for 16 years! What are YOU stressing over? You need at least 2 years to recuperate from the past relationships and get your head on straight. Are you anxious or stressing about being alone? Women FEEL that, you know. Confidence and peace about who you are/your life are VERY attractive. If you are not already happy; no one else can do that for you. They can enhance your life, and make it better, but true happiness comes from within.
My 2 cents worth | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 11:59:44 AM | | It is more a boredom/lonliness issue, and that is bringing out my negative side, I'll have to find other interests, and take a long hard think about i'm doing wrong.... My profiles okay..... Hey thanks for you advice i'll take on board what you said. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 12:13:01 PM | uh... not fer nuthin' but yer profile isn't all that okay and besides that I don't know anyone that's looking for sommeone that's currently "seeking employment". Like, who's gonna pick up the tab at the nice bar?
Get a job, get a life and set your priorities in order and the right one will find you. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 12:25:57 PM | Good point, I've been applying for jobs, but i get to the interview stage and after the interview is over, the employers are not interested a day later.
The job seekings pulling me down. I want to work... and i guess thats putting pressure on me with regards to the job hunting... What annoys me is the people who are pretending to look for work. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 2:07:20 PM | I was looking on and off from 1999 untill 2006 when i finally got my dream job. Good pay, good benefits, good hours, and no weekends or nights. Unless i ask for them. Finding the right job is hard enough. Dating, another story all togeather.  | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 2:32:10 PM | | Yeah very true, jobs are hard to comeby, but i am willing to take almost any suitable job that has decent pay, full or part-time.. | |
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