lap58
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Joined: 7/12/2007
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 6:04:35 PM | So I thought, let me register at that harmony place I see on TV, and if it's decent, I'll pay a months worth and try it out...and after 30 minutes and hundreds of questions later, I was rejected, because question #3 out of 300 asked my marital status, and I said Separated, and after the 300 profile questions, I get booted off because they only accept divorced or widowed people....
Also the questions seemed very heavy on the church and volunteering thing, neither of which interests me, and I answered apporpriately.
Imagine that.... | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 6:10:19 PM | | Hey you're not the only one. I tried that site 3 seperate times and eventually came to the conclusion that even though it's not listed as a Christian Dating site, it is. I answered the religious questions the same the first two times, and then differently the third time to see, and when I answered yes to the faith based questions it found me matches. Thank god I never paid a dime for that awful site. I think it's mean to not say that it's a Christian site. I thought that I would actually find someone there that was like me because their commercial was very convincing. But after answering all those questions and then being rejected I changed my opinion of that site. Online dating has really taken a toll on me. Although I believe some people may find a good long term mate online, I'm still skeptical. Sorry to hear you wasted money on that site though. But at least know you're not the only one. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 6:26:59 PM | I always heard it was a Christian Dating site........probably why I'm not a member!
One thing I've noticed about dating sites.........you see the same recycled faces and profiles on every available site. I wonder how much they invest in a year on finding a date? Especially when their profile has been active for years! | |
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lap58
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Joined: 7/12/2007
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 6:31:26 PM | | well, jeez, you would think that if someone was separated, question 3 out of 300, that it would end the registration process right then and there...so t make you go through another 297 questions can serve what purpose? | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 6:34:00 PM | I was truned down because they had no members who were suited for my personaility....... YIKES!!!! I know it made me feel pretty darn good.... | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 7:31:57 PM | I can't get past that squirrly guy that hosts those commercials. "29 different levels" or whatever it is.
I'll stick to the free sites. Besides I found my sweety - on Craig's List of all places. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 8:03:25 PM | | I went through the signup more to see if their test picked up on my weirdness. Before finishing a couple things past the test or putting any pics up, I was getting matches I could contact "just as soon as I was signed up with my credit card". Guess thats internet christian, when the offering plate has a credit card machine built in. Snagged my test results and ran like hell. Glad I did, if they wouldn't accept someone like Heidi place must have nothing but bent hard drives. Maybe that tells you something cause I passed. Whoa, I think I need to rethink something. Goin back to my cage now. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 8:42:02 PM | Well, I'm happy to say that I was successfully accepted by E-Harmony and can even get free matches (can't respond to them for free, but they can dangle them in front of me until I cough up the credit card number.) I thought their profile actual was rather scary because it seemed to have me pegged; however, they can't seem to come up with a match for me that sounds like someone I could actually stand. While I understand the whole concept of matching on personality traits, shouldn't we have something else in common so we have something to talk about. It keeps pairing me up with financial advisors who like nothing but golf, realtors who like nothing but golf, teachers who like nothing but golf.... (and when I say "nothing but golf" that's what I mean...nothing)
I'm beginning to suspect that to find my true love in life I'm going to have to take up golf! | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 9:34:29 PM | Yea well some of the most twisted people I've ever met where Christians. Must have something to do with the fact thay are always forgivin.No matter what it is. Guess it makes it a lot easyer to justify their screwed up behavior. No thanks I'll stay a heathen. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 9:46:10 PM | Be glad you didn't waist your money ...I was on that site for 6 months a few years ago,I found it one of the boringness dating sites Iv ever used
They set you up with 8 profiles I think it was to start,give you a few more threw out the month,you have no say or pick in who their choosing for you and to contact these people you have to go threw different steps which takes a few days,half never even had photos so you had no idea what they looked like until you were able too ask them for one after you went threw their step process.....its just a slow boring site is the only way to describe it. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/22/2007 10:21:43 PM | It turned me down too. :) The profile was pretty accurate, then it basically said that they had no use for someone like me in their system. LOL I guess I'm just not their kind of people...  But that's all right, I was just using them for the free personality profile. I'm a sucker for a free personality test! | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 3:40:15 AM | Haha. I got rejected too. Probably because I'm anti-religion.
Their personality profile was vaguely interesting, but wasn't totally "me".
Eh, according to my mom (Who used the site for awhile as a paying member..) it's most definitely not worth it. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 4:14:37 AM | | I went thru the entire questionarre, awaited my results , and then was told by a computer , theres no matches for me, i laughed my ass off, what a joke, and i too believe its based on religion. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 7:27:25 AM | I was actually accepted at the site-- and I even spent my $40 or whatever to see who these wonderful men were that this site found for me. Now I don't typically date guys that are much younger than me, and I also have not figured out how to "master" the long distance relationship. BUT just about every person the Harmony site found as my "match" was at least 7-10 years younger than me (I'm only 35 for heavens sake-- I don't want to have to train anyone) and at least 2 states away. I can't belive I wasted my money on that site for a month. The one guy I did actually talk to for a while was going along just fine until we talked about meeting-- then he all of a sudden became some sick freak sex fiend! RUN, RUN AWAY!!!! | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 7:37:27 AM | | Sounds to me like a lot of pof members need to get to know god a little better. Not for eharmony but for your on harmony. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 7:40:11 AM | Me too! 12 million members and I was too crazy for even ONE? I wanted to go to bed and pull the covers over my head.  | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 7:56:21 AM |
Sounds to me like a lot of pof members need to get to know god a little better. Not for eharmony but for your on harmony.
I'd rather rot in your supposed hell. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 8:07:23 AM | That site is full of felons and other criminals... what they do is just lie about the issue. That keeps them and their picture off the public view which is why they like it.
I guess the same goes for married people too. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:28:26 AM | I've always had a gut feeling that something was wrong with that "harmony" site. Now, I read the question and all the replies, and I know for sure that my gut feelings did not deceive me!
E-harmony starts by saying that the key to successful relationship is compatibility. THAT'S CORRECT. But what they say next can be translated into plain English as: "You, simple unscientific mortal with no training in psychology, have no clue as to who is compatible with you. Let us, the specialists, do the choosing for you! (and to charge you an outrageous price for the choosing)".
And when they choose for you, they still will not let you alone. Remember - you are not an expert, not only you don't know who's right for you, but when you find the right one - you have no idea what to say and how to behave! So, you have to put yourself into the hands of specialists. This is what they say:
Often the only thing harder than finding someone who interests you, is getting to know them. But what if you had a guided process that helped you to get to know someone at very deep levels that was fun, safe, and anonymous? eHarmony's Guided Communication option does just that, so you can focus on the enjoyment of getting to know your matches, without worrying about the awkwardness of the first few communications.
Really? Surely, there are people who don't know what to say in the first e-mail or on the first date - but I'd rather not to date them, than you.
We have been given THE INTUITION - by God, the harmony folks would say, or by Nature, as I would day, that equipped us with all we need to survive. We do not need to be treated like babies or imbeciles who need the guiding hand of experts on each and every step of the way. And we definitely do not need to pay the experts for something we can do ourselves much better. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 1:20:49 PM | They told me that they couldn't help me because none of their members were compatible with my personality traits. I guess that makes me one of the few, the proud, the unmatchable (?). And for the record I never read or answered anything about God nor any other type of religious beliefs.
I did belong to match.com a few times over the last 5 years and a few months of Yahoo Personals. But considering the cost...it wasn't worth it. At least here if I am not successful I am not paying a monthly fee for the trainwreck. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 2:21:57 PM | I am not Christian and yet I was accepted by eharmony. I would not say it's a Christian site by any means. Do you need morals and values? Maybe. I answered all of the questions honestly, I'm not christian, I'm a perv and enjoy great sex (and can be kinky sex), Im extremely open minded and rather different than a lot of women. I honestly expected to be one of those that gets turned away when I started filling out the questions.
For those that say they weren't getting the right matches in age and distance, it sounds like you never went and set up your preferences correctly. Or maybe you marked the "might consider relocating" option.
For those that don't want to pay, hang around there long enough and you'll get the free communication weekends. Then you can get a feel for it. I think the site does have some very good things about it, I just wasn't finding the right matches for me because it did not cover things such as hobbies and interests but only focuses on the personality. If you want to try it they do offer 3 months for the price of 1 deals if you just hold out. I just got my 3rd offer for it this year in the email last week. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 7:12:51 PM | | I think its growing in popularity. When I first tried it they couldn't find a match for me---anywhere!! I kept broadening the distance, and when I got half way around the world and they still couldn't find a match... it just was too destructive for my ego so I quit the site. Later when I tried again it was the golf thing. I've tried match and yahoo and met some nice guys, but it really wasn't worth the money. This is much more fun. Even if I don't find my true love, its fun to read the profiles, write to people on occassion-- and of course, the forums are great entertainment. | |
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| Rejected by that harmony site! LOL
Posted: 7/23/2007 7:31:44 PM |
This is much more fun. Even if I don't find my true love, its fun to read the profiles, write to people on occasion-- and of course, the forums are great entertainment.
Exactly! It's fun to browse the profiles, separate them into "yes", "maybe", "no" categories, put people on your favorite list and see if it prompts them to write, or not wait and write first.
It's even fun to delete some really foolish messages you receive, such as "Hey, what's up?", or "Have you been dating a lot lately?", but not without laughing first.
Will we make mistakes in our choices? Yes, we will - but it's part of fun, too. Do we need high-priced experts to protect us from our own mistakes? I don't think so. | |
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mika k
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Joined: 7/16/2007
Msg: 25 | |
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