| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 12:37:28 PM | | You know since the Canada wide man hunt for a man wanted in connection with one homicide in Windsor an the possible double homicide just outside Dashwood near where I live I have felt like a prisoner in my own home..locking patio doors,afraid to take the dog out on my own,being alone at nights etc...how does one get back control of their life?... | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 12:49:51 PM | | Maybe you could try to relax , a few people get killed in a city of 200,000+ and you get worried about your personal safety ? | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 1:19:04 PM | | I'm not just worried about my own safety but everyone until this guy is picked up..wouldn't you be a tad worried living alone and all this was happening near you..I have called all of my friends an family to check on them daily since this all began..question is how does one get over the feeling of being a prisoner in their own home. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 1:20:00 PM | " IF" he is the one they are looking for.
I happend to know his aunt, and he is just a scared kid.
Apparently the reason he killed that guy was,,,
They were all up partying all night, and when he woke during his sleep the person he killed was performing oral sex on him.( he is not gay)
I guess he just flipped and choked him to death.
I bet alot of men would say they would have done the same thing.
I'm not saying it is right, infact it's a shame 1 young man dead, and another ones life may as well be over too. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 3:02:23 PM | ^^^^ {dripping sarcasm on} riiiiighhhhtttt... that's how it happened... {dripping sarcasm off}
how do YOU know? how does this guy's aunt know??? he's supposedly been on the run for days.
and now that he's been named as the suspect in the deaths of the other couple, what excuse is he going to use for *that* crime?
*sheesh*
if he was in touch with his family, they could've done something to prevent the other murders....
and stupid speculation where one blames the victim of a crime doesn't help the situation...
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 3:07:14 PM | I know because his aunt lives with my brother.
He told his sister ( which the police interviewd) what happend then left town. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 3:33:42 PM | | How do you NOT stay a prisoner in your own home? Grow a backbone for christ sake, thousands get killed per year, millions get raped etc, you've left the house before no? How is this any different than what you see or read from the media? | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 4:17:44 PM | AND
that guys LONG GONE (if he's smart, and thats a BIG IF)
What better way to get caught by the cops than to hang around where you committed the crime.
He's probably headed to TO, or some other huge population.. making him harder to find.
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We're all going to die.
Living in fear generally just speeds it along. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 5:17:02 PM | Based on your comments, I think you are being completely irrational. You can be pretty much guaranteed that unless he is looking for you specifically, you have a much better chance of being struck by lightning or run over by a dump truck...
Continually living your life in an irrational state of fear isn't really living, it's merely existing. I would suggest that you talk to a professional who can help you deal with your fears. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 6:02:49 PM | i dont think anyone should be belittling the user
i'm not sure where you live, but throughout london they had the choppers flying above the houses, etc
seriously, if you have choppers buzzing around your place with spotlights pointed down, wouldnt you be a little bit intimidated? | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 6:09:35 PM | | We have been told to litterly stay in our homes,leave outside lights on,lock doors an windows so how can one not feel like a prisoner in their own home..the last 2 homicides happened on the first side road outside of the next town where I used to live an my one daughter still does live..all that was between where it happened an where she lives is a farmers field an yes it is the same farm where the couple were killed..so excuse me for being worried...all I was asking is how does one getting over the feeling..not to be attacked for asking... | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 6:14:57 PM | Would I be worried if someone near me was murdered? Yes!
What I think I would do is,,, if you are so worried (which I understand) I would get together with my family in 1 house and feel safe till that person is caught. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 6:18:46 PM | [quots]if he was in touch with his family, they could've done something to prevent the other murders....
and stupid speculation where one blames the victim of a crime doesn't help the situation..
What the heck can his familt do?
He took a life.
Who blamed the victim?
Nobody should be murdered!!! | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 6:19:06 PM |
if he was in touch with his family, they could've done something to prevent the other murders....
and stupid speculation where one blames the victim of a crime doesn't help the situation..
What the heck can his familt do?
He took a life.
Who blamed the victim?
Nobody should be murdered!!! | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 7:14:41 PM | | Have to say..this certainly was an interesting read! The media hype that has gone on here in town and in the OP'S area surely does have people on guard. I agree with Miss Ally! The suggestions of obtaining counselling and growing up are truly not necessary! And you all wonder why no one posts anything anymore? Here is a primary example of why most folks don't!. Some of you should be truly ashamed of yourselves! Keyboard cowboys indeed! And btw? Feel free to attack as most of you are so comfortable doing..... | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 7:15:40 PM | | The woman that posted this has every right to be scared. She doesn't say if she lives alone and how close her neighbors are. It sounds like she lives in the country, where help isn't just a scream away. It is different living in the city, people can be awaken or notice something is wrong a lot quicker.I can't believe some people are telling her she is worried over nothing. This young man has supposedly killed 3 people, he is scared, he is being backed into a corner and is trying to find a way out. Anyone cornered is going to do anything to survive. It is obvious he doesn't care what he has to do. I just hope for everyones sake they catch him soon. He most likely has left the area, but there is a chance he can't because the police have the area swarmed. Just be careful and always have the phone close to you. I'm pretty sure you are fine, but please don't take any chances. If you are alone maybe you should ask a neighbor if they don't mind a guest until its all over. I'm sure they will more than oblige you. Take care and try not to worry. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 7:24:30 PM | how does one get back control of their life?...
YOU are in control of your life, plain and simple. Like I asked before, how is this any different than what you see in the news every single day?
And you're only now locking the doors where you live? I've been locking the doors where I live since I was a little kiddlet. Why stress yourself out and imprison yourself over nothing? People have been shot a few times where I live, it's not going to change how I live MY life. Just pay more attention when you're out and about, always be aware of what's going on in your surroundings.
Truthfully, the only person who is imprissoning you, is... You. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 8:34:37 PM | | http://www.crimealerts.net/huron.htm...here is the link to what is going on about the homicides at the present time..now tell me if this was happening litterly in your own back yard wouldn't you be worried..an for those attacking me for being worried an for feeling like a prisoner in my home makes me wonder about humanity...I guess maybe if I had asked about oh let's say a size of a man or how they use it instead of asking how do you deal with a feeling it would have been more exceptable. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 8:53:44 PM | OP....I know that what's going on is scary. When i was in highschool up the street from the school a couple guys killed a security guard who was going to testify against them in a trial. When I went to school @ 8:30 the police had been in there and hour before searching the place coz they thought the perps stashed the murder weapon in the school somewheres.
It's scary....and with all the shiznit that's happening in the world half the time i'm tempted to hide in my bed under a blanket. But you gotta chin up and face each day. Having friends over is good. Having a fully charged cell phone on/near you is good. Heck if you get really scared sleep with a knife under your pillow. This too shall pass though. Like many posters on here have said...you just gotta keep living your life as normally as possible. Think of it this way....if you don't and if you let the fear take over and control you then they win. Plain and simple. Personally....that ain't cool with me. I guess if it makes you feel better you could always leave the house with a pocket knife in your pocket.
Hope this helps..... | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 8:54:24 PM | | This happens here all the time, and the police said the same thing I said, pay attention to your surroundings. There really is nothing else you can do but use common sense. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:19:10 PM | I live about 20 mins from the couple in the farm house. There was an O.P.P. chopper flying around this morning while I was watering my gardens.
Meh... the doors to my house are still both unlocked, just like they always are. No doubt he's running and long gone from the area by now. Life goes on like usual. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:38:11 PM | We're all going to die.
Living in fear generally just speeds it along.
Very well put Mae!
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Life is too short to worry about this stuff. It happened before, it's happening now, and it will happen again. A lot of people say that they could walk off the curb tomorrow and get hit by a bus . . . would that fact keep you inside and worried all the time?
Not me . . . would rather go out and experience all the positive things that life has to offer.
Cheers!  | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:54:14 PM | | I must admit, I agree with the OP. The area which they are searching for is mostly made up of elderly people. Small towns breed different people, they trust people, they know whats going on in their towns, they are really aware of new faces. In a larger city, that doesn't happen, most of us don't even know our neighbours. Having said that, my parents live in Grand Bend, I have begged them to keep their doors locked and not answer the doors at night...I myself, until they catch this guy, am setting my alarm at night...Just be safe everyone..and mostly BE AWARE. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 10:26:30 PM | To all of you out there naysaying... I have this to say
Have you been listening to our local news?
If so, you'd know that they are telling us everywhere, be it on the radio, tv, paper, etc that we should LOCK DOWN our places and be extra careful. People are taking this very seriously. To be blunt, the news has really put a lot of fear into people and comments like "oh it happens everywhere" do little to comfort anyone.
Keep in mind, everyone is entitled to their own feelings and who are any of us to discount them. | |
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| Prisoner in one's own home
Posted: 7/24/2007 11:31:43 PM | It 's not a case of it happening everywhere . . . and by all means, be careful and lock your doors and windows. I just do not see where I would allow something like this to run my life, and living in fear of going outside your own home is letting it control you!
Go out, live your life as you normally would . . . maybe just do things in larger groups, not by yourself. Keep in closer contact with family, friends and neighbors. If you jog/rollerblade in the morning or evenings, keep to "busy" areas. I could go on and on, but I think we all know the various aspects of staying safe.
The OP asks how does one get back control of thier life. The first thing that came to my mind was to not give up that control in the first place, but that wouldn't be the right answer if you are already feeling this way. The right answer has been stated above in various ways . . . COURAGE! You have to take it back.
Cheers! | |
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