| Non-religious contacts?
Posted: 7/26/2007 2:00:32 PM | While the vast majority have some sort of religious beliefs (and it is NOT my intention here to debate whether if that is right or wrong), how do the "non-religious" people fare in dating?
Has your stand on religion caused problems with a potential match?
How have you met people with a similar viewpoint?
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Posted: 7/26/2007 2:05:49 PM | | Not with anyone I've met or corresponded with here. It doesn't matter to me what a "potential's" beliefs--or non-beliefs--are. As long as he can accept mine, then things will be okay. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 2:11:22 PM | | I don't care if people have rediculous views on life and chase fairy tales as long as they are good in bed ! | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 2:30:11 PM | Hmmm...I chose to put "non-religious" on my profile for a very specific reason. "Other" really doesn't define my spiritual beliefs very well.
I've studied and pondered upon several different faiths and draw a bit from each, and have a belief in omipresence. Therefore, I find the constrictive framework of any one paticular "religion" to be too constrictive and avoid the word entirely. Spirituality (both internal and external) is a more comfortable word for defining my belief system.
Since my teenaged years, I've dated a few Christians (one turned Athiest), a Jehovah's Witness, a Taoist :), a Baptist and (good Gawd) a Rosicrucian. As long as a guy is not bound by dogma and able to have reverence for belief systems that are different from his own, we'll get along fine, at least when it comes to spirituality. Morals and ethics is where a few of them get tripped up.  | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 2:37:37 PM | I think, in the long run, a relationship with someone religious would be a problem. In the long run, the issue of Sunday church, marriages, christenings etc might come up and when it eventually did, it would be hard to get around for me. To be honest, in the same way that I wouldn't date someone with right-wing politics I would have trouble respecting the views of someone with strong religious convictions...
So, in answer to the original question, yes it does effect my online dating experience as I don't consider many, perfectly lovely, attractive people with this in mind.
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Posted: 7/26/2007 2:41:55 PM | | I'm very glad the OP asked this question. Call me narrow minded if you will, but I take that part of the profile very seriously. I just emailed someone to ask about that part of their profile being non-religious out of curiosity, trying to understand people. I dated an Agnostic for some time who was actually angry at God. Therefore, I couldn't even talk about religion/spirituality. I 'need' to talk about it, examine it, and explore it in order to grow in my faith. So, I like to surround myself with people of faith. I have friends of many faiths, but my best friend needs to be Christian--just my preference. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 3:26:17 PM | | I have no problem dating and have no religious views. So I would have to say it hasn't had any effect on my dating. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 3:44:34 PM | I believe one's religious beliefs are there private matters UNTIL a potential relationship enters the picture. I would NEVER email someone and ask what that means. I don't have a problem discussing my personal beliefs BUT certainly not before I have had some exposure (chats, phone) and/or a meet. If someone's religion is an issue then that is a different kettle of fish.
I think that you will find the vast majority of people will state "non religious". | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 4:01:43 PM | Another persons religion doesn't affect me. Unluess they are all hardcore and get all weird on me. I went to church all the time with my ex. no biggie. I figured if theres a heaven then I had a lock, since I wasn't religious and CHOSE to go, it held more weight than someone who WAS religious and HAD to go. Plus I always spotted God the 5 bucks every week.
So I'm in!
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Posted: 7/26/2007 4:12:27 PM | I was raised as a Unitarian, the "all souls" religion. We respect the wisdom found in all religions. I am spritual, not religious, tend toward the pagan side of things and don't take the bible literally.
I am cautious about fundamentalist religions because (my opinion only, not stepping on toes here) of the rigid thinking. I met a man online. He belongs to a religion that takes the bible literally. I said it might be a point of conflict between us because our views are so different. I didn't want bible quotes or other sayings from the lord tossed into our daily conversation.
It turns out that he lied about his age. We dated three times, it was pleasant enough but he wasn't the one. And I don't like being lied to. When I ended it as gently as possible he got quite agitated and wanted to get a bible and pray with me. I said no. I asked him what the bible said about lying and did he think he was a hypocrite. I notice he has now changed his profile to the correct age.
I feel that if someone's religion brings them peace and happiness it's wonderful. I just don't like it projected as a point that a person of faith would think they are a little bit better, then think it's OK to lie. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 4:32:23 PM | I myself am non-religious and am not concerned if my partner believes in a certain set of principles. As long as they are a "good" set of principles, I don't care what religious label he slaps on it, as long as he accepts that I incorporate knowledge from several religions.
I will normally not date an atheist however, they can be as "religious" as it gets, and often feel the need to prove everyone else wrong. Ironic, isn't it? It's extreme unfounded beliefs on any subject, religious or not, that scare me.
I can't personally say that a god or gods exist, but I can't prove such a phenomenon doesn't exist, I don't propose to know everything. For some this is the root on religion - a comforting explanation of the unknown. Do I think that's a bad thing? Only if it hurts other people. Lots of non-religious groups throughout history have done as much damage as their powerful religious counterparts. Sorry, I think I'm getting off topic. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 4:33:36 PM | As a non-religious person residing here
in the ass crack of the bible belt, I've not
noticed a shortage of like minded people.
Has your stand on religion caused problems with a potential match?
It's ended conversations. But as far as
causing problems with a potential match,
the answer would be no. It's an excellent
screening tool, as I have no patience for
intolerance. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 7:06:02 PM | I would imagine the non relgious people do the same as the religious ones... there are plenty of relgious people who are married who also date.
You must be young to ask such a question... as if relgion has anything to do with dating !
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Posted: 7/30/2007 1:23:24 PM | Young at 59? Bless your heart.
It's been my experience that many, but not all, religious people are very intolerant of other religions, differing sects, and especially to atheists. Matching yourself another atheist is no more a guarantee of automatic success then, say a Baptist dating another Baptist.
Maybe its useful as an initial "filter" but that's all. My point is that there are far fewer "non-religious" then religious these days so your potential pool of dates is vastly reduced.
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Posted: 7/30/2007 1:26:09 PM | | I once had a noodnik say to me "so, because you're not religious, guess you have no morals". What a deep thinking prize that one was. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2007 1:33:02 PM | Well, at least you knew not to waste any time with him!
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Posted: 8/8/2007 9:00:12 AM | | This honestly is not very important to me, but I respect someone else's beliefs and if religion is important to them, or they need religious compatibility, then I can respect that and honestly, someone who is intolerant of another person's religious beliefs of lackthereof, is probably not the one for me. What I mean is that say, I meet someone who seems like a nice person on the surface. After a short time though, I learn that she is a fundamentalist Christian, she will lose interest in me faster than I would just push her away and into a church, since when she realizes my personal religious feelings, she will not be able to be with me. So it really all works out. Personally I am nonreligious (I grew up Catholic) now but I would not reject someone if she were Christian, Jewish, Muslim (here again though, I doubt a Muslim woman would find herself able to date someone nonreligious like me), Buddhist, etc etc. | |
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| Non-religious contacts?
Posted: 8/8/2007 9:15:48 AM | Im "non-religious" or "other" or something like that.
doesnt seem to cause me any problems....I get lots and lots of emails. I dont think Religion is something most people consider seriously on a first contact. Heck I even spell it out that I am NOT looking for long term, but "long term' guys still write to me. soooooo really people seem to be very open with first contacts. I guess after a while, if things are developing, then those serious issues would be discussed and dealt with.
I can be pals with anyone of any religion unless its some freaky crap involving animal sacrifice.....then their religion can kiss my butt and I'll go to the meetings and tell the Head Honcho in person.
However.....if I was to get serious about someone I would need to have a religious understanding. We will NOT have children...so its not a HUGE deal for me (if I planned to have kids then it would be a tremendously big deal). But even as 2 adults with no kids......i still want to know how devout he in and what things his religion teaches and how seriously he takes it all.
I could not get along with someone who is a very very serious believer in any of that stuff. I need someone who RESPECTS all/most poionts of view...but does not honestly think his religion is the only RIGHT one.
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Posted: 8/8/2007 9:41:12 AM | I have never run into an issue..so to speak. I am not anti-religion so it doesn't put someone religious on the defensive. I'm non religious. I think the word is probably agnostic meaning I have no idea. There is a difference between agnostic and athieist. I generally find that the vehement religious person and/or the athieist are intitiating antagonism.
I'm certain that I will not change any position I have but I can let someone have theirs.
I find that religion has absolutely nothing to do with morality. Religion would not make a good person thus giving someone a better mate. I think that thinking that way could and in most cases would lead to failure or at least not stop failure in a relationship. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 10:01:51 AM | I think like-minded people just tend to gravitate together. Pretty much everyone I have traded more than a few im's or phone calls with feel the same way about religion that I do. Still, it's just an afterthought to me. Like "You DO eat meat, right?"
Although, now that I think about it, "vegan" might be more of a relationship killer, frankly. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 10:21:43 AM | Religion has caused problems between me and potential matches.
I think it's ok for children to have a make-believe/invisible friend but by adulthood he should have outgrown it. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 10:23:26 AM | | Something really strikes me as "off" in the questioning....like saying that "non-religious" is some kind of handicap...for every person of one religion, there are at least 20 others of "other" religions out there...does this make dating harder for that one person? Only if they see it as a problem. I'm very much against organized religion...that doesn't mean I'm not spiritual and don't have my own beliefs and ideas...but I'm not going to be with someone who is persistent and adamant about me following their religion's rules....just as a Mormon and a Jewish person probably wouldn't fit together quite well. None of these people seem to have any added problems in dating due to religion...I think what struck me as "off" in the questioning was the direction it was pointed (Non-religious vs. simply people of different religions dating....it denotes a certain misunderstanding that people of "non-religious" standing are in some way different than people of one of 50 other religions). | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 10:27:01 AM | | Now put your kitty claws away, LF. The dude didn't want to start a religious debate. Here. Have a saucer of cream. Good girrrl. Good good girrrrl... | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 10:35:06 AM | I'll be right back...I gotta ask John Lennon about this one.
nice eyes lonelyfaeire | |
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