| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/26/2007 6:31:52 PM | Wondering what women look for in a good introductory email from a man here?
I know people always say no one line emails no pervs etc etc but really what is it that catches your eye?
In my mind I would think its kinda contradictory in that I always hear how woman hate a one liner email but thats what I pretty well always get when a woman emails me here.Personally I like short ones quick to the point ice breakers that start a dialogue.I think thats the most important thing.
I know I also always hear how woman here gets tons of emails every day and just dont have time to go through them all but realistically wouldnt that make the short to the point email more appealing not less so? Would'nt the 5 paragraph email just feel like a waste of time and you won't read it all anyway?
Ladies what are your thoughts?
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/26/2007 7:15:32 PM | Honestly, if you send out a quick "to the point" one-liner mail, I always think you have done that X 30......so not really my thing and I likely won't respond to it.
Mention something in the profile or if they are a forum person, maybe mention something that caught your eye about one of their posts.
Maybe some more people will comment and give you some more answers...that was just my take on the messages from men on here. | |
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Fwens
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/26/2007 7:16:59 PM | I can only tell you what caught my 
It has to convey wit, interest in the person you're writing to (preferably after you've read her profile), and no essays please. In short, something that presents your personality and best qualities succintly in a neat lil package.
Tough? It's been done before - my b/f cracked me up with his first email, though it could've been misconstrued as mockery to my interests.
Yup, it all depends on how the recipient takes it too - nobody ever said  was easy.
Oh, last but not least, no template emails please!
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/26/2007 7:27:45 PM | By no means do I think its impossible but like I said length of email should not be construed as effort anyway I think you hit one of the things that I thought were true personalization I know for a fact alot of guys have a template letter they always cut paste and send out a friend from another site showed me ones she had recieved before I thought it was hilarious.
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/26/2007 9:43:11 PM | ^^^^^ hit that one dead on man !!!!!!!
I found most women do like "cut and paste" mail, as long as it's copies of your bank statements, credit reports, and stock holdings. If your lucky enough to get a date....they want your PIN number too | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/26/2007 9:43:46 PM | Might sound silly, but good spelling will get you at least a reply.
If ya can't smell rite, y bothr? (HAHAHAHAHAHA)
Seriously, I figure if they guy takes the time to at least see that most of his words are spelled right, then he's given his email a little thought. Figure guys that think deserve a little attention now and then. | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/26/2007 9:44:23 PM | When getting an initial email from a guy I look for him telling me a bit more about himself than his profile does, something that will intrigue me to look further into him becoming a new acquaintence. Something that makes me want to know more about him.
Sometimes it's the quirkiness of some that get me to respond. I like whit and humour in a fella and if I see it right off the bat, it definately gets a response. | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/26/2007 10:33:13 PM | I agree I like quirkiness, but also that he makes a note somewhere that he actually did read my profile. I notice a lot of guys look at the pics, but dont read what I am looking for - or not looking for.
A similar interest is good as well.
Also - an email that has more than 3 words in it - or emails like
'I was bored thought Id say hi'... | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/26/2007 10:41:49 PM | Someone that can actually spell would be nice, different if you spell one word in error or letters got reversed;but the ones that have a 3 sentence email and half the words are all spelled phoenetically???? If you can't spell why not use spellcheck??
It is nice when they actually make comments about something you have written in your profile, not send comments on your looks and that is it.
Any email that looks like cut and paste usually is and if there is nothing exciting about your email, that is the only chance you really have to make an impression on me. Interesting comments like I got earlier that they would like to paint me?????????? At least it makes me think twice about my reply......did he mean paint my picture or literally paint my naked body with latex body paints?????LOL
Showing some level of intelligence is a nice sign too..........having partying, chicks and beer as your faves and nothing else lets me know you have NO interest in anything else. | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/27/2007 9:03:24 AM | I have a little line in my profile that shows me whether or not a guy has bothered to read my entire profile, and if he does what that line says, then I usually respond......although now that I am dating a nice fellow from the site, I don't get a lot of mail, which suits me fine.
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/27/2007 9:26:06 AM | | I honestly don't think it matters. I've sent the one liners, I've sent messages where I've put a lot of effort into it, and everything in between and rarely, if ever get anything back. Just the nature of the beast.. if you don't play, you'll never win. | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/27/2007 3:00:19 PM | I still say it's those guys who make an extra effort to get through all your restrictions ... and actually comment on something I have said ... unless they just want to meet me, to tell me - as my present guy says - "someone needs to give you a really good "paddle" "...  | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/27/2007 3:58:08 PM | Hi,
I'm a deaf-mute with a medical degree and a law degree. I work 85 hours a week and make $2.4 million a year, most of which I save for that special someone to spend when we meet.
I also have an enormous weiner which I would like to use to please a single woman for the rest of my life.
Hope to hear from you,
P.S. - if I don't respond instantly it's because I'm volunteering with handicapped children.
Am I close? | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/27/2007 4:58:46 PM |
am i close? you are right on the money!!! kind caring and rich...with a big weiner?!!!who is monogomes(sp) NICE!! ha ha
but sadly it's sooo not beliveable!! no guy who is a doctor can say no to a hot nurse like me HELLO!! | |
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Fwens
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Joined: 5/18/2007
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/28/2007 9:18:46 AM | | I so agree with Venus on this on.... If a guy can not look past the age, blonde, dating part he does not stand much of a chance. I think guys need to REALLY see what I am looking for and what my interests are to maybe at least pick one to add that to his e-mail, Like hey I see you like camping and the outdoors. Where do you like to go ? This is in MHO the perfect way to open any 1st e-mail. READ READ READ . READ her profile, pick 1 part you like and reply to it. Happy | |
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Fwens
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/28/2007 5:01:31 PM | | Personally when I write an initial email to someone I do try to find the "triggers" or something in common with the person. I find it best to let the woman know up front that you find her attractive; why else would you be writing them, and that you are interested in getting to know them better. Don't put alot of pressure in that first email to say that you want to marry her or for her to have your kids, you'll come off sounding creepy or a complete nutter. As always just keeps this in the back of your mind when you write your email and it should be ok, be honest, sincere, funny, and keep it simple stupid! | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 7/28/2007 7:21:26 PM | | Spelling is HUGE! Reading all of my profile, then commenting on things helps. I don't contact someone unless I have taken the time to read their profile. Also all those emails with "Whazzup?" are a waste of time, and energy. | |
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