| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 12:47:33 PM | | Please could anyone answer this for me....... how come all the really beautiful and attractive women on this site only want friends, surely this defeats the object of being on a dating site not that I have a problem with this so i would appeciate if you were to keep abusive & Derogatory comments to yourself thanks. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 12:58:43 PM | It is just a filtering divice for them. It is an easy way for women to say no to the ones they have no interest in. When the right one comes along she will let him know that she wants more than friendship. This is not limited to women, some men use the same approach. The are just using a different type of bait.  | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:03:49 PM | | Being a woman, I think I can answer this for you. "Friends" keeps it on a purely platonic level. If you put "dating" guys automatically assume you're open to sex. Just my 2 cents. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:08:02 PM | | It could also be no more complicated than the fact that they see any potential relationship as starting out as friends, and if it is good for them, moving on to dating or more. Rather a simplistic thought, I know, but you never can tell. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:16:36 PM |
It could also be no more complicated than the fact that they see any potential relationship as starting out as friends
Ditto. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:18:12 PM | there could be lots of reasons for this, each individual has her own reasons.
First its important to rememmber that if FRIENDS is one of the multiple choice options on this site....then this site MUST be for more than simply dating. so thinking it "defeats the purpose of being on POF" is 100% incorrect. If a person's purpose is FRIENDS, then it is meeting that purpose.
for me: I was busy with grad school and working full time. then I graduated got a new job and moved (for school and work) to 3 different towns all far away during that time. I am not sure how long I want to stay in this very small isolated town Im in currently . I was also out of a serious relationship and really LOVED being single.
...internet has been a excellent way for me to talk with people around the world from all walks of life and make a few very interesting, fun and good friends over the years. and no matter where i move to these friends are still online for me. I am just now thinking MAYBE i could be interesting in real life dating....its not a priority but if i happen to run across an exceptional MAN then I would certainly be open to DATING him. But for now....im not interested in making all the adjustmetns to my life, etc just to date any ol guy who happens to be hanging around. Im very picky too. and like i said, i live in a small town. i dont want to date ANYONE who lives here. I prefer to date outof town to avoid small town problems....and a good way to meet those guys is by being online friends first.
lots of perfectly logical reasons to want friends over dating. having a bf/gf is NOT the most important thing in life! | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:23:52 PM | Well if you see someone you like and she seems interested, it's up to you to over ride the friends bit and convince her that you are worth more.
How's that for for an answer, makes sense to me. Since when has a man that is wild about a woman let a little thing like friends stop him, Yes? | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:30:39 PM | | I don;t know anything about all the women who are pretty on here wanting friends. I do know that most people will say anything if they don't wanna pair up with you. Including that they just wana be friends. Either that or they are just looking to have sex. That happens a lot to me. So go with what you know. Not everyone is the same. And so you won't always get the same answer. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:39:18 PM |
It could also be no more complicated than the fact that they see any potential relationship as starting out as friends, and if it is good for them, moving on to dating or more. Rather a simplistic thought, I know, but you never can tell.
Absolutely! Relationships are so complicated these days. When I started on POF 7 months ago, I put "dating" and encountered some strange individuals. Now that I switched over to" friends" a couple of months ago, I get less responses, but better quality people.
I also have to add that I have made friends with other women and people from other countries here on the forums. So far, it has been much more rewarding than "dating", although I'm not opposed to it. | |
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Zeyphr
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Joined: 6/12/2007
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:54:54 PM | Ask yourself this.
A woman has got a stable number of male friends. Men she gets along with, goes out with and has known for some time. What makes them inelligible as lovers? Her mind.
She doesn't want to 'ruin the friendship' in case the intimate relationship doesn't work out.
What's the difference? I mean the only thing you probably haven't done with them is sleep with them. Everything else should be covered. So don't ask youself why men.....?
Because it's not what men are doing. Women have to say yes to intimacy or it's considered rape.
So what kind of men are you letting into your life? You are the decision maker. And if you were fooled, who didn't know they were players? And why? You have to say yes before you get played. Pretty women are stereotyped just like anything else.
There was a program on TV. It had a studio audience and it was about beautiful women who couldn't get a man.
There were all kind of reasons why they couldn't. Men were intimidated by their beauty, thought they were stuck up, thought they had a man, thought the woman totally outclassed them. See how messed up people in vast numbers can make normal people feel like crap? The audience was so unempathetic, one girl went off stage crying when she was honest and told how lonely she was cause guys just assume too much about her and she never gets a chance and the audience was saying crap like, "Awwwww." and laughing in disbelief. Ugly people are just that, hideous. No one believed her, they were rude and discourteous, vile and gutteral. Like a goddam gaggle of apes. Especially if they are physically less attractive.
So it doesn't matter whether you tell the truth or not. There is always some subhuman there waiting to slander and berate you to demoralize you and make you feel like sh*t. The deal is to buck up and go on. They are expendable at best as a human being and were better off aborted or lending their body to science for experiments. Cause there is someone's for everyone. And more than one someone. You just have to wade through the sh*t to get to shinola. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:01:23 PM | Friends is where it starts-
Thats what I always had and I met my Best Friend.
So my advice to you is to email those really beautiful
and attractive women who have friends. Im sure that
you will find out that their view is just like mine-It starts
with friends.
curlygrl~
Hey nothing abusive and derogatory here- Were you thinking
that you would be called shallow - oops sorry. Your not shallow. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:10:58 PM | | They probably have found a guy in real life and therefore are only here for the forums??? | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:27:55 PM | | Well i can tell you right now, only from personal experience, i put email only but its only cause i want to feel the person out, if they cant pass that test then theres no way there going to make it any further, ive already met altot of people on here, mostly just for coffee, and i can tell you many are in a big hurry to meet, as so was i at one point, but putting friends or email, just slows things down just a bit, its nice to get to know someone without all that pressure,,ya know,, : ) and thats the real reason, im sure of it. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:38:22 PM | | Well thank you for all of your comments & views it makes a change not to beinsulted & just ripped apart on these forums ...... the people eho have commented on this post must be only a few genuine people left in this world | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 3:18:17 PM |
Well thank you for all of your comments & views it makes a change not to beinsulted & just ripped apart on these forums ...... the people eho have commented on this post must be only a few genuine people left in this world
Thank you.
There are some really good people here, but many here love a good debate and occasional inferno though.
At first I didn't understand it either but the more I am here and the more I think about it, I think I can understand why women want to slow things down as much as possible, at least early on. I figure if they are interested in me I will know about it. I just make sure I make it known I myself am interested if in fact I am.
You, my dear man, have a clue. I just wish that others (men and women alike) would catch it. I think I have a crush.  | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 3:29:32 PM | Some people just put friends to put off the sex chatters.
Seems a bit dishonest to me. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 3:53:19 PM | It's code. Women never say what they really want; it’s up to you to figure it out.
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Zeyphr
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Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 18 | |
| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 4:01:09 PM |
It's code. Women never say what they really want; it’s up to you to figure it out.
I couldn't agree with this more sometimes. I had a GF, asked her point blank why she thought she was ready to settle down. She gave a plethora of answer as to why it was the thing to do. A year and a half later, she found out she loved me, just wasn't IN love with me. Typical to get out of a commitment. So she lied and left. No one seems to be able to come to a conclusion but those who have done it. I would ask someone who has been together for what seems like forever. What did they do. Cause most girls I meet? Just want sex. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 4:10:40 PM | Not all the pretty women here are looking friends only. Many of them here are on for Intimate Encounters and all other categories. For many, friends is where it starts. Personally, I want my SO to BE my friend along with all the rest of all that can be attained in an exclusive LTR.
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Zeyphr
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Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 20 | |
| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 4:17:47 PM | | It also depends on the definition of pretty. I mean to each their own. Not all couples are out of Vogue Magazine. And a lot of women who Think they are qualified as pretty, ain't. So watch out. Goopy faces made over in chalk and paste is NOT pretty. Neigher is boob jobs and collagen and Ringling Brothers Barnun and Bailey made up faces so thick you could give it to kids to make playdough. | |
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medana
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Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 21 | |
| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 5:23:56 PM | true, beauty is a relative term.
so i dont know why ur pretty women do it, but i why i avoid the 'date' and 'rel' words
1. im not serious about finding someone, actually id rather not. i just like to come stroll the forums and see some faces, read some stuff, when and if i feel like it, and for as long i feel like it. tons of this finding a date thing involves extensive brain usage w qs and answers back and forth, and i aint about to do that.
2. am not looking for love, am looking to keep myself out of problems like that as much as possible. romance is distracting, and im easily distracted w daily stuff, i can just imagine adding hormones to the mix... he he he
3. people get too mad at u and too needy and demanding off the bat. soon enough u get hate emails about why u aint emailin back. makin sure everyone knows am not here to get married or get laid, makes things a lot less stressful, and i can enjoy myself.
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 5:52:19 PM | | It is because they think you are boring and unattractive. Get over it and spend some time with people that won't waste your time. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 6:00:33 PM | | Simple: a good relationship starts with a friendship, does it not? | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 6:06:10 PM | | I'd say it starts with friendship AND attraction. | |
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| Pretty Women
Posted: 7/27/2007 7:11:00 PM | | can we quit with all this beautiful women srterotyping? BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER...SORRY;IT JUST SEEMS THERES A POST ON THIS EVERDAY! | |
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