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 selina
Joined: 2/11/2005
Msg: 1
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ive tried the ingnoring them ..make excuses as to why i cant go for cooffe ect ect ..is there a nice way to tell some one you are not nterested in them without hurting them ?
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 2
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 2:54:31 PM
ya just gotta call them 35 times a day and that should do it
 selina
Joined: 2/11/2005
Msg: 3
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 2:57:36 PM
hahaha thats a good one .. ive never dated this particular guy actually ...dont even have his number ..lol..he jus a guy that comes to the club i work at .....ALOT
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 4
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 3:09:46 PM
Tell him that you and I are sooo connected and that we feel this incredible attraction for one another, and if he doesnt like it, he can talk to me
 singledad13b
Joined: 9/25/2003
Msg: 5
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 3:16:19 PM
who cares no one cares

you think not saying anything doesnt hurt

shit i have mailed hundreds that never got back

its all the same crap
 bjthehiker
Joined: 3/9/2005
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how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 3:27:48 PM
Yes...the Truth!!!
Sorry but I am not Interested in you, your not my Type!!! Better then no reply at all!
 grrrbunkle
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 7
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 3:34:18 PM
You don't hurt someone as long as you don't say something mean. If all you do is say, no thanks, and they feel pain, it is their dissapointment and you haven't caused it. they may still turn against you in that pain and call you a snooty ****, but that is to be expected from someone you knew better than to go out with in the first place. "No thank you". That's all it takes.

So, how about coffee sometime?
 Shake Me
Joined: 4/13/2005
Msg: 8
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 3:37:00 PM
selina. Maybe try scratching your crotch. Mention herpies. Mention your obgyn by name. And reference the free clinic. And if he is still standing there. Ask him questions about genital warts or some other STD. Get the picture? lol
 ladyravnos316
Joined: 2/16/2005
Msg: 9
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 4:12:04 PM
Usually I just tell them that I am not interested. But when that doesnt work.
Here are some stuff I've said

"You are so sweet. You remind me of my brother"

"Sorry but I'm into girls"

"Right now I am not dating anyone, at least not after the final procedure of my sex change operation"
 grrrbunkle
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 10
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 4:13:14 PM
That's great advice!

Want to get coffee sometime?
 Shake Me
Joined: 4/13/2005
Msg: 11
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 4:14:41 PM
Selina. photo number 4 should work.
 grubeci
Joined: 10/30/2003
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 grubeci
Joined: 10/30/2003
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how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 4:37:52 PM
this post might work or a certified letter with sherrifs dept and restraining order..but be straight up..."hey, thanks, thats a compliment, but I'm not interested." "I'm not looking for that." "I'm really all set for a relationship..and that doesn't mean try harder."

"i want your baby and love you soo much...lets get married tooo night hee haw." "get drunk and hang off the person" hahah and call them "billeee billlly?"
 sweetnfoxzy
Joined: 3/12/2005
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Posted: 5/7/2005 4:38:44 PM
Yea i totally agree its better then nothing.....but either way one is going to get hurt....but not pain no gain...thats how we find out what kind of person we really want in life....by getting hurt it allows us narrow down our search for that special someone lol...okay i dont know if anything i said makes since but hopefully u get the picture lol bye all!
 grrrbunkle
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 15
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 5/7/2005 4:39:24 PM
makes sense to me!

want to go out sometime?
 grubeci
Joined: 10/30/2003
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Posted: 5/7/2005 4:49:10 PM
Send them a bil for all the conversations you've had...
 SexyJody76
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 17
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 7/22/2005 6:02:01 AM
The only time I say I'm not interested if they flake out on me more than 2 times, keep contacting me and never meet me, or they just don't like what I like to do on a first date (eat, drink, play pool, talk, and walk)... Some just like the walk and eat part only. Then I'm not interested. If you can't have fun, then I don't want to be with you... I'm a fun loving gal...Very active and outgoing... If you're not, then I'm not interested... Thanks...

Leana
 DoctorKinseyPhD
Joined: 5/13/2005
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how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 7/22/2005 8:29:18 AM
LOL. I didnt know that was an issue on POF!
 lost wee fish
Joined: 6/5/2005
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Posted: 7/22/2005 8:51:27 AM
this is something that really gets to me - so i'll say again "we don't read minds"


All it takes is the truth - be honest and tell it like it is.
 UlaLume
Joined: 5/28/2005
Msg: 20
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 7/22/2005 8:52:01 AM
Lack of interest is going to "hurt" someone?

They control what hurts them. Not you. Just tell them flat out. How they choose to react really isnt your problem.
 Japhus
Joined: 5/28/2005
Msg: 21
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 7/22/2005 7:51:24 PM
The truth please, it still hurts, but not as much as trying to figure out how we can get your attention when you're so busy trying to get rid of us.
 HAHANOW
Joined: 9/28/2004
Msg: 22
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 7/22/2005 7:58:18 PM
Tell him you want 8 kids & want to be a stay at home mom!
 Cristine
Joined: 9/29/2003
Msg: 23
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 7/22/2005 8:29:41 PM
Eh, I would just let him like you. Honestly, who's it gonna hurt?

I have worked at places where people have had crushes on me and I just let it be.

To each is own.
 LittleTexas7
Joined: 6/3/2005
Msg: 24
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 7/23/2005 2:40:57 AM
I would agree with onthebus44 but also add that you love him and you have yall's future all mapped out... examples - what your kids are going to look like, what shade of white the fence is going to be. ect.
 Moisha
Joined: 6/22/2005
Msg: 25
how to tell someone you are not interested ..without hurting therier feelings?
Posted: 7/23/2005 7:50:08 AM
For me personally I would much rather here "thanks for your interest but being honest I have to say I don't share the same feelings towards you" or anything along those lines as oppossed to being completely ignored.....

It's not that I don't know what "no reply" means I'm just saying that for me I appreciate honesty over being ignored any day....

And having said that I'm sure the women with attractive qualities that have attracted me have attracted many men and I do realize a woman can't make a career out of typing out "sorry but no thank you" emails all day...
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