My question is what to do in this situation and how to deal with people who judge me without even giving me a chance?

My question is what to do in this situation and how to deal with people who judge me without even giving me a chance?

Well personally, if I were you, I might consider not contacting ladies with profiles that seem to have a strong religious aura.

You know, if they say things like "Jesus comes first" and such things.

I would also stay away from hard core Atheists (such as myself) because in many cases just about any religion turns us off.

However, I'm sure there are many people in the middle who don't care much either way. Those would probably be better prospects.

I am guessing it is unconformable for people considering themselves open minded that they are racists... If they do remove this post I think it would be an answer to my question

Yes it is there choice to do so, but does it make it ok?

I don't believe someone wanting to break ties with Muslims or any other religion is preaching per se; and a good Christian wouldn't or shouldn't declare a breaking of ties, but it is a responsibility of sorts to share the Word with other denominations as we believe Jesus is the Messiah and all other gods are false, as it says in Scripture.

I don't believe it's okay for any Christian to promote hate or even negativity toward other religions but we also have to draw the line as to whom we associate with. I'm sure many Christians find themselves interacting with people of many faiths and it's a delicate balance to share the message of God's promise while avoiding any, uh, heated debates or proselytizing. And let me tell ya, it's not easy when you become born again, to suddenly want to share the message of hope you've been given with everyone you know, but when your friends and family are still very much entrenched in their, um, hedonistic lifestyles, it's a struggle to maintain your faith while trying not to alienate the people you care about.

A lot of people (here included) have the assumption that Christians are these superior, holier-than-thou zealots shoving their beliefs down other people's throats, but try becoming one--it ain't easy; its exactly as it says in Scripture, that we will be persecuted for our beliefs because too many people don't want to have to sacrifice anything. Too many people want to stay immersed in their lifestyle because they are too focused on the self and what "feels good".

I could not "hate" someone simply because they are of a faith other than Christianity. Do I believe their religion false and Christ the true and living God? Yes. Obviously, if he was adamant his god was the true god and his religion the only true religion, I would have to say goodbye. But that in no way means I hate him.

You could always put in the comments section of your profile something about being open to new faiths and declare yourself non-practicing or whatever.

Sorry if I took the long, meandering way to answer the question. Peace.

A lot of people (here included) have the assumption that Christians are these superior, holier-than-thou zealots shoving their beliefs down other people's throats, but try becoming one--it ain't easy; its exactly as it says in Scripture, that we will be persecuted for our beliefs because too many people don't want to have to sacrifice anything. Too many people want to stay immersed in their lifestyle because they are too focused on the self and what "feels good".

- First, I don't think this is a religious question.

- Second..the term "racist" in my opinion is severely over used. Obviously if a chick has been interested in you, your skin colour, ergo your race..was not an issue for her, correct?

- Third, Muslim is a religion..not a race.

- Fourth, you don't know their circumstances behind not dating you once they find out you are muslim. Their fathers could have threatened to disown them if they dated a muslim..ultimately their decision yes, but still...a Fathers opinion generally matters greatly to a woman. They may not want to date you for fear of being bugged by friends, family, co-workers. They may have apprehensions about dating a muslim because of "recent events". But it still doesn't make them racist.

Bottom line, just because they don't date you,. doesn't mean they hate you. And if they don't like you, it also doesn't mean it's because you are a muslim.

It makes it ok, because the only other option, is for them to lie, and claim that they don't feel negatively towards something, that they actually dislike.

Personally, if someone dislikes me, I rather have them tell me openly, then to be misled by political correctness.

In other words, asking if a person's personal feelings are ok or not, is like asking if it is ok for them to have brown eyes.
Yes, in time a persons feelings can change through experience, growth and perhaps education, but at the time that they truly feel something, it is a part of them just like the color of their eyes. So, it is not wether it is ok or not, but it is simply what it is.

Of course, I am only talking about private feelings here. Once those feelings are expressed in a way that might cause physical or great psychological harm to others, then it is a whole different situation, because those that might be harmed will most likely wish to protect themselves in some way.

for now on tell them your last name right away - if they shy away that's awesome, you just saved the time and effort of getting to know some person that was too racist for you to want to spend your life with anyway.

First - Why it is not a religious question? Please explain. If someone judges me because of my religion, I think that makes it a religious question.

Second- The chicks were interested in me until they found out about my religion.

Third - so treating muslims differently or even hating them would not qualify you as a racist, as islam is not a race. I can see technically that is true, I hope this makes same people feel better. But it still leaves us with.... narrow-minded, prejudiced and biased.

Fourth - So your saying while they are reading my email or chatting with me their father is looking over their shoulder screaming at them, possible but highly unlikely.

Or it is not the girls but actually their fathers, or friends and coworkers that are prejudice against muslims? So the answer is "Yes" due to the recent events it is ok to have prejudice against muslims?

As all muslims obviously are extremists and terrorists. I am sure, what you are saying is same thought process that goes in side most girls heads.

So the bottom line is that girls dont hate me, they just dont like to date me. and if they dont like me its not becuase I am muslim it is just that they find out something extremely awful about me right after they find out my name.

I am sure I dont introduce myself as "My name is Sheraz and I like to run over puppies" LOL

You said you come from a moderate muslim family... what does that mean? Would your family accept you ever marrying a non-muslim? Do the opinions of your family members play a big role with who you commit to? For many people even dating someone who differs with them on fundamental areas like religion is not worth wasting their time with.

Lots of people are persecuted for their beliefs. I'm gay and have endured prejudice from lots of people, especially your people who prohibit my civil right to a civil marriage. Try saying you don't believe in God in Iran and see how well you'll be treated. Fat people are treated horribly in America. Lots of discrimination. They make less money. Christians don't have the monopoly on being persecuted. And they've done their fair share of persecuting others as well.

Personally I would rather date a muslim over a christian bigot or atheist any day!! Provided he didn't fall into the extreme end of things that is....