| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 1:37:09 PM | I was watching sex and the city the other night and it made me wonder... what is with guys and the need to push the girls head down there I know its a signal that you want them to do that to you thats kinda obvious. why not just let things happen natually?
Once they are what is your reason behind holding their head or pulling her hair up and down ... is it a need for control? Are they not going fast enough for you? You cant think of whatelse to do with your hands? lol
I always wondered this then i saw the show again and thought maybe i shoud ask the guys on here lol
So I am curious why men do this? | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 1:50:28 PM | First off, you just have to love the "I was watching sex and the city and..." questions. Ranks right up there with Desperate Housewives, Oprah and Gilmore Girls as the top male shows, so we always know exactly what you mean.
That being said, it seems pretty obvious as to why the hand is there. If he is pushing down, then he wants it harder/faster. If the hand is there, yes it's for guidance and control. It's like asking why we have our hands on the steering wheel while we are driving. Reminds me of the old Tim Allen stand up routine where he talks about gay guys doing that and the guy looking up and saying "hey, I know what I'm doing down here!" | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 1:59:50 PM | I was watching sex and the city the other night...
There's your first mistake.
Your second mistake is thinking that how men act on that show is how they act in real life.
That said, I used to occasionally guide my ex's head when she was doin' the deed, mainly because every man is different and if you don't give her an idea of how it "works" for you then she may get it wrong, and you'll wind up with one sub-par blowjob.
I mean think about it, if your significant other offered to give you a foot massage and then started using sandpaper, you'd correct them, right? | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 2:07:43 PM | | lol. For me it's something that I can't help once it gets going. I mean, I won't push her head down so far that she chokes or anything, but it gets to the point where I HAVE to grab something. Also if it gets to the point where she's not doing it at the right pace, and I'm about to cum, I'll guide her a little. Two ways to avoid that are to 1. Have her hold my hands still and 2. Do it perfectly to where I don't need to help. | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 2:16:15 PM | it seems pretty obvious as to why the hand is there. If he is pushing down, then he wants it harder/faster. If the hand is there, yes it's for guidance and control.
If he wants it harder or faster cant he just say so instead of trying to choke her? As for guidance and control if you dont like the way she does it why push her head down there in the first place?
Your second mistake is thinking that how men act on that show is how they act in real life.
Alot of the stuff on that show has happened to me or friends of mine so yes it does happen in real life lol
I mean think about it, if your significant other offered to give you a foot massage and then started using sandpaper, you'd correct them, right?
I would tell him not grab his hand and force him lol
but it gets to the point where I HAVE to grab something
thats what the headboards are for lol | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 2:33:01 PM | Bingo. A lot of women actually LIKE it.
I don't get it, but, whatever. It's not exactly a hard thing to do to make them happy.
I'll put pushing the head down in a slightly lesser catagory than hair pulling. One is a request/command. The other is....well, it's just fun with the right kind of hair. 
Although, I'm not pro-head pushing, I'll ask the question, why don't women do it more often?? | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 2:35:51 PM |
If he wants it harder or faster cant he just say so instead of trying to choke her?
I'm sorry guys are trying to choke you, but as someone said before, we aren't all pushing to the point of choking.... that would definitely NOT be my intent. Maybe that turns on some guys and some women, but not me. And sometimes, in the heat of the moment, you can't get the words out when a slight touch does the same thing.
As for guidance and control if you dont like the way she does it why push her head down there in the first place?
It's not that we don't like it, it's just that sometimes you want it faster, sometimes you don't. I would expect the same if the situation was reversed. | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 2:41:57 PM | | maybe we dont know what to do with our hands so it seems like the right thing. I have been accused of being non responsive when a woman was doing the deed because I didnt grab her head or pull her hair. Then again I am probably one of a very small minority that does not get any type of gratification from the act. | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 3:22:34 PM |
If he wants it harder or faster cant he just say so instead of trying to choke her?
Um.. not sure about you, but the majority of the guys I've ever given head to haven't been able to talk in those few moments before they've cum. Only ONE has ever grabbed my head. To be perfectly fair there wasn't anything else handy as I had him pinned against the wall in the kitchen at the time.... hehehe.. to his credit he didn't push, pull or choke me doing it tho.
Oh wait... he did push my head down one other time... with a quiet growled request... GAWD that was hot! | |
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Posted: 8/6/2007 3:29:03 PM | And to expound upon what bby said, have you ever tried to explain a feeling? And in my case, working with a language barrier? (The ex was ESL.)
"Okay, move up a bit in a rapid motion... no, not back and forth, up and down... that's too fast... you're on an angle, move forward... no, tilt your head, not at the neck..."
F*ck that. Just grab her and show her yourself. | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 4:42:56 PM |
I'm sorry guys are trying to choke you, but as someone said before, we aren't all pushing to the point of choking
they are not trying to choke i get that but some women cant put it in as far as others lol and some guys dont know when to stop pushing lol
It's not that we don't like it, it's just that sometimes you want it faster, sometimes you don't. I would expect the same if the situation was reversed.
If i want it slower or faster i tell him I would rather a guy tell me what to do then force me to do it lol I love hearing the guy moaning, growning hearing him tell me to go faster or whatever just like when having sex i tell him to go faster lol
"Okay, move up a bit in a rapid motion... no, not back and forth, up and down... that's too fast... you're on an angle, move forward... no, tilt your head, not at the neck..."
If a guy was telling me to do that much i would stop dong it cuz obviously for him i am doing it all wrong.
I dont mind him having his hand on my head or having a hold of my ponytail but let me do it the way I do it... I never had any complaints yet  Then again its been a long long time ... but its like riding a bike you never forget how lol | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 5:35:09 PM | Its so if she starts dragging her teeth you can grab her hair and yank her off you fast lol
Girls do it too... its just habit I guess... being polite and holding your hair so it doesnt get messy? Just dont' stop till I'm done or I'm gonna be pissed... same as you would if I stopped too early lol | |
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Posted: 8/6/2007 5:38:12 PM |
First off, you just have to love the "I was watching sex and the city and..." questions. Ranks right up there with Desperate Housewives, Oprah and Gilmore Girls as the top male shows
I certainly hope you were speaking for yourself and not trying to speak for all men with the above comment ... I personally can't stand watching any of that crap!
As an answer to the OP, my opinion is that it's a "control" thing but that's just my guess because I don't do that (so have no idea about the motivation), I just lie back and enjoy.  | |
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Posted: 8/6/2007 5:45:37 PM | It was sarcasm dude.
Are you talking about forcing the head down or just touching it a bit? It's hot to put a hand on the back of her head feeling her move up and down and stuff, and just touching her in general while its' happening. And usually while recieiving oral, the head is the only thing in a comfortable reaching distance so....
forcing her head down though is probably more of a control thing or they get off on you gagging or something. | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 5:58:47 PM |
Because he knows it turns ME on to have him do that!
Funny thing.... Us men are lead to believe women want a man who is confident and in control. I understood that women like to be told what to do as they enjoy pleasing their partner.
But... as usual.... these forums prove differently.
What's with these"chick shows!"... they confuse the issues. | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 6:38:41 PM | uh.. actually I have never done that.. but I'm replying because I have had to beg her to push MY head down when she wants that...
It is a major turn on for me, when she "makes" me do certain things.. 
I do so love a good tongue twister... 
I think a lot of times, guys do to women.. hwat they want done to themselves... am I wrong guys?  | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 6:41:55 PM | The hand on the head thing? Well done right...
It is because I want to pull you up, kiss you and try to convince you to "f" the heck out of me right now...take me take me take me....
Done wrong...
Well...if my "Nathan's original" wasn't in your mouth? DONKEY PUNCH!
Pushing down? Wait, like you are playing Star Trek and stuck in your man's nippular region and he thinks you are a Klingon? The Man tractor beam is pushing you down and your heading towards Uranus? Warning warning...danger Will Robinson...
And if he tried to hold your head and make you swallow? Feel free to feel that gag reflex and take a nibble out of the Nathan's Original!
However, we all now how a woman holds her liquor....by the ears! If once you are there it is not pushing but grabbing or stroking...well...your technique might be correct, but I'd have to check it...contact me! | |
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