| what do women really want.
Posted: 8/6/2007 4:25:55 PM | i dont care if guys or girls reply. just answer the question and sees where this goes. have fun.
example being: 1-so waht u really want from a guy. dont tip ptoe or lead someone on.
example:2 if u make plans with someone. dont back out without notice. thats just plain rude. cause if we the guys do it to u we become the bad guy. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2007 4:54:27 PM | Same thing a man wants, a cold beer, the remote and to see something naked...lol
Dewalt, hate to tell you this, but for everytime a woman stands a man up, a man stands a woman up..its not cornered by just one sex.
Everyone seems to want the same things, but not always at the same times or the same ways. Women is like a box of crayols, each unique unto themselfs. Sometimes you have to pick a few wrong colors before you find the one that matchs you | |
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Posted: 8/6/2007 7:59:45 PM | Well, I can speak for someone my age. I'd like someone who doesn't have nose and/or ear hairs growing, bathes daily, can communicate, go for walks (maybe even a dance or two), is romantic, and is a real gentleman. I'm not looking for other outward appearances. To me, it's what is inside the person (their personality, etc.) that counts for me. He doesn't have to be thin and have a set of six-pack abs. I'm realistic as what to expect from a man in my age group, unlike a like of the men in my age group who want a woman with no sags or bags.  | |
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Posted: 8/6/2007 9:35:52 PM | i learned along time ago we as men will never really know for sure what they really want...lol all i can do is accept them for who and what they are...each ive had experience with has had different needs and wants.its a simple as learning about the person enough to figure out what makes them happy and doing it...now if i could just find her... | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 8:17:41 AM | Mine is easy. I just wanted someone to make me feel special. I cant stand bad oral hygeine though, or bad hygeine of any sort. I want a man to act like a man and put his hand on the small of my back and opening the door. I am a sucker for that. I want a man to touch me. Hold my hand, stroke my cheek. It is hokey, but if the right man does it, like he just cant help himself, it is perfect. **sigh** lol I am a sap       | |
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| what do women really want.
Posted: 8/9/2007 6:42:32 PM | | I dont even pretend to begine to know what women want. That is such a general question, everybody, man or woman has there own indavidual wants or needs. I my self am looking for companionship over anything else. Sex isnt really that big of an issue with me, if it happens great, if not oh well, the main thing I'm after is a relationship. Now some other guy may be looking for as much sex as he can get, weather he'll admit it or not, but it proves my point, that you cant simply lump one gender into wants and needs. Its an indavidual thing. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 2:04:06 AM | | what i would like to know is why pretty girls pass up on nice guys and end up being with ***holes? is it a bad boy thing that they like or is it a nice guys finish last kind of thing? | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 2:22:31 AM | I was in another discussion on a different set of forums on the whole "bad boy" thing previously, and the general consensus that was arrived at was this: women don't inherently want jerks, they simply don't want someone who's boring, and more often than not, the ones who are jerks are also the ones who lead more active, interesting and fun lives. They're the ones who are out clubbing on Friday and Saturday nights, they're the ones who are out finding neat places to camp and get wasted, etc. Whether the ratio of their fun quotient to responsibility quotient is good or not (I personally think it isn't, but then again, I'm one of those "nice guys", who just happens to not be boring) probably isn 't relevant. Women have likely tried nice guys in the past, and found them a bit boring.
Then again, in the second X-Men film, Jean Grey had some great information: "Women marry the nice guy, Logan, they don't date him."
When a woman is ready to settle down, chances are she's going to pay a lot more attention to the nice guys, because while they may not be as exciting (a generalization, but I like to point out the exceptions), they're often a lot more stable, and a woman doesn't want to deal with instability in her lifelong relationship.
It's unfortunate, because it means most guys who are on the younger side either have to become ***holes in order to get a girl to spend time with them, or they have to spend time on their own until women catch up with them on the nice scale in terms of desirability. There are guys like me who refuse to play that game (or any other game, for that matter; you either take me as I am, or I don't get taken, and I'm fine if you're not the one doing the taking!), and we wind up single longer.
Then again, I also think we get to spend more of our lives in a more fulfilling relationship. Because when we do find the girl who doesn't mind the nice guy, she discovers much earlier in her life what it is she's likely been looking for all along. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 2:34:26 AM | | most of that makes a lot of sense but i'm not so sure on the jean grey quote from X-Men, because you have to date a person and get to know them before you marry them. i'm not saying you're wrong or anything, its just my opinion on that. also in regards to the settling down, i remember in the movie chasing amy when affleck is talking to jay and silent bob in the diner jay makes the comment "the **** tasted life, now she's settling for your boring ass". i wouldn't want a girl to just settle for me because she thinks that fun is over, you know what i'm saying? | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 10:14:27 AM | As we all know each woman is different and want different things.
Bottom line for me, I want a man who is great in bed. Above and beyond all else, just really good in bed.
And NOOOOOOO, I'm not out there just looking for intimate encounters only, so please no one e-mail me thinking that.
If given the opportunity to spend the rest of my life with:
Guy #1: Super nice, intelligent, basic overall good guy, you know, the kind that goes to church regularly, makes household repairs for his grandma, doesn't kick cats. A guy who makes a lot of money and dresses nice, drives the expensive car and will spend a fortune on me. And he is ok in bed.
Guy #2: Nice but can be a jerk upon occasion. Supports himself but definitely couldn't give me the life of luxury, maybe even has a wondering eye for other ladies (ouch!) but he is uber great in bed.
Hey, then I have to choose Guy #2. From my experience, it is the guys that are a bit cockie (misspelled so that the site doesn't star it out), maybe a bada*s, that are best in bed. Nice guys are just too nice in bed too.
Granted, Guy #1 may be there forever and Guy #2 may move on at some point but at least I had great sex.
Now if Guy #1 could learn to be a bad boy in bed...................Oh the possibilities!
Now I can't speak for all women and I know that there are a LOT of them who may read what I've written and call me all sorts of names and say that I've got it all wrong but this is just what I'm looking for. I didn't say that all women are looking for this or even hold the same views.
And again I say that I'm not just looking for intimate encounters only. I do not sleep around freely. I do however want to find a guy that I can have great sex with and hopefully he'll be around for a good long while if not forever. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 3:29:18 PM | Interesting... by pointing out that you want great sex above and beyond anything else, that communicates (whether it's what you're actually saying or not) that you'll put up with someone who treats you like crap, as long as he's a great lay. How is that even remotely desirable for a long-term relationship? If a guy finds out he can have a wandering eye, and occasionally treat you like crap but still get great sex on demand, then he has no impetus to treat you as anything other than a sperm receptacle. Vicious to say? I'm not trying to be vicious to you, but that's what your attitude communicates.
Sex is one part of a relationship, and gets better the closer you get with the person. If you want to completely divest it of emotional meaning, and simply reduce it to a set of physical responses, then fine if that's how you'd like to live your life. But me? I think you're selling yourself short, and also selling men elsewhere short. You seem to be intimating that you can't get the Earth-shattering sex if the guy's also a really nice guy. I don't know if you actually believe that or not, but it's what comes across in your post.
Has it occurred to you that the sex can become better because your emotions, and intellectual knowledge that you have a legitimately great guy who's worth the long haul, are being engaged as well as your physical body? | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 4:31:57 PM | I appreciate your take on this. So please don't take what I say now as argumentative because it entirely isn't intended that way.
You aren't getting where I'm coming from because you allowed your attention to hang up on one part of what I said only. I will say again, I'm not just looking for intimate encounters only. I do not sleep around freely. I do however want to find a guy that I can have great sex with and hopefully he'll be around for a good long while if not forever.
I do look for a genuinely nice guy. And I hope to find just that. But I sure wouldn't want to invest several years into a relationship waiting for sex to become better because emotions are being engaged as well as the body only to find out that that is a thought that is better left to Christian romance novels. No, sex is a high priority for me. My apologies to anyone, male or female, whom I've offended with that. Hey, I'm 41 years old. Chances are that given a few more years I will not want sex at all. It is a sad thought but a lot of my friends and family who are older have said that this happens.
Fortunately for me and with what I'm looking for in a man, I'm fine being alone if a guy can't be decent enough in his treatment to me as well as being great in bed. My life doesn't end because I'm without a man or sex.
Come on, everyone of you has had to have heard a woman somewhere say, "There's only one thing I need a man for" and know what she was insinuating.
There are also women who will date or marry a complete loser just because he has money. I know a woman who puts up with some horrid treatment from her husband and she even says that he is awful in bed. There were three of us talking when she was talking about this, the other lady and I asked her why she stays with him she flat out admitted that she doesn't intend to live in a house any less than the kind that he can afford to provide for her. She said that he is the richest guy that she could ever get to look at her and that she will put up with it all just to have the homes, cars and things that he can buy for her. She doesn't intend to work for anything so she puts up with him. She is someone that I went to high school with and I do know that she always dated the guys who came from wealthy families even back then. Hey, that is far worse than wanting great sex from a man. | |
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| what do women really want.
Posted: 8/12/2007 6:04:04 PM | | I reiterate- women want the bad boy until she has to visit the hospital, call the lawyer for a restraining order and locate the number for the battered womens shelter! But I guess thats the price you pay so you are not BORED!!!! | |
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| what do women really want.
Posted: 8/12/2007 6:49:15 PM | | its just amazing how much things have changed in relationships through the years. its like the traditional wholesome relationship doesn't exist anymore. 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce and it seems like its only about money, popularity, six pack abs, ect. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 12:27:02 AM | | I don't think it's a matter of being able to differentiate between the sexes with a question like that....what do women want?...basically, the same thing that men want...to be happy. It's what makes women happy, compared to what makes men happy is that gawdawful quandry that we always find ourselves debating. The difference between the sexes in this field is what always seems to cause the problems....the man thinks one way and the woman thinks a completely different way so that connection seems to get lost and never completely understood. So the only answer is complete communication..and that's never easy to achieve because the sexes seem to interpret communication completely differently..lol! But if you can just grasp the concept that what you may have said or reacted to could be completely interpreted in a different way, than you are at least on your way to bridging that communication gap. One of the most important things you can do communication wise is to react back to what your partner has said in words that you understand...i.e..."you said this and that means this to me"....can sure clear up alot of misunderstandings before they even start. That way, you don't assume she wants sex when she says "I'm feeling lonely" and what she really means is "spend time with me and talk to me about your feelings". A strange bird we are, us females.... | |
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Posted: 8/20/2007 5:04:58 PM | That way, you don't assume she wants sex when she says "I'm feeling lonely" and what she really means is "spend time with me and talk to me about your feelings". A strange bird we are, us females...."tara975"
OMG this is soooooooooooooooo true | |
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| what do women really want.
Posted: 8/21/2007 11:52:59 PM | example-
people (women in this case) say they want honesty
but when they get it, they run in the opposite direction
i feel most people really don't KNOW what they want
they just THINK they know what they want | |
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Posted: 8/22/2007 12:23:20 AM | | Each and everyone of us are different. No same person wants the same exact thing or how much. the desires are not the same and needs are special. So what does a women want in general, the same thing we all want, (in general) to be loved, understood maintain an individual feeling among our peer's. A future secured in desires and adventures that come from inner streagth. In general a women wants to be cared about more then cared for, treated like a lady with her own set of hand cuffs. Just a quess is all. But its a start......Happines comes in many ways, Wal-Mart has it for 2.69 a can! | |
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Posted: 8/25/2007 10:42:40 AM | | Cherie....you speak the truth, I laughed when I read your message. Men over 45 who are not in that great of shape (hairs growing etc.) for the most part seem to want an unrealistic partner for themselves it seems and it really is about the personality that makes it work. My expectations are for the person I meet to be equal as far as physical fitness is concerned, I work on myself to be in the best shape possible. Please just let them be nice, have a sense of humor and not carry lots of baggage around. Good Luck in your search!! | |
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Posted: 8/26/2007 4:11:36 PM | | women just want to live by the capitol and drain all the guy students in the face of the old senators. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 11:28:41 PM | Well I can tell you what this woman wants.....If you make me feel like I am the most special, smartes, sexiest gal you ever met? I will reciprocate. You won't even have to go shopping with me, just lie and tell me the new outfit looks great!!!
Also, in regards to the bad boy thing? I do not think it is the bad boy part as much it is the self confidant and maybe a little bit of caulkiness that I find irresistable. If they are always after the bad boys it means they lack self esteem and want to show people the man changed his ways for them. Not all but some. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2007 2:58:04 AM | | As for myself I want a horny man, well packed, and honest., what is it with you guys that wont put down that you are married if you are, some say "prefer not to say" or you say single, when you know you are married., then the age thing, if you are over 60 go ahead and put it down, or is it that you are afraid you will get someone as old as you? hey some of us are not bad at all, and you will find out we are friendlier than some young ones too., but if you want to live in a fantasy well then go ahead and dream on sweeties | |
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