| who is really looking
Posted: 8/7/2007 12:59:04 AM | | If i offend you, i'm sorry now, but i get the impression that just beause i don't post a picture, it means that you don't want talk to me, if the people i mean the masses are looking for someone to make a connection with, why not talk, and go from there, yes i know there are a lot of crazy people out there, and a lot of weirdo's, but gal's, have you ever been in a relationship where the man does so much arroud the house to please you? i know i have and i got dumped on, it's the small things right, or is it the big things. i don't know. i consider my self as a big teddy bear, rough on the out side but ever so gentle on the inside. but half of all the women out there don't even get it. you think your looking for something, the man that has it all. we'll i confess. i've looked for the woman that has it all. and you know what i found. yep nadda..... a empty hole...... i have a dream to be happy, but that comes from within. and im happy. with my life. i have my two kids, and there happy as well. so what is it gals, do you want a guy that will treat you right or what.... im a good man, with a good heart, and to top it off, im not that bad to look at, no i don't have a picture posted. but that's me. get to know me frist. do you? ask your self a question, do i really want to spend so much of my life looking to be happy, can someone else make me happy. it comes from within..... get it. let me know what you think? | |
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| who is really looking
Posted: 8/7/2007 5:55:44 PM | Alot of us are really looking.
You may have many reasons for not posting a picture. I, for one, rarely look at the profiles without pics. That doesn't mean I haven't communicated with them. I have some people on my fav list I have never "seen".
But it is difficult to take someone seriously when, not just a pic...but hardly anything in your profile either!
Come on now...Sweetie. Give the girls more bait. It almost looks like all you're wanting is some fun on the side while the kids are away. For some, that may be enough.
Regardless, I'm to old for you. Just listen to an old gal giving some friendly advice...from my own personal viewpoint.
Peace,
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| who is really looking
Posted: 8/7/2007 9:26:05 PM | I agree. Your profile is sparse and you haven't even taken the time to fill out the assessment. Those help. You could be missing a compatibility match simply because you haven't taken the time to fill it out. To me, that says YOU'RE not really looking.
Is the real complaint that you have contacted some women and they've not responded? Or, is it ithat you've met some and it didn't go anywhere? You don't give us enough information to help you.
Hmm, I think I'm seeing the problem.
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| who is really looking
Posted: 8/8/2007 7:07:03 PM | Your profile is sparse. I personally don't need a picture to contact someone (though I'm done contacting anyone), I look at what they write.
There are a lot of men out there that help around the house...that are nice...that are decent. Same for women. It has nothing to do with finding someone to stick to.
That's chemistry combined with mental attraction. That's hard to come by.
Good luck.
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| who is really looking
Posted: 8/9/2007 12:50:39 AM | | ok fair enough, i will take the time, and redo the whole add, but as far as a pic, mmmm mabe not, still not good with that, mabe in the future, so thank you | |
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| who is really looking
Posted: 8/9/2007 11:16:16 PM | Pic or not... just do more on your personal essay...Hope the best for your, hoping the best for me.
Love ya!
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| who is really looking
Posted: 8/25/2007 2:35:19 PM | Hey guy...
I'm a honker. Don't worry about a picture.
Just post one. You have nothing to lose,and maybe everything to gain.
Beef up you discription a bit (don't go off the wall like me unless you can back up THAT kind of lunacy)
EVERYBODY has a fan club.
Trust me on that.
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| who is really looking
Posted: 9/3/2007 10:50:08 PM | | I like to fire from the hip. Really long personal description's kinda turn me off. There isnt a real reason to be so graphic or have set guidlines in your head. People are people. You might be surprised that you get along with someone that you wouldnt think you would!! Chill with the expectations and see others for who and what they are. That being said. Show a pic. Even if you dont like it. It IS who you are. Besides if you cant love you, who can? | |
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Posted: 9/9/2007 1:54:40 PM | I looked at this back when you first posted it - and you sounded well, angry and like you weren't going to do anything different anyway so I didn't contribute. Now though...
Awesome photo Dude! It's clear and it's you- and that's GREAT!
The profile could still use a little more work. You still sound a little angry in there, or maybe it's more of a "prove it" attitude. Lighten up just a little more. Friendly works better usually.
Be realistic in your expectations too. Do you have any idea how many men over 68 look at my profile??? And a lot of them write too. Yuppers, thats MY fan club for ya! LOL
It's either laugh or go crazy. I prefer to laugh!!! | |
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| who is really looking
Posted: 9/9/2007 2:04:36 PM | ALRIGHT! Now, I can see you! You look alot like my son!
Now, I don't remember if the fav list was populated before or after you changed your profile..a bit. Apparently, you're doing something right.
Now, I play with mine. I change it from time to time...just depends on my mood. And you all know who us women are !
Pick a day thats a good day and you feel really positive about yourself. So positive that nothing negative comes into your head. Then, just update it. Its all good...and fair! | |
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Posted: 9/21/2007 11:45:46 AM | Here's the reason you post a pick.
Not so I can say, ewww, he's not for me, or he's so hot I want to jump his bones now. It shows that you are a real person, and that you are comfortable with yourself. It is a true, shameless representation of the only concrete thing you can show online.
When someone does not have a picture, it makes me wonder what it is they're hiding. Are you fat, ugly, have an eyepatch? Is there a wart on your nose, or are you just scared that someone you know will find you using a dating site?
My number one turn on is a mind. But confidence and honesty are huge deals to me as well. To me, a person without a picture seems to be hiding something. Putting yourself out there with a picture makes a person seem (to me) more open and confident. It's not about the picture, it's about the willingness to put yourself out there. | |
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| who is really looking
Posted: 10/4/2007 8:46:29 PM | Some interesting thoughts in this thread I must say. Its a fine balance to walk between too much information (this is the internet after all) and not enough. I find it kind of disheartning that detailed profiles turn people off. What is detailed? How much is too much?
As far as having a man who does things around the house, that was my ex, and well, he's an ex, so its not everything. People have different ways that they give and receive love I think and doing things I would wager is how you show yours. I agree that an intimate relationship needs to be a balance between physical attraction and mental attraction. | |
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| who is really looking
Posted: 10/9/2007 11:06:03 PM | | Its about truth and the willingness to show how serious you are. I scare the girls! Oh thats right this is the month for that. I know who I am and what I have to give. For this I give only what I have, and you see who I am. For special pictures. just ask! Those ones where I close my eyes and you cant see me. Honesty! | |
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