| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:21:50 PM | I was reading another thread in which this was kind a peripheral issue, but the point wasn't addressed directly.
So I know the answers will vary by individual, but I'm looking for kind of a general census - how important is a man's bankroll?
I can hold a job (and have a decent job) but I also have a child to raise, student loans and a car payment amongst other things... I have alot of (what I believe to be anyways) attractive qualities - but alot of the girls I know trade in strength of character for guys who can drop a few bills on them every week. So how does a guy like me compete?
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:29:03 PM | Do you really want a compete for a womans affection who is only interested from a man who can give money for them?
I believe that everyone should earn their own money and not to be dependent on someone elses.
It says lot about persons character if they are just looking for someone who they can cash in on.
If you can pay your bills, support your children and support yourself that should be enough for any woman. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:29:20 PM | If you can do without food, water, shelter... then you won't need much. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:31:26 PM | I believe one should have a similar socio/economic status to the person they are dating.
One needn't be 'rich' to have fun; however, it does take a few dollars every now and again to entertain each other.
I believe in fairness as well and feel compelled to offer to pay half when I go somewhere on a date (if memory serves).
For instance, you pay for the cinema tickets and I shall get the popcorn and beverages.
If the divide between incomes is too great, I truly believe it can cause problems with one or both partners somewhere down the road and I speak from experience.
^^BG^^ | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:31:31 PM | a mans bankroll should have no importance to anyone else..but the man who it belongs to.
As for competition......if you cant afford it..stay away from it!! You will find whats right for you...with the budget that you have! | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:38:24 PM | Money is important in that I want someone that can afford to do the same things I can and want to do. Not everything I like costs loads of $$. I am always MORE than happy to pay my way, I am not looking for a guy to throw money at me. Conversely, I would feel somewhat uncomfortable if a guy with tons of moolah always wanted to pay.
I was in a relationship years ago where that was the case and he felt it shifted the balance of power in his favour. Money was pretty much everything to him and he treated me quite badly. That is why he is past tense.
Not suggesting all guys with his bank balance are nasty power mongers, but I am more comfortable sharing the cost of entertainment.
WD | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:45:53 PM | Bat Girl I couldn't agree with you more!
"I believe one should have a similar socio/economic status to the person they are dating."
I am all for being fair when it comes to dating, even picking up the tab once and a while but if there is too much difference between what I make and what he makes then it starts to pose the question as to why is there such a difference.
Education, maybe. Opportunity, possibly. Ambition, likely.
The point is that each person may start recognize that there is a difference in the first place, thus the question "Do I belong with that type of person?". Answer is more than likely no. That is unless your looking specifically for a sugar mama/daddy. Then your just classified as a hoe (male or female). | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:46:03 PM | I think to a certain extent how much a man makes is important, but it's not the most important factor. I like to be able to go out and have a good time doing things like going to football games and going out for drinks. I usually split things like that fairly evenly, for example, a few weeks ago I went on a date to a football game. I bought the tickets, he bought supper (hot dogs) and drinks at the game, which was about the cost of the football tickets. After the game we went out for more drinks and wings, which we split pretty much 50/50. The only thing that wasn't an even split was a bet we made regarding when a certain player would get a touchdown. He picked 1st quarter, I picked 4th. The player ended up getting a 4th quarter TD, so I won the bet. The prize was a little thing from the souvenir shop.
With ex's most of them have made more money than me as I've been in school full time and they were working full time. Instead of splitting costs, one week he'd take me out for dinner, the next week I'd make him dinner at my place. He'd take me to the movies, I'd invite him over for a movie and air popped popcorn at my place. I've also gotten pretty creative at coming up with cheap dates. Things like game night or going out for gelati or a walk or whatever. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:48:22 PM | | Around here it seems to have a very large importance. We have a large employer in town with the most generous retirement plan around. It takes an employee 10 years to vest in the retirement plan (I'm not sure if a spouse has to be married to the employee for 10 years to vest as well). It seems a bit more than coincidental that a lot of marriages amongst employees of that company last slightly longer than 10 years. You will have to draw your own conclusions. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:05:35 PM | | I guess I feel that everyone puts in what they can and I personally do not measure. If a man takes you to dinner at a fancy restaurant and you in turn cook him a beautifully prepared home cooked meal.....does his show more value than yours? When you get ready for a date......do you pay a sitter? Do you have your hair, nails and make-up done either professionally or take the time and effort to do it yourself.....and ladies those products cost. I just don't measure......that being said.......I also prefer to pay my own way, some feel if they pay they stay.....if you know what I'm saying. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:06:35 PM | | A man needs to be solvent ..... I work hard to make my business grow everyday and it does. I don'twant to have to worry about bills and my mortgage so I keep myself high enough above it so I can concentrate on other things , Like nice dinners and things for a girlfriend without worrying about the cheque. Most inter relationship fights are about money or the lack of. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:08:47 PM |
So how does a guy like me compete
Don't even try ! you will just end up broke , and when the moneys run out , she will just simply move on to the next guy if shes that way inclined !
I know of a few Lady's who have been there for the money, but did they have to earn it !
As iv said before, theres a fine line between relationships and prostitution .
If someone truly values you, it shouldn't mater how much money you have or what job you are doing .
JAZZY J | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:29:17 PM | | VERY ....it's practically the most important thing we all look for... | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:37:31 PM | | Personally, a man's financial status is very important to me. I think how a person uses money is a very important factor of their character. IMO, money is a resource and should be spent wisely. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:39:48 PM | He needs to be able to at least support himself. I have enough kids to support without taking on another mouth to feed. I've done it in the past and I won't do it again.
If he's way in over his head with debt or barely making it from one check to the next... I'm a lot more likely to pass. I've worked too hard to get out of debt to take on anyone else's debts. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:54:53 PM | money is important, we have to live and get by but both people have to put in...the frenchchick | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 6:03:52 PM | Thanks everyone, that was great feedback, from Venus and Mars.
A couple of the responses made me feel the need to explain myself further. I pay my bills, keep a roof over my son and I's head (actually we have a decent standard of living.) If I have debt, most of which is student loans, it's because I grew up poor and it was needed for me to get through college (I worked as well.)
I wasn't saying I can't cover the basics, I'm actually above the median income for my area, and my job has good benefits, I just can't throw around the scrilla like some guys, and thus have to rely mostly on who I am (not to say that just because you have money you don't have character either though.)
But yeah, seems like there's some great women here (and thus hopefully elsewhere) that don't all have dollar signs in their hearts, so I'm am taking heart | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 6:30:56 PM | Money is very important to women (not every woman). If you are a guy and honestly put down in your profile that you are (God forbid!) a garbageman, work in a factory or a warehouse doing manual labor, push a broom or mop, or do anything that is looked upon as being not top shelf, just see how many women contact you. It doesn't matter if you are a hard worker and always pay your bills, you are branded by your occupation--it defines you. It is just another one of the ways to filter out the choices that are less desirable so the woman can never accuse herself of settling. No, this is not true of everyone, but it is true far too often than it should be.
(As an aside to this, I was getting home the other week just as my garbageman was taking my bags and throwing them into the truck. I looked at him and smiled and yelled, "Thank you" and I bet that made his day. And it didn't cost me a thing.) | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 6:49:20 PM | $ isnt EveryThing
and
it Aint NoThing
as for what 'role' $ plays in ~LOVE~?
HA! NO Importance-whatsoEVER (for me)
of Course we all know that it takes $ to Live=DUH
(very Little, actually-Especially if you 'live off the land')
BUT? how MUCH $ one has/doesnT have-has absolutely NO bearing on
whether or not i would be attracted to/fall in Love with/have a relationship with
them
and, FIGHTing about $-in a LOVE relationship is ridiculous, i would Never even
participate
(and, certainly not because we have such an abundance of $ ) | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 7:16:52 PM | | There is a threshold for income. Make enough and you're fine. Make less, forget about it. The younger you are the less you can get away with making. Men make money, women make babies. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 8:11:19 PM | yeah when your younger and if you look good... you dont need much money at all !
lol
Older people just need good insurance... a good TV set and a good pet dog or cat
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 8:35:58 PM | I don't try to compete with other men for women via my paycheck. Those aren't the kind of women I'm interested in. It's only a matter of time before someone out-bids me.
-Jeremiah | |
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| pink floyd says.........
Posted: 8/9/2007 8:38:02 PM |
Money, get away.
Get a good job with good pay and youre okay.
Money, its a gas.
Grab that cash with both hands and make a stash.
New car, caviar, four star daydream,
Think Ill buy me a football team.
Money, get back.
Im all right jack keep your hands off of my stack.
Money, its a hit.
Dont give me that do goody good bullshit.
Im in the high-fidelity first class traveling set
And I think I need a lear jet.
Money, its a crime.
Share it fairly but dont take a slice of my pie.
Money, so they say
Is the root of all evil today.
But if you ask for a raise its no surprise that theyre
Giving none away.
Huhuh! I was in the right!
Yes, absolutely in the right!
I certainly was in the right!
You was definitely in the right. that geezer was cruising for a
Bruising!
Yeah!
Why does anyone do anything?
I dont know, I was really drunk at the time!
I was just telling him, he couldnt get into number 2. he was asking
Why he wasnt coming up on freely, after I was yelling and
Screaming and telling him why he wasnt coming up on freely.
It came as a heavy blow, but we sorted the matter out | |
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