| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 8/9/2007 10:19:17 PM | I did a search and didnt find anything so here goes....
This goes out to both men and women...
There are 2 cenerios:
1. You meet someone online or in person and your instantly attracted based on a pic/first glance. Then you start talking and find out they dont have a job or they do but its not a good paying job but they get along fine with what they have. They have a nice personality, great sence of humor and you get along really well.
2. Same thing reversed They are very attractive and make good money, have a good job etc but they lack in personality, you find them kinda dull and boring.
Do you continue to get to know them and see where things go or do you decide they are not for you?
Who would you go for someone with money or someone with a good personality? | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 10:21:29 PM | Interesting you brought those 2 types up as online... I often met people who were extremes or one of those two types...
( neither is good)
they are both awful I think and a total let down....
you meet those people and you ask yourself why you bothered to
get out of your PJ's and get dressed to go meet them...
no !!!
I would not try to know them and if your smart, you won't either.
I'd keep looking for someone with some of both. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 10:39:17 PM | I think almost every guy will go with the first person if they are interested in long-term. The money thing is fairly far down most guys' lists of desireable characteristics.
These days it's tough to get by on a single income and it's nice to have a partner who can contributr financially, but most guys are still brought up to expect to support a partner at some time in a long-term relationship especially if kids are involved.
Contrary to popular belief the majority of men look for a woman with a personality for long-term. We just hope she's hot (in our eyes) as well.... | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 10:53:45 PM | I think people in general get wrapped up in both scenarios. Who cares? Why not just live in the moment and accept people for who they are at that moment. Allot of women put such emphasis on the either or scenario. At least you get out once and a while.
they are both awful I think and a total let down....
You meet those people and you ask yourself why you bothered to
get out of your PJ's and get dressed to go meet them...
Go ahead stay in your PJ's and be assured you'll be the only one in them. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 10:59:55 PM | I just think it's great that not every guy falls into one or the other category. I say pass 'em both up. #1 How are they getting along just fine with no job? Since one of the top reasons for divorce these days is financial reasons ... why would you want to go into a relationship with that against you already. He can improve his situation if he wants to (unless he's disabled and that's a whole other topic). Two minimum wage jobs, if nothing else! #2 No personality... yuck! How could you stand that no matter how much money he makes!
Good luck! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 11:28:57 PM |
1. You meet someone online or in person and your instantly attracted based on a pic/first glance. Then you start talking and find out they dont have a job or they do but its not a good paying job but they get along fine with what they have. They have a nice personality, great sence of humor and you get along really well.
She has a decent chance, although I would note if she has hopes and dreams for the future.
2. Same thing reversed They are very attractive and make good money, have a good job etc but they lack in personality, you find them kinda dull and boring.
Absolutely no chance, regardless of how rich or how attractive. | |
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CKH
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Joined: 8/3/2007
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| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 8/10/2007 12:46:08 AM | If I was a girl I'd be a gold digger for sure.
However I'm me, so I'd take option number one. You don't take money with you when you die, if she's getting by just fine what's the problem? I'm not into a woman for what's in her pocket, what I feel she could be, and definitely not what I feel I can "change" her into.
If I like them just they way they are... with or without drawbacks... that's more than enough. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 12:53:08 AM | angel 73
you make your own cash anyway ...right?
so it should not matter how much money they have | |
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| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 8/10/2007 1:04:31 AM |
Interesting you brought those 2 types up as online... I often met people who were extremes or one of those two types...
( neither is good)
they are both awful I think and a total let down....
you meet those people and you ask yourself why you bothered to
get out of your PJ's and get dressed to go meet them...
no !!!
I would not try to know them and if your smart, you won't either.
I'd keep looking for someone with some of both.
Basically, that tells me that you are just in it for the money! It's funny, not here, but on most other dating websites where you can put down how much money you would LIKE your perspective SO to make.. funny, most women put down that they make.. "Rather Not Say" and then put that they want the man to make 100,000+.
OR!!!
They put down that they make.. whatever it might be.. 50,000 then they want the man to make 100,000+
WOW.. amazing. I pass those by each and every time! How insulting... to me!
I make a fairly good living.. was better until I moved down here to Florida... but my true calling is Massage Therapy. Unfortunately, I don't have enough hours to operate here in FL... but that will change, once I go back to school
Having said all the above.. there is nothing wrong with either of the opposite sex wanting someone of the same income level to be with.. I applaud those people that go after what they want.. but totally selfish if you expect the man to make more money than YOU do! NOT saying that you are actually that way. ... but it sure seems that way!
Like one of the above posters said.. if he contributes to the relationship.. what is the problem? | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 1:11:36 AM | give the $$$$ ppl the personality ph #'s and vice versa and tell them to help each other out........ also , do you eat @ Bern's or Bennigans? | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 3:09:35 AM | Money or Personality....
I would go for personality anyday.
As far as no job or little money. I guess that all depends on the circumstances and whether or not he has goals to better himself. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 10:01:10 AM | Neither, since it’s the whole package that counts for me.
So a flaw in one area is compensated for by a quality in another area in him or me.
I try to take the time to get to know someone I want to keep around to see if we’re able and willing to give that which the other person wants or needs.
To be happy together overall is more important to me than one specific quality.
A comfortable fit in all areas completes the puzzle that makes a couple enjoy having each other around.
Specifically, it makes sense to look for what I cannot provide myself with.  | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 11:48:30 AM | Reality check people: it's tough to find both attributes in people today. Our grandparents knew that life wasn't perfect, so they often picked one or the other.
Either people work so hard in today's world that they don't go out at all and develop their social skills (ie. boring) or they don't work hard enough and go out all the time (ie. poor).
Then again, this question is mute as most relationship/sociologists agree that women tend to look for mates with status (ie money), and most men look for mates that are good looking (ie. we don't care if the women as any money - but a personality would be nice). People will disagree, but actions speak louder than words. So guys - work hard, girls - party hard.....and we'll meet somewhere in the happy middle. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 12:49:27 PM | personality....... BUT,,,,, do I have to pay for his drinks, dinners????? | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 4:57:17 PM | | I would probably go for personality over money, but only to an extent. Is this person looking for something better or happy to just coast in a dead end job? IMO, financial habits and character go hand in hand. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 5:32:43 PM | I'll take what's behind door number 1!
Oh wait.... does he live with his mom? If so...why? LOL
Can I start over?
I need more information! hahahahaha
#2 isn't getting anywhere regardless ......
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CKH
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Joined: 8/3/2007
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| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 8/11/2007 12:38:11 AM | | guys: if you read between the lines in most of these posts.. financial security is looming. beware. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 2:31:33 AM | | I have dated alot of different types of men since my divorce, a lawyer, a cop, a Pepsi guy, an engineer, a full time college student, an IT guy, an electrician, etc. For me it all boils down to this: Can they make me laugh? Do I leave them looking forward to the next time I get to see them? Thats all that matters to me. I am fortunate enough to make enough money that I can live a nice life style and get myself the things I want.....a man that is financially secure would be a bonus. I do make it clear from the beginning, however, that I am NOT looking to support anyone. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 3:48:17 AM | | If you have a good personality, you can make a lot of money, because people like doing business with you. If you have a lot of money, you can buy a personality, according to every ad I ever saw. The only way you are stuck is if you have no personality and no money at the same time. That makes life hard, which builds character, which gives you some personality after all. This is why we have sex to bring us together, so we don't have to make choices like this. Find someone you want to have sex with and then see if you can't stand their personality and how broke they are. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 6:18:16 AM | Don't take this the wrong way, but I think the "money over personality" thing is more of a woman's game. I've seen it done, as well as been the victim of it. Why would a woman ask fir a type of man, then drop him to go out with the same type that she just got divorced from? Again, I think you'll find that money IS at least one of the contributing factors in 9 out of 10 cases.
Now, let's look at this thing from a biological perspective. As a "civilized" animal, man has only really been differentiating himself from the animals for what? 10,000 years or so? In that 10,000 years, we have improved technologically in leaps and bounds. But 10,000 years is NOTHING where evolution is concerned. So we have improved in our ways of life, but instinctually, very little has changed, and it takes a LONG time for such things to catch up.
Now you can say that man has VERY little i nthe way of instincts. And, by and large, I would be inclined to agree. However, we all know that man is not entirely FREE of them. And I think that when looking for a potential mate, this becomes most evident. Men are controlled by the instinct to sinply REPLICATE. The survival of his genetic legacy is all that grips any animal, Darwin's law proving itself. That's why they tend to looki for the most attractive woman possible. Women are looking based on SURVIVAL value. They look at a man, and see monay and/or power, and it evokes a positive response. Sure, I think that by and large today's women are more capable of basing partner choices on more than that, but the guy with the money and power already has his foot in the door, giving him a distinct edge over the "nice" guy, who's kindness is often still misinterpreted as weakness.
This is instinctual. I have met quite a few women who have overcome this, or haven't felt it at all. And I've never met one that isn't happy. So, make your own decisions. Whether you are operating on instinct, or some other drive, I've noticed that people always are able to come up with reasons why they do the things they do or make the choices they make. These often sound good only in their own ears. Ultimately, we'll all have to live based on our own choices. I hope you make the right ones.
Class dismissed!
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Posted: 8/11/2007 6:25:54 AM | These types of generalities are useless when applied to real life scenarios; this one in particular is the "either/or" logical fallacy.
How can someone really answer the posed question? Each case is different; each person is different. The scenarios (it is spelled with an "s") don't cover all the bases but are simplistic, leaving out many other possibilities that could occur. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:18:33 AM | | What a good answer! If you are here to meet someone for more than just a good time or to entertain you, you had better be prepared to accept the fact that in some way we are all flawed. There is no Ms. or Mr. Perfect but there is someone who is just right for you. This assumes, of course, that your values run deeper than how much money they make, only what they look like or what they do for a living. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 10:24:02 AM | I agree with alot of you on this subject. Personalty is by far m important then money.
For me Its more personality then anything.... Does he make me laugh, do we have good conversaions without the awkward silent moments, do we have fun when we are together be it staying at home or going out. Of coarse I dont want a guy who has no money and is looking to me to mooch off of and to pay everything...but as long as he has enough money to support himself im fine with that. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:55:23 PM | | Some people are very physically gifted, but not very intelligent. Others are very smart but not very good-looking. Some of us are gifted with both good looks and intellect. *SMIRK* *L* really though, a person who is badly out of shape is reflecting something that is going on with them psychologically. *Balance* Another person who has no Job, no car, no education, is telling you something about who they really are. Most of the time you can tell more about a person by what he does more than what he says. | |
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