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 aNgeLiCbLoNdiE
Joined: 9/7/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?Page 1 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
After getting divorced (or widowed) in middle age, many people still have physical urges, but may be too emotionally drained to pursue another person as an outlet to fulfill those urges. With all the easy access on the internet to all kinds of stuff, have many people fallen into that, instead of pusuing a flesh & blood person? Do you think itis a healthy release, or just another obstacle that a person can use to keep from being emotionally intimate w/ another human being?
has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 5:26:05 AM
For some, perhaps. For many, it's an escape until the real thing comes along.

At least it is for me.
 scrappyfun
Joined: 5/24/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 5:47:41 AM
After many years of marriage, I find myself divorcing and have been separated for nearly a year. I have many women friends but have not become intimate with any, great friends for exciting events. I do get horny though and the internet helps to take me into a different world, although I know that someday I'll meet someone and she will 100% assume that role.
 Girlflower
Joined: 3/12/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 6:07:34 AM
Not on the internet... to paranoid for that... but HBO has some good shows... Cathouse Blues is fun to watch... keeps my mind active...... and puriently employed...

 Artz
Joined: 6/1/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 6:52:26 AM
Good Question anglicblond,
I think outlets like POF and yes even porn do allow a safe way to interact without all the fuss and muss of real life . Safe and Fun but ultimately not very fallinging. We are hiding behind these computers interacting but not really putting ourselves out there. The risk here are minimal and like most things the rewords are also minimal.
the net can be a healthy realese but it can also suck you in and keep you from makeing that connection.
a little excapism can be a good thing. When the excape no matter what it is gets in the way of your real life then it becomes unhealthy. dating sites chatrooms blogs and porn aren't the problem, abusing them could become a problem. we all need to be on guard these machines can suck us in and take over our lives. We all just need to learn to keep things real.
Oh dirtygirl 8242 just popped into the chatroom gotta run.


 King Nosmo
Joined: 8/5/2007
Msg: 6
has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 6:54:37 AM
I find internet porn much more demanding than real women. Online there are pop-ups trying to give me a virus. I suppose, depending on who I might date, the same thing could happen in person. Women could say the same thing across the board.

What bothers me about porn online is that it is available in every possible type. You can watch very young perfect bodies, or people even older than yourself. I think it is the last nail in the coffin of my desire to have sex. Sex appears to be intended for the young, and then if old people still do it, well, failing eyesight is a saving grace. To have the stark, well-lit and sharply focused view of middle age sex glowing on my computer screen makes me cringe knowing that even at my best I am still someone's fay cry from what they once had, or what they now want.

When I was young and sex was new, we had the occasional men's magazine or a picture in an anatomy book, or the very rare and special live siting of an actual nude female. It was wonderful to spend hours imagining what women might look like naked. Sex was an adventure and imagination ruled. Then once I got one and sex became part of everyday life, porn was abandoned in favor of live action. Now as a middle aging man porn is a sorry substitute and does nothing for me, except to evoke memories that are too bittersweet and to make me face just how decrepit I have become.

Young men might enjoy porn as stimulation. To me it says "You got old and this is what you never will have again."
 FunGuy!!
Joined: 5/9/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 7:23:48 AM
Hmmm.... Looking at porn or looking at profiles on POF - Decisions Decisions!!!
 LookieLou456
Joined: 6/24/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 7:44:49 AM
Porn is out there and it's up to us to decide how we use it...I have been a member of Literotica for years and don't plan to cancel my membership anytime soon. While I don't sit around cybering with every Joe, Tom or Jack that comes into the room, it can be a great source of fun if you look for what else is going on there - for instance, a group of members played truth or dare with a dose of sexual innuendo on there one night, what a hoot we had!
Yep, I should go out and meet a real person to play that game with, but as a substitute for the nights when I don't want to go out, I wouldn't trade it.
And Mr. Bike Tour? Thanks for the laugh, your comments were very amusing and scarily ( ) close to home.
 cdn_guy
Joined: 3/6/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 7:52:24 AM
Free porn on the net will never become this middle-aged, post-divorced person's new & safe partner ... not as long as I have Rubberella.

cdn guy
 Tramp
Joined: 2/8/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 8:04:49 AM
Instant gratification and relief, it does not work, just more emptiness; rather wait for the real thing. Never done it, but probably would not mind to go and share it with someone.
Same goes for chat sex, not for me.
 SteveIn1954
Joined: 8/6/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 8:08:07 AM
You Know I never thought of it ; but you are right ! I think porn has become the middle-aged post divorce person's new and safe partner. Or at least if not porn online dating perhaps is more like it. Do i think its healthy realase ? Like any anything else in moderation or keeping it under control , might be ok. Oh how i do miss that intimate touch . Thanks Stevein1954
 Girlflower
Joined: 3/12/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 8:39:47 AM
Bike Tour Man... oooohhh you poor baby...... I personally love a teddy bear man... no skinny kids for this Chick...


never was one for porn.. I remember the days in our 20's when someone would "get" a blue movie and all us young marrieds would have a showing after Saturday Night Live... lol!!! But these days I think it has become so previlent it has devalued the actual experience of being with someone... as for internet prorn for Women... does it exist? Even if it did I wouldn't be looking for it... afterall if I was that lonely I could just go out and advertise my state of mind.. and some obliging fellow would accomodate me.....
 EastSideEddie
Joined: 8/13/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 9:40:19 AM
Personally, I prefer to think of porn as inspirational films, given that at my age and health all I can do is watch anymore......

The advantage of porn is that you can get it any time, you don't have to take it out to dinner, and there's no awkward decision about sleeping over......
 Old Bold
Joined: 12/18/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/12/2007 1:03:48 PM
OP,
You should not have left the widowed out of this discussion. I watch a bit of the , what I consider, soft porn on my satellite. Not much their unless you believe women no longer wear underwear,have brest implants and take off their cloths faster than, what we used to say; "Can I buy you a drink?" Oh yes I forgot allwomen today have
toos"
I'll take erotica thank you. A film like "Spanking the Monkey" with its taboo subject is far more arousing than the meat shows.

Some of the erotic phtography in the newsgroups can be arousig when you think that the models are amatuers. Not talking about the exploitation of teeny bobers I would harshly punish those folks that put that stuff out.

Alt. Sex.stories. moderated has somw well written eroctica which usually unlike the TV have some some small plot line and character development.


There is another thread on here that questions learning new things from watching porn.
The answer is I doubt it. Lust is not the basis for building a lasting relationship, whichis what all of us POF folk want to do .....Say "Right! Old Bold" Just kidding there of course you do.

Having my name on thus post will scare a lot of the St Louis women away.. C'est la vie.


 cdn_guy
Joined: 3/6/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/13/2007 12:01:25 PM
Personally, I find porn on the internet (all porn, for that matter) extremely boring -- the same set of rubber boobies on every woman, the same 'poses' and moves in every strip club, the same plots (such as they are) in every porn movie, the same pop-ups, free offers and group of pics in every internet porn site -- yuck !! I don't find any of it a 'turn on' ... quite the opposite, actually.

Give me some creative erotica (if I must watch this chit) ... or better yet, a movie with a plot where there are a few things left to the imagination. For if there is one thing that is not boring, it's my own imagination when it involves things to do with the opposite sex and sensuality.

cdn guy
 ruinthewndw
Joined: 7/14/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/13/2007 5:28:46 PM
Creative erotica huh..check out "Tampopo" Japanese subtitled movie about a noodle shop. Food has never been so sexy...ever..
 Spence56
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 17
has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/13/2007 10:53:41 PM
That's a good question. Porn (sexually enticing whatever) has always been a form of "entertainment". Each generation makes some arbitrary definition of just what Porn is and runs with it. Personally, I think that as we all get older and more familiar with each other (a man and a woman) that it takes a little new stuff from time to time. If a husband and wife can enjoy the same things together then that's what's important in my mind. Porn may make it possible for some people (men and women) to stay sane during those "dry spells" especially as we get older. But I don't think it will ever replace the intimacy two people can have with each other. Problem is that it seems to be few and far between..... for many of us "older folks". Geeze...I'm 51...I'm not THAT OLD!
 JWA
Joined: 5/21/2005
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/14/2007 4:02:32 AM
So then OP you pose this question but why not share with us your own use of things like this available online. You certainly fit the description of middle aged (plus or minus, are divorced and obviously have access to the internet. It would be interesting to compare your actions and thoughts on the very subject you pose to others.
 aNgeLiCbLoNdiE
Joined: 9/7/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/14/2007 8:50:37 AM

So then OP you pose this question but why not share with us your own use of things like this available online. You certainly fit the description of middle aged (plus or minus, are divorced and obviously have access to the internet. It would be interesting to compare your actions and thoughts on the very subject you pose to others.
A Lady doesn't kiss & tell, even when the other person is herself
 Schadenfreudian
Joined: 7/5/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/14/2007 9:58:09 AM
Yes, it does...and it also means I have to change my keyboard as frequently as I get oil changes!
 Bethlet
Joined: 4/22/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/14/2007 10:13:53 AM
Yes. But only for the men. Women aren't visual. We are tactile.

BOB is our new and safe partner. HAHAHAHHAHA

 betterlate
Joined: 12/22/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/14/2007 11:04:38 AM

Personally, I find porn on the internet (all porn, for that matter) extremely boring -- the same set of rubber boobies on every woman, the same 'poses' and moves in every strip club, the same plots (such as they are) in every porn movie, the same pop-ups, free offers and group of pics in every internet porn site -- yuck !! I don't find any of it a 'turn on' ... quite the opposite, actually


I have to agree with Canadian guy.. I would much rather be doing a hobby or anything than watching a bunch of fake/bad actors doing it.. I am amused at some of the HBO shows like hookers, or cathouse... I dont know if online porn is free or not ( I am showing my cards here) but why not spend the money on going out to a club and listening to music, dancing, attending singles get togethers... at least there is a chance that you might start a relationship....

I also feel that porn "de-sensitizes" a person to the intimate nature of sex... that if they dont see this or that right in their face....(close ups) they cant get excited or it just takes more and more to get excited... JMO... it is ok if everyone disagrees with me..
 sunshine_one_
Joined: 3/8/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/14/2007 2:34:53 PM
Agree completely with cdn guy and betterlate.

It never seems real to me; really funny sometimes, really disgusting others.
 Adam Taylor
Joined: 5/11/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/15/2007 11:38:26 AM
For me, it's a nice release from time to time.
But it's not a "need" really. I mean, I can do without it.
It's just sometimes, there's a little more... er... tension built up... and you need a convenient way of releasing that when you don't have someone around to help you with it. ;)

Plus... well, it's just enjoyable. Not as a daily routine or anything... but even when with someone... I don't mind browsing the naughty pictures once in a while. Besides, sometimes it helps give you ideas. ;)
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 8/15/2007 2:23:55 PM
"It never seems real to me; really funny sometimes, really disgusting others. "

Ditto!
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