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 waiting for mr right
Joined: 8/5/2007
Msg: 1
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Now dont get me wrong i know that not all men are into cybering and piccie swapping, but it intrigues me to know the reason behind this....i know alot of women but not all are this way inclined too.....
all i can think of is that some people (only a few) like the fact they can see if the other person will be easy,before they meet...
and others are willing to wait for the sexual side of things until they get to know the other person better....
can anyone shed some light on this topic??
im not into nastiness , im just inquisitive thats all...
thanx guys
 TickleMehPink
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 2
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/11/2007 6:55:20 PM
maybe they're just too lazy to go to a titty bar lol
this way its free, and they can jerk off without having to get kicked off the computer if it gets outta hand.
 sweetyheart
Joined: 7/9/2007
Msg: 3
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/11/2007 6:55:52 PM
I hope the men will give you honest answers to this, as I would like to know the answers also!
Men are constantly asking for online sex or phone sex, with NO intention to meet, by the way!
 ubkobalt
Joined: 5/7/2006
Msg: 4
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/11/2007 7:41:42 PM
It's ego boosting.

With all the women that say NO to you for anything, it's the ones who do say YES to something that are special.

It's more "personal" than porn. There's a real human being there. Porn does nothing to boost your ego.

Look, as women, you get men offering themselves to you all the time. Your job is to say yes or no. I'm not sure if you can fully understand what it's like to not have that ability. You may think it would be peaceful. When you are the one that has to ASK for the yes or no, the approval, you're going to get a lot of nos. A LOT of nos. Maybe you don't want a full fledged "connection". But you want a human being on the other end who's willing to play.

Look at it from this point of view. Why would you NOT want to? It seems kind of silly from this end. I want women to see me naked, as a sexual person, talk dirty to me, because they want to. Without the obligation of getting attached to them first.
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
Msg: 5
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why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/11/2007 8:33:03 PM
UB I read your question regarding why we wouldnt want to have sex. I will give you my reasons why and perhaps some other women will as well. And I am speaking about actual sex here not cyber. And to your point about being offered sex all the time, unless I know someone pretty well the chances of the sex being all that shit hot are slim to none so I equate it to being offered cheese sandwiches all the time. Unless the cheese sandwich you are offereing me is the best cheese sandwich on the planet I can go home and make my own that will most likely be a better cheese sandwich and I may be wondering why you are trying to pawn off that cheese sandwich all the time. My point is that if you arent offereing something someone wants it has only value to you. Now on to my reasons why I am not interested in sex with a stranger and because you dont want any connection that is fine but dont get pissy when someone doesnt want to play by your rules in a game that both people get to have rules.

1. You are a total stranger.
2. I have to put myself in a position of total vulnerability with a total stranger physically.
3. I have no idea what your health situation is.
4. I have to have an emotional connection with someone before I feel any serious stirrings of desire strong enough to put myself in a position of vulnerability mentally or physically.
5. I have no idea whether you are even capable of making it worth my while.
 arizonadeb
Joined: 6/29/2007
Msg: 6
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/11/2007 10:10:39 PM
I personally dont do phone sex or cyber sex. Whats the point to it.. Personal contact is so much better. Just wait for the right person.. Get many emails saying a lot of crap about that. Than I get the nasty one saying Aw come on..Please give me a break!!
 Geneseo
Joined: 2/27/2007
Msg: 7
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/11/2007 10:11:00 PM
I have no idea of why anyone gets into cyber sex? I mean, it's totally not real.






Ummmm, so what are you wearing by the way??
 WaywardSeeker
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 8
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/11/2007 10:31:28 PM
This man never tried it and have no interest in it.
I stopped playing "let's pretend" more years back than I can count.
Well, maybe if I was separated from my lover for a long time, I would try it with them.
 benyee
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 9
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/14/2007 7:57:55 AM
There are lots of reasons for this for both men and women. At its most base level - it's a way of getting your jollies safely and in the privacy of your own home. In that respect it is very similar to porn. However, the interactive element adds an excitement level to it since you are actually talking to someone and not just a computer program or something. As a poster above mentioned, this is a bit of an ego boost.

On top of that, I once saw a TV special (HBO I think) that talked about this and one of the thing a few men and women said is that it allows them to act out fantasies that may or may not be possible in real life. For instance, you want to be with the man or woman of your dreams on some remote exotic island, but you can't afford it? Well, this is a way of stimulating creativity and blending sex with it.

In the context of dating however, the only time I've known people to do this during dating are if they're temporarily long distance from each other. If I were going to date someone, cyber is not going to cut it - you want real human interaction at that point, I would think.
 Schadenfreudian
Joined: 7/5/2007
Msg: 10
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/14/2007 10:48:24 AM
REPEAT AFTER ME Learn the difference between "all" men, "some" men, "many" men and "most" men. Life will become inherently simpler and abundantly clearer for you.
 calvinWinks
Joined: 7/31/2007
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why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/14/2007 11:25:53 AM

maybe they're just too lazy to go to a titty bar lol
this way its free, and they can jerk off without having to get kicked off the computer if it gets outta hand



Finally someone understands men!!! :-)
 benyee
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 12
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/14/2007 3:28:04 PM

REPEAT AFTER ME Learn the difference between "all" men, "some" men, "many" men and "most" men. Life will become inherently simpler and abundantly clearer for you.


Awwww come on now. Where would our world be without gross generalizations about how horrible/perverted/insensitive/boorish/inconsiderate etc. we men are?
 cowboy109
Joined: 7/14/2007
Msg: 13
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/14/2007 11:38:25 PM
(Disclaimer: I haven't swapped pics online, so consider my comments with a grain of salt.)

If someone were to offer me naughty pics, I'd take them. Heck, I sometimes love spam for the naughty images that it sends to cheer up my work day! There is a weird thing with my brain that I enjoy starring at chicks for hours and never get tired. It's like at the strip joint... So, pics would be taken any time.

Considering that there is so much porn and free porn on the Internet, getting something from a real person is kind of special. It allows one to get a little more fantasy behind it, like some kind of connection, rather then mass produced and PhotoShoped stuff.

Personally, I think that I have never gone for it, because you never know, the identity of the other person. It could be a guy. Personally, I believe it is probably a guy, because why else would the other person enjoy swapping images. Women aren't supposed to be visual, aren't they?

My guess is that it happens, because of convenience and personal attention. Your sitting at home, probably not your office or local library, and things are pretty dull. Getting some pics and naughty chat is a big step up, isn't it?
 NerdStatus
Joined: 1/9/2007
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Posted: 8/15/2007 12:47:39 AM
You're 30 years old and asking why men like to see naked pictures of women?

This is a joke right?
 SweetlilNative
Joined: 6/24/2007
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Posted: 8/15/2007 2:31:17 AM
Because they are horny and want to get off. its as simple as that.
 JonnyBoy239
Joined: 6/18/2007
Msg: 16
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Posted: 8/15/2007 2:42:25 AM
I hate dirty pics. This woman sent me a pic after she'd just changed the oil in her car...filthy, all covered with dirt and grime.

YECH
 King Nosmo
Joined: 8/5/2007
Msg: 17
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/15/2007 5:22:52 AM
Many men were not raised like many women were, to view sex as wrong or bad unless it occurs as an emotionally meaningful experience between people within a committed relationship. Instead of that view, sex is seen as a form of play. It is a way to have fun. There is no sense of moral anguish or shame attached to casual sexual play. As a game to play, sex can be about the stimulation and good feelings that come from sharing glimpses of each other, so it is like masturbating together but together is accomplished only by the computer connection, which works to a point. The men who like to play that way do so because it feels good, they have fun. The same goes for the women who join them.

There are also people who get a thrill thinking they are doing something secret and naughty. They may have the feelings of shame and immorality, but like them. They will stay up late while their spouse goes to bed, and "cheat" online with someone else. Or they will play while at work, thrilled that someone might catch them.

Sex is a vast playground for all kinds of activity. People adopt new technology to sexual purpose in every case. You should have been there when the wheel was invented. The things men did with it, I can't bring myself to type here.
 sweetyheart
Joined: 7/9/2007
Msg: 18
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/15/2007 12:53:59 PM
cowboy,
this is one woman who is very visual! YEEHEE!!
 Test_Pilot
Joined: 10/15/2005
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why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/15/2007 4:06:32 PM
Cybersex is well... yawn.

If they want to exchange naughty pics, if she offers em up I won't say no, but if I'm that interested I'd rather see the real thing. Self pics usually aren't done all that well.
 Violet Tigress
Joined: 1/10/2007
Msg: 20
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/15/2007 4:16:59 PM
Maybe some of them figure that it's the closest they'll ever get to real breasts.
 musicjunky1967
Joined: 6/3/2007
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Posted: 8/15/2007 5:49:29 PM
I think it's kind if tacky myself. The whole webcame boobie show is kind of a turn off for me too. I had this girl one time that invited me to view her webcam. Up until that time, I had been talking to her for a couple of weeks. She didn't display any kind of weird behavior. Accepted the webcam invite and not 5 minutes into the conversation and not having ANYTHING to do with the conversation, she flashed me her boobs. What was bad and tacky as hell about that incident was that in the background on her webcam, I could see her kids running around her house! Nope, I'm not into cyber anything these days.
 scuderia
Joined: 8/23/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 8/26/2007 12:56:21 PM
the guys that do that are just jerk offs!
 Jemue
Joined: 1/26/2005
Msg: 23
why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics??
Posted: 8/26/2007 1:27:03 PM

You're 30 years old and asking why men like to see naked pictures of women?

This is a joke right?


That was my first thought !


Because they are horny and want to get off. its as simple as that.


Would cover the majority of it.
 NerdStatus
Joined: 1/9/2007
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Posted: 8/27/2007 7:15:46 PM

the guys that do that are just jerk offs!

 Toddofodd
Joined: 8/3/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 8/27/2007 7:21:17 PM
Never in my life on the internet have I done cybersex, its sucks, wheres the fun in just looking at a bunch of misspelled words on a computer screen, no thanks!
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