| Musicians/Cheaters
Posted: 8/11/2007 6:59:06 PM | Alot of girls seem to think most musicians are promiscuous groupy-hunting lech's. I've never cheated on, led on, or lied to a woman for sex in my life. If I've had "one-nighters" it was by the woman's choice and damn sure not when I was serious about anyone.
But apparently there's no way to break this stereotype  | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 7:06:22 PM | | You may not have but I bet a majority of musicians have | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 7:11:10 PM | | Break the stereotype or be scandalous for sex? | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 7:11:29 PM | | I've been a musician my entire life, did the bar band thing, some studio work, and alot of just playin out. All the while I never cheated.. hmmmmmmm | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 7:15:32 PM |
I've been a musician my entire life, did the bar band thing, some studio work, and alot of just playin out. All the while I never cheated.. hmmmmmmm Exactly! But because we are musicians we must all be fraudulent and scandalous, no?! | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 7:20:29 PM | | Not everybody has a gimmick going on like Gene Simmons did. My friend is soon to be celebrating her 18th anniversary with her man and he's a musician. They are soulmates and anybody who has ever tried to get in the way of that has seen it backfire bigtime. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 7:31:10 PM | My ex was a musician and he did cheat, and did drugs, and drank too much... all the typical musician things. Just because you're a musician doesn't mean you do those things but you live in a world where women practically fling themselves at you; where your hours would allow you to cheat without getting caught; and where that lifestyle including the drugs and alcohol is accepted and practically deemed normal! Most of the rest of us can't relate and it often makes being involved with a musician very hard.
Oh and this;
If I've had "one-nighters" it was by the woman's choice
What? She forced you? Yeah, right! ;) | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 7:34:19 PM | | SingleSagitarius, I also build Motorcycles and im a biker, I get it twice as bad. Dont let it get to ya. You know you're honest and thats what counts... | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 7:41:32 PM | These are stereotypes that are not going anywhere anytime soon. So, I would just continue to be yourself and express to any potential mates that she should not generalize. They should first get to know YOU.
It sux, but it is reality.
Best,
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Posted: 8/11/2007 7:44:50 PM | I've been involved with musicians most of my life, heck I was a musician. And like Texan said, woman throw themselves at you guys all the time. Its a matter of self-control and respect of the partner you love (if you have one). You have to admit that most of your peers love the attention and don't have the willpower or desire to say no thanks.
You faithful guys (I was single) are the minority and thus the label. You are the exception, not the rule. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:07:39 PM |
"you live in a world where women practically fling themselves at you;"
"If I've had "one-nighters" it was by the woman's choice"
"I bet a majority of musicians have"
Excuse me folks I gotta run down to the music store
I feel for you musicians- always misunderstood.  | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:09:49 PM | Raising my hand here ... not among the ladies who thinks all musicians are cheaters.
Each man is different and makes his own reputation in my book. But then, I might be biased since I am a "musician" of sorts. I don't do any type of professional gigs, but I am a talented singer and do occasionally perform ... have also played several musical instruments in my life.
One of my school mates played professionally for several years and he is not at all a promiscuous type and has no use for the groupies either. So there!!!
I think it's too bad that people think this. The right woman who gets to know you will have no problems ... she will be able to determine for herself just what she has with you.
EDIT ... OMG ... when I first started to write my post, I got to thinking about my friend I spoke of and gave him a call (up in Ohio). We chatted for over a half hour and in the meantime, it appears someone tried to have the thread deleted. I posted and then went up to vote. My vote to keep the thread must have put it over as it disappeared. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:10:35 PM | | MSG 11: Believe it or not, there are scandalous women out there as well: by "the womans choice" I meant they wanted ME for a one nighter and not the other way around. Usually expressed after the fact, as in "here's my (fake) number" | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:28:45 PM |
most musicians are promiscuous groupy-hunting lech's
Aren't they?! You said it yourself.. most musicians, including yourself has done that.. serious relationship or not, you still did it and helped perpetuate the stereotype you despise so much.
As long as it happens, the stereotype will be there, not much you can do about it. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:48:46 PM | msg 14: try reading the thread. I am a relationship type of man. Ain't my damn fault if a fraudulent woman uses me to get hers and blows out en la manana. I'm a long term dude, always have been. Been used and abused by scandalous females.
Hence the thread. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:59:53 PM | LOL you poor thing, used and abused. :) Let me guess, it was the one at the end of the night, with her head leaned against the front end, a drink in one hand, and a smoke in the other.
Damn those fraudulent women!!!!!
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:05:32 PM | At the risk of sounding like I'm writing a country song, I was married to a musician for 13 years. He left me for a very young woman and her husband...they were in a band together. Abandoned me and his kids to "get a new life." Apparently, he became the man he always wanted to be. (Who knew he always wanted to be an ***hole?)
It was a long time before I could listen to the radio and I will never look at a guitar the same way again.
God, that DOES sound like a bad country song.
General Stereotype du jour? Musicians are players. (Ba DUM CHAAAA!) | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:14:34 PM | Post 17 yeah its slapnuts like that make the rest of us look bad.
Post 16 Try reading the rest of the thread.
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:18:42 PM |
I am a relationship type of man. Ain't my damn fault if a fraudulent woman uses me to get hers and blows out en la manana. I'm a long term dude, always have been. Been used and abused by scandalous females.
serious relationship or not, you still did it
Ever hear of the word no?
All you had to say was no and she wouldn't have 'used' you, so it is your fault in a way. Accept that fact, know that the stereotype exists and you will have to deal with it, and be the relationship kinda guy you say you are and NOT sleep with the groupies and have one night stands. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:18:47 PM | ~OP~ I think there is that stereo-type. That is why you or any other musician just need to find the type of woman that doesn't label.
There is a man in my life (for quite a few years now, as friends) he is definitely NOT the cheating type. I don't believe he ever had an affair through a 15 year marriage and I know that today, he definitely does not cheat or look from greener grass. Maybe it just depends on the person. I know a LOT of lawyer, geez, you talk about cheaters. Just like anything else, it's the person ~ not the profession. JMO  | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:41:31 PM | I like the sensible (naysayers notice the term "sensible") advice from both men and women.
In fact to all those naysayers, I was COMPLETELY faithful for seven years with the same woman, no matter WHAT overtures were presented to me.
If two consenting adults choose to have a temporary liaison, and do so, I fail to see how it makes ME the villain, as long as both parties undergo that choice unattached and in full knowledge of each other as consenting adults.
Or in other words, pluck the beam from thine own eye before concerning thyself with the splinter in mine | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:50:14 PM | VGE
Lawyers!- please don't put musicians in the same class- I have friends that are musicians. lol
My ex SO was a legal assistant - came home crying after one of the partners tried to proposition her again and again- I told her to quit as she was going back to school for a new career anyway and I would take care of her in the meantime. But those guys are aggressive and clever with their words- and maybe a little stressed out sometimes- so beware.
Yes- its not fair to label lawyers or musicians- but it seems that certain types gravitate to certain professions. Another thread had strippers complaining about how guys acted around them and treated them. It's not fair but people can be harsh and judgemental. So often people generalize- its shown on POF all the time.
So maybe 80 percent of females are screwed up and 110 percent of men are only after one thing.  But hey - all we got is each other so- make the best and have fun. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 11:22:15 PM | My ex is also a musician and one who can easily manipulate the mood of an entire audience. He has been wowing audiences since he was very young. Some individuals may be able to keep the admiration they receive as musicians separate from their private lives but so many are not. Not only do they travel a great deal but they also work in a very different environment than most of us. Never having to "pay" for a beer leads many of them into alcoholism. Having bar skanks throw themselves at them can lead to very bad attitudes about women and in fact, a severe inability to even recognize a decent woman when they DO find one. They often get addicted to the constant admiration and highs of their talent as much as to the booze and easy sex. And sadly.. no one woman can clap hard enough or loud enough to ever be a fair substitute for the admiration of the crowds.
I hope you will stand outside of the "labels" that have been attached to your love of music and talent for it but like everyone else, you will have to teach people who you are. For me, one narcissist in a lifetime was more than enough for this lady.
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Posted: 8/11/2007 11:34:03 PM | Uh ohhh... another invitation for me to get on my soap-box to defend musicians for the umteenth time in the PoF forums...
Male musicians are no different than any other professional guys and not more prone to be cheaters. Any guy, on any given day or night will cheat if he has the propensity to cheat. Musicians are no different than the pool guy who has a great physique and incredible tan.. or the good looking home appliance guy who comes to fix a faulty ice-maker, etc. etc.. Those guys and others like them who are away from home for more hours than a musician's normal gig of 3 or 4 sets , have the same opportunities to cheat when tempted by a lonely housewife or horny single woman. Guy musicians are no different than any other guy. They may have or may not have scruples, values and integrity just like non-musicians. To judge them all as cheaters is grossly unfair and ignorant.
I've been around musicians most of my adult life so I consider myself a credible witness of their character. My late husband was a professional musician. He had a small recording studio so there were always musicians in our home to jam, record or take lessons. Therefore, I have many pro musician friends, both male and female who have strong, long term marriages some for 20 years and longer. The ones who are single male pros are in no way womanizers. All lead exemplary lives.
So c'mon people, let's not stereotype and generalize musicians or any other field of professionals as being cheaters. Cheaters come in all sizes, shapes, forms, professions and guess what ~ even in both genders, oh my!! To say that musicians are all cheaters makes as much sense as saying all cars are chevys. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 4:29:42 AM | | You don't have to be a musician to be promiscuous. | |
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