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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:18:35 PM | How do I go about posting on a site such as this or any other that I am looking for female friends without everyone taking it as a Bi kind of thing?
I live in a small town, (children of the cornville ) and it seems that most of the time, the most exciting things that happen here are fairs and washing the John Deere's in the carwash. I just had a falling out with an ole friend who was really a rainy day friend (only when her boyfriend wasn't around so we kinda had to sneak, and no we were not in any sort of relationship, she just always wanted a back up friend for when he finally leaves her). I am looking for a friend to just go out and do things and just have fun, someone that likes to sit and just watch movies or play euchre if we can find another person or two. Someone to just confide in, just to have someone like a sister since I kind of keep my distance from my real one lol Someone that believes in being a friend in return, not one that has a hand out asking for something and expecting the world to do for her. If anyone knows of a site that you can advertise (This is starting to sound like a Big Brother/Big Sister kind of ad, what has my world come down to? ) lol please let me know? Where I live now.....all of my family are out of state so its my youngest daughter and I think we both need more.
Thanks for your help in advance!
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:21:45 PM | Just ask! Like u just did, and good luck.
I have found that when I go out...to a function I enjoy, hobbies, whatever...that is where I have found my lasting female friendships..some of them live far away...but we still keep in touch...
best of luck to u with this..
an no i am not bi either...lol, but there is something to be said about female friends...we just get it!! | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:22:41 PM | Debi:
I know what you mean. I moved to MO knowing no one. I have close friends back where I used to live, but it isn't the same as going shopping with them, or out for a ride, stopping for a soda, etc. or sitting face to face for a heart to heart.
It's hard on a site like this when people automatically suspect the bi thing.
If you figure out a way, let me know! | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:23:06 PM | | I have had several women contact me after reading something I have written in the forums. They start off with introductions and just telling me why they have contacted me. Be aware that not all will welcome the contact, but you may find some friends here. I would suggest reading about in the forums and finding persons who sound like someone that you would be comfortable talking with. Read their profiles and see if they seem like someone who you could be friends with. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:34:53 PM | hey loon, the some thing has happened to me on this site...there are frienships to be made, and it is pretty kewl...as for the bi thing..i mean all people have to do it read ur profile and they'll know right?
i have to agree with one other poster as well, it is just not the same..i miss that girlie talk and shopping or whatever..my sis is good fo that, but she does live far..i need to get my but to the phone and call my girls, and my daughter is getting older, 14, so now we do the shopping and supper gurl talk thing...
life is grand! | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:42:16 PM | Nothing wrong with the approach you just used now. I've met some women myself via dating sites. We had similar interests and starting chatting.
Some women have deleted emails I've sent them. I guess taking it wrong or whatever, but cest la vie.
Good luck with your search ;) | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:57:43 PM | dang it...im the only guy answerin this forum
ya know i would just add it in my profile....and if its said like u worded it here...noones gonna take u for bi....
i met a guy bout a month ago for a beer who i had met on the forums...and im not bi or gay...nor is he...we got to arguin one night in an email reguardin a forum...agreed to disagree...and met for a drink and a game of pool after about a week shootin the sh**.
ya know everyones gotta bring things down to sex right away and i wonder y that is.
look...if u start chattin with a female who u ask to meet for a drink or to go shoppin...have lunch....whatever it is u girls do now...and she takes it wrong...
well...im thinkin thats gonna be her problem
r u odd? lol no dear..ur not odd | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:01:04 PM | Post in the forums for your state. I made some friends before I met someone in Dec and left the site. I've kept in contact with them via email and IM's, they are about 6-7 hours from me. But if I was closer to them I would have met them in person. They attend get togethers in their area and have become friends with quite a number of people they met through the forums.
Good luck meeting people in your area! | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:01:49 PM | If you have any passions or interests, consider joining a discussion board dedicated to those interests. For something vaguer...a million years ago, I was on Better Homes and Garden's Board. Lots of different topics and it was interesting. I was referred by someone on there to a more specific board for my interests, and that group has spawned many lifelong friends that I've known now for 6+ years.
Because of that group, I've traveled all over the country (and into Canada), stayed with people that I met through the group and, in fact, have a friend from that group who I stayed with when I went to Canada coming here in October!
My passion is greyhounds, but there's a group for everything out there! | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 9:43:26 PM | ya know readin the last post...by sunscreen angel....makes me think....
ya ever try joinin an organization..volunteerin? maybe at a humane society or sumthin...walkin the dogs...i do it and its fun
now dogs and cats may not be ur thing...but any volunteer group is a great way to meet ppl..and if u love the cause..as i do...ur winnin on both aspects...and its not just a group on a computer..this would be sumthin where ur meetin other ppl face to face
sumthin to chew on | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 10:31:24 PM | No you are not odd... my best friend died from breast cancer,,, it would be nice to have a really good friend,,, most are all jacked up on abusive men... or plastic surgery...
dont worry about the weirdos...
dont be afraid to call up someone that you have met, suggest lunch or shopping.. or a walk... be the kind of friend that you want to have and you cant go wrong. ... but dont waste your time on the fair weather friends of this world... make sure it is two sided..
keep asking people too , dont give up... have a small party ask your friends to bring fun friends to the party and have everything ready so that you have time to talk to everyone that comes... then suggest some activity..
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Posted: 8/11/2007 10:52:49 PM | I think Its a wise Idea , really If we all had single friends to get out and about with we wouldnt be on these sites to begin with but living In the real world. I feel for you re the fair weather friend - only when no mans around - I have one myself but when this ones over she will be In for a shock - I arnt going to be there to go out with whilst she trys to find another only to not see her for months after weekly when she does  And to think these kinda women wonder why the men toss them over after 4 - 5 months, the mind boggles, fancy a man wanting someone whos not just a cling on to his life 
Good luck with It and Im sure you will find a fantastic friend and have a lot of laughs together.  | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 2:02:22 AM | No your not odd at all. There is nothing wrong in wanting other females to chat to. This is a site also to make friends too.
Mail me anytime you like. Im always up for making new friends and likewise im straight also  | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 2:39:55 AM | Hi absolutly No way you are odd. Nothing wrong with contacting females for friendship. Some people may say that this is a dating site so it is inappropriate to use it for this purpose. BUT this is an ideal site, as female friends (or male friends for the guys) can be there to support you when things go wrong or share in your joy when things go right. Friends can be there to offer some form of safety too, so to all those small narrow minded people out there   | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 4:03:04 AM | debi,
i new when you mentioned euchre you had to be from MI. same sex friends is a tricky issue. specialy when yer older. men usually want a drinkin or fishin buddy. i guess women like a gf to go shoppin . it's hard to find a good runnin mate. it either has to be a coworker or some one you have a common hobby with (like the gym) . Since i started gettin into the biker life a couple years ago i run into more dudes i can hang w/. but my buddies from my college days are long gone.
i would say just go place that women like to hang out w/o alot of men around. bookstore, arts and crafts shop. if you have a good conversation w someone, ask them to go to lunch or get coffee.
this sounds just like trying to get a date. second thought, just let it happen. try to stay away from users. some people see friendship as a way to get something. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 4:26:23 AM | Ha ha jsb. Best shopping buddy I knew was a TV! Women don't necessarily need a common interest although it helps, we generally need emotional support, this doesn't mean weakness, just another mind to chew the fat with. A "sharing caring" sort of thing, an intimacy without all the sex issues.
Probably coming from my own experiences, other females may think differently. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 4:49:08 AM | I belong to a Pen Pal forum and have made several friends that I correspond with regularly. I know this will not take the place of a friend to shop with, etc, but you can talk "girl talk" with them - in my case - since I'm old - it could be everything from going thru the change to knitting my dog a sweater.
Good luck! Finding a true friend is as hard as finding a hubby, boyfriend, etc. but they are out there. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 5:04:42 AM | | Girlfriends...I don't believe I would have made it through my separation and divorce without them. They are as important as breathing in my life. If the kids are sick, the car has a funny noise, to help with retail therapy, who really care about the difference between ecru, antique white and honey vanilla, who notice your new pedicure, and who are simply friends. If you don't have these woman, FIND them. Look in your local newspaper for volunteer opportunities, join clubs (biking, gardening, skiing, whatever), connect with the PTA at school, get involved with the Relay for Life, or get to know your neighbors. I believe you are missing a vital connection without having girlfriends. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 5:12:10 AM | | It helps if you openly express hostility for men. Then you will easily form fast friendships with other bitter women. It has nothing to do with bisexuality. Nearly every woman has a story of how "he done me wrong". It is a sisterhood. Read the forums for abundant examples of this social dynamic. | |
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