| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 6:35:42 AM | I was just wondered, guys.......
It you receive a message from a woman you are not interested in, are you tempted to use the "shock" factor in your reply as an attempt to make her run ?
Do ya just say somethin' totally off the wall or vulgar....even though it's not your style of impressing some women?
I'm serious. Is this some kind of "flyswatter" insurance that she never makes contact again?
It's sorta like this "watch this......hold my beer, while I get rid of this one" plot? Cuz it works ! It really does. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 7:05:45 AM | No.
If it's sincere, I'll try and respond in kind.
If it's a whack job, and I sense my bunny is about to be boiled, I might be more direct - but not "shocking". | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 7:16:53 AM | Yes, of course. In fact I ask them to hold these two bare wires while I go plug them into the wall. The straighter their hair gets the more I know they won't be coming back.
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 8:23:52 AM | Oh that's so sad. Is it the anonymity of it?...knowing you'll never have to account for this lewdness? Or is it just for fun?
Jeesh....I'm sure they're are "bunny boilers" out there, but dang....isn't politeness something to attain as a social grace? | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 9:14:26 AM | | I can't speak for all, but i do try and respond in a way that I would like be responded to if the shoe was on the other foot. Perhaps those who decide to treat someone poorly are simply playing to their true nature and they are doing you a favour in revealing it. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 9:39:44 AM | | Ok first off, I've got to be honest by admitting that for the really terrible messages I receive (watz up ur 2 cute!), the urge to respond with something ridiculous is very tempting. In the end, though, I always respond as I would prefer uninterested people respond to me: politely | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 9:41:01 AM | No ..just be polite and sincere in your message that you don't feel that she is what you are currently looking for.
If they start getting nasty , you just block messages from them. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 10:30:55 AM | Hi Sunny Texas...
Q: "It you receive a message from a woman you are not interested in, are you tempted to use the "shock" factor in your reply as an attempt to make her run ?"
A: Never! The response is always respectable -one's writing does show who the person truly is.....
I was wondering what happened in your situation SunnyTexas? Hope you are okay!
Wishing you the best...
O:) | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 10:48:47 AM | | No I mean why be vulgar?They took the time to contact you why insult someone if im not interested,I usually respond with a thanks but I feel we wouldnt get along good luck.I mean how hard is this too do?Or sometimes there in another state so there is a distance issue for me. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 10:58:22 AM | | Not trying to be accusatory, but if it's happened a few times it might be you. Not your messages, but you might be attracted to jerks. Face it, only a jerk would respond to politeness with vulgarity. And you're the one initiating contact. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 11:41:02 AM | | I always respond the way I would want someone to respond to me. Politely. Too many rude people in this world and I refuse to be one of them. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 12:54:06 PM | | Your answer was hilarious, I'm still laughing thanks | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 12:58:55 PM | To RANDOM ENTRY
I'm still laughing at you answer
thanks | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 3:16:32 PM | That's just the little boy coming out. Giggling at poo-poo and pee-pee jokes (not that I'm any where NEAR beyond that ability...). But yeah, tactless and puerile. Even if I get an email from someone that I'm just not interested in, I either just give a friendly "hearty hand shake good luck out there" response or just flat out ignore it (which I KNOoooww is bad, I'm sorry, I'm sorry...).
Although once when someone was im-ing me and she obvioulsy seemed more interested in how I could get her a job than my own charming self I was thhhhhiiiiissss close to beginning a discussion about the awe and glory of the penis. I chickened out, though, and just let the conversation get boring. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/13/2007 7:17:41 PM |
It's sorta like this "watch this......hold my beer, while I get rid of this one" plot? Cuz it works ! It really does.
Really? Works huh?
Hmm... I'd never do that (while taking notes) LOL   | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/14/2007 6:23:20 AM | (sunny grabs scorpio-dude's pencil, breaks into a jillion pieces)
Why would you wanna study a$$hole-ology ? I certainly don't wanna teach it !
You got better things to do with that pencil....
You shall stay in at recess and write "I will respect women" 1,ooo times.
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/14/2007 7:05:44 AM | | The guys who are doing this are just unhappy people who feel the need to belittle others so they aren't alone feeling like the losers they really are. They don't do it to scare you off. They do it to hurt you or disgust you. When you get email like that just tell yourself "another scared insecure little man". | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 8/14/2007 8:13:08 AM | fit funny, that's what I was thinkin' too.
I ain't givin' 'em the satisfaction. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:29:09 PM | I thought I would resurrect this old thread.
Evidentially men still believe this is the way to go instead of being polite, totally shock the woman by saying something in their reply like how they hate games, don't have time for 'em, when for goodness sakes. All you did was reach out to them, make initial contact, isn't that what we're supposed to do here on POF ?
It really hurts my feelings. But maybe, they are smartin' from a woman's smack...but heck...I didn't do it. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:41:05 PM | | If I could play the role of devil's advocate for a moment, perhaps the guy feels if you see him as a jerk or a **stard, that'll soften the blow for you and make it easier for you to disconnect from him. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:43:30 PM | No; that would be lame to be mean to someone and play head games. I try to be myself and thats it.
Being real is the best way I think. Playing games, and using techniques and trying to play with someones feelings is not cool. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:54:57 PM | Naturally, being forthright would be the way to go, but for whatever reason people tend to not go that route most of the time.
Or you could just do what happens to us guys most of the time and hit 'em with the dreaded "Unread/Read Deleted" message, usually drives the point home. | |
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| The shock factor?
Posted: 6/30/2008 6:15:03 PM | No being crass is uncalled for. I don't appreciate it. I'll give you an example I was on another "space" and I wished someone a happy easter. They responded "as if fatty."
I most likely would tell them thanks but I'm not looking for someone to date right now. (The truth, I've given up for a while.)
I believe that you should always be nice and kind to people until they show themselves to be rude.
We are all on here to have a nice time so why be the party pooper.  | |
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