| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 8/13/2007 12:52:43 PM | Here's the scenerio: You meet a man on a dating site who is considered long distance. You have online chats, talks on the phone and exchange emails for a period of about 2-3 months. You're hitting it off really well and making some definite connections w/each other. You finally decide to meet so you make some plans for a long weekend together. You meet and find that you are having a really great time together. At that point you even talk about getting together in the future as well.
You get home......you can't believe what an awesome time you've had together and are most definitely looking forward to the next. You go online to check your email on the dating site. You decide to take a peek at your friend's profile w/whom you've just spent a great weekend with to admire his pics. Hmmmmm.....You notice that his profile says, "Active w/i the last 2 days." You think to yourself, very, very, interesting......that means that he was on that singles site while you were there w/him. You think to yourself......."How very classsy......Oh man.......not cool!....SOOOOOO not cool!" What would ever possess a guy to go on a dating site WITH his gf there. What gives? Is this a new trend in the online dating world. Have we become sooooooo obsessed with having so much access to women/men at our fingertips that we can't even muster up the willpower to refrain from peeking online to see if someone else is interested in us???????? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 12:58:06 PM | Sorry to hear that, Hazel, as that would really bite if it were true.
Maybe some of the more experienced fishies can explain if there is a way this site/system can make him appear to look like he was on-line, when in fact he wasn't???
Best of luck
*C* | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:03:57 PM | | gf...friend.....whatever you want to call it! I'm smart enough to know that it takes time to become exclusive. But.....damn...have the common courtesy to pay attention to the one who traveled to see ya in the first place. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:06:26 PM | I feel you may be over reacting OP
has anyone ever said you may be a drama queen or anything like that?
as you do seem to be over reacting | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:07:12 PM | I don't know about anyone else, but even when I've gone out on dates from this site, I'm STILL interacting with people from PoF. Check the email the forums etc etc etc... not even really trolling for tail or whatnot.. just come across some people that I dig yappin' with and find entertaining in my twisted little world. Besides, yeah... one date and y'all are supposed to be exclusive?
Heck, I've even yapped with people/friends on this site about a date I was JUST on... cut the poor fella some slack, is all I'm saying before you cast judgement on his hinder. If, however, it turns out he is a DAWG... toss the creep. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:17:47 PM |
What would ever possess a guy to go on a dating site WITH his gf there.
Does HE know you are his girlfriend? This was, according to your post, the first time you met in person, AND had only been chatting for at most 3 months.
How does "girlfriend" fit in there?
And your judgement call that you were "hitting it off really well and making some definite connections w/each other" might have just been your opinion. It just doesn't sound like he is that into you. Or he just wanted the one time fling. That thrill of new territory is very hard to dismiss.... | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:43:30 PM | | I'm just wondering where he was staying during your meeting. If you were spending evenings apart and he was somewhere he could access the internet is it not possible that he checked his e-mail and got a message saying someone sent him an e-mail, so he logged on to reply to the person? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 2:17:44 PM | | I stayed w/him. Guess I'm a little different when giving people consideration. It shows a lot of weakness regarding class, character and bad judgement. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 2:20:53 PM | | Seriously, maybe he was visiting/posting in the Forums! They are addictive! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 2:27:41 PM | | I agree with ur post..it would be very rude to do that no matter what. But mind you...maybe someone he knows could have logged in? I would see if it happens again, if so maybe ask casually about it...and if it is him..well ...move on...cuz I would be upset over that to...internet dating is not something I have done in months because of all the diff ways people are today...I just come to read these forums once in a while when I am bored and ur's is one I would be looking into if I was you. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 2:33:49 PM | I enjoy talking on the forums, and I also have friends that I chat with on here, just because he has logged into the site doesn't mean he is looking to find himself another date, or g/f if you so choose to say. Some people get alot of mail and he could have been just checking them out, I had a g/f who I meet on here and while we were going out she knew that I was still talking on the forums and to firends that I have on here, she got alittle jealouse and asked if I could stop, and me not wanting to hurt her feelings said OK, eventhough I explained to her what I was doing.
If your that worried about it ASK him and get the low down on whats happening in your"relationship". | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 2:46:05 PM | What would ever possess a guy to go on a dating site WITH his gf there At what point did you become his girlfriend?? Did I miss something in reading your
story. My impression- you met, hit it off great, spent the weekend- did other
stuff- when did you become his girlfriend-
In your mind you became his girlfriend because you left out the part where you
guys discussed changing your profiles or sharing one for the forums.
Oh didn't have that talk yet- well you need to have that talk with him
before you come on here bashing his ass for doing something everyone does here
before "the talk". You want him to have courtesy for you because you met
him for a weekend- Look what you are dealing with here- a dating site.
He meets you, he likes you. You like him. Now no two people look at this
the same way.
It shows his class and character-
well lets hop on the moral train for a ride shall we-
You stayed with a total stranger for a weekend- yeah okay then.
Class and character.
curlygrl~ | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 2:49:03 PM | your wording OP... seems to be words of a possessive, jealous person. you are maybe thinking he won't get back with you and has dumped you? so your making a big deal out of nothing?
if thats not what your doing...
I have no idea what could possibly be the issue you have | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 2:50:45 PM | He was obviously paying attention to you. Did you notice him go online?... Maybe he has a male friend who he talks to on the site and needed advice mid weekend...
Way over-reacting with no information... | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 2:54:56 PM | | I agree with the OP that her making the LD trip to be with him deserves - justifies something more than a mere date. On the other hand, I insist, she should check on his record of postings just in case his being on POF was due to posting in the Forums. Nuff said! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:00:18 PM |
maybe someone he knows could have logged in?
Her point is that she is miffed that he even got onto the computer, so seeing someone he knows logged in is kind of moot....
Yep, jealous and controlling actions. And quite presumptuous to call yourself his girlfriend. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:01:05 PM | Hellooooooooooooooo anybody out ther w/morals anymore???
I did ask him about it and he admitted that he was indeed online.
I am not torn to pieces over this. I was simply wondering if this is the trend of thigs to come. And where do you draw the line? If you've just been intimate w/someone and you find out that he's online checking his email from a singles site......ahhhh, I would think that that would be considered a bit rude and tacky. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:04:41 PM | "You go online to check your email on the dating site. You decide to take a peek at your friend's profile w/whom you've just spent a great weekend with to admire his pics. Hmmmmm.....You notice that his profile says, "Active w/i the last 2 days."
Soo...you go online after this fabulous weekend to check your email. That would mean you're here, would it not? How would he know you're not here trolling for dates, as you have assumed he might be.
Sorry hon, if you think about it, the whole assumption on your part being here yourself to check on him has pot/kettle/black written all over it.
If you're someone's "girlfrieind" IE in an exclusve relationship, there's no indication on your profile of such. You're listed as "divorced" and looking for men for "dating". | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:06:25 PM |
I stayed w/him. Guess I'm a little different when giving people consideration. It shows a lot of weakness regarding class, character and bad judgement
ummm...but didnt you come back to the dating site to check your messages?
You did state that in your first post....so that makes you no better then him...He just got to his computer first. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:07:09 PM | | So you slept with him and that's what makes you think you're his gf. I think looking at you're profile, playing in the forums or just the catching up on emails thing , are a good enough excuse . What kind of contact have you had with him since you've been home? Did you blow him off ? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:09:41 PM | If you've just been intimate w/someone and you find out that he's online checking his email from a singles site......ahhhh, I would think that that would be considered a bit rude and tacky.
Yeah it is rude and tacky like checking voicemail on a coffee meet. But, look
what you are dealing with. Its a dating site. You checked your mail- did you
not- how else would you know he was here.
Hellooooooooooooooo anybody out ther w/morals anymore??? please stop saying shit like this- you are opening yourself up for your behavior
too. Not everyone sees spending the weekend with someone they just met as"moral" around here.
curlygrl~ | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:12:29 PM | | I have morals...lol and you are telling me this guy is away with a woman for the weekend and he is such a loser that he would have to go online to check messages or read forums..lol, please...OP ur right..sorry, I find most people on this online dating are odd in there ways of thinking..if u have nothing better to do then be away and just have ot check ur dating site emails come on, get a life...if he came on it was not just to check messages..check them when u get home... | |
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