| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 4:34:43 PM | Tell me ladies...does age really matter when you meet someone or are looking for someone...eg if a guy was in his mid 40's...what is the age range that would probably be comfortable dating him.. Same with mid 30's | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 5:00:20 PM | If age didn't matter, they wouldn't put pedophiles in jail.
Personally I'd only feel comfortable going 10 years up or 10 down. | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 5:15:14 PM | Mid 40's works for me!  Its hard to say what everyone's preference is...it depends on maturity level and common interests. I tend to look more for my age (41) or older...but they all want the younger chicks  so that has been steering me for late 40's/early 50's. I have quite a few younger men message me...not sure how I'd feel about that...I guess I would have to meet them and see what we have in common. I don't think I could go younger than 35 though | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 5:20:32 PM | Not all 40 year olds look 40... some look 60... so it depends more concerning LOOKS as to HOW that person has aged... rather than the age.
I met this woman one time in NYC... she was an attorney and a friend of my fathers.
I thought she was about 40....
later my father told me she was in her 70's and I thought he was BS'ing... I looked her name up online and did some research... she WAS in fact in her 70's...
ever since then...
I have never looked at age the same way. I just couldnt believe it and I am not easy to fool with age.
I've also met people in their 20's who are fat, out of shape, bad skin, sun damage... looked 40 or older... and a bad 40 at that !
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you just never know.
Of course there is more to a person than just age or looks... but the outside is what first attracts us and we are drawn inward to want to know that person...
(maybe we will like them and maybe not ?....)
or repelled and want to run away screaming.
my husband is 2 years younger than me... | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 5:36:15 PM | | If someone is in their 20's I don't mind, as long as maturity is there. Some guys want to party or girl chasing, or want to start a family. In that case they wouldn't be right for me. And if they are older than me, as long as they are not in their 50's or older where I feel like I'm talking to my father.. I wouldn't be comfortable at all! | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 5:44:09 PM | Age is just a number. I think it depends on them. I have dates as young as 17 years younger and as much as 15 years older. The person is where it is at. Not the actual number.
good Luck | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:02:15 PM | | yes it's about the person and the attraction two people feel. my current is 18 years younger. I wish we were closer in age...but I'll just enjoy it while it lasts. I have had great times with him....not one bad day together in four months. | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:14:43 PM | | I am not so sure its the age but rather the life experiences, personality, things in common and whether or not they look their age. | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:46:07 PM | Yes and no.
Yes in that age usually connotes experience, and experience is what changes our mindsets. It's obviously going to seem odd if a 45 year old man was dating an 18 year old girl.
And No in that one's mindset can exist/evolve indifferently to one's age, so as long as two people are in a similar mindset (AKA maturity), they should be compatible enough to make a relationship work. For example, if a female, chronologically aged 21 had the mindset of the average 28 year-old, it wouldn't be out of the question for her to date a 32 year-old man with the mindset of an average 28 year-old.
They would mesh.
PS. I intended no insult to men by using that example. | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:47:53 PM | | I agree with lostindecisions..........it's about life experiences and personality and the individual themselves.......not about the age of a person. Most of all though......it has to do with what you and the person you are dating are comfortable with. Age IS just a number.....it's you who decides whether to make that an issue or not!! Happy fishing!! | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:52:21 PM | I'm 40. Although I have ages 36 to 47 in my profile, I'd be most comfortable only going maybe 2 years younger or 5 years older than me. I added a couple of years in both directions to allow for the fact that it's possible to meet someone between the ages I chose that might be an exception to my "rule," (which isn't set in stone by any means.)
Only it appears that very few men within 11 years have much interest in talking to me. I think a lot of men in those age groups are looking for someone much younger than I am. I mostly get guys in their 20's and in their 60's. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2007 7:02:39 PM | | I guess I am one of those "cougar" types...lol.. Since my divorce, I have dated mostly younger men. I am not sure why exactly. The two men I dated who were 3+ years older than I was seemed really old to me. I am sure it was just those two in particular, but I still favore younger ones. And when I say younger I mean 1-5 years younger. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2007 8:17:51 PM | I don't want to date someone too old....
What if they needed Viagra and they were horrible in bed?
That's my phobia and I'm sticking to it............ | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/15/2007 8:29:09 PM | I got the opposite effect, I just turned 50 in Feb and still race motorcycles and feel 35 or younger and in great health. I get a lot contacts from 50+ woman and they seem not my style.
How do a attract the 30-45 year olds.? The search functions here puts me in a problem state.
I look 35.....
see my profile
Shawn | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/16/2007 3:44:47 AM | | I don't think of myself as a cougar...I never have purposely gone after a much younger man. They've most often pursued me. And I'm more attracted to them and seem to get along better with them. I made it a point a few years ago, to just stop, and date older men...that was a disaster. They say younger men are all about sex....well, guess what? so are the older dudes. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2007 4:55:49 AM | Congrats, Bellydancer and Mate! Good luck to you.
Age is what your body looks like. Compatibility is what your souls feel like together. | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/16/2007 8:07:17 AM | [Age is what your body looks like. Compatibility is what your souls feel like together.]- TSK_F8
That's the best put way of explaining it, I have ever seen. Maturity & life experience vary so much
from one individual to the next. My last husband was 12 years younger than me & we were a
much better match than the previous 3 who were all older than me. My current S/O is only 3
years younger than me. When I first started online dating 3 years ago, I was constantly being
messaged by younger guys, & I often find myself more attracted to them as well. But the one
thing that you have to watch in any age-disparate relationship like this, is that they might
want to have kids later & for me, that's not an aption any more | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/16/2007 8:23:29 AM |
I don't want to date someone too old....
What if they needed Viagra and they were horrible in bed?
That's my phobia and I'm sticking to it............
 erectile dysfunction is actually a pre-diabetic symtom. Comes from $hitty eating habits. If he takes care of himself you won't have anyyyyyyy problems there. | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/16/2007 8:33:46 AM | | Maybe mid 40s will work for me when I get to my mid 40s...my range younger is much larger than my range older. For now, in my experience it's generally been too old for me. | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/16/2007 9:57:10 AM | I have always liked men of my own age or older, but never guys that are younger.
For me it's more of the mindset of the man than the age. I have seen men and women in their 20's acting like they are in their 70's.
I'm 35 and I have been contacted men who are 50, which I could easily go out with since their mindset have been similar than mine. They like to travel, they are interested on so many things etc. But if they would try to be somekind of father figure or authority figure over me then no I would not date men like that. But there are plenty of men my age who think what is best for women.
I suppose what I'm trying to say that I would go up 15 years depending of course of the man's mindset, and lower maybe 1-3 years. | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/16/2007 10:17:34 AM | | I just have to vent. I'm 53 and people on this site ,in the workplace and in the real world treat me like Im a senior citizen. Seems like 50 is some kind of cutoff point for many. I can keep up with many people half my age. I've never experianced this kind of predudice in my lifetime. I've never been one to lie about my age but I'm starting to reconsider. Any thoughts out there on overcoming stereotypes? | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/16/2007 10:20:53 AM | My general rule is at least 6 years older than I am, and no more than 20. But that's my personal preference.
"Older" men make me drool.  | |
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Posted: 8/16/2007 10:31:11 AM | I just have to vent. I'm 53 and people on this site ,in the workplace and in the real world treat me like Im a senior citizen. Seems like 50 is some kind of cutoff point for many. I can keep up with many people half my age. I've never experianced this kind of predudice in my lifetime. I've never been one to lie about my age but I'm starting to reconsider. Any thoughts out there on overcoming stereotypes?
Not sure why people your age aren't giving you a chance. Sounds like hypocrisy to me. | |
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| Does age really matter
Posted: 8/16/2007 10:38:04 AM | Age does matter to an extent.. Did anyone watch the show Age of Love?
Sure a 30 year old man could date a women in there 40's.. But if he wants to have children still it may not be in his best interest.
I would date somone 10-15 years older then me.. But I always think.. What happens if they pass away at 70ish and then I am still only 55... | |
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