| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 4:05:58 PM | I have never in my life been approached by a guy
I'm not sure if I just look so crazy that they are scared of me, or if they think i'm ugly. Either way i'm too shy to approach guys myself.
I need to learn how to do this
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 4:39:12 PM | Well, you certainly have a beautiful face so that's certainly not the problem... the black nose ring might be a bad idea, could try switching that out with a silver one or something (otherwise it looks kinda like you have some serious nose hair overgrowth, especially from a distance)
As for your body... why don't you have any pictures showing the rest of you? You do list that you're slightly overweight... without showing exactly what that means it may tend to make guys think you're in worse shape than you really are and if you ARE a big girl, big guys might be intimidated by your face and think they're not in shape enough for YOU so it's a double-edged sword and pretty much scares everyone off... I for one wonder why these sites don't just make you fill in exact weight instead of using stupid vague descriptions of body type... if I have to state my height (which women are VERY judgemental on), why don't women have to state their weight? Feh. Like I should be so lucky if I were able to just say "about average" for my height =p
Anyway so yeah, show the rest of you, it will help guys gauge how in-shape you are, it may sound shallow but again it's no different than judging people by height... you measure vertically, we measure horizontally, so deal.
If your body remotely matches your gorgeous face I'm sure guys should be hitting on you left and right and even if it doesn't it'll help the guys who are intimidated by your face pics feel more comfortable about their chances with you, but one other thing just being that the fact you do state you're slightly overweight AND have every single picture exclusively focused on your face also makes your insecurity about it shine like the friggin north star in the country sky... show a little confidence in yourself, confidence is sexy, insecurity isn't, doesn't matter if you're a guy or a girl those rules always apply, period. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 5:15:17 PM | look at me.I realize how hard that can be,if your shy.
you are far from ugly,in fact.....hahaha....if you looked at me with interest?Thats all it would take for me to approach you...and I'm shy.haha
If you actually do intimidate guys...then they aren't for you.Wait it out and don't settle.
thats my advice from the penut gallery | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 5:21:07 PM | you are beautiful, but...you are taking away from your beauty with that nose ring, actually it is very unhealthy to have one there, also ditch the one under you lip, dye your hair a soft color, lose the locks, as they tend to smell after awhile, change your glasses to a gold or silver wire, as you are very soft, feminine looking young girl. which is good, try that, then take new pics. you'll see the difference in no time.
good luck
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 5:35:09 PM | It's not your looks. I suspect it's an intimidation factor. After all you said... "I'm a brutally Honest and blunt person. I don't mean to be offensive, but it comes out that way sometimes. I am a dork, I am sarcastic, I have a very dry sense of humor.."
You're still young. Give it some time. After all life is a learning process. Eventually you'll do quite ok, I'm sure. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 5:37:42 PM | It's a problem, but unavoidable: The average person thinks they can read you like a book just by your appearence. Average guys probably find you intimidating, so they're too shy to talk to you ( I know I would be... ). I suggest that you try being the one to approach the guys.
I would love it if a girl like you asked me out.  | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 6:41:36 PM | bendlilin, we are allowed to give our opinions you know, read the rules, by the way, trolling is not allowed either, as i am not the only one who mentioned to change hair and piercing, one more ill report you, ive had it with people slamming me for my opinions.
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 6:50:20 PM | BornAUnicorn is a very beautiful person the way she is, and she shouldn't have to change herself to get a date.
Here's a tip: If there are several people who have a problem with you, it's more than likely that you're the problem, not them.
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 6:53:27 PM | plz read again what i said to her, oviously you didnt read it all, i did say she was beautiful .......dont be so rude for no reason. and why me? huh, others said to get rid of the nose ring, so why me? read my post carefully, and she asked for advice, incase you also didnt read that.
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 6:59:58 PM | Probably attracting the wrong sort of guys. Those that don't dig the nose rings or the punk lifestyle might be a bad choice to be gunning for. But I'd say overall you have a very good face and nice eyes. I'm not into the peircings myself...so that pretty much exludes me. Your not ugly...far from it. Good luck in your search.
*** let me just tack on to this. I can't believe no guy has ever approached you...I would think there are guys that would like to meet you. If not where you live then possibly in here. Somehow I think you will fair better in finding love then I will BornaUnicorn, if they haven't noticed you then...they sure as hell will now. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 7:02:31 PM | | you are a stunning girl. I don't think it is your looks. Perhaps you don't give off the "approachable" signal. You said you are shy, which leads me to think, you are likely to not make or hold eye contact. This is important. If you do not hold eye contact, most men will assume you are not interested....just my two cents...guys , if I am wrong here, I will put it back in my pocket. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 7:07:13 PM | | Not looking at a guy will definately not make him want to come over, you are right Real Brunette. You need to give a man a long look as if you and he are the only ones in the room. He will take notice and (if brave enough himself) make his way over to talk to you. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 7:23:23 PM | You're very good looking! Don't doubt it for a minute. However, I had to look really close to realize that was a nose ring. It looked like something else. Maybe a nicer looking nose ring. Something in silver?
Also, maybe try without the nose ring for a change. You ever try that? Or would you feel naked without it? | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 8:12:26 PM | Hmm, aparently this site supports people being shallow and segregation. :/
Oh well, I still know I'm the better person for not only crying about milk I spilt myself, and for not telling people to change who they are just to attract the opposite sex ( Besides, if you change who you are, you're only going to attract people that don't interest you... ). | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 8:45:08 PM | | seems to be a lot of banter about not changing one's appearance in order to gain the attention of the opposite sex (or same for that matter), whereas in fact, I personally think she has changed. Don't get me wrong, freedom of self expression is just that, and everyone is entitled to it, be it in how they dress, look, think or whatever have you, nothing wrong with that, but Born, why don't you try the "natural" you?, perhaps that would soften your image in other's eyes and more people will approach you. Nothing to lose in trying ........... | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 8:57:57 PM | There is nothing natural about anyone really
we all cut our hair and shave pluck and tweeze.
I didn't change myself for the opposite sex, I changed myself becuase I like myself better this way.
But I really didn't want to change this into an argument over the way people look | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 8:59:35 PM | BornAUnicorn
the shyness may be a factor in guys not approaching you. I myself am a very shy person and I don't recall ever having been approached by a girl... if guys are intimidated by your appearance, it's their loss. work on the shyness (easy for me to say!) and keep your head up!
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 9:17:15 PM | | Why is everyone gunning for her to change? She's comfortable with how she wants to express herself and already stated she is looking for guys that share the same style. I just think you need to have more eye contact and perhaps even give him a coy smile to show him you are infact looking right at him. Thats all... | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/9/2005 9:42:14 PM | | Russiancat i think it very ignorant of you to refer to her as having "clown looks" She is beautiful. There is something to be said about a young woman who can dress punk and carry it off with confidence. I think that you probably intimidate the men unicorn. Never change who you are for someone else. I do agree with maybe changing the nose ring .. but i think the rest of your is vibrant and original and some man will come along and love you for it.. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 5/10/2005 5:56:58 AM | Maybe it's just me but I thought the title of the post was...or am I just butt ugly...hence the reason I was focusing on the physical appearance. As far as knowing how to approach men...Just smile and say Hi, make a joke maybe, talk about the weather, make reference to the place you are...ie. Wow this is lame...Can't wait to get outta here...I look at it as the same as approaching a woman...casual convo, be friendly and then suggest a coffee? I do belive in NOT changing for anyone..this is true...however I thought you wanted advice about your looks...did't you?
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