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Posted: 8/17/2007 9:53:05 PM | Help please. I'm getting maybe one response to every 10 requests. Then when I do get a response I get nothing after I ask someone out. I want to get responses but only from people truely interested in dating. Am I telling too much about myself? Am I being too demanding? Does my pic suck? Am I being too serious? Little help here please.
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Posted: 8/17/2007 10:02:34 PM | Every paragraph of the many, many paragraphs you've written begins with "I". Take a look again and you'll see it. It makes for very tedious reading.
I'd rather read a profile 1/3 that length, that doesn't just make lists of adjectives like "I'm artistic," "I'm creative," and shows us, not tells us, what a fun and interesting person the author is. Focus on introducing yourself, not in telling every single thing you can think of.
Remember, communication a two-way street. Intrigue us with info about yourself, but don't forget to be interested in THEM, too. Listen twice as much as you talk. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2007 10:22:36 PM | Cr4p
You're right. I sound self absorbed. I had that initial thought but I figured I was talking about myself. I'm on it. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2007 10:29:33 PM | The thing that I picked up on is that you are an introvert. Get confident. If you can't do it on your own take a Dale Carnegie course.
Women like men who reak of confidence. Show some. Remember, no negatives in a profile, unless you are me. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2007 3:25:24 PM | Dale Carnegie? I've read all his stuff. Guess I'll pump myself up a bit. I was going for normal guy. I'm not conceited but I'm definately far above par.
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Posted: 8/21/2007 1:01:08 PM | | whats with all the negatives of what you don't want? is that what you have been getting? and to be honest your coming across as cheap with the lets go dutch or I will pick up a movie, or lets get some draft beer which is very cheap and you wonder why your not getting replies back? you are too serious, nothing fun about your profile or what you do, or even about the children (lets get past the first couple of dates) are you asking them out in the first email? are you being funny when you email? need to come across with confidence and not so negative. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 1:05:25 PM | | far above par? where? lets see that far above par type of guy. Normal type of guy? what woman wants normal? normal men are a dime a dozen out there. Woman want the strong type of guy that is going to be funny, mysterious, not give into their every wim, is going to set the tone for the relationship, is going to plan the date for the night (and it doesn't have to be expensive) but take the lead, step up to a true alpha male with out being controlling. Why are the badboys popular? | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 1:08:43 PM | I think you've gone a bit too far the other direction here. A good rule of thumb for your profile is to stay positive -- in other words, what you DO want, and not what you DON'T.
For instance, instead of saying, "I don't want someone who needs to be reassured all the time," consider saying something like, "I like independent people who believe in themselves." Or some such.
Leave off the pet peeves. They just end your "about me" on a negative note that isn't necessary. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 1:56:30 PM | | Damn I stepped into it. Ok I'll scrape what I can off and see what I can do with it. I just hate those things and they really are my pet peves. I was hoping to avoid people like that. I'd rather sit home watching CSI repeats than go out with someone neurotic. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 1:59:18 PM | OpheliaBonMot
Hope you don't mind if I quote you. =p | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 4:35:52 PM | Supreme pizza
I'm opinionated and very stubborn
Might want to consider re-wording that. That really does not sound like a quality anyone would be attracted to.
And in your headline hopeful is spelled wrong. (only one 'l')
I'm also very selfish with my personal time and choose my friends carefully and lovers even more carefully. . While I admire that you choose your friends carefully and lovers even more so, the fact that you are selfish with your personal time brings to mind an individual who doesn't have time for a relationship and will leave a girl hanging. Might want to reword without the word selfish.
How about a few more pics.
Also, where is the warmth? I don't feel any in your profile.
Sorry, I don't mean to sound harsh, but I don't wish to mislead either.
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Posted: 8/21/2007 4:41:57 PM | Thought - I bet you can smile - throw a picture up of you with a big smile.
Shorten the first date - I didn't even read all of it because I got tired.
I think you have a solid base. Stay positive and smile.
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Posted: 8/21/2007 5:12:50 PM | You're good looking chap - a close-up of your face/shoulders would be nicer tho and lose the computers in the background and a little grin would be nice - girls go for nice eyes which it looks like you have.
The list of qualities a girl would need maybe a little intimidating - you don't have to lay down a checklist at this stage, just say what you like, what you don't like and try some humor.
Some of your comments make you sound a bit severe/bitter - you know it's just a starting point and you will find out about other stuff later.
I'd also put in some other interests - what is CG (computer games?) Compositing? - maybe you could find an interest that a female could talk about if she wanted to contact you? (erm - I dunno, painting/theatre/dance/film something/anything).
Get rid of the first date stuff completely - it's a stupid question anyway (unless you can think of something funny and or ridiculous to put in its place) - you'll work out first date once you've found someone you want to meet - you might chat to someone who is into computer games so you might wanna meet at a convention.
Please soften it down - am sure you'll have them flocking if you do :-D x | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 9:34:31 PM | Your profile sounds very selfish, loaded with your problems...........old baggage...you know 
I liked your replies at the forums but when I checked your profile - I would never choose you for a date.
I understand that it's probably your honest description, but what do you expect to meet?
Dutch.......first date? Free night out? Do you know how much a woman spend to look her best when she is nervous to meet you first time?
When I am not dating my expenses are twice less.....and I never pay the tabs
I CAN AFFORD to pay but I won't date such men. I don't need free meal - I am not that hungry....and it's not about money
Sorry......just my opinion | |
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