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 Anazdaddy
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 1
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I know that some people who break up or divorce continue to have sex or even become FWB after a divorce, but I am curious if anyone who has gone through a breakup of a long term relationship or divorce has had a preplanned day or night of "farewell" sex..where you both know it's your last time and want to go out with a bang.
 JonnyBoy239
Joined: 6/18/2007
Msg: 2
farewell sex
Posted: 8/20/2007 8:42:00 AM
No. The way my marriage ended, not possible.
 cindy_z
Joined: 10/30/2006
Msg: 3
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Posted: 8/20/2007 8:42:45 AM
Yes, it was a long term relationship
 Nick Thinker
Joined: 2/10/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 8/20/2007 8:43:36 AM
Well, in principle, every time a man and a woman (or two people anyway) have sex together it should be AS IF (in terms of passion) it is the first and the last time! So, yeah!
 SlowHandMan44
Joined: 2/15/2007
Msg: 5
farewell sex
Posted: 8/20/2007 8:45:05 AM
No........ once it is over, it's OVER. Why drag each other thru the mud again and again?

 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 6
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Posted: 8/20/2007 9:00:52 AM
hehehe Gotta laugh at this one - 'cause the sex ended long before the marriage - I just couldn't have sex with someone I didn't love anymore!! However I had another relationship where I had to have that closure and did have that farewell sex. We did know it would be the last time, although neither of us said anything until I walked out the door - I was still in love sadly!
 burnr
Joined: 2/5/2007
Msg: 7
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Posted: 8/20/2007 9:36:30 AM
Yup, it helped for a very amicable break-up. We both still fancied the hell out of each other, we just couldn't get on together on a day-2-day basis. We had a lovely lunch together, shed a few tears together, had fantastic sex together and then went our separate ways. Never set eyes on her since.

Anyhoo, "well, hello again sex" is the new "farewell sex". I have probably slept with over half of my exes again after bumping in to them at a much later date (sometimes after many years). On all occasions, I had found myself single, still physically attracted to the ex in question, totally upfront that I was not looking for a reconciliation (apart from the one occasion that I actually was) and both of us had a great time. There was non of that awkwardness that can sometimes occur on a first time with a new partner as we both already knew what the other liked and felt comfortable with that person in a sexual way.
 Nick Thinker
Joined: 2/10/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 8/20/2007 9:41:29 AM
Of course, it depends on the reasons and conditions under which there is the split up.
 Brandyboo
Joined: 4/11/2006
Msg: 9
farewell sex
Posted: 8/20/2007 9:52:49 AM
Ya...I had farewell sex with a guy I met on here...but didn't know at the time it was farewell sex...lol...farewell sex is the same thing as break up sex...I found that out the hard way...some men can be such jerk offs at times... ...o well...his loss...the sex was good......I take that back...it was my loss to...one thing for sure is...if I had of known that I wasn't going to see him again...and everything he told me was bull shit that night...there would have been no sex at all...UPDATE...DAM...Hawkins...I still can't figure it out...why you have to have sex with your hands...
 Hawkins
Joined: 9/15/2006
Msg: 10
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Posted: 8/20/2007 10:01:18 AM
everytime I have sex with my hands I tell them it's the last time....but damn...best sex every so go back all the time lol
 sunspots57
Joined: 7/4/2007
Msg: 11
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Posted: 8/20/2007 10:36:31 AM
Most of the people I know who are divorced, the sex stopped long before the relationship ended. If you're planning to have "farewell sex"...IMO the relationship is still salvagable.
 mysteriouslady1
Joined: 8/16/2007
Msg: 12
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Posted: 8/20/2007 11:17:20 AM
no once it is over it is over.
 morganaca
Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 13
farewell sex
Posted: 8/20/2007 12:02:04 PM
nope would not torture myself in a good nights sleep after a few minutes of what he calls sex.
 4phrodite
Joined: 7/2/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 8/20/2007 12:06:25 PM
Oh yes.... God had blessed the man with an amazing physique but at the expense of anything really substantial in the intellectual department .

It would have been rude not to
 Denim and Pearls
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 15
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farewell sex
Posted: 8/20/2007 12:10:34 PM
Better use of my time would be making microwave popcorn. Those 3 minutes can never be relived.
 Bikeman_
Joined: 10/8/2005
Msg: 16
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Posted: 8/20/2007 12:49:02 PM
I did this once, I probably will not do it again with a relationship. My girlfriend and I a week prior planned to spend the day together. Before the date I made my mind up to break up with her. Upon visiting her at her house I told her I wanted to break up but would commit to spending the day as we had planned because I don't like reneging on a promise. She cried, I remained firm in my belief that we were through as a couple. Well we spent the day together, went back to her place, sat on the couch, yada yada yada WE HAD FAREWELL SEX. I went home, a week went by, she called me and asked if I had changed my mind, I said no, and we never saw each other again.

I don't think this was very fair to her, but it was almost 10 years ago so please forgive me.
 HSJS
Joined: 7/7/2007
Msg: 17
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Posted: 8/20/2007 1:04:43 PM
I have had farwell sex many times! The problems I always encounter is, that I did not know it at the time. If you have the ability to plan farewell sex, then the relationship is far from over. So it would be an impossibility for that sex to truly be the last time.

I have heard of newly minted divorced couples having sex with each other. Usually the ex-hubby comes over to fix the washing machine, over the watchful and distrustful eye of the ex-wife. Then both realize; no one is there and no one is looking. So they both lapse into a hot fast and furious flash f--k. It's more like; I have this insatiable itch and I know you know how, to scratch it the right way.

But my feelings are, that it can only prolong the heart break and sadness, that is indemic with divorce.

Maybe in the future we can have the persons sexual talents transferred to another and have the farwell sex with a stranger. Now thats the stuff of a great SciFi movie!
 GreatAttitude
Joined: 1/3/2007
Msg: 18
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Posted: 8/20/2007 1:10:57 PM
I think I would cry.

I'll pass.
 1TallMomma
Joined: 6/2/2006
Msg: 19
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Posted: 8/20/2007 2:11:04 PM
Yea I had farewell sex with the last guy I was in a long term relationship with...

See Exhibit C: Baby #3...
 SassySky
Joined: 7/28/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 8/20/2007 2:21:50 PM
everytime I have sex with my hands I tell them it's the last time....but damn...best sex every so go back all the time lol
Loved that response.
Nope, not me when it is over it is over. I think personally to be intimate with someone
my heart has to be involved. When it is over it is over heart is moving on.
 rosie652
Joined: 2/4/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/20/2007 3:25:27 PM
ohhhh,i think it would hurt having goodbye sex,most of my breakups have turned bitter tho so probley not to goood an idea
 Wishes Granted
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 22
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Posted: 8/20/2007 4:31:23 PM
How melancholy!!!
 Jhunl
Joined: 2/4/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/20/2007 4:55:37 PM
Looking back I think I may have had 'farewell sex' without letting the other person know...that would have been in my youth..

As a more mature person I am guilty too...you know when you look at each other and everything is amicable and you just say..."What the heck" or "for old times sake"...It can be liberating and the start of a great friendship when done right!!
 justmeandmax
Joined: 6/4/2007
Msg: 24
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Posted: 8/20/2007 5:37:12 PM

Better use of my time would be making microwave popcorn. Those 3 minutes can never be relived.


LMAO That is too funny and one of the reasons you always test drive before you buy.
 jeepgurl82
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 8/20/2007 9:07:04 PM
I had farwell sex with my ex husband. It totally grossed me out too!
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