| | Whats the best way to...........Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Whats the best way to get over someone that is stuck in your heart and you know thats its not gonna work between you two. She has my mind boggled like whoa......please help. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 6:02:54 AM | It's not an easy thing to cope with .. it's not an easy question to answer
I guess it's just time .. i'm sure it must get easier
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Posted: 8/21/2007 6:40:38 AM | I guess thats one way of putting it.....I am tryin to be tough about this and all I do is think of all the great times....but nothing has worked yet.  | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 6:43:41 AM | The best way- spend time with your friends and family.
Heal yourself. Believe me when you are ready you will know.
It could take a long time but thats okay. Live your life. Open
yourself up to new things and new people. Try to see that this
is a learning experience for you and from this will come great
insight for your next relationship. There is no time table and don't
give yourself one. Just heal one day at a time.
Think of the great times but also remember why it did not work.
There is a reason it did not go on. Make sure that you come to terms
with the real reasons why it did not last. Don't romaticize it - it was
rough and you need to remember that the bad has outweighed the good.
Thats why it is over.
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Posted: 8/21/2007 6:53:05 AM |
Think of the great times but also remember why it did not work.
There is a reason it did not go on. Make sure that you come to terms
with the real reasons why it did not last. Don't romaticize it - it was
rough and you need to remember that the bad has outweighed the good.
Thats why it is over.
curlygrl~ .
Thanks I think You gave the best answer yet. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 7:23:10 AM | | distract yourself with something you know that person didnt like to do, it helps to remember yourself...ie> if that person didnt like football, go play alot of football, might not be the best soulution, but it's sure gratifying lol | |
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nik19
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Posted: 8/21/2007 7:39:09 AM | | Id say stay away from dating in general until your over this person. You will end up doing damage wether its to yourself or someone else. You always seem to make stupid decisions when your hurting....there are alot of things i've done that I cant take back because I was hurt. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 10:09:58 AM | All I can do is tell you what i did. You go through all of your space and get rid of anything that reminds you of her/him. Cut the sentimental stuff out. I'm not joking. Everything. This is called disconnecting if I'm not mistaken. It must be total and complete. I don't care if someone gave you a diamond studded bracelet. Hock it. Trash it. whatever.
Once you do this it is final. You will start feeling better almost immidiately. I'm not kidding.
No love notes, no trinkets, no pics, no souvenirs, no clothing......nothing. It works every time.
Oh, and don't give anything to your mother to hang onto for you.....just in case. You will stay locked in to that person. lol | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 10:37:46 AM | It just takes time it will feel like forever and then one day you will wake up and be completly surprised. It will not hurt so much anymore and you will be able to move on.
Do get rid of everything that remindes you of her and try to avoid the things you did together. Don't bother mutual friends about what she is doing if at all possiable avoid all mutual friends.
It is really hard but it is doable..... Good luck | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 11:32:18 AM | | It's ok that you keep the good of the love you once had in your heart - it's now a part of you - but know that life has taken you in different directions for a reason. So go on and live life happily - with the joy in your heart you once felt - because that good will help you to find it again with someone who will reciprocate your love! | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 11:34:36 AM | You said it deerdog.
best way to get over a woman is to get on top of another one
It is the only real cure.
It is like, if the horse throws you, don't get back on. Get another horse. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 12:07:49 PM | Let me first say that a broken heart is the worst, it's like a death, a death of a relationship, and you have to go through a grieving peroid. What is a positive in all this is that you recognized that it wasn't going to work. Always listen to your inner voice. It will tell you what you need to know. Everyone will tell you that in time it will get better, and you know what , it will. Time does and will ease the pain. Be strong.
Diana
Virginia Beach | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 1:26:47 PM | It takes time, but time doesn't work either if you're not filling that time. What it takes to get over someone is to fill up your time so that you aren't thinking about that person on a constant basis.
Occupy yourself with work, hobbies, and dates. I understand that you probably don't feel like dating someone else, but it's a good and fun way to occupy your evenings. Fun has got to be the best cure for feeling down. The best part is that you may actually find someone else who takes the last person off your mind.
Don't worry about getting into another relationship right away though, just have fun (that doesn't mean you have to go have sex with somebody), you're probably not going to be ready for another relationship right away. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 1:52:15 PM | Been there girlfriend, it sux. You feel like you're in your very own emotional prison. Eventually though, you do get to the other side and you can view it from a whole other perspective.
For me it was when I was finally totally and completely in acceptance that no matter what happened, it would never ever work. That took time, years as a matter of fact. It hurt like hell and I'll always love the person but thankfully I was able to move on. A year later I've met a great guy and the relationship is amazing. This one does and will work.
Walk towards the light my young friend, an emotional prison is a bad place to be.
:))
Witchy | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 1:54:24 PM | | I broke and trained race horses. i got thrown off and had to get back. thats how i made my living. You have a life and if you want to live it then you will need to get back on or into it. just be glad that you didnt spend most of your life with someone that did not love you like i did. my ex wants me to marry her again but i want someone that will truley love me. Dont be anyones fool. Nebula | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 4:03:22 PM | | There are pressure points on your face and hands that can easily be used to remove any invasive thoughts or feelings, even those related to age old trama.... I will edit my preferences wo you can email me if you want so I can send you a picture of it and explain it to you... it works.. you can be free of whatever images and thoughts, even traumatics ones within say three or four minutes... drop me aline if you wish. | |
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tdoub
| | Joined: 6/21/2006
Msg: 21 | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 7:00:15 PM | | This is to marsforme....Wow, that sounds great!! Would you edit the preferences so that I can email you and receive one of those emails too?? I would dearly love to know more about the pressure points and technique you mention. Much Thanks! | |
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Ron9
| | Joined: 8/10/2004
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Posted: 8/21/2007 7:51:59 PM | - take your focus off of them put it on yourself (stop making them important - they are no longer important)
- stop trying to live in the past - even the “experts” can’t do that - history is history
- take full responsibility for everything in your life - make it retroactive (this stops the resentment which sucks up our energy/emotions) | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 8:06:19 PM | I would have to agree totally with cjgregory on this one...
The first few days is the killer...but if you can *accept* in your heart and head that it is not meant to be than from that day forward it gets a hell of a lot easier...after two weeks you start feeling that you are healing...I know this is how it works for me...
So *disconnect* those intense emotional feelings and you will eventually be back to yourself again...
yeh and any phone number text messages/emails delete...this will help in making your heart realise it is over and time to move on...
All I can do is tell you what i did. You go through all of your space and get rid of anything that reminds you of her/him. Cut the sentimental stuff out. I'm not joking. Everything. This is called disconnecting if I'm not mistaken. It must be total and complete. I don't care if someone gave you a diamond studded bracelet. Hock it. Trash it. whatever.
Once you do this it is final. You will start feeling better almost immidiately. I'm not kidding.
No love notes, no trinkets, no pics, no souvenirs, no clothing......nothing. It works every time.
Oh, and don't give anything to your mother to hang onto for you.....just in case. You will stay locked in to that person. lol | |
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Posted: 8/22/2007 4:33:45 AM | | To get over one... lie down under another. Oh, wait that's for the women..........TIME the best healer only. | |
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