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 dobie50
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I've heard comments like "anything goes," or descriptions of a guy's penis, and even that J. Lo broke up with Ben Affleck over something he did in a Champagne Room. So what really happens in a Champagne or VIP room of a strip or nude bar? Chris Rock wrote a song that says there's no sex in there, but what's the real deal? Can anyone comment on what they've personally seen or what a close friend has told you? Or maybe you know a stripper and she has copped to what some girls agree to do?
 wowsad
Joined: 11/28/2005
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 12:58:22 PM
my ex is a stripper, and she said that pretty much anything goes with the right girl and the right amount of money... she works in florida and ny, depending on if she's in school and that goes for both states.
 CW_Guy
Joined: 7/1/2006
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 12:59:03 PM
Depends on the club, I've been to assorted establishments across the US, if you're in a big city like Vegas chances are it means nothing, but go to some place in a hillbilly town of 2000 people and you never know what you'll find in the back room. haha
 CEO of Hoagie Inc.
Joined: 7/30/2007
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 1:12:59 PM
If ya really wanna know go to one and find out!!!!!!! Like others here have said it depends on the club, how much you are willing to spend and the type of ladies working there.
 CW_Guy
Joined: 7/1/2006
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Posted: 8/27/2007 1:41:21 PM

If ya really wanna know go to one and find out!!!!!!!

Agreed.
 j5rush
Joined: 4/13/2006
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 1:53:32 PM
My friend and I used to bounce in strip clubs and escort strippers to private parties. Most of the time it was fairly innocent. Other times? Not so much! For some girls it was just a job. Money would dictate how far some would go, and others were just promiscuous.
 ubkobalt
Joined: 5/7/2006
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 1:54:17 PM
Talk therapy.

And your therapist is wearing a bikini and sitting/rubbing in your lap while you have a beer, while she gives you a hug.



For reasons unknown to me, this is villified
 AlexSB
Joined: 6/29/2006
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 2:17:19 PM
I love strip clubs, but I have paid the $$$ required to go into the campaign room.

Apparently *anything* means anything. Mostly the girls discretion I would think. If she thinks your hot or you flash enough cash, you could probably get whatever you wanted.

I have a couple hundred bucks floating around somewhere, I should find out and report back, eh? I'll tell the girls I'm a Journalist doing a story for Time magazine so any freebie's or pointers would be appreciated.
 wowsad
Joined: 11/28/2005
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Posted: 8/27/2007 2:32:02 PM
i've never been into the whole strip club thing. i don't get it.. pay women to take their clothes off.. its not that hard to find a chick to do that for free. maybe if i was rich and famous, i'd pull the "i pay them to leave" card...
 ubkobalt
Joined: 5/7/2006
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 2:53:03 PM
pay women to take their clothes off.. its not that hard to find a chick to do that for free


That's why you don't get it!

If I could have a sexy bikini clad woman to sit in my lap, have a conversation with me, and basically make me feel great, for FREE, this would be a better world.

Unfortunately, something so simple, so gratifying, is nearly impossible to come by in the real world (from my perspective). It's strange to me too, that this is a fantasy that has to be paid for. But it's a fantasy WORTH paying for.


Of course, I can hear the 'b*tch' response now. It goes something like "I wouldn't reduce myself to doing that!" Umm....that's an elevation in status sweetheart, not a reduction. To give someone else happiness is a noble and respectable thing.
 psssst
Joined: 6/4/2007
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 3:03:18 PM
I simply cannot resist...

I wouldn't reduce myself to doing that Ubkobalt!!!!!!!!!

Seriously... whatever goes on back in that room really isn't my business... unless of course my gentleman is there...

It's all in demand and supply, if someone's going to pay for it... someone's going to buy it and between consenting adults... all the power to them...
 dobie50
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 3:37:10 PM

If I could have a sexy bikini clad woman to sit in my lap, have a conversation with me, and basically make me feel great, for FREE, this would be a better world.

Unfortunately, something so simple, so gratifying, is nearly impossible to come by in the real world (from my perspective). It's strange to me too, that this is a fantasy that has to be paid for. But it's a fantasy WORTH paying for.


This is a bit off topic but for the record I consider it a true pleasure to make my man happy, and no Ukobalt, I don't think being sexy and focused on him is a "reduction" of who a woman is. Having the opportunity to make a man happy is a gift. More relationships would last if more women (and men) could embrace that. From a woman's perspective, what do you do however when you're with a man who can't be happy with what's in front of him and would get greater satisfaction with some stranger on top of him who's rubbed fifty crotches before he sat down in front of her? As a woman who values men but is dealing with that attitude - what is she supposed to do?

But back to the topic, it would be really nice is someone would post an actual anecdote of being in a champagne room - some story of what actually happened to them or someone they know. So far the responses have seemed to fall more under hearsay and opinions. Does anyone REALLY know what happens in the champagne room?
 AlexSB
Joined: 6/29/2006
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 4:22:26 PM
How is going to a strip club and having a hot bikini clad woman sit on your lap a fantasy??? Are you dreaming about it?

If she's sitting on your lap, it's happening. No fantasy.

There is a better chance that dancer would sleep with you if given enough $$ than that sweet hotties you met at the bar.
 Toddofodd
Joined: 8/3/2007
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 8:48:53 PM
Never been to a strip club myself, can't answer this question.

Go to a nice strip club, I will assume your hanging around with rich pervs.

Go to a skanky strip club, I will assume your hanging around with poor pervs.

Either way, why would I want to hang out with these people. I ain't a prude, but come on!
 ubkobalt
Joined: 5/7/2006
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 8:56:52 PM
From a woman's perspective, what do you do however when you're with a man who can't be happy with what's in front of him and would get greater satisfaction with some stranger on top of him who's rubbed fifty crotches before he sat down in front of her?


I don't know. Ask a woman. I'm coming from the perspective of, there is no woman that is permitting me to give me the chance to be dissatisfied with her. So, why not give myself a gift? They don't exist. They're not at bars. The only people at bars are men, girlfriends that came with men, the BBW pride parade, and cougars.

Women focus on maintaining the relationships. Men focus on finding them in the first place.


Believe me, it's no anecdote. I've been to plenty and have spent way too much on "rentals". I'm TELLING you how boring it can be.

Here's how a lot of clubs work. They vary by location and club of course. And varies by country/laws, etc.

In a classy upscale club - where the bouncers/security wear tuxedos kind of place.

For most american places: (I've heard that canadian clubs can be different, and touching is permitted depending on the club.)

NO TOUCHING is allowed, unless she gives you permission.
If you sit at the stage, the girls will likely not approach you. Because you're supposed to be tipping the girl on stage. So, you sit at your table. And the sexy bikini clad girl wearing plastic platform heels and a purse trots/struts over to you (depending how she handles her footwear) and cheerfully smiles and says "Hi! How are you? What's your name? Would you like a dance?" You can agree, disagree, or make an offer to stay if she's willing

1st level - Table dance - She doesn't touch you, she just dances. LAME! Might as well watch the girl at the pole. Also lame. (I like interaction.) Who pays money for something you can get at the stage?
1st level + - A "public" lap dance. Not very dirty. May be in a darkened corner/wall for privacy. But you're still in the main room. She can touch you, you can't touch her. (Although, you can...*ahem* support her so she doesn't fall and hurt herself.) Besides, there's likely bouncers all over, so just be a "gentleman" in the club.
2nd level - VIP - Usually a back room. Sometimes booths exist for more privacy. NOT the champagne room. PG-13 touching may happen here if she allows it. If she grabs your hand and places it on her boob, that's permission. Bouncers may patrol here too. Keep the touching clean. The lap dances are a bit more intense here. Her clothes may come off depending on the club rules. You pay for however many songs you want her to be with you. Sometimes you have to buy a drink for you and her, depending.
Third level - Champagne room - Not all places have them. Usually the expensive places. You pay the club or the girl to rent the room for however long, then you pay the girl her cut. Security usually doesn't bother you. It's mostly private. The music isn't so loud. Almost all clubs have cameras though. So, it's the same thing as VIP, except the song times don't matter. You may even get a free drink, depending. Depending on the strictness and privacy of the club, and she may extend the offer to something more. Usually not. Usually, it's the SAME THING as the VIP, but maybe a bit naughtier. The most I've been offered is a hand job for $300 on top of the cost for champagne room. No thank you. Mostly, it's a lot of flirting, being straddled and layed on, and maybe a lap dance. Still, no touching where you're not supposed to/allowed to.
If you're a GENTLEMAN in a gentleman's club, the staff often is a lot friendlier to you and gives you comps. If you're just an average perv, you're not treated any better. If you break any rules, a bouncer may "escort" you outside.

If it's a seedy place, the "offers" will probably increase. The quality of women will probably decrease as well.

If it's a cheap place, the rules are often MORE strict than the classier places.

If it's cheap AND seedy, it's probably a brothel of some sort.

What goes on there depends on the guy and the girl. She makes the offers. You accept them. Every guy is different. Some are there to watch. Some are there to touch.
I'm that weirdo who goes to clubs to TALK and interact with them. But there's something I noticed. I'm not the only one! Other guys are doing it too! They want the companionship. Not the boobs. You see, I can go out in public, and chat up 10 different girls who aren't interested in me at all, and are DEFENSIVE AND RUDE. And it makes me feel like crap. All you need is confidence!! So you can hold your confidence up high, only to have it struck down and stomped into the groud, and you can repeat this as often as you like until you're successful. Does wonders for your self esteem.
Or, I can pay a little more than I would for a night out by myself, and have someone that's willing to talk to me, look me in the eye and smile, willing to flirt, and she's even willing to touch me. And I feel so much more successful with that simple yet expensive act. That's the thing about strippers. They know how to make you feel great. But, they're rentals. You can't take them home with you. (Well, lets not get into that.)
So what REALLY goes on in the champagne room? If it's a legit club, not as much as you think happens.


Also, always go for the ones with the eastern european/russian accent.
 DharmaF
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/27/2007 11:51:57 PM
As a woman, I'll be the first to say that titty bars aren't what you think they are. I've been in ones here, in Chicago, New York & L.A. All are pretty much the same. In fact, I've yet to see ogling & lewd behavior in one. In fact, the ones in Chicago, I was actually there with members of KISS. I'm only mentioning this because you figure there would have been debauchery going on but there wasn't.

The guys were tame, respectable, discrete & no cat calling. The strippers however, do give women in the club a LOT of attention. I'm not into women but it doesn't really seem to matter to them. LOL It's kind of funny to watch the men because they will approach you wondering how come YOU get a long & free show & approached by just sitting there & they can't seem to get the same attention unless they're flashing some cash.

Uh duh. It's a strip bar. She makes a living off of her tips. Fact is, a lot of strippers dig women. If they give the gals there a lot of attention it accomplishes two things... makes the gal feel more comfortable about being there & it makes more tips for her because they're feeding off of the 2 gals fantasy for men.

Or so I've heard

Can't say I have seen anything wild & crazy going on in the private/VIP rooms that you don't see going on in the club itself. All it is, is a quieter atmosphere where the people in there get one-on-one time. That's all.
 Hot Snowman
Joined: 11/3/2006
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Posted: 8/28/2007 2:18:58 PM
What it really depends on is the type of stripclub you go to. The lower class the club, the more "extras" the dancers will do in the Champagne Room (CR), VIP Room, or whatever you want to call it.

Bottom of the barrel is the biker stripclub. In fact, it is underneath the barrel and the scum and worms located there. It is hard to find the difference between a biker stripclub and a run-down brothel. Now what I'm talking about isn't the clubs with rows upon rows of Gold Wings parked out front and wannabe bikers inside who are lawyers, doctors, accountants, and so forth during the workweek. What I'm talking about are the clubs owned by Hell's Angels (primarily western states), Outlaws, and other real outlaw biker gangs. These are one-stop centers for prostitution, drugs, and fencing/buying stolen goods. The strippers that work at these "clubs" are trailer trash. Tattoos, piercings, and "artistic" scars galore. Nose bleeds due to out-of-control coke habits. The only thing in these clubs favor is that you are safe in them as long as there's a sign on the outside that says "Public Welcome" and you don't belong to a rival gang, pretend to be a wannabe biker, wear a business suit, or stupidly use your credit card.

At the same dirt level as the biker clubs are the ghetto clubs. Almost always a Black club. Located in the inner cities. Sleazy beyond belief. "Extras" are expected and demanded in the CR. These clubs are owned by street gangs. Going to one of them is taking your life in your own hands since drive-by shootings by rival street gangs are not uncommon. Nor are bullets flying among "friends" in the parking lot after midnight an unusual event. Unlike the biker clubs, you're only safe in these clubs if you're black and not wearing a business suit.

Next up and actually inside the barrel but still at the bottom are "brown-collar" stripclubs. Also known as "[a.k.a. manure]-collar" and "farmer barns". These are located out in nowhere in the farmlands. Usually it is a country tavern that was on its last legs that switched to a stripclub to try to survive. If you like squeezing blood from a stone, you will like being a dancer at these clubs. And the dancers are white trash and on the hefty side. Slightly fat or very muscular. The muscular ones you can easily imagine them having no problem baling hay ... and they probably do. They probably work on a farm during the day. The fatties move up to better clubs once they lose the excess weight from dancing at these clubs.

Next up are blue-collar bars. Blue-collar in the industry just means no dress code whatsoever and the club is making no pretence that it is a gentleman's club. Hooters minus clothes. Their champagne bottles have dust on them. Everyone drinks either beer or Jack Daniels. All clubs in Miami and surrounding suburbs are blue-collar clubs. These are "high friction" clubs. In fact, their CRs are commonly called "Friction Rooms". Friction as in her behind vigorously rubbing against the guy's pants zipper during the lap dance. I call it Pilgrim sex. Sex with your clothes fully on.

Next up are college stripclubs. Clubs located right next to the campuses of universities and serving college students. These are awkward clubs. The patrons are all young and clueless. They mainly just drool and act inappropriately because they don't know better. This is where coeds start off as strippers to pay for tuition, rent, and such. The coeds leave as soon as they realize there's more money to be made at higher end clubs.

Next up are the white-collar stripclubs. These cater heavily to business travelers (minus potential clients) and convention-goers who want to let loose while away from home. That and there's usually nothing for these guys to do while in town after business hours and this is the first level of clubs where some of the patrons will take a dancer to the CR just to talk for a while. Because of that last statement, I call these clubs "Lonely Hearts Clubs". These are the first clubs to have a dress code. Usually no blue jeans, tennis shoes, or gang colors. That and shirts must have a collar. Bouncers enforce manners and the law. Patrons are well-mannered and rarely get drunk. Good money can be made by dancers at these clubs. Not the most money, but usually as much as a lawyer or doctor makes. On an income level, this is the first level of clubs where the patrons have incomes that usually match those of the dancers.

Next up are the high-end clubs. As far as dancers are concerned, this is where "real" money is made. This is where the business travelers who are sales reps will take potential clients to put them in a good frame of mind for the deal the business traveler is trying to strike. This is where local business leaders meet to make deals. Dancers here commonly work to help business deals happen and are richly rewarded if that does happen. Men still like getting lap dances but it isn't uncommon for everyone in the VIP Room (as CRs are called at high-end clubs) are simply talking over a bottle of wine and a cigar. Yes, the dancers commonly also smoke cigars here. To many of the patrons, the dancers are dates without strings attached. What will be attached to this level of clubs are an upscale restaurant and a walk-in cigar humidor. These clubs shine. Literally. Polished brass is the only metal seen. Anything that looks like leather is real leather. Everything is clean and new. And the dancers are all beautiful. If a dancer isn't a "10", she will fail her audition. She will also fail if she has body piercings she cannot remove, any scars (artistic or otherwise), and/or a tattoo that isn't very small and can be covered up with body make-up. This is what's called a "gentlemen's club" and for many men, these are viewed along the lines of the private men's clubs in England ... minus the gayness of it just being all men. A place where "men can be men".

Last but not least, there are the super-high-end clubs. There are only one of these in each major city that has a number of high-end clubs. This is where the rich and famous play. Want to see a famous football player? Someone listed on Forbes 400? This is the place. The restaurant menu doesn't list prices. The dancers here are "11+". The Lamborghini convertible in the parking lot is just as likely to be the dancer's as one of the patrons. The club's parking lot is packed with limousines and chauffeurs polishing them. This is where the powerful network. "The Cheetah" in Atlanta is one of these clubs. However, what makes one high-end stripclub "the" super-high-end stripclub of a city is hard to nail down. Like on the same level as why one nightclub is the "in" place to be. But there is only one super-high-end club. It reigns above all the rest.
 AlexSB
Joined: 6/29/2006
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/28/2007 2:50:48 PM
I should have been a porn star I guess. I like being around women, it's even better when their naked or half way anyways.

I find most are pretty plesant and all have nice bodies. I really like it when a little cutie shows up and dances - totally make my evening.

A strip club is actually a good place (in my experience) to pick up women as well. Lots of women like other women, which is cool. And those women are usually open minded, fun and like excitment. I love going to strip clubs with female friends.

I just enjoy strip clubs. No harm in that I don't think.
 Karrpilot
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/28/2007 2:57:55 PM
Flying airplanes is expensive enough. No way am i going into a back room of a strip bar. I would probably come out of there broke and with a disease. Not my idea of fun by any means. I will toss my hard earned cash at the desk of the airport after i bring the plane back in.
 plumb5150
Joined: 2/27/2007
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/28/2007 4:38:00 PM
Your gonna get phuced but your not getting laid. Save your money.
 minkey99
Joined: 4/13/2007
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/28/2007 5:30:56 PM
But why the **** response..As a woman I'm gonna get lashed here for this, but hey ho.... but here it goes...sex should be fun....so is this element missing at home then look at your relationship...sex is a big part of it to ladies....and if the guy is single then it is just consenting adults so what is the problem....
 sunl0ver
Joined: 8/13/2007
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/28/2007 5:52:10 PM
When I think of strip bars, I always think of Richard Feynman whose hobby it was to visit strip bars, sip on 7-up's, and draw sketches of the women whom he made good friends with. (Feynman was on the manhattan project and a noble prize winning physicist.)

It also reminds me of a good friend of mine that loved the strip bars. His wife bought him a VIP card to his favorite club. That was 10 years ago and they are still married and have a beautiful family.

So, the champagne room? No idea. I was always to cheap to pay.
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/30/2007 3:28:53 PM
I waitressed and bartended at several strip clubs for about 10 years. The money was good..made $40,000 one year part time. But by the end it made me feel dirty and I lost respect for men in general for a while.

Anything goes...depending on the cash.( It's all about money and control, on both sides) Most of the strippers hate men (I got to hear the talk in the dressing rooms, made friends with quite a few of the dancers), quite a few of them are drug addicts. There are a few who are paying their way through college or buying a house. Most strippers I met have been sexually abused as children.

Most of the regular patrons are married...seriously. They make me sick. Some are just single guys..whatever floats your boat if you aren't committed. Some are men who have handicaps or are elderly and have very little other outlet for sex and companionship..for them I felt it was a good thing.

But I saw enough used condoms to know what went on in the back rooms...other than what I heard from the staff and customers myself. You wouldn't believe what a waitress hears as she walks around!

I won't date a guy who patronizes strip clubs any more...mostly because I don't like the degradation I heard from most of them for those 10 years. I've met some wonderful men who would never go in one...there's a difference that's hard to pin down, but it's there.

That's my experience
 kaagwaantaan
Joined: 6/19/2007
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/30/2007 5:27:46 PM
[quote ] Talk therapy.

And your therapist is wearing a bikini and sitting/rubbing in your lap while you have a beer, while she gives you a hug.



For reasons unknown to me, this is villified


dangit.....I think Ijust fell in love
 musicjunky1967
Joined: 6/3/2007
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What really goes on in the Champagne Room at strip bars?
Posted: 8/30/2007 6:47:30 PM
We'll tell you what goes on in the Champagne Room if you tell us all what's up with 2 women going to the restroom together.
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