| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 8/28/2007 7:05:20 AM | As a forum regular i have duly noted that no one appreciates having their messages read & deleted with no reply.
I have always answered all messages that i received but have noticed that for the past month if i message a guy back saying, thank you for your message but your really not my type and good luck in your search, they keep messaging me back demanding to know why 
Has anyone one else experienced this new demanding and aggressive type dater? | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 7:09:54 AM | This too has happened to me recently I replied saying thanks for the message but I'm not interested and he messaged me back asking why he wasn't my type. I chose not to reply so he messaged back asking why I hadn't replied His final message before him being blocked was to let me know that apparently I'm an ignorant , inconsiderate **** | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 7:11:42 AM | yep, i have,
told one guy politely i wasnt on here to
date, not him anyway, and he was a very cheeky
boy and said he wanted to date a woman not a baby 
nasty man he was....im all woman, i am  | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 8/28/2007 7:17:32 AM | I think if you say no,its a challenge well its like running until you get tired.
I must send more mail  | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 7:17:38 AM | | i had a repsonse like that a while back,"your not my type,get a f**kin life"............erm,not the response i hoped for,but why waste your time askin questions like,why u think im not sexy,,or why am i not your type,if the person was remotely interested they would not have replyed in a first msg,your not my type,ffs i could have replyed with a cheeky msg back,but whats the point,they gave in an instant there real personalty,not cause the girl said she wasnt ne your type.......but you couldne take no for an answer.,and to add to that,if you do send a your not my type reply,it saves on a lot of bullshit talk,that is really pointless,if you like the jist of someone go for it,if your minds made up there and then,you done the right thing to responde with your not my type. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 7:30:16 AM | Oh God no. If someone´s not yoru type leave it be...
Asking for a reason why leaves you open to all manner of character assasignation & the opinting otu of personal faults that you may have never dreamed existed.
(Please excuse the dodgy spelling - bloody spanish keybords.) | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 7:36:10 AM | | In my experience women are likely not to reply if I send a thanks but no thanks men keep on bugging me. I'm talking to this couple, the girl is hot but the guy dose nothing for me but he seems to be blind to these messages and when I think he has understood my feelings hes on the phone again! If i need counselled into fancying you I think we are on to a looser find someone else! I don't get it they are both very attractive. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 7:39:13 AM | I'm of the opinion now that it's not worth messaging anyone apart from friends I have met already. I have had women message me but they have definitely not been my type so far. The ones I have been interested in and arranged to meet have only met me once and I've never seen them again although some do still chat occasionally.
I think the statement "you're not my type" is a bit of a quick judgement based on a profile unless there is something obviously not too your taste. People can be seriously hit with the ugly stick but their personality can win through however personality is a quality that is not easy to project on a profile. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 7:39:42 AM | | well not aggressive but after being told, sorry dont think we are suited but i wsh u all the best etc, they still added me to favs and mailed me a few more messages, i had to remove them in the end and just ignore, wich i didnt enjoy. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 7:50:00 AM | As many forumites know....... I had quite a lot of trouble with the exact same problem as the OP....... and some even nastier replies.
So now....... I reply....... Thank you for your compliment/message, however, at this time I amnot interested in talking to or meeting anyone..........
Nice and simple....... then I automatically block them.......... they get the message at that point!
Drastic maybe but if someone isn't my type, I'm not playing mail ping pong with some halfwit! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 7:53:46 AM | | I had a message the other day (yes it does happen sometimes!!) and I sent a 'thanks but no thanks and I hope you find what you are looking for' reply. He then replied and asked why I didn't want to talk to him, so I very politely responded that he was far too young (he was 29) and I wasn't into model cars (one of his interests)!! and he deleted unread!!!! What was that all about ffs!!!!! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 7:57:22 AM | I answer all mail within reason. If i'm simply not interested or i know they aren't my type, i will send a thanks, good luck type of message back.
It doesn't happen as much now since i added a few things to my profile. But i use to get so many shitty replies back calling me a slag, fat biatch, lesbian etc etc etc. Also them wanting to know exactly why i wasn't interested.
Once i've replied politely to their message. If they continue to mail me, i just block them now, can't be ar5ed with pushy, aggressive w@nkers like that. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 8:09:15 AM | message 1
i put on my profile that i'll reply to every message regardless of age size or anything as long as it's interesting or funny, and as a rule i do with the exception of hi or how are you! i don't know about you but i can't reply to those kind of messages! so i'm thinking if you'd read my profile then you wouldn't send me that kind of message would you and i don't reply. so once or twice i've had a message stating i'm ignorant for not replying, but am i the ignorant one when someone hasn't taken the time or interest to read my profile? but i do find it frustrating when i've taken time out and composed a thoughtful message and it's been read and deleted without reply, now that i think is ignorant .
but i do think it's a bit dumb to message someone back when they politely say sorry but you're not my type, you don't need to explain yourselfany further do you? you could be brutally honest and say sorry but your pic reminds me that cousins should never marry because this is what inbreeding looks like. or i really don't think we'll hit it off because i can tell by the way you're profile reads you have the charisma and persona of a dying slugs feces!
so i think it's polite to reply with sorry but you're not my type
and if the person persists then dead easy.......block em | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 8:09:23 AM | | I am more than happy to have read-deleted mails (which is just as well really with how often it happens lol). I cant for the life of me understand anybody asking 'why im not your type'?............I cringe at the thought of it. Does anybody really need to hear the whys?? Really? | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 8:38:06 AM |  Gucci girl, ya promised not to tell.. anyone! now the whole dam forum knows..lol.. and i see all the other of my fab forumites have joined in.. Off my rocker, Chrissy07,Rachwales, Madchick, Jamazing, and Missy H.. Ok ok! i give in.. so you all blew me out..lol. but come on ladies..
you promised no kiss and telling.. Now everyone knows i been a player and asking you all..
I'M RUINED, now as well as read and deleted.. forever !!
By the way girls...... why am i not your type.. you never did say.. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 9:07:17 AM | You really cant win though can you. If you dont reply, you get the 'why are women so ignorant on here'. When you do answer 'thanks but no thanks etc.' you get the 'well you obviously have issues you need to deal with'.
I sent one chap 'thanks but no thanks' and then he added himself as a favourite. Iv left him sat there, I didnt like to delete him in case it felt like I'd rejected him twice. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 9:15:26 AM | | Why are you people so sensitive? Just read/unread - delete, i don't need a message telling me their not interested, i wear big boy pants now! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 9:18:38 AM | | I tend to get a lot of 'read deleted' from the guys I mail which is a shame because I can be a sweetheart if they would only take the time to listen. Thing is I don't really have a type and I know eye candy always looks like it might taste the sweetest, and I shit you not, the best lovers I ever had were packing a few extra pounds. Good sex comes from good communication and good communication leads to good sex, every single time. I have no time for prima donnas, I like a man to sweat like he means it and I mean S W E A T, and the only time I want him looking in the mirror is to check me out, not himself. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 9:25:25 AM | | I dont reply any more because even if I tell them nicely Im not interested, they dont believe me and wont give up! I do read them but very rarely reply and that seems to do the trick. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 9:29:34 AM | but don't you find some cannot handle rejection? a whole new issue of its own, from people who claim in profiles "I have no baggage" the needing to ask why suggests they don't handle it, and the person they message has the right to decline.
I've had a couple, one was full of sex..... and i was then accused of having no sense of humour (Again proving this person didn't know me). forgive me but...... constant sexual harrassment isnt my thing, or needing to know how "well hung" someone is.
i'm always very polite, apologise(when really we needn't) and say i'm not really interested in meeting just.....anyone. (which is the truth). My gut instinct tells me when its a yes or a no.
I was also accused on my first day of being on here, of being "Ageist" i set my perameters at 45-50. someone who was mid 60's mailled me, and when i pointed out my age range, i had a lengthy mail back explaining that ageism is illegal.
My reply? no im not being ageist, im exercising my right to choose.
why don't some get it that we all have the right to choose?
beats the crap out of me!
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Posted: 8/28/2007 9:37:14 AM | I sent a guy a message just saying something like, nice tattoos, and he sent me a nasty message back, saying what part of I dont date women with kids dont you understand?!!! and do you think i'm honestly compatable with you?!!!
I wouldn't have minded so much but I only have one grown up kid and he wasn't all that anyway, his nose was humungus
So I sent him a message back saying that I may have a few extra pounds on me which i can shift, but what are you going to do about your butt ugly face, then i blocked him 
A RSEWIPE | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 9:59:27 AM | I do wonder how much of this problem is a gender thing?
It only seems that men get this dented pride thing. I put it down to the subliminal influence of our patriarchal Western society. We are absolutely FULL of gender specific stereotypes!
I'm new on this internet dating thing and to be honest, I don't really hold much in it. I'm c**p at real dating and that was invented millions of years ago - what luck am I going to have on this fandangled thing???
For the week that I've been on here, I've quietly had a friendly 'chat' with a couple of people without once asking for the expected phone number or dirty knickers (that comes with the Cider-induced cyber chatting!) However, then I got quite an odd thing happen as a message arrived from a woman that I didn't know...
Her first message: wanna chat?
My first reply: Hiya. Sure, I don't mind at all. Nice profile by the way.
Her second message: ur in the same town. wanna mt 4 a drink?
My second reply: Thanks a lot for asking. I'm away all weekend now and am brand spanking new to the site so I'm just figuring it all out for now. Maybe in a couple of weeks???
Her third message: Ur just a f'ing player!!! Go on then - jst find tons of grls 2 fk why dnt u!!!
I'll admit, this stumped me for a bit. I seemed to be stuck between a rock and a hard place! I ignored her and let her continue with whatever it was that I imagined she was doing at home (I imagined her to be the kind of girl that was colouring in using crayons between her toes!)
Anyway, it sounds funny but I wonder if we do make stereotypical assumptions made on someones sex? I DREAM of being able to put on my profile 'If you're a player, I'm not interested', 'If you're just after a quick sh*g, I'm not interested' and 'If you're into one-night stands, I'm not interested'. WHY DON'T MEN HAVE TO PUT THIS ON THEIR PROFILES??? lol
In fact, I'll turn this around! I'm not going to justify why I *beg* and *cry* to know why I'm not relationship material - I want to know why women don't stalk us men with non-stop smutty messages and pictures of their privates??? Why have us men got to do all the hard work with the 'cut and paste' facility??? | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 10:33:11 AM |  UPDATE.
My Mr Persistant is still at it, when pressed ( i hate being personal and offending anyone) i told him that i was looking for someone a little shorted, a little younger and a body builder type  - well he asked!!!
Then hes just replied telling me he could do with me being younger, taller and to remember why im on a dating site
That told me | |
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