| Should they remain freinds even whith history
Posted: 8/28/2007 11:46:11 PM | | I got this friend been my boy sense kindergarden we are now 22 years old still young he comes to me for advice i come to him for advice. He is considered TOO nice when it comes to women. He has girlfriend that he has been with for about 7 months they love each other, but she has a couple of male friends that dont sit to cool with him. He doenst like for her to have a lot of male friends (actually the ones that just all of of a sudden pop up and he has never heard of before) just the ones that where there in the beginning and are consistent with communication and pose no threat. She has a guy friend that she has known for about 4 years since her senior year in high school pretty much. The thing is that the guy performed oral sex on her before right around the end of the senior year. Now my friend knows the guy still likes her he even calls asking her to go out to lunch even though the guy has a girlfriend. I dont think he even likes his girfriend that much she is just his baby's momma. My boy doesnt like the guy calling asking her out. Cause he knows whats on his mind he likes his girlfriend!! What should my boy do? | |
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| Should they remain freinds even whith history
Posted: 8/29/2007 3:20:29 AM | | there's not a lot he can do really... say he tells her hey, i don't want you talking to him. now he's the controlling ***hole. so, he lets it happen and does nothing. it bottles up inside, and he gets pissed at her for not stopping it. either way hes screwed. he's gotta trust her though. without trust, there's no relationship. so he went down on her though, its not like she blew him. if it didn't turn out to be more then, why would it now? obviously they've had enough time to sort their shit out, and if something was going to happen, it already would have. but that was high school. its 4 years later, 4 years after high school should be a long time maturity-wise. her views on random oral sex encounters may have even changed. just because you know how guys think, and assume this guy has sex on his mind, that doesn't mean its true....although, it probably is. but who can blame him. its all up to her. so yeah.. i don't know what i'd tell him, except that if anything happens, its her choice. if he doesn't trust her, then either he's too paranoid, or she's already done something to ruin the trust...if thats the case, then she should be on good behavior and not going chilling with dudes that licked her. | |
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| Should they remain freinds even whith history
Posted: 8/29/2007 6:18:40 AM | It all has to come down to him trusting his girl. He is not going to be able to keep her away from other guys and if he tries he will be considered controlling. Now he could discuss this one guy in particular with her and tell her how uncomfortable and insecure he is about her being around him. Perhaps she will ease his insecurities and maybe even stop being around this guy to make her man feel better.
He has to realize that even though these guys may have just one thing on their mind, his girlfriend doesn't. She has chosen to be with him, and she made that choice for a reason, she must LIKE him!! If he thinks that someone can come along and steel her away from him, then he should do everything that he can to make sure that he is giving his relationship 100%. As long as she is happy in her relationship with him, then she won't stray!!! | |
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| Should they remain freinds even whith history
Posted: 8/29/2007 6:46:09 AM | | But the guy has a girlfriend or baby momma i might say, that i know doesnt like my homeboys' girlfriend and the guy still wants to ask his girlfriend out to lunch and to the club also, its a fact the guy likes her. | |
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| Should they remain freinds even whith history
Posted: 8/29/2007 1:25:24 PM | What can he do? It's in the girl's hands. She knows what's right and wrong. Just as long as she doesn't hook up with this guy it really doesn't matter.
When I was dating my Ex I had alot of male friends that I would hang out with because they were my friends. That doesn't mean I'm going to jump into bed with them even if one of them has an attraction to me. My b/f at the time trusted me 100% and never stopped me from seeing or talking to anyone. I was completely faithful to him and he knew it, so he never had a reason to stress me out about having male friends.
Now if the girl hooks up with this friend of hers, then your friend will find out the truth about her and he can just give her the boot.....but until she proves herself to be untrustworthy, he should just chill. | |
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| Should they remain freinds even whith history
Posted: 8/29/2007 1:40:51 PM | | ^^^ I know that would be the case and, it would be much easier but, he cant get over the fact that to him the oral sex thing is considered sexual history with this guy. He doesnt sit well with that. | |
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