| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 8/31/2007 9:22:20 PM | I have been on this site for awhile. I stopped going on because the men on here do not seem to IM or respond to emails. Yet my profile seems to be viewed by sometimes the same guys all the time. This is getting aggravating. Is it me or is it you guys just don't want to talk. Help me out here to understand. Ready to delete my profile.  | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 8/31/2007 9:34:12 PM |
do not seem to IM
Mine stays turned off.
Is it me or is it you guys just don't want to talk.
Might be that you're too focused.
Or, it could be the guys you talk to are dorks.
Yet my profile seems to be viewed by sometimes the same guys all the
time.
 
There are threads in the Suggestions/Help forum
that will 'splain to you exactly how the "viewed me"
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 8/31/2007 9:37:34 PM | Oh hun, the same thing happens to me all the time. No worries though. Most guys that do im, only want to have cyber sex, so your better off not iming anyways. As for the guys who don't reply, I don't know what to say about that. I have only associated with a total of 6 guys that actually replied, all I can say is keep sending those emails, and just see what happens. The person you want will open up and talk with you, no worries sweet heart, just keep on trying :)  | |
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smuroF
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Joined: 12/21/2005
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 8/31/2007 9:55:33 PM |
Is it me or is it you guys just don't want to talk
**EMS Not you,that's just guys....... Some are Imature,Some are truly shy when it comes to Im'n! No emails? You can change your name and maybe put up a diffrent pic! you won't loose your Emails you have. I had some good pics up that were attention getters, nothing obscene,but things like 'Album Covers" of the groups I really liked or Posters of my favorite Movie Stars..Too bad POF police deleted them! Betcha they delete this, too!
Don't give up, Angel!
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 8/31/2007 10:07:46 PM | | the only time i've ever not responded to an IM is when i'm away from my computer. with cable modem i'm online 24hrs a day, but not always at my computer. as for emails, i tend to respond to all of them, even if some responses take a while longer. | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 8/31/2007 10:11:02 PM | Many members have the IM on this site turned off. Frankly the IM here sucks and many would just rather not have to deal with it..
Many don't resopnd to email or even send email because all too often what they send is either taken the wrong way or just simply deleted. After you get so many deleted it becomes a case of why bother. | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 8/31/2007 10:15:32 PM | | Wow OP..I thought this was us guys who complained about that..no response..deletions..etc. Wow I thought you women get so many emails and propositions for chat that you just couldn't handle it on. The other 1,000 threads on this subject seem to have not indicated what you are saying. | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 8/31/2007 10:43:39 PM | That's crazy, I answer all emails that I read. Not to would be rude. There are plenty of women who can't say the same though. I'll answer IMs in kind. I'm no cyber -sexer either. Maybe it's just the fellas you're chasing. | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 8/31/2007 10:44:53 PM | Thanks to all you honest men that actually posted answers on here. i still don't understand, but I will keep trying. Maybe I am to outgoing. I am not an agressive girl, maybe thats what you want. AHHH! Men a difficult species. Just kidding | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 2:30:07 AM | ok, I viewed you, but I'm not interested........
I'm guessing that the other dudes weren't as well!
seems kind of simple when it's put that way!
And as for IM........I don't want someone randomly IM 'in me that I've no interest in talking too, or had any previous communication with. It's not rude, so stop taking it personally! | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 4:30:37 AM | Ya know------threads like this just make no sense at all---sound more like crying than anything else. This is just another question "why can't I get a date here?" in disguise.
OP I'd have to ask what do you expect or think was going to happen when you joined POF? Was it a matter of simply posting a few photos and some lines about yourself then instant boyfriend? I'm far, far from being every guy in the world but your profiles opening line about kids and grandkids being "your life" isn't the most attractive of things----it signals any guy trying to date you would instantly be no better than second tier. While all guys tend to understand family does and should rank quite high in priority the fact you open your profile with that comment suggests its a 'warning" of sorts and all who dare contact had best know that beforehand.
As for rest you need to perhaps read a bit here in the forums where many men post the same remarks about sending emails that never receive replies or are "read/deleted", also with no reply. If you find this that frustrating maybe you'd be better suited to another site or not being online at all? The internet is no more or no less than you make it---so far it sounds like you're not enjoying yourself here. Not everyone is going to be attracted to everyone else and you're simply experiencing just that. We're not afraid----some just aren't interested is all!!
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 7:50:49 AM | Yeah, people don't respond to emails. Big deal. So what.
Just one more observation....OP, you have restricted the age of men who can contact you to just one year older than you. Seems a little narrow-minded. There may be a fabulous man in his early 50's who's just right for you and you'll never find out because he can't email you. | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 8:07:03 AM | | I've never gotten an IM from a woman on this particular site so I can't answer that one. I'll try and respond to e-mails though. | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 8:15:33 AM | I finally dropped my IM. I use dial-up and by the time it loaded the lady would be long gone!
Just a suggestion, try dropping your age and distance requirement. A great guy could be just a year older or a mile farther than you list.
Remember it's like bidding on E Bay, don't loose out because you are unwilling to go the extra 50 cents.  | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 9:09:10 AM | | Gee it seems my thread happens to hit a sore spot with you guys. Sorry about that. Didn;t mean to start anything. Just wanted to get some opinions. If there was some way to delete this thread I would. I feel worse now then before I wrote this. | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 9:21:29 AM | "Where are all the honest men at?" sez yer headline. Bad grammar, for one thing. Insulting to men, for another.
Yet another "most men are bad" woman wondering why "most men" aren't interested. Because we are bad!
There are five men on planet Earth who satisfy the criteria required by single women. It is a long line and your number is 2,366,584. | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 3:49:05 PM | IM generally means cyber.. which is not what I'm after.
So I turned IM off.
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As for looking at your profile and then not sening a message...
I'm not interrested in a 1500 mile commute for a date.
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 3:55:05 PM | OP, I'll hazard the guess that the number one
reason that folks look at your profile but don't email you is....
they can't.
Live within 75 miles.
Mail setting filters.
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SNK1
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Joined: 8/13/2007
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 4:40:40 PM | | Women are the same way online. People are shy, or they just get bored with you, and move on to someone the like more. No biggie. | |
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| Why are men afraid to IM or respond
Posted: 9/1/2007 8:45:04 PM | | I'd have to agree that women are the same way. Actually I think worst then guys. I've seen so many women with stuff in their profile that, "They want an intellectual talk," or "they don't care about looks," or something like that and when I mail them, I never get a response. Ever. Even if it's just friends, they won't respond. I'm actually surprised to hear that women will IM or mail. | |
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