| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/11/2005 9:35:21 AM | | NOW I`M PERSONALLY NOT AVERSE TO A NICE PAIR OF BOOBS............ TELL A LIE, I LOVE THEM........... BEEN HAVING A BROWSE THROUGH POF AND TWO THINGS STRIKE ME (NO PUN INTENDED!). FIRSTLY, ALL THE FORUMS SEEM TO CONTAIN WOMEN BEMOANING THE FACT THAT MEN ONLY LOOK AT THE OUTSIDE AND NOT WHAT`S UNDERNEATH. SECONDLY, EVERY OTHER PROFILE I LOOK AT SEEMS TO CONTAIN CLOSE-UPS OF TITS. ANYONE CARE TO EXPLAIN THE CONTRADICTION? | |
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/13/2005 2:03:30 PM | hmmm, the ones tired of men staring at their boobs aren't the ones posting the pictures of them?
I've had my share of conversations where the other party never manages to bring their eyes above my neck... If you'll look at my picture, I'm not showing anything  Another woman's choice to use her boobs to attract men should not negate my ability to vent about men only being interested in copping a feel and or peek. | |
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/14/2005 6:00:07 AM | Ah, now here`s the crux:
The fact is, when you meet someone for the first time, whether on the internet or in person, you can`t possibly KNOW that person. It stands to reason then that any initial attraction HAS to be physical. In any internet profile you can say what you like, but who`s to know if you`re telling the truth or if that`s the REAL you? Photos, on the other hand, can`t lie (assuming they really ARE of the person in question). I suggest then that the women showing their boobs have got it right - getting to KNOW someone comes later
Personally, I love a great figure but I also love a great personality and nothing stirs me more than good conversation. Yes, personality and joint interests are important; but is there anyone out there, male or female, who can honestly say that in any meaningful relationship it`s not just as important that the two people LUST as well as love each other. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 4 | |
| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/14/2005 9:57:21 AM | The best is when a girl states she only wants a sweet caring man who isn't after one thing yet she's half naked.
I can't understand how or why they do this. Seriously are they going to meet us and be naked, or pose the same way they did in their pic's ??
I know one girl on here who met a guy, he seemed sweet and stuff but within 10 mins she was pushing him away asking him to get lost. Look at her profile and I am pretty sure why theguy thought she was easy
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/14/2005 4:41:47 PM | | HA! Very good responces! What would the :average guy: of North America do or how would he re-act to an all nude or clothing optional beach...go along on all fours, salivating, palpitating and moaning at all the nude women...? Come on, grow-up or better yet go to several all nude beaches and stare til your eyes drop out...you'll have to either mature to the point where you see women with or without clothes, in public and control any animal lusts or be hauled away by the police and charged with any number of offences. Women have to be respected, with or without clothes on, just as, I'm sure you would expect it ,especially in civilized company, not some backwoods trailer park. Go to any of several towns on the Dalmation Coast, whole towns, restaurants, even the local Macd's are all nude...oh yes! It'll be freak-out time for all the hick tourists!! Yee haa! Might be a good idea for north american women also to go to these places, then they too can see that what they think they have to show is nothing, nothing to get all worked up or excited over, at least in public ; wait til you're home or in your hotel /motel room.Oh where is George Carlin with his bag of "New From Nabisco! New Nabisco Cheese Tits! Betcha can't eat just one!" %) | |
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/15/2005 3:09:28 AM | Of course women (and men) should be respected, but just because you fancy someone it doesn`t mean you don`t respect them.
Oh, and at the end of the day, doesn`t everyone like being fancied - we all have some ego. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 7 | |
| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/15/2005 4:06:21 AM | My ego is my Ebay feedback lol 12,000 sales and a 99.7% rating lol
That is the only ego I care about, cause I am just a regular guy, some 47 year old messaged me after I posted this message and she told she was a freak in the sheets. 37 I can believe 47, hope she has an oxygen mask beside the bed just in case | |
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/16/2005 11:32:44 AM | Hmm, so what you're saying dinosaur is If I want to get more dates...I should show up half nekkid on the site.... But then I should expect him to be gropey and obsessed with getting me into bed...but because I took pictures half nekkid, I can't complain about his behavior.
Thanks, I'll take the guys that can look at my picture, say "wow, she has great eyes" and want to learn more about me. Not want to get me fully naked and in bed with them. Priorities. | |
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moist
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Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 10 | |
| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/16/2005 12:00:02 PM | Honestly I think you all put way to much into it!
Maybe I just like my body...
AS if when walking down the street tits arent the 1st thing most men look at, 2nd the A$$ as it passes by | |
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/16/2005 3:44:15 PM | "wow, she has great eyes" - quote
So how is that not as physically judgemental as " wow, she has a great chest"...........???? | |
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/17/2005 12:22:58 PM | judgemental or not, him thinking "wow she has great eyes" doesn't have the same connotations as "Wow, she has great tits" simply because boobs end up being thought of in a sexual way. As in - "what a great set of tits, I'd like to see them naked" or "Wow, those things are huge! wonder if she'll let me...." I'll let you finish that one however you like.
I'm not worried about people judging me based on my picture. It is a bad picture and I'm covering my chest for a reason. "How big are they" does tend to get annoying after awhile. No one's ever asked that about my eyes. | |
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/17/2005 12:25:21 PM | | And.. your original question was why do so many women show off their chests in their profiles then moan about the men not looking beneath the surface. I just tried to point out that the ones bemoaning the fact that men are more interested in the outside package than what lies beneath are likely not the same ones showing a lot of skin in their pictures. | |
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CJ1981
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Joined: 5/10/2005
Msg: 14 | |
| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/18/2005 11:00:40 AM | thought i would join in the wee debate here. Its a scientific fact that the human species primitive subconsience look at prospective mates for the perfect match. this is all down to procreation, females look to find the perfect man to bear children with (i know i know not all women want children, but its the biological, primitive unconsience that drives them to pick out certain men as attractive) and vice versa for men. i think that some ladies could be seen in some eyes as doing some sort of mating ritual (think of a peacock and its plumage). but then again, maybe these girls are desperately lonely and they dont know it, so a way of making them feel more confident and by thinking that they will atrract a man, they ascert there femininity by showing of parts of the body that men will certainly take notice of. It's the same reason that we dress nice or do ourselves up before going out. Some may argue that they do it for themselves, but why? to make them feel better about themselves?, what makes them feel inadequate the way the were before they got dressed up? societies perception of what is suitable, beautiful or sexy to which the media has jumped on and enforced through magazines, movies and tv showing thousands of beautiful women, enforcing that feeling of insecurity and also what is socially acceptable.
I apologise for my long thought there, was in the moment!!
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/18/2005 1:42:55 PM | | Thank you CJ. The original posting was put a bit bluntly to stimulate an intelligent response - and at last I`ve got one! Well said. | |
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CJ1981
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Joined: 5/10/2005
Msg: 16 | |
| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/19/2005 6:35:56 AM | Thanks Dinosaur, Just thought that its a bit dull when woman embarrass themselves by thinking a question like that is a personal attack on all woman and also a question that tries to enforce mens innocence. i knew what you meant...its a pity that others dont. god sometimes i think I'm 23 going on 53!
Cj | |
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/19/2005 7:25:55 AM | | Apparently I need to work on my reading comprehension. I'm still sure I answered his original question. Funny that. | |
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CJ1981
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Joined: 5/10/2005
Msg: 18 | |
| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/19/2005 7:51:12 AM | | Well when reading it seemed that you answers implied that dinosaur was speaking about all women, as you mentioned the expections to his point, he wasnt trying to say all women showed of their assets or to the fact that all men are always looking. i think he simply wanted to see what others point of view were on the fact that some women exploit themselves on pictures. I know i dont do it and there are others that have similar feelings, like you as well | |
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/19/2005 7:56:33 AM | lol, tried to re-read his original post again... must be a language barrier Anyway, I understand what you're saying, but his post still seems to be talking about all women. They really need an I'm confused smiley
But hey, at least we agree. | |
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moist
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Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 20 | |
| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/19/2005 9:17:42 AM | Funny how all the comments on why chicks do this come from people who dont do it
So really how can you say why others do something you dont do?? | |
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CJ1981
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Joined: 5/10/2005
Msg: 21 | |
| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/19/2005 11:13:58 AM | i do detect a sense of hostility in your post there moist. If you must know we all have the choice to do it, some choose to some dont, most with varying different reasons. Personaly i believe in leaving some things to the imagination added a sense of old fashioned mystery, and also i dont want every pc geek in the planet having a good visual of me in the flesh, i choose to leave that with someone who in my eyes deserves it and also who is special to me, i neither said i was disgusted or elated by people getting there kit off for a dating service pic, i just a valid and scientific factual reason as to why this may occur. and before anyone says im am neither fridgid or a prude as i have no emotion for the matter.
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moist
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Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 22 | |
| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/19/2005 11:50:17 AM | | All I was saying is that you dont show yours, so how can you say why I do anything? | |
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CJ1981
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Joined: 5/10/2005
Msg: 23 | |
| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/19/2005 6:08:52 PM | well moist, i do show mine just not to the extent of the internet. and secondly we arent stating that what we are saying isnt concrete, it is only opinions, for which a forum is for, to get others peoples thoughts about things, and thirdly you havent exactly added to this by saying why you choose to do it. Which may back up any of the theories above and strengthen your point.Your post is weak as you have went straight on the defence without reason or at least a veiwpoint to why you personally do it, also noone was making a personal attack on you so you cannot say we were saying why YOU do everything. the questioned was a generalised one We are merely discussing it, we dont have our pitchforks sharpened and we dont think that the world is flat. So instead of saying "what do yous know, what do you's know" why not try "well if you want an opinion as to why i personally like to flaunt what god gave me then the reason is....." i think it would work better on a forum than a closed defensive reply.
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/19/2005 8:29:37 PM | My pictures are not approved yet, but one does show some cleavage. I can't speak for others but I can tell you why I do. Also, I do wear clothes with low neck lines when I want. This may come as a surprise to most men, but I don't do it for you. When I do wear make up which isn't often, it's to feel well groomed and feminine.
Number one it's not against the law for me to show some cleavage, it's a personal choice. And it's not to attract anyone, it does however show my feminine side. I enjoy being a woman, I'm not going to dress like I am amshamed to show my body or be manipulated because a man wants me to cover up more. And I'm not going to buy into the theory that I'm going to attract someone bad because of the way I dress, truth is no matter how I dress that person will or won't gravitate towards me and it has more to do with that other person then it has to with me. What I'm trying to say is that to confine or ditact how a woman dresses is oppressive in feeling for me personally as a woman. Not for others and that is "their choice" on how they dress.
If a man does make the shallow mistake that my showing clevage means I am easy, then I guess he will quickly find out that I am not. Sterotyping just because it may be the majority doesn't always mean it is right. To say a woman is this or that because she shows cleavage isn't showing to me anyway that you have a wide range of thinking when it comes to different motives on why people may do different things. So when it comes to sterotyping, it's best to ask, "Could there be another reason why? And what could that other reason be?"
I'm thankful to the starter of this thread, so that I could at least get a perspective out there to answer on what another reason is.
I own my own power as a woman, and I dress the way I want, and I dress this way for me. I like being a woman. Don't know if any of you have watched BBC's What not to wear, and those gals may be a bit over the top for some of you, but one of the key points they hit on when giving someone a makeover are the "fuddy" clothes that tend to take a toll how the woman eventually sees herself. The transformation on a womans face when she does start showing a little cleavage and dressing like a woman, is amazing. On dish the American BBC is channel 135 in our area.
Hope this wasn't too long, and it's not meant to offend anyone, just sharing why I show a little cleavage :)
Hugs to all
windover
P.S. My photos are not showing as of yet. I have a jean shot that shows my rear in blue jeans too. And get this, I'm just here for the forums, but this is me and I'm not going to hide my feminine side because a man wants me to, or thinks I'll owe him something if I'm feminine enough to enjoy being a woman. I'm not going to be swayed on how a guy wants to me to dress or what pics he thinks I should post. It's not his choice. :) | |
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| LADIES. WHY THE BOOBS?
Posted: 5/19/2005 8:53:18 PM |
i think he simply wanted to see what others point of view were on the fact that some women exploit themselves on pictures.
That is I think the heart of why I would disagree, and by the way I don't think anyone is a prude for choosing not to, or not dressing that way in real life. But then again, I wouldn't judge a person for the clothes they wear, that's just me. What I wanted to reassure about, is that I'm not exploited in my eyes, in fact in my eyes to be told or judged for it is exploiting. You see I find freedom in dressing the way I want for me. If others want to say I'm dressing to attract a man, that is their misperception ( I have a man in my life), and I don't dress this way for him either. It is purely for me, and not because I have low confidence, my confidence is quite healthy.
Someone in this thread mentioned the media, even the media sets a sterotype that a woman has to dress that way for a man. Just think about the question and the implications of "telling someone what to wear and warning them that if they don't they'll be percieved in a certain way", because our society demands it is so. Well, I'm not a follower, never have been. Society is just going to have to expand their box of thinking because I am not cheap, I am not dressing this way for a man, or trying to attact one by dressing this way, or dressing this way because I have low self esteem. I dress this way because I celebrate being a woman, and women have been pushed down so much that they can't even dress the way they want without being judge.
I think all the gals look great and are not exploited as long as they are being true to themselves. I'm not going to judge a woman for her profile.
And also, I don't complain if a man doesn't see my personality, I really havn't had a problem of a man not seeing my personality. My pics are not up yet, but I know that as soon as I type he'll get a strong feel for who I am and he'll know he may have read too much into the clevage which would be a misperception on his part fed by our society of which I am not accountable or responsible for (I don't have any power over the media).
Hugs to all
windover | |
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