| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:04:54 PM | For real i meet guys on here all the time and all i get is so wanna meet up tonight and have sex?? its like uumm no i dont even know you adn you expect me to sleep with you? I dont understand, then they get all mad! Would it kill you guys to get to know a girl before you jump into bed with her? And would it kill you to be respectful to a women who says she would like to get to know you before she sleeps with you?? But no then they just pretty much tell yea to **** off or ignore you!! Bullshit! Are there any men out there who are willing to get to know a girl before you have sex with her?? If so please message me i would really like to hear from you!!! | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:07:27 PM | | I know most guys do seem to act that way, but I've had several woman that I've talked to that are just as bad. Hope you find a nice guy that will get to know you. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:13:28 PM | There's a trick with guys.
We may attempt to get sex right away, BUT we DON'T actually want it.
A girl who gives sex too easily is seen as an easy lay and is less likely to
get involved in a LTR with the man in question
Its almost like a test (a subconscious one), to see what standards you have .
Also, If your difficult to 'catch' then you are seen as something of a prize worth keeping. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:16:34 PM | Because they can and sometimes they're thinking is one dimensional.
I am not man bashing, women are just as guilty, IMO.
OP, if I may say so, it could be you're headline.
It's a bit suggestive. Just my opinion.  | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:27:33 PM | Sabrina, only guys aged 18-26 can contact you on POF, unless you have contacted them first or you have added them to your favourites. From what I have seen and heard, 99% of guys aged 18-26 are looking for sex, sex and sex and not a relationship at all. Now, I realise that there is the odd guy who wants more, but the vast majority want casual sex and to play video games.
They also know that young and old women prefer younger guys, so they know they are in demand. So they don't feel a need to be polite and respectful, because so many women say they want them.
Don't worry, you only to sift through about 99 emails for every halfway-decent one, or wait until you are old enough to expand your understanding of people.
There's a trick with guys.
We may attempt to get sex right away, BUT we DON'T actually want it.
A girl who gives sex too easily is seen as an easy lay and is less likely to
get involved in a LTR with the man in question
Its almost like a test (a subconscious one), to see what standards you have .
Also, If your difficult to 'catch' then you are seen as something of a prize worth keeping. Give that man a prize! He deserves one for such an insightful comment about men, and about young men in particular. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:30:59 PM | Women are just as bad, I have been sexually propositioned (through IM's!!) and I am not even attractive! lol. Don't let it get you down, not all men are like that. Continue weeding out the bad ones and someday the right fish will come along.....and I think its your name that is suggestive, the "xo" at the end may be getting guys in the mood before they start talking to you  ....kidding! | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:35:33 PM | Scorpiomover,
They also know that young and old women prefer younger guys . . . . .. .
Isn't that an overgeneralization? Not all "old women" prefer young men. I prefer the term "mature woman." Geez, what did "old women" do to you, Scorpiomover? I feel better now. I hope you receive these comments in the way they were intended. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 7:46:46 PM | Okay, well I suppose I should mention that not all guys are the same and yadda yadda yadda...
Oh, and the guys who are that shallow don't generally have much advice to offer on the forums. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 8:13:13 PM | To the original post:
This may sound harsh, and maybe I have no business even posting in the section because Im not a guy, but I cannot help myself because I've been in your shoes.
Your pictures *scream* to me party girl. I'm not judging you, but when I looked @ your profile after reading what you wrote, that's the first thing I noticed were all the bar pictures. (5 out of 8..again..maybe you were in chuckee cheese, I have no idea) Maybe you weren't in a bar, but in your interests lists "bars, club, drinking with friends" etc. While there is nothing at all with going out and drinking (because I do it all the time), I wonder if you're meeting these men in bars/clubs off the site--and perhaps lots and lots of drinking is involved which can sometimes lead to increased boldness on the male/female part?
If not, I apologize.
If yes, stop. lol
But, perhaps it is not all them..maybe some of it is you as well..yeah, some guys are pervy jerks and will try to get into your pants regardless, but you have to learn to see the signs BEFOREHAND and nip it in the bud...and believe me, there are signs.
I see you have not blocked "users that have messeged users for sex" mail option or whatever--yeah, you blocked the intimate encounters, but maybe that may help as well--bc if they are acting this way with you, chances are they have done it before.
You need to think about yourself and maybe messages you are sending--you cannot blame it soley on the man because that is just a cop out.
I use to have the same problem--I don't have it anymore (except when meeting strange guys in bars hahaha) I realized maybe I was sending mixed messages and not being totally honest with myself and just blaming the men.
All the guys Ive met off this site in person have been complete gentlemen and totally sweet to me in person..they are out there, but maybe you need to be more picky....just a thought | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 8:32:15 PM | In times gone by we just walked up to women, bent them over, and had our way. We have evolved, IMHO anyway, but never forget we are not monogamous by nature.
At 20 we are walking vessels of testosterone. Some of us can 't satisfy ourselves at that age.
A guy that wants sex is natural. A guy that makes no bones about it is natural too. Just say no...or not. The choice is yours and yours alone. Great luck to you. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 8:49:49 PM | While I am a full advocate myself of getting to know a woman prior to sleeping with her, on an overall average, women are responsible for this male behavior more than they are aware of. It is a very fine balance getting to know a woman and still maintaining that sexual chemistry that most women say they are looking for as that chemistry diminishes most of the time while a woman is "getting to know" the guy.
Of course this doesn't happen 100% of the time but it happens often enough that as a rule, men are sick of the routine. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 8:55:14 PM |
"Sabrina, only guys aged 18-26 can contact you on POF, unless you have contacted them first or you have added them to your favourites. From what I have seen and heard, 99% of guys aged 18-26 are looking for sex, sex and sex and not a relationship at all. Now, I realise that there is the odd guy who wants more, but the vast majority want casual sex and to play video games."
I'm the odd guy that wants more, it seems. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 9:05:19 PM | Before I start I must just say that I am going to generalise a little. This won't be true of all but just my opinion!!
Sexually men tend to look at sex differently than women. Men tend to be able to have sex without the emotional connection where as women tend to want to emotional connection. Its all linked to genetics. The male of the species needed to spread his seed as widely as possible to ensure the propagation of his line where as the female of the species wish to choose the best possible donor to continue her line.
Now we have evolved and technologically passed this genetic need, but the drive is still there. (more in some than others!!) I myself have and would sleep with someone on the first date, but would not think anything more or less of her if she didn't. I wouldn't be there in the first place if there wasn't an attraction there. For me sexual compatibility is an important part of a relationship. Its not the only part, there has to be more than just sex for a relationship to work. But if its all there I also find the sex does get soooo much better!!!
1. There are men out there that will sleep with you on the first date and never see you again.
2. There are men that will pursue you till they get you into bed and never see you after.
3. But then there are men that will sleep with you on the first date and still develop a loving relationship.
4. then there are the men that will wait for you to be ready and fall for you.
Well I think I'm one or both of the last two, but there is only one way a woman can have a rough idea and that is to go for the one that respects your wishes. Its still a risk, but matters of the heart always are.!! | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 9:20:21 PM | oh....ffs....another "why are guys (insert dumbass trait here) " thread...
ermmm...that DOES work both ways...i've had a female literally fly half way around the planet to visit me...and she was in my bed within 20 minutes of arriving...wasn't my call, but was i going to refuse it?
was recently propositioned by yet another girl...very blatantly and agressively...
this is not bragging in any way...sadly i was looking for more, and both ended in quite spectacular trainwreck fashion, with me on the losing side of things.
why were THEY looking for sex right off the bat?
i guess sometimes you just gotta get yer ya-ya's out? we're all adults here, i hope... as long as you go into it not investing your entire life's worth you'll make out just fine. that's something i had to realise.
if the concept disturbs you, run for the hills, cause it won't spontaneously fix itself.
and really, if that kind of behaviour is happening in an online environment, and you don't like it, that's what the delete and block functions are for. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 9:25:57 PM |
For real i meet guys on here all the time and all i get is so wanna meet up tonight and have sex?? its like uumm no i dont even know you adn you expect me to sleep with you? I dont understand, then they get all mad! Would it kill you guys to get to know a girl before you jump into bed with her? And would it kill you to be respectful to a women who says she would like to get to know you before she sleeps with you?? But no then they just pretty much tell yea to **** off or ignore you!! Bullshit! Are there any men out there who are willing to get to know a girl before you have sex with her?? If so please message me i would really like to hear from you!!!
Here's what I think it boils down to. I'm sure some women have motives to come here and get laid but frankly, I think their in the minority vs. women who want something more substantial. See, women on a Friday night can look in the mirror and think to themselves "what kind of guy do I want to bring home tonight?", where guys look in the mirror on a Friday night and think "am I going to get lucky tonight?"
Most women IMO don't come to these sites to get laid, they come here because their tired of the whole 'bar' scene and they want something new and different from the norm.
Personally, I'd rather talk to someone here for a bit before I meet them. You can learn a lot by how they approach your conversations online i.e. intelligence, personality etc. I've been on both sides of the road. When I was in my teens, I hooked up with several chicks, then I got involved with someone for 8 years. While in the end, that relationship didn't work out, it gave me the appreciation of what a real relationship should be like and it sure in hell doesn't start out w/ sex.
-Chris | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/3/2007 9:37:54 PM |
But no then they just pretty much tell yea to **** off or ignore you!! Bullshit!
Is that someone that you want to know anyway? Why should you care if they ignore you? You need to weed out all the jerks. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/7/2007 4:20:01 PM | | Sabrina- Not all of us are. I am a 28 year old virgin waiting to cultivate a good relationship. I don't rush into anything, and I certainly enjoy the little things and am never in any kind of rush. | |
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| Why are guys looking for sex right off the bat?
Posted: 9/7/2007 4:34:18 PM |
There's a trick with guys.
We may attempt to get sex right away, BUT we DON'T actually want it.
A girl who gives sex too easily is seen as an easy lay and is less likely to
get involved in a LTR with the man in question
Its almost like a test (a subconscious one), to see what standards you have .
Also, If your difficult to 'catch' then you are seen as something of a prize worth keeping.
I said the same thing in another thread. That, if you're looking for a relationship, you have to withhold sex. Then a few people though that was manipultion. Particularily one guy, really got mean. | |
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