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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 3:44:41 PM | | I had a date once,not from this place,it was one that i had met at a pub.We decided to meet the next day for a walk with my dogs,he started to complain about my dogs and their behaviour he was the selfmade oracle dog trainer,I told him to walk on...Me and my doggies would do it much better without him!So my question is would you go into a realation with a person who doesnt respect the way that you have your pet? | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 3:48:06 PM | It's hard to date someone who doesn't like pets in general, or not an animal lover at all.
I would say that the guy probably was a little jealous of your dog being there, and not giving him 110% of your attention. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 4:18:52 PM | It's depends. I think I have stricter views on how pets should be trained than a lot of people. My late husband had two large dogs when we got together and he let them on the bed along with allowing various other behavior that I feel strongly about. When we decided to live together, he allowed me to retrain them not to go on the bed and do some of those other things and we never had a problem with it.
Maybe he was tired of having to change the bed so often for me to be willing to get in it? lol I don't know hahaha But he knew all along that I wasn't going to tolerate some things and when he saw that 'oh wow, old dogs CAN learn new tricks!' life was alot more pleasant for everyone. I love animals and he respected my knowledge and ability with them enough to not fight about it. He also respected me and saw this as a worthwhile compromise. All in all, I think he really enjoyed seeing those dogs become my pets as well as his. One big happy family. And after he passed away, the one biggest one that was still with us at the time was truly my dog and my family in every sense.
Bottom line, your pets are your pets and they are part of your family, but that doesn't mean they rule the roost. If I met someone who knew more than I do about any particular thing, provided they weren't arrogant or nasty about what they wanted to enlighten me about, I'd learn from them before I got my hackles up about it. It boils down to a matter of respect and compromise. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 4:23:04 PM | | There are very few things that I think would stop a relationship. This is one of them. It's just not practical to be with someone who hates someone you love. I've accompanied my family to dog training classes, and the people who ran the class said that they train the owner, and not the dog. So if he really was a good dog trainer, your dogs would get on with him too. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 4:32:59 PM | | I don't think your pet is the real issue here. He didn't respect you. He is already trying to change something about you. I mean he just met you, why didn't he observe and decide if YOU were someone he likes. If he doesn't like the way you interact with your dog, kids, a waitress, whatever then you simply are not a match. Why make someone a project. If we want advice, we ask for it. Throw the controlling fish back! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 5:18:55 PM | Despite this guy and his complaining by all means continue to put pets ahead of people---that's always a good choice!
Before you pet lovers start in about your wonderful doggies and kitties there seems to be just a bit toooooooooooooo much of this silly crap about pets being best friends, how they're more loyal etc than any ole man and that it's either they love your pets along with you or they're gone. If they are such a joy, comfort and source of happyness for you maybe trying to date people isn't your best idea???
FWIW I do NOT hate pets but I don't think they are or should be thought of as more important than people. Rant all you like---------this is sure to be a hot button topic!! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 5:30:29 PM | I love animals, I tried to have pets...
but,
after many attempts after dog fines, cat fines and hamsters running around my house and ghandi, my beta fish dying and the dog eating my leather furniture and the cat beating up the neighbors dog, and over run by pet hair dust bunnies monstorous enough to give Stephen King a topic to write on...
and cats missiling me at 4:30 in the morning in my kitchen, and trying to trip me down the stairs....arrggghh...
ahhhhh sweet sweet calming life, with out my lovely pets.
and not a moment to soon....I was turning into a cat lady....holy manhill buckwheat, it still brings a frog to my throat that I was almost willing to settle for animal love then human companionship.
I love animals, but finally realized that I am not able to carry a normal life with the craziness.
yes, i do miss them cuddling me, and hearing them snore and breathe and their goofy personalities and the love they gave me when I really was having the blues, but....I am feeling a lot healthier now that I have no pets, because now there is time to take care of me. instead of always pushing out and being exhausted and never getting anywhere.
Red | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 5:45:08 PM |
Before you pet lovers start in about your wonderful doggies and kitties there seems to be just a bit toooooooooooooo much of this silly crap about pets being best friends, how they're more loyal etc than any ole man and that it's either they love your pets along with you or they're gone. If they are such a joy, comfort and source of happyness for you maybe trying to date people isn't your best idea???
There are extremists, of course, but most sensible people wouldn't insist that someone must "love" their particular pets as much as they do. The point for me is I'm quite sure I wouldn't get along well enough with someone who blatently dislikes them to even get to a relationship stage. So it's not a matter of "choosing" the pets over the person, it's a matter of being drawn to other people who at least have a general affection for animals. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 5:49:10 PM | | no, I absolutely would not. if they don't like it they can walk. you're not a puppet and he's not the puppet master. I can't stand to hear someone complain and complain. before you know it he'd be complaining about the way you fold towels or the color of the sky, etc... | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 5:59:02 PM | | NO WAY!!! I have had my cat, my babeesk, the-cat-love-of-my-life for 11 years now. He is my responsibility, anyone who doesn't like him can stay away. Same goes for my family. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 6:22:07 PM | | If a man or a woman is going to take over that part of your life and dictate what can and cannot be....where will it end? "You can't see your family, friends....where are you going....when will you be home...etc." He KNEW you had pets.....consider yourself lucky Men who are controlling start out with "little" things, then move up. GOOD RIDDANCE!!! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 6:26:59 PM |
I don't think your pet is the real issue here. He didn't respect you. He is already trying to change something about you. I mean he just met you, why didn't he observe and decide if YOU were someone he likes. If he doesn't like the way you interact with your dog, kids, a waitress, whatever then you simply are not a match. Why make someone a project. If we want advice, we ask for it. Throw the controlling fish back!
beachdancer speaks the truth
And to the OP, I'm wondering why you even had to ask that question. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 6:28:39 PM |
Perhaps he was disturbed by your strange proclivity to bend down and tongue kiss your dog and exclaim YOU ARE MY NICEST MAN YOU ARE MY SWEETEST MAN YOU WUBS ME LIKE A MAN WUBS ME YOU BIG MANLY DOG YOU LICKY MAN! to Bowser which gets him so excited he urinates on your boyfriend's leg and climbs up on yours. Which wouldn't be completely bad except when he's going to town on your shin you just have to shout out "don't stop don't stop I'm almost there ... woof, woof, WOOF,WOOF!"
I mean c'mon. 
It all makes sense now! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 6:32:56 PM |
I had a date once,not from this place,it was one that i had met at a pub.We decided to meet the next day for a walk with my dogs,he started to complain about my dogs and their behaviour he was the selfmade oracle dog trainer,I told him to walk on...Me and my doggies would do it much better without him!
Are you really so self-orientatiented that you think the way you've brought up your pets is so perfect that you couldn't take any criticism about them? He's got away lightly by the sounds of it!!!
Richard | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 6:33:01 PM | 1) I don't like dogs... The list of reasons isn't needed.
2) There's a difference between trying to give helpful hints about how to handle a dog on a leash vs just complaining about the dogs.
I wouldn't even start a relationship if I knew the woman had dogs.
If I found out about her having dogs by meeting her for a walk and one was on a leash attached to her wrist... I would probably go for the walk... and I might give suggestions about handling the dog. (because I do know how to handle a dog)
When I go over to someone's house and they have dogs... I tend to pet the dog. Its not the dog's fault that it was born a dog. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 6:35:41 PM | | I'm curious. OP- exactly what were the complaints he made? What did he say, do that made you mad? More specifics here would probably make a lot more sense. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 6:59:09 PM | | You "decided" to "meet" the very "next" day for a "walk", and you took your "dogs" (smelly, spoiled, pets with you) Basically what has "transpired" between him & you dogs is that they didn't get along, you have to "move on", his not for you, your "best friends" have spoken, they smelled it on him. Move on, keep moving, run, call the airport and fly away, fast, now, go...don't look back, take the dogs with you. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 6:59:58 PM | All my dogs were badly abused before I adopted them. One had a broken leg (she is 4.9 oz), one was beaten with an electric cattle prod, and one kept in a cage for 2 1/2 yrs by an unscrupulous back yard breeder. I love my dogs and we are a package deal, period.
If someone doesn't like them they are asked to move on. The dogs can tell if someone sincerely likes them. They suffered enough abuse, now they have the best. I ask no one to pay for their desires, I gladly pay their way. Their love is unconditional.
I bathe and groom by dogs all the time and they are very clean and well behaved. I could never share my life with someone that was indifferent to them. I have dated several "animal lovers" that were just giving it lip service, they were not really animal lovers at all.
I want the gentle soul that will stop to help the homeless dog along the side of the road. That is a true animal lover. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/7/2007 7:04:48 PM |
I'm curious. OP- exactly what were the complaints he made? What did he say, do that made you mad? More specifics here would probably make a lot more sense.
Helped a friend move once, the landlady had 5 dogs (in a small house), that we had to lock in the next room. She came home and let them out and they went straight for me, i got bit twice. A couple of months later one of the dogs got loose and attacked a kid. I got nothing against dogs, i realize these ones were not trained well, if at all.
But i'm sure the owner loved them and would flip on anyone with a negative word towards them. | |
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