| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/8/2007 12:40:33 PM | Hey everyone!
So I've noticed a trend lately of guys who contact me who are either just barely out of their teens looking for what I can only imagine is the 'experience' of an older woman, or well on there way to retiring.
Personally I've dated younger and I've dated older and came to realize that I would like to date someone around my own age to experience the throws of our 30's together.
Are alot of men looking for women outside of their age range? Hmmm... what is an appropriate age range... if there is one?
Opinions anyone? | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/8/2007 12:54:26 PM | | I can't answer your question about why...but I would like to know myself. I get emails and IM's from the young ones. I mean younger as in 25 or less. I prefer men older..even state this in my profile. Whats up with it? | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/8/2007 3:14:23 PM | I think it's a matter of choice really, though I have to agree I personally don't really look beyond about 10 years age difference, and honestly it's probably more like 5 for myself depending on the person.
I've dated older and younger as well, and I do know for some guys they like the idea of a young girl friend, maybe it's the whole feeling younger kind of thing.
That being said, I tend to find that there are more responses from younger women to messages then from those in my own age range. Perhaps it's that way with others.? | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/8/2007 4:16:40 PM | cuz the women in their 30s tend to be single mothers or divorcees.
Sometimes that is the answer. My cut off is/was 24.-44. I don't go by age anymore. Age does not = maturity. Also when most of us guys were younger (20-25), all the girls our age were with 25-40 year old men. Now not all, but some of us realize that the younger girls in their 20's are really looking to get married and start a family. Sometimes you find a good bunch that are ready for a true commitment and you have a shot at making the dream real. Unfortunately based on stats, a few of these girls still have the need to party and see what they missed out on, get divorced and end up being 30+ with kids on a personal ad website (no offence, just an observation) like this.
I just want someone who is emotionally secure, confident, independent and does not NEED a man, but would like a life partner to compliment her life. Age may vary. It is also not fair to expect a guy to have to give someone who is divorced with kids a chance. Religiously speaking, I want to get married ONCE. I will wait for as long as it takes to make the right choice.
As my good friend Randee once said "Have your baggage checked before your next trip."
By the way, for the women that say "I can't find a good man", give those that contact you a chance. After a nice screening of course. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/8/2007 5:01:12 PM | That attention that you are talking about revolves around the female sexual peak, and you've noticed that it's the young and inexperienced clowns fishing for the opportunity to be sexually used and abused by the older females......... 
If you don't want to be bothered by the villiage idiots, then go into your mail settings and set the age perimeter. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/8/2007 5:33:21 PM | Here is an actual honest answer from a 30yo.
A 30yo guy can still date 19-29yo woman easily. When a women hits 30, i just don't want to deal with them wanting kids because their clock is ticking. Been there, done that. I would like kids someday but I don't want to deal with the clock.
A 25yo guy or less wants sex from a 32yo woman, thats obvious, been there done that again.
If you want a real relationship as a 32yo woman, don't even bother with a guy less than 27. I can remember being 27, that would have put you as an older woman but realistic. Beyond that age gap you would just have been "an older woman, uuuuuuuh lala". | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/8/2007 8:09:46 PM | | They want women...of all ages...all sizes...all psyches...all faiths.........................................................................................................................................................................................................they generally want an individual woman aside from the occasional threesome perhaps. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/9/2007 2:33:54 AM | I am 32. My age range for women is 25 - 40. Not that I check IDs, but I avoid women who are of collegiate age, or who have a "middle-aged" mentality. I prefer to date women about my own age, maybe a few years younger.
The phenomenon of age and dating has already been exhaustively discussed. Of the silly rules of thumb and generalizations kicked around, I like the 1/2 + 7 rule. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/9/2007 7:36:14 AM |
girls in their early to mid 20s *LOL* cuz the women in their 30s tend to be single mothers or divorcees.
lol i'm the opposite. I'm more drawn to women in their late 20's or early 30's because they have been married, had kids and have already learned all the lessons.
J | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/9/2007 10:39:01 AM |
Are alot of men looking for women outside of their age range? Hmmm... what is an appropriate age range... if there is one?
I think it has more to do with compatibility moreso than age. Personally, I get along very well with so many people I forget they are either 10 year younger or 17 years older than I. As long as they aren't approaching an age within the range of my parents, life is good.
But then, there are those immature horn dogs just looking for an older experienced woman. If it were legal to shoot those morons, we'd have a dedicated hunting season each year to thin those herds. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/9/2007 6:02:28 PM | What do early thirties men really want?
Well, I can't speak for anybody else, but personally I would sure like to have a bowl of ice cream right about now... preferably chocolate, though I also really like maple walnut. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/9/2007 7:48:26 PM | "Are alot of men looking for women outside of their age range? Hmmm... what is an appropriate age range... if there is one?"
appropriate age range? north of 18.
age is important to life insurance companies and marketing departments, but that's only to make generalizations about aggregate data.
for one-one relationships, that gets tossed out the window. there are 45 year olds that are in far better shape than 18 year olds (who are morbidly obese for example). there are 18 olds who have far more intelligent than than your average 30-something (like me, i'm a dumb a$$).
"appropriate" implies there's some kind of rule. i don't have any rules for relationships since you're referring to *individuals* - not generalized, abstract classes.
my 2 cents. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/12/2007 6:11:52 AM | | In my experiences guys in that age group that are single are either really smart or just getting out of a horrible relationship and on the verge of a mid- life crisis. If they just bought a brand new sports car well no guessing required. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/12/2007 12:52:47 PM | Well I appreciate the feedback, and I guess it just goes to show that you can't really know what everyone wants because everyone's so different.
Think I'll just have to keep at it and hope for the best! | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/12/2007 5:54:01 PM | | I guess close to my own age would be nice in a perfect world. I mean i dont want so girl that talks about faires or ghost and throws stuffed animals all over the bed. Im finding attraction a little more mental than physical these days. But if a 25 year old girl I can relate to exists I guess im game. Atleast Im sure to die first lol. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/13/2007 4:04:32 PM | | as a man in my thirties What do i want? hmm how about a woman to stop whining so much and ****ing about what she doesnt have, and get off her butt and go work out and not be a lasy flabby pain in the ass, oh and not even talkin about the drinking problems alot of women have, they seem to think its cool to look like a hooker being run out of a bar and fallin down drunk when ever they drink. well keep up the good work, 2 things we need more of in this world is more vetrans and more spinsters! | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/14/2007 11:05:07 PM | Age isn't whats important. I personally am looking for what everybody wants, the real McCoy! If you find it with someone in your age group, thats great, but I wouldn't limit yourself to that. To answer the question at hand........I would have to say that I am not looking for someone who has already been married, divorced and so on, therefore shes probably going to be younger (as most women in my age group have already done these things).
S | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/16/2007 7:46:03 PM | My ideal range is +/- 7 years from my age. But does age really matter?
Does anyone know what they really want? No, no one does. Neither men nor women do. Sure, there are so many profiles that state specifically what they want. It's what they think they'd be happy with.
In reality, they will never be able to find that kind of person and they would never truly be happy with that specific kind of person if they could find them.
So, stop being so damned picky and at least do one date with these people. You never ever know who you'll be compatible with. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/16/2007 8:39:49 PM | What's with the late teens and early twenty-somethings contacting me all of a sudden? I was usually attractive to younger men when I was their age, so why now that I'm 30?
I feel like saying, "Honey, you're a cute kid... but you're a kid. Sorry, not interested." | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/16/2007 11:09:35 PM |
Ohlucy wrote:
Are alot of men looking for women outside of their age range?
I don't know if a lot of men are looking for women outside of
their range. So I can only speak for myself. I've had two previous
marriage -- one to a gal 8 years younger than me, and the other
to a gal 8 years older than me. My conclusions: while in some
regards it seemed to me our difference in ages didn't matter,
there were at least some instances where the difference of being
8 years apart might show itself in smaller, less covert ways.
And so the further part the ages of the partners, the more of
a challenge this issue is going to be.
Someone once told me never to date anyone who is half your
age plus seven, or someone who is double your age minus 14.
And so, for example, for a 30 year old, this would mean don't
date anyone who is younger than 30 /2 = 15 , 15+7=21, and
don't date anyone who is older than 30*2=60, 60-14=46.
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Ohlucy wrote:
Hmmm... what is an appropriate age range... if there is one?
I'll say three things on this matter.
(1) I've provided you with a formula guideline above
(the key word here is "GUIDELINE")
(2) In terms of an age issue, I never felt fully compatible with either
a mate who was 8 years younger than me, or 8 years older than me.
As such, these days, at 48, I'm looking to be with someone who's
closer to my own age.
(3) Yet finally this: My father married my step-mother when he was
56 and she was 38 (i.e. a 16 year age difference). And for 22 years until
Dad died, it always seemed to me that they had a mutually respectful,
loving, and compassionately merciful relationship. And so I can only
conclude that all of this has less to do with formulas and more to do
with the maturity and the wants of the individuals involved.
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I would like to date someone around my own age to
experience the throws of our 30's together.
And that seems to me a not unreasonable want.
Hope that perspective is of some help. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/17/2007 12:17:18 AM | | Wow, that means that we are also complicated for women!? I thought that just men don't understand what women really want? I think the confusion in the answers sometimes arises from asking the wrong question? | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/17/2007 6:41:11 AM | For me being single is a new thing. I have been for about 8 months.
I have dated women younger than me, the same age and of late older in their 40's.
Each experience is unique, but the common theme for me is the ability to connect on an intellectual and chemistry level.
I am openminded as to what I am looking for. Thirteen years in relationships, 5 years engaged, love distance romances they all have their ups and downs.
For me the formula to what I want is simple. Someone who is easy going, knows their own mind, forthright, funny and is as much into me as I am them.
I am a man that loves the company of a lady. Casual encounters are not my favoured choice give me a loving stable, faithful relationship anyday but lots of guys will just kickback and see where fate takes them.
The simple crude answer is a sex mad lady with huge bosoms that loves football and early nights x | |
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