| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/21/2007 11:36:43 PM | I have dated like over fifty men here and I learned so much more then beofre! I learnd that in real life men can not as many as partner as they like to have specially those who have sexual addiction. That is why most of them come on single. Thre is a big huge difference between being a man and having a sexual addiction. Those women who think they have been cheated or dumped and they are not happy with it, it is because these sites are not mostly for normal men who are looking for normal relatioships. Now I can spot an addict or a jerk from a mile!...LOL They use any trick to take you to bed but unfortunately they were not happy with me because as soon as I see those fake signs in a man, I jsut dump them right away! I have met few good men too but they do nto come here very often. There is a difference between being a man or being addicted to sex! NOt all men are bad and I have met great ones. Believe me there are lots of good ones but my advice to a lot of women here is that do nto be easy and do not give yoru self up the very first time! A jerk does nto have lots of time to play games because he jsut wants to get result right away! See the signs! Be firm and decsisive on yoru wants. It is your falut if you jump in bed with them right away and find your self dumped! Believe me a nice guy waite till he gets to know you too! It is funny because some of jerks I met, they complain about prostitues or girls who end up stealing money from them! Guess what if you want to find a girl who is willing to have sex with you the first time then I guess you will end up finding a prostitue whose job is to get money for her service! It is a cruel world and every one thinks about her self If you want a man to respect you please detect the sign and do not jump in bed with them the very first days! A real man waites a while if he knows you are the one for him. A lot of women try so much to satisfy men the very first dates, I do nto even try hard and I get what I want every single time! It is a man s job, it is in his nature to come after you and if you are like a mysteriouse book they will climb the mountains to get you but if you are like an open book, then guess what! They will just use you like any other fifty sexual prostitues! BEleive me when I say there are tons of sexual addicted males here on these single sites, I am not lying! Go for the normal guys and not addicts! They usually have other type of probelmes those sexual addicts beside jsut sex. Be truthful to yoru self and respect yoru body, if you can see the difference between the addicts and normal ones you will be happier, do nto jsut fall for fake hunky pictures or every thing you read on every profile either, people can say so many lies, date them in public places and if you pay attention, you can spot and see the big difference between the good ones na bad ones. I have had so many great men only because I pay attention to their body languages and signs, you also have to respect yrou body and do not give it up to the whole world for nothing, that is what addicts wants to get as many free sex as they can to satisfy their addictions, it is an addiction and it is bad like any other! Some Women have it too,it is consider a mental ilness after all   | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/21/2007 11:45:05 PM |
Uh, could we have a translation into English, and maybe paragraphs. Your post is very hard to follow
Allow me to translate...
she dated 50 men...she's not happy...and umm.... *goes back and reads it again*
hmmmm... i'm just as lost as you are, sir! | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 5:46:49 AM | | I think she is trying to say that she is a sex addict and has been with 50 men because of it. She has found it helpful to know how to tell which of the men here are also sex addicts, saving time because they want the same thing. Evidently she has a secret way of telling which are which, but does not say what it is. My guess is we will need to buy her book to find out. | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 6:02:27 AM | Wow.
Being tricked into bed.That seems to give men a lot of power and women none.Some pretty broad sweeping generalizations here.If this site is so populated with sex addicted men,why do you continue to use it and post on forums?
I suppose all the women on here are somehow more honest and forthright?
No serial daters? No women on here looking for free drinks and food and have no intention of second dates?No women on here that are actually already sleeping with someone but still go out on dates to see if they might 'trade up'?
This is a FREE PERSONALS SITE OPEN TO THE PUBLIC.
There are those of EITHER gender that have manners and some that do not.
You seem rather pleased that you're able to spot the 'jerks" and yet you continue to troll the same waters and write with a thinly veiled vitriol.
I would take your own advice: This site is nothing but sex addicted men capable of "tricking" you into bed and the women are all above reproach.
Perhaps you'd do better on another site or staying off free public personals altogether? | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 6:21:14 AM | yea yea YEA Peekamosse, took the words right out of my mouth and probably anybody that reads this!
50 men? Hmmm sounds like a double standard and I CAN COUNT on two hands how many I've dated, and can count ON ONE HAND how many I've been intimate with. NOT PHREAKIN FIFTY!
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 6:24:08 AM | i find girls are just as horny as guys these days thats why they should read the profile or write it honestly ( talk, email ,friends ) i had offers with out going out and knew what they wanted . i just say sorry im looking for something different.and i am a sex addict for one women only . | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 6:33:24 AM | It would have been more helpful to the readers if OP had used some paragraphs to make reading easier.
An explanation of the ways in which one can distinguish a sex addict from the rest of the crowd would surely have been more helpful . From what I can see, most normal, healthy men and women greatly enjoy sex, it's just that they go about receiving it in various ways.
Just my thoughts.
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 7:03:16 AM | I think the message was a good one!!God ,why dont everyone step up on their soapboxes and give the woman hell fo speaking HER mind!!Shes absolutely right ALOT of guys are out for the easy lays..and thats a proven fact,ask us 
Some are sex addicts, some are just horney ,some are immature little boys going through their childhood AGAIN...She was speaking from her heart..she didnt say she bedded all fifty!!
My father was a sex addict,I also know the signs and there are signs..Ive dated them and its a sick ,sad disease...
Also the posted who said women are on here for meals and drinks that so ticks me off..sooo the fix for that would be ladies always pay your own bill..NOW what we are ALL what???single and looking oh yeah this IS a singles site and yeahs its freee soooo youll get everything on here...
I just think whenyou post about aw you use bad grammar or oh looky you didnt use paragraphs is pure ignorant if you dont have a point dont bother posting!!!
French, thanks for the thread its a valid topic!!! | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 7:09:41 AM | I thought it was a good question posted by the author . As such, I read up on it( just a very little)
However, about 3% to 6% of Americans have sexual addiction(1). Through their addiction, they may injure themselves physically, experience psychological distress, lose their livelihood, and ruin meaningful relationships. Sexual addiction often coexists with chemical dependency, and untreated sexual addiction contributes to relapse to chemical use. These patients not only endanger themselves but also put their loved ones at risk for AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. Physicians can help by learning about this phenomenon, which is gaining increasing attention in behavioral medicine, and then educating these patients and their families.
3% - 6%.
That number sounds realistic.
Sexual addiction screening test *
( you need to answer yes to at least 13 of these questions to SUGGEST you may have an issue)
1. Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent?
2. Have you subscribed to or regularly purchased sexually explicit magazines?
3. Did your parents have trouble with sexual behavior?
4. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?
5. Do you feel that your sexual behavior is not normal?
6. Does your spouse (or significant other) ever worry or complain about your sexual behavior?
7. Do you have trouble stopping your sexual behavior when you know it is inappropriate?
8. Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior?
9. Has your sexual behavior ever created problems for you or your family?
10. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior that you did not like?
11. Have you ever worried about people finding out about Your sexual activities?
12. Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior?
13. Are any of your sexual activities against the law?
14. Have you made promises to yourself to quit some aspect of your sexual behavior?
15. Have you made efforts to quit a type of sexual behavior and failed?
16. Do you have to hide some aspects of your sexual behavior from others?
17. Have you attempted to stop some parts of your sexual activities?
18. Have you ever felt degraded by your sexual behavior?
19. Has sex been a way for you to escape your Problems?
20. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterward?
21. Have you felt the need to discontinue a certain form of sexual activity?
22. Has your sexual activity interfered with your family life?
23. Have you been sexual with minors?
24. Do you feel controlled by yoursexual desire?
25. Do you ever-think that your sexual desire is stronger than you are?
* Affirmative answers to 13 questions strongly suggest addiction.
"STRONGLY SUGGESTS" Sexual addiction.
Unless the author is screening all 50 men and giving them questionaires on their first date before she is being tricked into sleeping with them , I doubt very much that she is in any position to determine that these men were sex addicts. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2007 7:16:10 AM | .
Sometimes you’ve just gotta laugh and read the whole thing, no matter how much it starts hurting your head to understand. Here’s the opening:
I have dated like over fifty men here and I learned so much more then beofre! I learnd that in real life men can not as many as partner as they like to have specially those who have sexual addiction. That is why most of them come on single. Thre is a big huge difference between being a man and having a sexual addiction. This from a psychologist, eh?
The ambling thought pattern there suggests that maybe the OP scored some powerful stuff before writing. And, yeah, I actually did try to read and understand the whole post. . . .
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 7:34:46 AM | 1. Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent?
Yes, I was sex starved as an adolescent by millions of women.
2. Have you subscribed to or regularly purchased sexually explicit magazines?
No, there is no time to read magazines; must surf net for porn.
3. Did your parents have trouble with sexual behavior?
If you count the eventual result of children, then yes.
4. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?
I'm sorry, what was the question? I was thinking of something else.
5. Do you feel that your sexual behavior is not normal?
Yes, because from what I read there should be a vagina and not just a hand involved.
6. Does your spouse (or significant other) ever worry or complain about your sexual behavior?
Yes, my imaginary lover wants me to imagine someone else.
7. Do you have trouble stopping your sexual behavior when you know it is inappropriate?
No, I only wish I could start something inappropriate.
8. Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior?
Yes, but only when it's good.
9. Has your sexual behavior ever created problems for you or your family?
Yes, it has created the problem for my mother of her not having any grandchildren, and for myself, well, poor eyesight and hairy palms.
10. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior that you did not like?
Yes, I once asked the owner of a large dog to keep it from humping my leg.
11. Have you ever worried about people finding out about Your sexual activities?
No, quite the opposite. I am worried about the lack of traffic to my web cam.
12. Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior?
Not really, unless you count nightmares afterwards.
13. Are any of your sexual activities against the law?
Yes, but only on a technicality, it being illegal to actually spank monkeys or choke chickens.
14. Have you made promises to yourself to quit some aspect of your sexual behavior?
I promised to stop having sex alone, and broke that promise but through no fault of my own.
15. Have you made efforts to quit a type of sexual behavior and failed?
Yes, I have made efforts to stop having sex alone.
16. Do you have to hide some aspects of your sexual behavior from others?
Yes, all of it. Nobody cares or wants to watch.
17. Have you attempted to stop some parts of your sexual activities?
Yes, because I feel cheap and degraded when I grope myself.
18. Have you ever felt degraded by your sexual behavior?
No, never, alas.
19. Has sex been a way for you to escape your Problems?
No, because my only problem is I can't get laid. Sex would solve my problem.
20. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterward?
Yes, but I felt suicidal before, so it's a step up.
21. Have you felt the need to discontinue a certain form of sexual activity?
Yes, right after I orgasm. So I stop. For now.
22. Has your sexual activity interfered with your family life?
Hey, you already asked this one. Has your sexual activity interfered with your short-term memory?
23. Have you been sexual with minors?
Yes, when I was a minor myself.
24. Do you feel controlled by yoursexual desire?
Yes, and as a matter of fact I am answering these questions compulsively because it gets me hot.
25. Do you ever-think that your sexual desire is stronger than you are?
No, but I would let it think so if it made the effort. | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 8:47:08 AM | Oh my God!
Again,you women give men a lot of power!
How can you date 50 men and think they're all sex addicts?
50???
Easy lays???
You act as if women don't want sex and perhaps you won't admit it,but you do!
I understand all about sex addictions but that is not the norm-only,as on reader suggested,about 6%.That leaves about 94% of people who are just ordinary folks lookig for dates.Are you really going to suggest that there are not women looking for free meal,drinks,and yes-sex?
You are in denial.
Also-and I'm sorry if this sounds harsh,but someone who writes so terribly may just be plain dumb.Perhaps she'd be better served reading a book or two or attending a community college and take a writing course.
If something does not work out and you do it 50 times,that might speak to intelligence.
Even a mouse learns to avoid painful stimuli-heck even an amoeba does.
If she isn't offering anything other than 'you just want to sleep with me" then I really think she is probably empty minded.She may be perceiving men as just wanting to sleep with her because she can't string a sentence together.after 50 tries,you just might want to look at YOURSELF rather than suggesting all men are sex addicts.
Although none of this is fool proof-jerks do come in both genders-maybe she should communicate more before meeting-and establish she doesn't just want sex.
Really ladies,i'm as horny as the next guy but we're really not out there preying on you just for sex!
Get over yourself and learn to read and write.Or find Forset Gump as your intellectual equal. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2007 9:07:40 AM | Some paragraph breaks to make OP's piece more readable. Also corrected some typos. No other changes.
I have dated like over fifty men here and I learned so much more then before! I learnd that in real life men can not as many as partner as they like to have specially those who have sexual addiction. That is why most of them come on single. Thre is a big huge difference between being a man and having a sexual addiction.
Those women who think they have been cheated or dumped and they are not happy with it, it is because these sites are not mostly for normal men who are looking for normal relatioships. Now I can spot an addict or a jerk from a mile!...LOL They use any trick to take you to bed but unfortunately they were not happy with me because as soon as I see those fake signs in a man, I jsut dump them right away!
I have met few good men too but they do nto come here very often. There is a difference between being a man or being addicted to sex! NOt all men are bad and I have met great ones. Believe me there are lots of good ones but my advice to a lot of women here is that do not be easy and do not give yoru self up the very first time! A jerk does nto have lots of time to play games because he just wants to get result right away! See the signs! Be firm and decsisive on your wants. It is your fault if you jump in bed with them right away and find your self dumped!
Believe me a nice guy waits till he gets to know you too! It is funny because some of jerks I met, they complain about prostitutes or girls who end up stealing money from them! Guess what if you want to find a girl who is willing to have sex with you the first time then I guess you will end up finding a prostitue whose job is to get money for her service! It is a cruel world and every one thinks about herself If you want a man to respect you please detect the sign and do not jump in bed with them the very first days!
A real man waits a while if he knows you are the one for him. A lot of women try so much to satisfy men the very first dates, I do not even try hard and I get what I want every single time! It is a man's job, it is in his nature to come after you and if you are like a mysterious book they will climb the mountains to get you but if you are like an open book, then guess what! They will just use you like any other fifty sexual prostitues!
Believe me when I say there are tons of sexual addicted males here on these single sites, I am not lying! Go for the normal guys and not addicts! They usually have other type of probelmes those sexual addicts beside jsut sex. Be truthful to yourself and respect your body, if you can see the difference between the addicts and normal ones you will be happier, do not just fall for fake hunky pictures or every thing you read on every profile either, people can say so many lies, date them in public places and if you pay attention, you can spot and see the big difference between the good ones and bad ones.
I have had so many great men only because I pay attention to their body languages and signs, you also have to respect your body and do not give it up to the whole world for nothing, that is what addicts wants to get as many free sex as they can to satisfy their addictions, it is an addiction and it is bad like any other! Some Women have it too, it is consider a mental illness after all. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2007 9:44:07 AM | Ladies, """It is your falut if you jump in bed with them right away and find your self dumped! Believe me a nice guy waite till he gets to know you too!"""
Dear OP, I am not an expert, I am a man, I have been to some SA meetings (umm, for a friend who was too nervous to attend). Dear OP it is hard to take you seriously if you cannot write or spell or organize a thought. Sex addict is a medical/psychological term, and you clearly aren't at that level. Am I pissed because you warned other women to stay away from men who are eager for sex? No...I answer because of what you speak should be serious, but all you have done is hide a "men are all dogs thread" with a couple big words.
LADIES IF YOU DONT WANT TO SLEEP WITH A GUY, DONT DO IT OK? OP is right about that. Yes there are a few certifiable pervs here, quite a few ashholes, a dumber of dimwits, dorks, and outcasts. USE SOME COMMON SENSE LADIES, thank you.
But if you have had 50 dates in 2 years, or zero dates in 2 years....before you go blaming all the men, go take a long look in the mirror. Same for the men, If you messaged 1000 women and none answered, please dont come back here crying how weird and rude the women are....maybe dude, you dont know how to communicate with a woman.
Love is a gift, but its not free.
edite: Jewell, are you in anyway related to OP? """ALL what???single and looking oh yeah this IS a singles site and yeahs its freee soooo youll get everything on here...
I just think whenyou post about aw you use bad grammar or oh looky you didnt use paragraphs is pure ignorant if you dont have a point dont bother posting!!!"""
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Posted: 9/22/2007 9:59:01 AM | Wow......I think our little lady had way too much wine before she started to whine.
Labels and blame. Everyone seems to find some reason to label others and blame others.
I agree that after 50 men and you've not found someone to your liking, you are the one with
the problem.
We all know that sexual addicts exist....but I doubt that any of us are qualified to diagnose
them. Just because someone fits our order of what is sexually exciting and we act on that
does not make us addicts. As my mama would say, "Sweep around your own door!"
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 10:58:25 AM |
we are not sex addicts. we just dont get it that often,when we do we dont want to stop
I somewhat agree here... but i'd personally word it like "We want sex.. but some of us want the relationship too. When women expect us to just be in a relationship with them and not want sex, that is an unrealistic goal." | |
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Posted: 9/22/2007 11:39:03 AM | Dear Julesbee:
Thanks so much for your investigation in regard to a sexual addict. In contrast to those who prefer to rant and/or criticize those who post, when I do make a comment, I like to be as polite as possible, use proper English and sentence structure...it matters to me, (after all I AM an Editor) , and if I have any criticism, I try to make it constructive criticism for those who wish to learn.
In my comment, I did ask for helpful information in recognizing this type of person, and you furnished it. I thank you very much for your response. AND, you posted it in easily readable form.
Sincerely,
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 11:52:00 AM | I had to go back and check to see if the OP here is the same crazy woman who started the thread "Is It Wrong To Test Someone???"tried to get a man to deposit $200 in her bank account......... Nope its a different one  | |
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