| | Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?Page 1 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | I have been in these dating sites for 2 years now and all the guys I have been interested in are either not ready to settle down or can't make their minds up as to whom they want to be with. Do they just have too many choices in here? Are there any guys out there that are tired of being single and playing the dating site games? | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/25/2007 3:18:33 AM | Ya know thats a very good question ... I met a really charming gentleman on here .. has a beautiful way with words to melt your heart ... and all the while you are thinking something is really happening here suddenly something clicks and you realize that those words are pretty much being spread to every woman he speaks to which makes u no more special than the next one ...
so now you have a decision .. let it go and keep on getting sweet and wonderful awesome mail in your mailbox thats obviously going no where ... or get to the bottom of it and see what happens .. lol .. well I dove for the bottom ... and ended up having HIM delete himself off MY FAVS list but he also BLOCKED ME from ever corresponding from him again without so much as an explanation .. reply.. rebuttal or anything to my findings
trust me Im quite saddened by this .. especially coming from a man who seems to have so much in depth insite into women and typing what they want to hear. so whats a woman to do when she finds out via his own testimonial on another womans profile that she has been wasting her time in thinking she is the one when he is proclaiming if only they lived closer and the sound of her laughter ( Im thinkin sound of her laughter .. geeesh they must be chattin on the phone too!!! ) and Im sittin here checkin my mail every couple of hours waitin on a response while his butt is on the phone with someone else.
so fellas u tell me .. wtf is wrong here ...I keep hearing oh what gorgeous eyes you have and pretty smile .. I bet ur alot of fun to hang out with ... yeah yeah yeah .. well why dont one of guys get off your butts and find out for yourself .. geeesh.
yall have a good day .. Im still pondering this one and yes in the meantime I do miss my wonderfully written letters that could melt your heart .. why jack .. why couldnt you have been upfront with me ... or any of the others for that matter? or were you and I just missed it? | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/25/2007 5:43:44 AM |
suddenly something clicks and you realize that those words are pretty much being spread to every woman he speaks to which makes u no more special than the next one .............Bruin you ran into a PLAYER.........but the word "player" is just a nice way of saying LIER.
especially coming from a man who seems to have so much in depth insight into women and typing what they want to hear. ...............of course he did because he KNEW what you wanted to hear. He has experience.
I'm still pondering this one and yes in the meantime I do miss my wonderfully written letters that could melt your heart ............you miss the lies he typed to you?
When a man tells you something and his "actions" do not back up his words then you should realize that the words are meaningless. Would you really want to continue in a relationship with someone like that?
Most of us have ran into men/women like this. As soon as you discovered he was saying the same thing to other women and the "red flags" started to fly, you should have stopped all communication with him and never looked back.
It would have saved you many a tear and heartache.
Take it from someone that knows. Been there, done that and will never do it again.
Don't beat yourself up over this, it's not worth it.
~sea~ | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/25/2007 6:27:54 AM | OH Bruin Sorry you had to go through such a thang. I never say the same things to every woman on here. I just hate repreating myself and every personalty is a little different so whats the use of sticking to the same lines that you have picked up from a friend or off a TV somewhere ? I don't say nothing that I can't follow through on. Good luck on the next great eamail you get on here. There is a few good men out there,
WE are just hard to find! 
Good luck to you and all the other great women out there. | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/25/2007 9:27:12 AM | I'm still pondering this one and yes in the meantime I do miss my wonderfully written letters that could melt your heart .. why ___ .. why couldnt you have been upfront with me ... or any of the others for that matter? or were you and I just missed it?
Bless your heart Bruin. I'm sorry you're hurting and I commend you on your ability to articulate your feelings (as opposed to stuffing them inside and carrying them with you to your next fishing expedition), but if this sap has excommunicated you then you'll just have to let it go. And it may be a damn big blessing down the road; you may have serendipitously dodged a bullet honey.
But I know how you seem to feel; I've felt that way myself.
I have come to understand that much of what I read may not be meant to make me feel anything; it may have nothing to do with me at all. It's about how it makes the writer feel to write it and then anticipate how you will receive it. It's about the massaging of their own ego. Especially if it's very or over-complimentary, and doubly especially if he is writing to others. Does that make sense? I am sure it appears cynical at first glance, but it's really about trying to understand other people's motives. Or at least that's what helps me. I just say "bless that insincere bottom feeder" and move on.
If there was something wonderful about you that you identified with in his letters then realize that you already possess it, you don't need him (or anyone else) to point it out to you (tho it does feel nice ~ I know (unless it's overkill which is creepy)).
Bait your hook again and just keep  . Want to hear something nice? Then look at yourself in the mirror and say it. No one will love you more than you love yourself.
OT: Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
I think they're in either the Georgia in Russia or they're in Canada. That's ok tho; fishing is FUN! | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/25/2007 10:28:50 AM | This is the truth, and this is what I truly believe. Satan keeps skinny, beautiful models on the magazines and TV's so that these men out there believe that outward beauty is what's important and so they are NEVER satisified with just ONE!!!!!!  | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/25/2007 3:32:00 PM | thank you sea .. asimplecountryboy and tea for your words .. I have let it go but in a nice way wanted to rat the guy out ( I will never publish his name on here .. but if you private msg me I would be more than happy to pass it along so you dont fall victim) to others here to be ware we have instead of a "silver tongued" snake amongst us .. he is a "master at the keyboard" .. its kinda of funny .. since last night .. the of people whose favs list he appeared on has dropped .. and Im anxious to see how far down it actually goes .. and the ones who hang on .. well maybe they need the ego boost .. I know I certainly dont need an ego boost like that .. its all about SINCERITY gentleman will one day find his way to me .. till then .. Im happy going to work  where I know Im making a difference in somebodys life ... lmao . I work for a company that sells and repairs commercial deep fryers like at arbys .. wendys .. etc .. think of all the lunch and dinner fries that are goin to ppls hips and how many arteries my data entry is clogging in the southeast .. truely a remarkable feeling. | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/25/2007 3:45:38 PM | I've been ready to settle down for a while now, but hope tends to wane with me as time passes. I do have an upcoming date with someone from POF and I'm hoping for the best because truth be told I am quite tired of the dating site games that "some" people tend to play.
And yes, I am tired of being single.
V!! | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/25/2007 4:15:37 PM | Yal women are bit by the big snake! EVE was the decieved one, Not Adam, ever since then, yall have been SO EASY to fool, you go for the guys who can make you feel good Right NOW! But if a guy says something wrong now, HE is bad! Women have been more subceptibal to Deception for years, and MEN take advatafge of it! But guys, like me, who are honest and upfront from the beginning, even if it doesnt make her FEEL so good from the start, get overlooked, cause LIES Feel better! Troht hurts sometimes. But only TRUTH will last. LIES will fade and leave you lying in your own tears.
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/25/2007 5:12:01 PM | Bruin,
One of the things you have to realize about the internet, is people will say anything online. Sad, but true. Something about the anonymity of the internet seems to empower folks to fudge the truth (if not outright lie).
Best advice I could give you would be to really pursue your Gwinnett Get-Together idea, so you can meet people in person. Much tougher to look someone in the eye and be dishonest.
I've noticed in looking at other states (Florida, Texas) that they tend to have monthly
(or more often) get-togethers around the larger cities. All it takes is someone arranging with a venue. No cover charge for POF members, hopefully have a band, maybe reserve a table or few for POF, etc.
Once arranged, just announce it in the forums and ask for commitment aattendance, so you can give venue some idea of POF attendance.
Big difference in going to this vs. some other group's singles events. Most would feel more comfortable knowing other POF'ers and therefore show up.
I'd help you organize/schedule but should really be an Atlanta thing with so many folks in north Georgia. But I might drive up to attend!
Last Note: other groups are already planning their Halloween Costume POF Party.
Rob | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/26/2007 6:18:20 AM | | My experience has been that the men I date say they want to settle down, but after a few months they say they are really not ready emotionally, financially, career wise or whatever..Personally I don't know how a person doesn't know that prior to getting out there, but men are a different breed! Maybe they can sense we want to settle down after a few months they get scared and run..I'm not really sure! I am guessing they dont get the emotional toll it does on us women! | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/26/2007 9:27:15 AM | Ya'll wanna be confused??? Try using 3 internet dating sites... AT ONCE! (I've finally gotten serious about this!)
I test drove my car; I looked at 75 houses all over 6 counties before I bought, hell ~ I try on shoes and clothes before I buy them... so it only stands to reason looking at my own behavior patterns that I am going to date around before I settle down... which I would bet is true for both genders.
*edit* Yes Whirlybird... kinda like Elliott Ness said in "Untouchables"... "Never stop! Never stop fighting until the fight is done!" I apply that principle to finding the right guy instead of settling for the nearly right guy... | |
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| Where are the Georgia guys that are ready to settle down?
Posted: 9/27/2007 9:23:06 AM |
You don't really believe that do you?
Not really. I was just kidding around. It really is hard to connect with someone right. I am in the process of connecting with someone now that wrote me just last week. | |
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