| | How Do You Handle Rejection?Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | I'm not talking about messages on here as that subject had been done to death.
I'm talking about when you actually meet someone and find that you like them only to discover that they just don't feel the same way.
Some people find it hard to accept and go to strange lengths to try and maintain any sort of contact in the hope that the other person may change how they feel. There are also those who blame the other person for their rejection and try to justify what happened by convincing themselves and others it was actually the other person that they didn't like.
Other people are able to just be philosophical about it, put it down to experience and move on.
Do you think that it's understandable when people get upset at being rejected or do you think that it's all just part of life and should be forgotten?
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Posted: 9/25/2007 7:20:30 AM | | can i be frank for a minute. its the people that say,"ooh you just gotta move on",that irritate me,,cause secretly there as pissed of as what i am,yes,i probo take a sulk or ten,but hey,rejection always will suck......thats why tasty beer was invented.............. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 7:21:44 AM | At the start of the game we all get upset, then we grow up and realize that it's just one of those things, sadly though if you are a caring person having to reject someon can be very distresssing.
Oh well next !!! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 7:23:46 AM |
Do you think that it's understandable when people get upset at being rejected or do you think that it's all just part of life and should be forgotten?
some people tend to take it quite badly, i suppose i some situations its understandable. but it can manifest in stalking, if it gets to out of control.
How do you handle it?
life is far too short for hang ups, i tend to make friends with them. so no real harm done, although ive never really been rejected in a relationship based thing. nor do i bed jump so really, i can't really comment. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 7:25:33 AM | I handle it pretty well...
I can't always feel towards others what they feel towards me and vice versa. It's a part of life. I guess it depends on what level you feel towards the person at the end of the day.
New person quite generally its not that difficult to move on is it? Because there are times in our lifes we have had the same thing happen..
Someone who you have become fond of and known for sometime can be harsh however maybe a realisation is that the reasons you like them for what you do is because of the friendship you hold.
I can't and never have become bitter and twisted about it with an attitude of life is not fair.. Some do i guess it depends on how confident you are about yourself :-) | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 7:25:40 AM | Rejection is part of life, not just in the relationship department but in other fields too, employment for instance. Of course it hurts and in a relationship it is tempting to hang on a while in the hope they might change their mind - I'm sure I must have done that at some time, but for your own wellbeing you have to move on and not dwell on things that have gone wrong.
Its perfectly understandable that people get upset and licking your wounds for a while is ok but it shouldnt go on too long before its forgotten. I suppose we're all different in the way we deal with it and the time we take to heal. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 7:28:06 AM | | Move on.. life is too short to be clinging onto something that is never going to happen. It would just make both parties very unhappy for different reasons....go and find someone that will give you back as much as you put in .... | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 7:28:34 AM | | actually,i just stapled my ear lugs to the desk there,i retract my previous post,as its happend so many times,,,i almost expect it..........now that IS a glass half empty veiw,but i dont care,im stuck here on my own with no one to rant off too........so there...... | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 7:29:06 AM | As a therapist, I handle rejection..........very badly. I am great at helping others though....a case of physician heal thyself.
Well at least I am honest! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 7:46:25 AM | it's not always easy if you have invested yourself a little bit emotionally but it's one of those things you get used to (sad but true) for me it's good to take time to get yourself straight and then get right back on out there - move on  | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 8:14:59 AM | When I was younger I used to get upset as I expect my daughter will as she is nearly a teenager. OMG I am so looking forward to that.. not !!!
Nowadays I cope with rejection well. Upset for a split second and then just fine. If I am not wanted well I am not wanted and you cannot force someone to love / want you. I would much rather be with someone who shares my feelings than dwell over what might have been. Life is too short. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 8:17:25 AM | | after i've had a hissy fit, and dug up some dirt on them to make them pay i'm usually ok about it...oh, and when i've found my next victim, i usually forget about the last one too :) | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 8:20:51 AM | I believe that everyone has the right to decide who they want to include in their life. If they don't want me to be part of it , so be it. No point getting stressed about it | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 8:22:44 AM | withdraw...........no point flogging a dead horse when mr/ms perfect could be standing in the wings waiting to catch your eye.
sure i've fancied people before, been honest about it, and been told i'm not thought of in a romantic way, and, thats the hard bit over..... you can go on to become mates, (if you really did like the person). or.......walk away. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 8:23:26 AM | in truth though, what can you do BUT accept it?
yes, sometimes it hurt's a bit more than other times, depending on how you feel about yourself at the time, how it was done etc...but usually after a little wound licking it's more palatable.
i have hung on a little longer than i should have once or twice, if i thought i was getting mixed signals (whether i actually was or not i don't know, but i thought i was) and i was so p*ssed off by one that i told him that his penis was laughable...no excuses, it just made me feel better at the time...
on the whole though i accept it. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 8:24:34 AM | I would think that most of us on here have felt the wrath of rejection, at some point.. it's a hard one to describe, but a very good question.. !
We all need time to let of the steam, say words we know are the opposit to how we really fee, or even a grieving period.. but i think for everyone at least one of them points comes to a boil..
After the boil we simmer, and manage the strengh to go forward yet again.. until next time, so one big circle really..
Myself i tend now not to go too deep too fast.. and suppress any feelings maybe a bit too much.. but it helps! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 8:27:35 AM |
How do you handle it?
Obviously its never happened to me.. obviously
But if it ever happened to me.... I would burn his house down... And kidnap his mother! lol
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Posted: 9/25/2007 8:37:26 AM | Obviously its never happened to me.. obviously
But if it ever happened to me.... I would burn his house down... And kidnap his mother! lol
You missed out shaving his cat, raiding his fridge, and hidng dead fish under the floorboards.... or was i a special case??? | |
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| How Do You Handle Rejection?
Posted: 9/25/2007 8:47:06 AM | I would be lying if I said it didn't hurt being rejected so often but you get used to it..
Just as long as nobody says theres someone out there for everyone as I might scream!! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 8:56:47 AM |
You missed out shaving his cat,
Good idea, thank you.. and send it to him via post.... flat packed!
raiding his fridge, and hidng dead fish under the floorboards
Naaaaah... not my style.. too much like a pvssy cat.. too girlie... Not strong enough message.. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 9:57:55 AM |
How Do You Handle Rejection?
It aint never gonna happen 
Thankfully hasnt happened to me as yet but if it did i would have a big ole tantrum, cry, smoke loads of ciggies, down plenty of vodka, ring my friends, so pretty much what i do in every crisis  | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 10:24:28 AM | I have found on here its just Rejection after rejection... always over keen till they see you.... then shocked cos i dont look like angleina jolie in real life.... but majority of them are not for me either....
I have a bit of a down time.... (not got to putting on any sad song,,, so no one got to me that much.... ) but I move on to the next but its getting to the point of feeling like a conveyor belt ..... have given up numerous times but foolishly always get talked in to meeting someone again....after weeks chatting etc.... thinking this run of bad luck got to run out someday....
but untill it does.... my skin is growing very thick....  | |
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