| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 3:47:27 PM | | I am confused on the signals a guy I am trying to see is sending me...I am aware of myself being too open and too trusting a lot in getting to know people and it does get me in trouble a lot but I cannot help who I am. My situation now though is this guy I have gotten together with once so far about 3 or 4 weeks ago keeps on saying he really wants to see me again. For a while I just gave up on him and put my interest elsewhere because nothing was happening. He would say it and say it again but he seems to have a hectic schedule and it never worked out. He hasn't given up on talking to me or saying he wants to see me again throughout all of this though. A few days ago we talked and seems to say that I gave up too soon on him so now I am back trying to get to know him and see him again. We try to make plans and it's like I wait all day for him to tell me he's on his way and it just doesn't happen. Is it just because of his busy schedule or is he just playing games with me? In need of immediate advice! Please help! | |
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| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 3:54:48 PM | | Well he could be married. I wouldn't wait around on him. I would go on and if he calls and you want to do something, then do it. But I sure wouldn't put my life on hold for someone that is so elusive. He may be trying to see several women at once. Who knows. Could be a busy schedule. But experience has told me that if a man wants to see you, he will make time for you. Just my two cents worth. Good luck. | |
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| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 3:54:50 PM | Nobody here can tell you what's going on because nobody here knows him. But does it really matter what the reason is? Even if he really does just have a busy schedule, is that the kind of person you want to be with? Someone who never has time for you?
We try to make plans and it's like I wait all day for him to tell me he's on his way and it just doesn't happen.
Does he call and let you know he's not going to be showing up, or are you expected to put your life on hold just in case he decides he has time for you? | |
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| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 3:54:57 PM | My momma always told me 'Actions speak louder than words.' She's 92.
The newer version is 'He's just not into you.'
It's still your choice if you want to continue with him, though. | |
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| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 3:55:24 PM | | I've been where you are before. I hate to say this because I know how we want to hope we've found someone special...sorry but he's playing games...move on honey, you're cute and I'm sure you'll find someone who actually has the time to spend with you. | |
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| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 3:56:17 PM | Well I don't know this guy.
So I am just saying that if I REALLY really wanted to see a woman,I would make time no matter what, to see this woman. I mean what does he do for a living that he can't make time for you? Does he travel, is he a Dr, Lawyer, ask him. Or maybe he is buying time with you by telling you that he will meet you, wile he is seeing if he can work something out with someone else, and if that does not work he has you to fall back on. I don't know it sounds kinda strange to me.
I would ask questions, if he gets defensive, then thats a red flag. You should be able to communicate with each other. Who knows he might be married or have a gf.
My 2 cents. | |
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| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 3:59:51 PM | | Come on Mia....sounds like your emotions are being pulled on. Not all guys are like this...they actually find time for you if they really care and the giving and receiving is mutual. People do have busy schedules but when they meet the one who truly causes the butterflies to flutter then they make time. Ask yourself this...."If he can't find time for me in the dating process then how will he ever find time for me in a real relationship?" You are a beautiful girl and no matter what type of relationship you and this guy have had up until now...just walk away...you'll be doing him and yourself a favor. Sounds like a player to me....sorry. | |
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| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 4:35:52 PM | Thank you all for the advice it is a lot of help. There were a lot of interesting ideas as to what it could be that he could be doing on the side. I honestly think I am going to choose to walk away from this. I hate mind games and I really do want someone that has time for me. He does call me even that day of supposedly seeing him and tell me he is going to come get me later but he is busy with some other thing or something at the moment. I haven't heard from him now since the other day. Even if I do I'm not responding. It's better off for me to just give it up. I suppose I have a few issues with my life these days and going about them in the wrong way. I am posting another post here soon and I hope you all respond. Thank You! | |
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| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 4:52:25 PM | 
Congratulations girl! Just move on. I realized that I had this mixed emotions with this guy. But you know it is never the end of the world. Remember there are a lot of fishes in the sea. It may be a bad fish, endangered fish or a good fish. It is matter of trying to segregate them into the right basket.
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| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 4:52:34 PM | | Sounds like he's a waste of time. If someone likes you and wants to be with you - his time is your time and you will have no confusion or questions where you fit into his life! | |
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| Confusion on mixed signals. Help!
Posted: 9/27/2007 4:55:38 PM | Unless he's a surgeon on call, I would say he's stringing you along.
Start treating him like he does you. Tell him you'll call and never do. Tell him you'll write, then never do.
Or you could just say screw it and not bother with him any longer and just ignore him all together. | |
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