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Posted: 9/28/2007 9:01:02 PM | | I have noticed that when I go out to a singles club or a singles event that many men dress down. In Florida, many even wear shorts. I have to say I like these guys because it makes it easier for me to 'acquaint ' with a lady. I always try to dress as nice as I can when I go out . The bottomline is that when you buy a product you look for nice packaging. It sounds trite but when you are looking to hook up with someone that you should present yourself in the best PACKAGING possible. Many men do not get this , but I do . Ladies many times purposely do not dress up because they do not want to get hit on , I guess I can understand that . | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 9:10:07 PM | Personally, I kinda prefer the semi-dressed down guy. Maybe not the shorts and an ugly t-shirt but I do enjoy the jeans and a nicer t-shirt thing. I kind of go for the more man's man, football player, rugby player, hunter, fisherman kind of guy.
I'm intimidated by the really nicely dressed guy because he's probably more stylish than me. I don't particularly like the pretty boy thing. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 11:22:31 PM | I understand where you're comming from...
Living in Cali dates can show up in flipflops. I must admit that I am a diversified gal... I like my men... in a business suite, pair of tight levi's, or shorts! LOL If he smells good it's even betta!!!! | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 2:06:40 AM | As far as I see it, when you're searching for your match, you should be in your natural habitat/atmosphere. Meaning, let them know what you're really like... no surprises!
Who wants to date someone who looks like the perfect package for the first few weeks only to find out that they're a total slob afterwards. Yes, dressing up can be good, but don't go overboard to the point that you're only doing it for the hunt.
If you be yourself, you'll be fair to the others around you. In return, you'll get more accurate results/reactions from those you're pursuing (and everyone else for that matter).
And as far as thinking that many men don't get this... I would think again.
Ask a bunch of your guy friends if they perfer a woman who uses make up to look pretty compaired to a woman who looks pretty without it. It's not that we "don't get it", it's that we're mesmerized by the things that stand out and become single minded.
Ooooohhh.... Look!!!! A shiny penny... I'll be right back...... | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 4:08:53 AM | | ^^^ I understand what you are saying . I have gone to clubs where men are looking to meet women- GEE WHAT A SURPRISE lmao. Some of the men are not even dressed 'average'. Those are the men I do not understand. Maybe its different in other parts of the country or world . There are a high percentage of men that dress in raggedy jeans or disgusting looking tshirt. Its one thing to be yourself or just dressed average. Its another thing to be dressed like you just played a makeshift football game. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 8:14:21 AM | | I love a smartly dressed man - it says that he not only cares about how he looks to the rest of the world - but it says he cares about every other aspect of his life as well! Attention to detail is a good thing!!! Very attractive to me! | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 8:45:13 AM | | Very interesting question. But I think what I have observed is that there are guys who try too hard to dress and they look desperate. But it all depends on the location and the type of place. For instance at the bar of a hotel you will find a lot of people who just got out of a meeting so wearing a suit, or what is left of is common and it doesn't come across as overdressed. Then you take that look to one of the local places with a live band and you are overdressed. But noticed the guys with the hot chick, he is dressed unassumingly nice, even a little rough. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 8:48:59 AM | Americans tend to underdress on virtually all occasions.
It seems that unless a (financial) promotion is involved, they try to look as sloppy as possible.
Some younger generations western Europeans do the same, whereas older generations of western Europeans and most eastern Europeans tend to overdress for whatever occasion.
My dad never leaves the house without a suit and tie - even in summer, even just to get the paper - and the ONLY way he'll ever be caught dead in a pair of jeans or a t-shirt is home, alone, with the doors closed...... | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 9:13:16 AM | Ah the ageless question: image vs. substance. It's interesting to see how people line up on this issue. I'm all about SUBSTANCE first, image is generally secondary unless it is unkempt or inappropriate.
Granted first impressions are important, but I'm much more attracted to a woman who is sexy and NOT advertising herself with makeup and clothing; the confidence is what is attracting, not the overdone unnatural appearance. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 9:23:23 AM | | I don't dig the pretty boy thing either, I dig the t shirt and jeans guy myself | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 5:50:20 PM | Why are you going to singles bars or events and looking at how the men are dressed?
How does the way they are dressed make it easier for you to ' acquaint ' with a lady?
It is very interesting you once again set yourself above the others as far as knowing what is best.
I happen to dress very nice with a pair of shorts, dress shirt, and tennis shoes...
But then again, your pic shows the package I guess... | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 7:41:50 PM | | I think it probably depends on where you are meeting and what you are planning to do. Like for a nice dinner you might want to dress up, but if you are going to a ball game or something then jeans and a tshirt i think is approriate | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 8:29:58 PM | | I do like it when they make an effort. When I meet someone for the first time, I would prefer that they leave the tank tops, shorts, flip flops, tee shirt at home. They do score extra points if they smell nice. Not to be "Miss Priss" or anything but, a little effort goes a long way. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 8:33:27 PM | | I work with men in suits all week, so when I see some tight jean, tshirt wearin sweaty mechanic or something I go all weak in the knees...*sigh* | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 1:38:17 AM | i dress down, an it probably has cost me some relationships in that women might want me to dress or come across a different way; but that is how i feel comfortable and if it means that i miss out on a woman then so be it...
its not that i don't care; but who i like and who im with is not based on what they wear, an if they don't like me cus of what i wear im ok w/that. I don't look at them as shallow, i just say they have their pref and i don't fit it, which is all good. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 3:15:00 AM | | way to try and make yourself look slick on a mesageboard. guys these days know women dont need a dude dressed up in a polyster suit looking for a promotion. if your a fun guy and have decent looks/hygeine then u probably dont need to put a bowtie on like this dorky guy. im gonna have to say the op probably smells bad and looks a little creepy so he dresses up to try and make no one notice. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 3:33:37 AM | | i dress up once in awhile but most of the time i wear whats comfortable, but if your going out to pick up, its all about personality and if your not having fun people notice that shit right away come on now | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 3:59:24 AM | I agree completely. The point is, does the person know how to dress appropriately.
Lots of guys look good in shorts, or a suit or tight jeans. I want a guy who can fit in without sticking out like a sore thumb. I am looking for a guy who is intelligent enough to dress properly.
Shorts at a sports bar is fine and jeans with a white dress shirt (ummmm, ummm sexy) is awesome. Like one post said, if you go to a hotel bar you expect (and will) find more suits.
Bottom line is that it all goes deeper than the clothes. I love to dress up but I am just as comfortable in my jeans and boots.
The "smell good" thing is a big plus. A good cologne or aftershave will turn my head....... Not as a coverup either ,guys (or girls) ..... don't go hunting (or fishing  ) smelling like a day of hard labor. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 4:35:30 AM | lets me ask a question here
what is more important
the "packaging" or what is within the "packaging" ?
all that glitters is not gold | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 4:52:21 AM | True. All that glitters is not gold...........
.... but, I enjoy unwrapping a pretty package as oppossed to opening a bag of garbage.
Sometimes the present may not be exactly what you wanted but it can be fun to open whether you keep the gift or "re-gift" it. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 6:41:40 AM | | At last! a man who understands that women like men who look attractive too! | |
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Posted: 10/1/2007 3:26:59 AM | | To Msg 15 - Your main picture is of yourself in a suit and tie , which is cool. Obviously you DO want to 'look good' to try and acquaint with women, even though you say you will not dress to please a woman. I think some may be missing my point . Sure being in Florida if you wear shorts at a tiki bar its all good. I am referring to men that I see dressed really like that do not care one iota about their appearance. We are talking about as ragged as one can be. Ladies you have seen this too. As I have mentioned in my first post , women purposely dress down alot of times because they do not want to get hit on . Maybe these men do not want to get hit on , so maybe I am coming to a rash conclusion. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2007 4:45:46 AM | | I wear what's comfortable for me, a shirt a shorts, I dont really like to wear slacks or jeans, too uncomfortable for me. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2007 4:46:16 AM | Funny...when I'm out and see someone who doesn't look smiliar to the general population, I think they're creepy...someone who is trying hard to be someone they're not. It may sound odd, but I immediately assume they're trying way too hard to make up for their insecurities. I think things like "lounge lizzard." lol
Clean, confident, happy, looks natural (for the environment)......THAT's what is going to attract the majority of women. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2007 5:32:31 AM | I also believe in dressing like what you're looking for - so yes, I dress for success and am looking for the same. I love to see a smartly dressed man. It shows he pays attention to himself as I do. I am a business woman so I dress all the time for my work and always like to look nice no matter what the situation.
I sometimes find when meeting someone for the first time and we agree on casual ,
but meeting for dinner, they dress very casually in shorts and a t-shirt when I come in nice jeans, nice shoes and a nice top. My t-shirts are my run to the store or working around the house clothes, not to meet someone for dinner.
I am much more attracted to a man who looks sharp. That includes a man in jeans and a shirt, not someone dressed sloppy.
Again, dress for what you are looking to meet. | |
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