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Posted: 9/30/2007 3:04:47 AM | Ok this woman and I have been chatting on-line for 3 weeks and we agreed to meet.Honestly I think she is pretty great.But,my problem is I had friends over to my place and I showed them her profile and right off the back they said that picture of her really isn't her it is of a celebrity.So with very little research I come across that same picture and sure enough it wasa pic of a celebrity.Now call me niave,and gulliable,but I am not up on the current celebs and just assumed that was really her.
Now,knowing what I know ,and we are suppose to meet,but I am not so sure I should go ahead and do this.I mean she obvisouly was caught in a lie,and frankly that isn't a good way to start off,and besides that I have no idea what she really looks like now. So the question is I found her personality really fun and she is really cool to talk too,but should I still give her a chance,after knowing what I know?? | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 3:23:09 AM | Hmmm....a bit of a bum start!!
I suppose the think you might consider is that often photos that folk display are quite old and therefore in many cases someone is merrily going on a date with someone who is perhaps as much as 10 years older than their photo depicts. How would you feel in that position...maybe you would meet them and get along and decide that their personality more than made up for a few more wrinkles than you had expected? On the other hand it was deceptive...could you put it down to a little white lie?
I think it would all come down to gut feeling upon your meeting. Therefore my advice would be go on the date...otherwise you will always wonder.
Have you considered that having given you a false picture this person may well not show up anyway for fear of being found out?
You are not naive and gullible in my opinion just not dried up and cynical...in today's world you are a dying breed...so don't change.
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Posted: 9/30/2007 3:26:47 AM | Usually when someone does this type of lying it usually means they have self esteem issues, they regularly lie about things they are not proud of and/or they are hiding other things behind many other things and this is one of many things they will and do lie about that she thinks is acceptable to lie about. To me this is a huge red flag and not worth opening Pandora's box.
Unless you don't mind being lied to then call it off. There are too many good fish out there to have deal with a liar.
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Posted: 9/30/2007 3:29:19 AM | Gee Vamos, that IS a dilemma! There are probably MANY ways you could handle this, and of those many ways, probably only a couple would be a good idea.
I don't know why someone would be using a fake pic here on POF, when the object IS to hopefully meet someone, but I do know I've been on many sites where pics are stolen from at least two modeling agencies that have their models pics online (can we say 'copyright infringement'?) Those other sites are full of scammers. Now DON'T be alarmed Vamos, I'm not implying the lady is a scammer, just what I have found on OTHER sites.
There has to be a way to bring this up to her.
Are you talking on the telephone, one of the many instant messengers, or just messages here? It would seem to me it would depend on your communication method on how you would proceed with this.
Let me give it some thought, and I'll come back to the thread and tell you my 'thoughts' on this, ok? 
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Posted: 9/30/2007 3:49:02 AM | She lied to you about the visably obvious, sorry to burst the Imagination - but nothing else she said would be true either. She probably has No Intention of meeting - you wouldnt have the right age or anything. Fact unless you spoke on the phone .. what makes you think Its a woman?
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Posted: 9/30/2007 4:48:52 AM | Depends how you feel and what you believe.
Here's a charitable view you might take: she assumed that the celebrity photo would be recognised and did not even consider that it would be mistaken for actually being her -- just as if she'd posted a photo of Minnie Mouse. As your friends spotted it immediately, this isn't so unreasonable. If you can give this any credence then why not just ask her for a photo so you know what she looks like, without even mentioning the main photo at all. if she points you back to it then you'll know that she's lying and almost certainly had no intention of ever meeting you. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 4:52:15 AM | Yeah that is thing though we have spoken on the phone a few times,IM and in constant touch through e-mail.Our schedules have been kinda crazy so we couldn't meet til today,but who knows if she was actually would show up. We are the same age with alot in common which makes it kind of a downer. I feel stupid as hell,but in a way it is kinda humorous. I sent her a e-mail so I guess I will see what she has to say ,and play it be ear.
I haven't what I am going to do yet about the situation,but I thik there is a red flag there that i can't ignore.But,since we had a nice rapport I may agree to meet,but the problem is there is how will i know it is her?Since I have no idea what she looks like now. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 5:09:41 AM | Wow...this is a really tough call actually, maybe even a bit weird so I reakon ur right keeping in mind the red flag.
What it does provide for her is a way to meet up with you & check you out without you even knowing.
More I think about it tho, the more strange it is and doubt if I personally would pursue it further unless there was a logical answer why.
If a second red flag jumped up, Id be outta there for sure. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 7:20:47 AM | Tell her the real "celeb" whomever that is, called and wants a real date with a truthful real guy.. Honestly this is so stupid. My daugthers photos were stolen and used on the same site! She had to go on web cam with the site admin to get the offender banned.
Surely this person doesn't look so bad that they wont use their own photos?
Anyway lesson learned for you.. Start going to celeb gossip sites and get caught up on people.. That way you wont be fooled like this again.. But there are still those out there using other peoples photos.. just be aware of that.. What a nice guy you are that you believe in truth.. how refreshing.. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 8:23:35 AM | Send her an email saying "so, could you send me your REAL picture?"
If she stops talking to you, then forget her. Either way, usually I just forget the person if they already mislead like that. :| | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 8:29:26 AM | | It's possible that she doesn't realize that some people wouldn't know who the celebrity was. Maybe she assumed that you'd realized it was a famous person. I want to know who the picture was of, that way it would be easier to tell. If it was someone really famous, who's kind of "popular" right now, then I would say that she assumed you'd know. If it's someone who was popular 20 years ago, or someone who is more of a "B grade" actress, then I can see the issue. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 8:39:52 AM | OP is it possible that she looks alot like the Celeb ???
have you asked to see more pics of here in a natural setting i.e her with a bunch of friends or whatever ?
Keep us posted
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Posted: 9/30/2007 8:55:30 AM | Up until recently this service allowed all kinds of weird photos. I'm happy to see the change. Maybe she simply left hers there.
Personally I would meet the woman and take it from there. I've met lots of guys on dating services who looked NOTHING like their pics.....and so what??
She hasn't been "caught in a lie" as yet.....your friends are telling you tales which may or may not be accurate!! | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 8:58:46 AM | call her on it!!
put all the cards on the table....and ask her!!
then you can decide what to do from there! | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 9:01:24 AM | OMG, 'scuse me, but I'm laughing real hard here!!!!!
I cant believe someone has the sand to post a pic of a celebrity as their profile picture, that is too funny...and is also a BIG RED FLAG, this person has some issues and it aint just self-esteem issues, wow! Do not even give a courtesty reply. RUN>>>>>>>>>>
(wow maybe I should try that??) | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 9:32:42 AM | That's a pretty strange thing for her to do. She could've posted an old picture, or no picture. But she chose to steal a picture from someone & post it.
I would call her on it too - before you meet. No telling what else she could be lying about. Tell her you saw 'her' picture on the internet somewhere and you would like to know what the deal is, even though you've enjoyed talking to her so far. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 9:49:29 AM | | There is so much dishonestly with on-line dating you don't know what to believe. I would call her on it. Absolutely. If you have her private e-mail, you should find the picture of the celebrity on line and then e-mail her with and say "friend of yours?" | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 9:50:09 AM | I would say one of three things are going to happen.......
1) It really is her!
2) It's going to be a very large woman
3) You'll be meeting a trans-sexual drag queen. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 9:51:07 AM | your over 30...RUN RUN RUN...HEAD FOR THE HILLS
she may even be another guy or a transvestite...one never knows now does one | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 9:59:55 AM | O K so you have not meet her yet. So in truth you really don't know if it her or not. You say she on other places. Gee lot of people have profile on other sites.
Now here the thing, what if you don't take the chance to meet her and find out it really was her. Stars and such do date also. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 10:07:18 AM | | personally I would meet her, bring a copy of the pic, and confront her face to face......who knows what you will find when you get there. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 10:18:14 AM | wnt you ask her, say yeh you know i was looking at your pic and thought
your a dead ringer for......................
see what she says | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 10:19:20 AM | Sorry to hear that OP.
I'd be pissed, but my curiosity would get the better of me. I would raise the issue the next time we talked. "Hey, do people tell you you look like ** insert celeb name **". Give her the chance to come clean.
Or - do what uglyoldjohn said....
If nothing else, you'd have a good date story to tell.  | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 10:22:33 AM | Just go...I'd be interested to see if she
1. Shows Up
2. What she says when she does show up
3. What she really looks like
If you find her without a 3rd eye and a big hump in her back and missing teeth...you just may continue what seems to be a nice 'chemistry' kinda friendship. Nothing ventured ..nothing gained.
Go be brave and daring....and if you do go..get back to us would ya.. lol | |
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