| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 2:07:03 PM | Can you tell why do men who have jobs and some values want to live with their parents.
I know of several men some who own their own business's that still live at home with their parents. Why when they can have their own space would anyone want to do this ?
Oh, their parenst are not disabled, just getting older. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 2:37:52 PM |
Can you tell why do men who have jobs and some values want to live with their parents.
I know of several men some who own their own business's that still live at home with their parents. Why when they can have their own space would anyone want to do this ?
Oh, their parenst are not disabled, just getting older.
cuz itty-bitty baby boy is a Mama's Boy & Daddy's Lil helper
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 3:18:59 PM |
Can you tell why do men who have jobs and some values want to live with their parents. Why not?
Oh, I see... this is your answer as to why not:
when they can have their own space Ah, so you PRESUME they do not have their own space, eh? Define "space". Define then what each individual person perceives to be "their own space". Can you see where I'm going with this?
As for the "mama's boy" kind of answer, yet another presumption. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 3:33:02 PM | Oh, with their parents!
I was going to say, I'm a grown man and live at home! Where else would I live?
I bought it, paid the darn bank dearly for it, and it's mine!  | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 4:33:42 PM | I wish I could explain it lol
If they're having some financial difficulties and living there temporarily I think it'd be ok.
What I don't get is when it's because it's a convenience to them and they try to pass it off like they are 'taking care' of their parents when that is not the case. That kind is always more transparant than he thinks he is. I avoid those, it's a turn off.
I'd rather give my attention to a man who isn't living large and takes the responsibility himself than one who's taking the easy route just because he can. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 4:48:00 PM | | The only grown Man that have known that was living with his parents has issues with drugs alcohol. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 5:12:12 PM | I resemble that remark!
My daughter almost married a Mamma's boy a few months ago. I was supposed to give her away. It's 1,400 miles to where she lives and I flew out there. The day I got there she was a mess, crying, "I'm sorry you came all this way. I canceled the wedding and we are splitting up."
I told her it was no big deal and if she had any doubts then, it's all for the best. Got to see my other daughter and all the grandbabies.
I brought with me the wife and as it happened they threw a barbeque. Just so happened the 1st and 3rd ex's were also invited and showed up. It wasn't that uncomfortable and while we were all outside waiting and talking , I hollered out for the Grandkids to come meet all their Grandmas. Kids can never have too many Grandmas that love them. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 5:19:40 PM | I disagree with some comments made here.
Its been only in the last few decades that living away was the ideal. Once upon a time, families who lived together consisted of the grandparents, parents, children, maybe even a single aunt or uncle. In some cultures here in the western hemisphere it is still the norm.
I think it will become more normal as times get harder. If families can respect each others spaces and can cohabitate without alot of drama...where's the harm?
I know alot of people where the single parent has taken their income and combined it with their adult children to buy a home. It would work for me, and if I were to partner up with a man who has done the same thing...well, maybe we'd be just to wierd for everyone else and terribly out of step...and quite possibly have a loving circle around us.
I know...I'm just a dreamer...but it does happen. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 6:35:43 PM | I wouldn't be too quick to judge, only because there could be multiple reasons.
Maybe, maybe... the parents have a very limited income, or extreme expenses, so having the adult child pay rent is actually a financial help. Plus a financial savings for the adult child.
Granted, if your just talking about a "freeloader". That's a different story. My big question would be, How do the parents feel about the child living there? If the parents welcome it... No problem. Both are happy. If the parents feel squeezed about the situation... then I agree that the child's motives should be questioned. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 6:44:34 PM | ^^^^I was looking back to see who flamed me! Thanks Springazure44. Nice to know some people understand the true meaning of Tribe.
I read your profile as well...Right on! | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 7:03:23 PM | | It's the ones who admit that it's because mom still does all the cooking, cleaning, laundry etc for him that bugs the *&^% out of me. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 7:06:46 PM | | I wouldn't judge a man in his 40s that lives with his family. Come to think of it, I wouldn't judge anyone. Ever think his aging parents need help? Ever think he needs help? | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 7:13:53 PM | A man 40+ who lives with his parents???????? NO WAY.
You metioned they are not disabled or anything else. Just older. OK... then find a place nearby if you want to but NO ...I would feel terribly uncomfortable because the only place WE could be together would be at MY house. It also reeks of Mammas Boy and all kinds of things that make a ...nothing .. man. Someone who does his laundry and makes dinner.. still! I'm sure she tucks him in bed at night with his favorite teddy bear too. geezzz
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 7:18:52 PM | | Personally, I'm not keen on it if he's freeloading. Just because he's living with Mom & Dad, doesn't mean I'll be moving in with them. Those who do, hopefully it's a temporary situation and most of all, a win-win situation. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 7:48:39 PM | Go ahead and run. I lived next door and never was sorry for it. My kids were better for it and my wife loved my parents until they died. You might be missing something. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 7:59:35 PM | Excellent post... Actually growing up as a kid, my G-parents lived right across the street from us. That is why my dad bought the house that he did. I spent a good chunk of my childhood across the street, playing Kings In The Corner, with Grandma.
The more that I think about... she was my best friend. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 8:11:26 PM | | My brother, not quite 40, lives with our parents because he just got divorced and his evil ex got so much of his income for child support that he can't afford to live anywhere else. Sometimes you just gotta suck it up and do what ya gotta do. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 8:17:22 PM | | I have no problem with living next door or on the same street...but in the same house? A friend of my ex still lives at home - in the same room he grew up in...he's about 40, makes over 100 grand a year...sleeps in the same bed he grew up in...puts all his money in the bank. He's NEVER lived on his own. I'm not trying to judge, but come one...I could never date someone like that...he doesn't know how to pay bills or face the real world...just my opinion. OH - his parents aren't sick or elderly... | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 8:28:20 PM |
Can you tell why do men who have jobs and some values want to live with their parents.
I know of several men some who own their own business's that still live at home with their parents. Why when they can have their own space would anyone want to do this ?
Gee, why don't you ask the men in question.
My brother lived at home during and after college because it scared off the women that assumed stupid things about living at home with mom. All that time he saved for a house and paid cash for it by the time he was 35. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 8:32:19 PM | I would encourage you to know the facts before judging, and don't just assume he's freeloading.
I'm 59, widowed and retired. Have a place in LA and one in MS so I'm obviously self-sufficient, but should conditions for my mother deteriorate you can bet that I would live with her if it would help to maintain her quality of life for any length of time. If I was married I wouldn't be so quick to make that statement... | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 9:07:21 PM | It's the ones who admit that it's because mom still does all the cooking, cleaning, laundry etc for him that bugs the *&^% out of me.
BINGO! And "Mother" always figures out a way of putting a stop to any relationship that she feels is getting a little to serious. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 9/30/2007 10:06:17 PM | This used to be considered NORMAL.
Ever see the TV show: "The Waltons"?
4 generations of the family... all in one house.
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 10/1/2007 2:03:10 AM | | As you're getting older and your parents apparently even more so, then, it's good idea to live together and to take care of each other....What's wrong with that?....As long as each person has his/her own space and living in a decent condition.... | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 10/1/2007 4:11:57 AM | There many reasons why someone is living with parents, at times it is better than to be alone.
If you like the person, you will like the parents as well, or, at least respect them.
You know the saying don't you?
Friends and lovers come and go, family will always there .
But, to each his/her own. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 10/1/2007 4:50:04 AM |
Oh, their parenst are not disabled, just getting older. .....Ummm Whats the difference? Hang around a few old people and you'll soon get my drift.
Perhaps their parents need the extra financial help. Perhaps they are just plain happy living at home with their parents.
Bottom line is, it's their decision, and you should respect their decision. | |
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