| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 8:10:20 PM | I'm admittedly not the worlds best lover, there are always new things to discover and try out. Just read these forums and you will see a wide range of variety. What I may lack in being an "expert" lover I try to make up with enthusiasm and effort, but something bothers me about the females I've had experiences with.
It seems that everyone I've been with wants to be rather inactive, I bet I burn many times more calories up than any of my female companions. Maybe I just am not able to judge of companions. I'm athletic and tend to wind up with slim and athletic appearing lovers. When it comes to getting it on, they end up being the followers and underachievers, are the ladies just lazy???
I would like to hear from my fellow guys as well as the gals, maybe I'm just stirring up a range war? | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 8:18:36 PM | I dont know the answer to your question, Cause I didnt stay at a Holiday Inn last week, I stayed at the Super 8 Motel, and I did save 15% off of my insurance with Geico | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 8:31:54 PM | | Well from my experiences with women im gonna have to say most dont do much. its just like the who makes the first move thing where they wait for the guy to ask them out and call them. its all very engrained socially and prehaps subconsiously from our time as animals. those ones that dont move much or act into it are also the ones that judge the most, because their just chilling out watching and criticizing! "oh he didnt last very long: or "he didnt have any moves", all the while laying there with a glazed look in her eye like a dead fish. of course you could be lucky and find a girl that understands the concept of getting back what you put it and she'll rock your world. depends a lot on how they grew up i think and their family. princesses want everything given to them including their orgasms along with everything else in life. im babbling but whateva, i do what i want! | |
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K-lo
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Joined: 7/31/2006
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 8:32:48 PM | Yeah - I'll admit, I'm less concerned with buring calories, and more concerned with getting off. So, do what you need to do . . . burn your calories, jack your rabbit, and get me off - and then we should both be happy. And, the next day - my muscles won't be fatigued.
But, P.S. if it's good - I'm very much into it. I only play dead fish when I feel like I'm being fvcked by a dead fish. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 8:36:59 PM | Maybe what you're doing with her isn't doing it for her. Do you encourage her to tell you what she likes or wants?
The only time I'm not an active, even aggressive, participant, is when he just isn't getting me going.
Be open to guidance, suggestion, direction.
Btw, I don't really consider it "work". | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 8:46:55 PM | | so whys it the guys job to get you going? typical female princess syndrome. take a different approach with your view, if he has to jump start you with some cables and a car battery then maybe hes not the one for you? just the idea of getting down with each other should make both of you want to rip each others clothes off and go at it. if you always leave it up to the guy to be the initiator then thats your problem right there and you have no place to say, "he cant get me going". maybe im just too young and unrealistic though. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 9:01:38 PM | maybe im just too young and unrealistic though.
hmmm...vega, i don't think u are too young, although unrealistic...yes.
Not too sure where u guys are getting your woman from, but to me sex should be an explosive and freeing experience. The only way i have ever been a little unexpressive is either when i have been in a long term relationship and wasn't into at the moment or the guy only wants missionary. kind of hard to put much work in there The best sex is the times when there are lots of different positions and i'll have to admit that sometimes i like it when the guy does most of the work if I am in need of a good hard fvck.... but other than that.... 
Oh and i also think that each guy gets off different ways so one might need to work that little bit extra on his part to make it happen. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 9:05:42 PM | | Guys... guys... foreplay is everything. A woman or girl doesn't just look at your body and jump your bones. It takes a little more than that for a woman to get turned on. Could this be the problem? Make sure they are turned on good and see where that leads you... JMO | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 9:13:32 PM | *so whys it the guys job to get you going? typical female princess syndrome. take a different approach with your view, if he has to jump start you with some cables and a car battery then maybe hes not the one for you? just the idea of getting down with each other should make both of you want to rip each others clothes off and go at it. if you always leave it up to the guy to be the initiator then thats your problem right there and you have no place to say, "he cant get me going". maybe im just too young and unrealistic though.*
Holy Sh#T dude you know nothing about women. Women do things all the time to cater to a man's visual arousal requirements. Sexy clothes, makeup, hair, high heels, etc. You should get off your lazy ass and do something then just get a hard on! Women realize that men get turned on visually, do men realize that women get turned on by touch?? Both take alot of effort. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 9:17:33 PM | Most 1o's that I've slept with were kind of passive. They are so used to guys just being all over them that they've learn to do just fvcking nothing. Quite boring. Move down a little and things get much better, but again pretty girls have guys all over them, so what I've discovered is that you have to give them instructions, move them around, make them take part of the load of the work. And you know what, they love it. I am not there to please them. No, fvcking way. I am there so we can both please ourselves, that means, her job is to please me. But the man is in command, and if you do not take command, well, you won't be sleeping much with that woman. But the point is that you give her jobs, she will kick ass.
Now with that said, there are women that do take the initiative and are aggressive. These women are priceless, but remember again, it's like dancing a Tango or Salsa, both parts have strong parts. Some of the best sex I've ever had was after one of my bike wrecks, she knew I hurt all over and while I played the passive part, she played nurse and gently brought both of us to an incredible climax. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 9:18:21 PM | | In the majority of my own experiences it has been the opposite, I am the one always ready, always trying to change it up a bit even if it is just the same things in a different sequence. Most of the men I have been in relationships with want to do things the same way pretty much every time or just one way ALL the time. I have had a few that were real troopers including my current guy, he tries his best to keep up, his nick name for me is the Energizer Bunny. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 9:43:56 PM | Well here's my 2 cents, for the most part I've been fortunate since my early twenties alot of the women I've been with have been quite active in bed. However I do think I still carry the bigger part of the work load. I think most of the pressure when it comes to sex falls on the mans shoulders. We are critiqued on our size, how long we last, are we creative enough. Where we making love or just trying to get a quick one, generally speaking about the only test women take would be the oral. javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 9:52:41 PM | | Actually I do think of sex as a work out. It’s a great cardio exercise! I’ve used sex before as justification for not going to the gym But as far as the issue goes- some women are so into themselves that it becomes more of a chore for the guy, it’s true but that’s also a very small percentage. Your problem is that you can’t get her in the mood, because believe me if you were than this post wouldn’t exist. Sex is also mental so if you’re feeling frustrated, angry, stressed etc. then it’s not going to work. If it’s becoming more of a job for you, then move on; you haven’t found someone you’re sexually compatible with. I always take an active and aggressive role in bed, because that’s what I like, it’s my style. I always want to be on top and be the assertive one, because that is what’s most enjoyable for me. But- that’s me. I’m more compatible with guys who respond to that style simply because it works out naturally. So it sounds to me that your problem isn’t with women, I think you’re just learning what you like and don’t like. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 10:07:00 PM | hey goodman... i beg to differ. Woman are judged on many things in bed ex... who does the most work... bodies size, tightness, oral skills... and the list goes on. If ladies can think of anything else feel free to add.  | |
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j5rush
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Joined: 4/13/2006
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 10:28:36 PM |
Guys... guys... foreplay is everything.
WHAT?! Spitting on it after a quick slap on the @ss isn't enough? Now you tell me!  | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 10:40:57 PM |
It seems that everyone I've been with wants to be rather inactive, I bet I burn many times more calories up than any of my female companions.
If you're talking about one night stands, they are not the best standards to judge from.
However, seek women who do a lot of outdoor activities. They seem to ride the pony pretty damn good, in my opinion. As far as who does all the work? Well... it's a shared duty for mutual gratification. Of late, I've experienced women who like to ride on top... on the sofa. I lean back and they do all the bunny hopping... and heavy breathing ( I have this renewed interest in chick flicks - lol). | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/2/2007 10:59:18 PM | | holy shit, no one asked your ass to dress up. it shouldnt be a chore so maybe thats where YOUR thinking is wrong. why cant anyone state things as opinion on this board, everyone comes blundering in throwing their weight around and acting like they have all the answers. maybe you do all that stuff to bring attention to yourself but the type of girls i like have more to offer than superficialness. for the most part all that stuff is usually worn to cover up low self esteem. i dont date girls that have to put their face on before they leave the door. if you do thats awesome but dont take my opinion out of context and get all "no you didnt!" with me. I was talking about both sides putting in equal work without always waiting on the man bacause,ha you look so pretty sitting there. im all for a beautiful woman dressing up for me because she wants to make me happy so if she wants me to walk around with my military uniform on before sex then ill do that. chill! | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/3/2007 12:30:10 AM | Who does all the work during sex?
Hrmmmm lets see, in most relationships MEN do all the work because most ladies don't know how to, and don't start all start saying "I'm good in bed" because not all of you are, infact I bet on out of 100000 girls are.
So take the truth and think about what you can do to improve your ****ing skills. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/3/2007 12:50:05 AM | | I'd say on average I do more than her in the way of actual physical activity but when that is flipped and she does more it makes for a great night either way. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/3/2007 12:57:08 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ When you hit 47 you'll be, or should be saying, "I AM GOOD IN BED", at 24, I wasn't any good then either.
Sex should be an EQUAL operation, lol, yes I said that. They're are only 2 reasons why someone is a slug in bed, 1- they know very little, and 2-they are lazy.
The older I get, the quality is more important then the quanity. If a partner is lifeless, I will take charge to a certain point. Either I will ask, or show them what to do, if there is no response, then it's hit the road jack. Sex is an important part of the relationship, specially at my age. One never knows when it will come back around.
Commination is a must, without it, one or both will be disappointed and it will soon die out. Doesn't matter who is in charge as long as BOTH parties are ready and willing to please each other.
For the record, those who complain about their partner being slugish, lol, it takes two to tango. Sex is like running a race, there is a goal,(finish line) and there is a crowd(your partner) cheering you on, be excited about finishing that race, do it with your head held high and have FUN while in it.JMO
LOL, someone slid in there, first sentence was directed to the young lady above him. Sorry, lol | |
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