| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/3/2007 1:57:02 AM | | i dated a guy in jan this year whom i thought was great it turned out he was living with soemone all along and i googled his name and found him o 10 dating sites and 14 sex sites! why oh why if you meet a girl do you feel the need to have a girl in very town? cant you be happy with the one u have just met before moving on t another? | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/3/2007 2:35:16 AM | bit stereotypical there, i've never cheated but been cheated on, might be worth looking into the next person you meet so the same thing doesn't happen again  | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/3/2007 3:42:58 AM | Women are just as bad with cheating (although I won't start a flame war here), but since I've never cheated while in an established relationship, I'd rather openly state I'm sick of it and want to see other women than hide it. Or just leave.
Life is too short to play games, including messing around while involved. | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/3/2007 5:49:40 AM | | I don't know, I've never cheated on a girl. I believe that if you don't want to be with that person then you should just end the relationship. Also, its not just a guy thing... In fact, I have never dated a woman who didn't end up cheating on me. | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/3/2007 6:33:56 AM | There are all sorts of relationship patterns. I personally like monogamy as I tend to focus on a single woman at time, but not all people are like that. Just the prevalence of swinger clubs, cheating, and paternity other then the established partner (runs about 10% in Western societies) is clear evidence of this.
Don't assume that the person your dating is monogamous as many have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy. You need to explicitly ask and if you get a non-committal or hedged answer, then just move on. You and your date simply don't have compatible dating styles.
Then there are the liars that will bold face lie to you about being monogamous. Unfortunately, I think the only thing you can do is trust, but verify. You need to actively look for inconsistencies and unexplained times of being "unavailable". A monogamous partner wants to spend time with you, so if that's not happening, then time to hit the reject button. | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 10:58:07 AM | so far in my experience we (being all the guys or that could just be all of my non existant personality's, as I actually only have one) do not feel the need to cheat. thats your job, and when you do your job to accept being dumped in as ungracious self centered poisonous way possible with out making it look like you doing so for completely self centered or poisonous reasons.
at least so far any way - as I havent, and last the voices told me I wasnt going to ....
on the other hand if your question gets readdressed to ' some guys' rather than '[all] guys'
I might be tempted to give a more realistic answer.
for that matter too - sorry to hear you got a bad one, cut the line, take the hook out of his mouth and throw him back, he just doesnt sound like hes going to taste nice and probably whiff a bit. cast your line out and catch another one - after all theres plenty of fish in the see ....  | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 11:54:05 AM | | I don't feel the need to cheat. Still - I guess I'd have to have a girlfriend for that to be especially relevant! Seriously though - I would expect fidelity to be part of a relationship and have never cheated. Also - the guy's name - is it common? I mean if you googled "John Smith" you'd get a lot of hits. | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 2:44:01 PM | Step 1) substitute all instances of -guy- for -girl-
Step 2) Apply directly to forehead
Step 3) Underpants!
Step 4) Realize generalizations, generally, are worthless
Step 5) ????
Step 6) Profit!!! | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 2:48:52 PM | it would be interesting to get 'his' side of the story.
till then, this will just be another dumb "why do all guys cheat" thread.
pile it with the other 50 generalization threads that happened this week.
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 2:59:59 PM | guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Only if there is a part on a video game I spent a lot of money on where I can't get passed.
i dated a guy in jan this year whom i thought was great it turned out he was living with soemone all along and i googled his name and found him o 10 dating sites and 14 sex sites! why oh why if you meet a girl do you feel the need to have a girl in very town? cant you be happy with the one u have just met before moving on t another?
Well, when the time comes for me to not be single, I won't be deleting all the accounts I've had. Most those sites make it impossible to do so. They want profiles at their site after all. I just tried with another site today, and couldn't find away to delete my profile. **stards. I'm not active on those sites though.
I googled my name a few times, worried that some petaphile with the same name, or something like that might show up. Tons of people with my name turned up which surprised me, since my name is very rare. Only a few links were actually me. The rest were sports stars, nerds and a few criminals. Thankfully, no petaphiles. So anyway people, be careful that you don't jump to conclusions via google. It may or may not be the same person. | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:05:43 PM |
guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
How did I get lumped into that?
I've never cheated on anyone before. I never had the inclination or the interest. You should probably stop blaming all men in the world, throw your fishie back, and find another one. | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:17:25 PM | I've never felt the need to cheat, nor have cheated. If someone does cheat it's most likely because they don't know what they want, are not ready to settle down, didn't really like you in the first place and just wanted a quick-fix mate or, are not being satisfied sexually by you. You know, some people need and want sexual experiences that you might not be willing to or want to experience yourself. Sexually incompatible people don't last long.
When I say 'don't know what they want', it means, if they really wanted to be with you, they would know what they want, obviously. If they cheat, it would be a sign of them not knowing what they want because they are staying with you, though they want other people, their confused. | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:28:39 PM | Cheaters "feel the need" to cheat.
Its called GREED. Wanting more than your fair share.
Cheating is usually accompanied by other anti-social behaviors.
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:34:43 PM | OP
I would never cheat on my partner. With that said, I think that some people end up cheating on eachother though because they settle for someone that they are not truly happy with to begin with. They end up unhappy and then end up cheating. I'm determined that I'm not going to settle for any woman that is not truly what I'm looking for. I want to find that one woman that will be TRULY what I seek in a mate so that for sure my eyes even will never feel a need to even check other women out. I would hope a woman will see me as perfect for her as well. Anything less and it just causes problems in a relationship. | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 8:18:22 PM | I have sympathy for your situation, Patriricia. However, I have never cheated on a woman, so why is it necessary to label me as a cheater. Is it fair of you? I mean plenty of us men have been put through hard times as well. I am not blaming all women. Though I have had some of the same bad behaviour happen to me when I am a straightforward person. I won't blame all women for this or that. A friend of mine recently talked to a man who turned out to be married. I even had a friend who was misled by a female who only later made it known she was married.
It happens...Take heart, and I wish you love, lucky, healing, and that you will get something good your way. I understand why you posted this....
Good luck to you... | |
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| guys why do you feel the need to cheat?
Posted: 10/6/2007 8:53:07 PM | why not ask that guy why he cheated?
Wouldn't that make more sense than making a bold assumtion that since he cheated, his entire gender must cheat?
Asking all guys why they cheat, is a pretty broad generalization.
Not all guys do.
Just like: not all girls are foolish enough to fall for a guy who's a serial cheater. | |
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